Random

Name: Random Girl

First contact: Technically over a year ago but reconnected 2 weeks ago.

How'd we meet: Ok Cupid!.

The situation:

Was chilling in my room waiting for my brother to arrive when my phone beeped to inform me I got a message from Ok Cupid. It just said "what are you doing tonight?"

The message was from a girl I'd tried to contact online over a year ago with no answer. Apparently now she had a date that cancelled and was trying to find a replacement.

Told her I was busy but we ended up playing text tag for about a week. She'd text me randomly to see if I was free. We finally met but only for about 30 minutes due to the fact it was late and I had to work the next day.

After several failed attempts of arranging a second date, she randomly texted me to see if I was free that night and we went to a comedy show.

We chatted over coffee first and it went well. At the club she mostly talked to her friend she knew in the show and when it started she directed me to sit on a couch with her.

After a whole, being so close, out hands touched and we started playing "handsies".

After the show I walked her to the subway.

The dealbreaker: As mentioned in my last post, this was the date I thought went well but afraid I came off too strong.

3 days after date 2 I texted get since last minute my plans for cancelled and she seemed like the best choice for a last minute meet up. However, her reply was "I'm going on a date tonight" and "I'm not looking to date anyone exclusively".

I was fine with that and asked if we could still hang out and she said yes.

Needless to say, the random texts stopped coming.

Chivalry Vs. Creepy

So yeah, my little plan of posting hilarious dates on here all the time has failed. I just have no motivation to keep this blog going.

I've been extremely busy lately performing in shows and working hard. Spending 30-60min typing up a date I went on 1 year ago just doesn't appeal to me like I thought it would.

In any case, I'm writing now because the whole reason I started this blog was to express my thoughts on my dating experience and maybe even get some advice back (although having people who actually read this blog would help). And now I'm curious about something.

I believe in the old school of thought and, according to my female friends, I'm one of the few guys they know that act like a true gentleman.

I hold doors open, offer sweaters if cold, let old ladies have my seat on the bus, etc.

However, I've noticed on several occasions with different girls, especially on first dates where they don't know me yet, they get thrown off by my chivalry.

Take for example last night. Was on a date with a girl I met online. It was our second time meeting and we saw a comedy show. I thought it went well.

After the show I walked her to the subway and then she had to go in while I had to take a bus.

Since my bus was actually a block away and I could have easily walked underground to take it, I offered her to walk her to the subway turnstiles.

She looked a bit thrown off and said "no that's ok, let's say out goodbyes here".

So after that encounter, I felt like I came off more needy than gentleman like, and it sucks!

It's happen multiple times. I thought Girls like that stuff but I feel sometimes they misinterpret it. I'm sure a couple of times I never heard back from them because it felt like I was coming off strong.

So I wonder if although my intentions are for good, it may be overkill.

Ladies, what do you think?