Add another to the list

I just entered another phone number to my cell phone contact directory. I just checked and noticed that I have a bad habit of not erasing old numbers. This makes 10 numbers currently on my phone from girls I've met over the past year. I do know that there are at least 5 more that I remembered to delete once it went nowhere. I really need to clean out my phone.

The latest addition is a 22 and a university student. I actually don't know that much about her since we've only e-mailed each other back and forth a couple of times via Plentyoffish. Since she's a student, she shall be dubbed Student. I'm really running out of ideas for pseudo names...

After our back and forth messages, I asked her for her phone number and suggested something we can do (go vintage/thrift store shopping - I need to get things for my Halloween costume - although I didn't tell her that part...), but she wrote back saying she was out of town. However, she did include her phone number and suggested we try this new cafe she's dying to try out.

I just tried and her number worked. She picked up, even though it's 11:30pm, and sounded happy I called but was going out with friends. I smoothly said I'd call her tomorrow and she said she was glad that I had her number.

Until tomorrow!

Stay Tuned

I haven't been able to put up posts on a regular basis but I do have a bunch of stuff I want to write about that has been going on lately. Today is a Jewish holiday (Yom Kippur) and technically, I shouldn't even be using a computer (not that I'm that observant). So, don't veer away too much and keep an eye open for a few fun things to read about during this upcoming week!

Elwood

Dilemna

My boss's son, whom I also work with, is getting married. Along with my other co-worker (our company is technically 4 people), I got invited to his engagement party. I don't really want to go but I kind of feel I have to. I respect my coworkers but I don't' really feel comfortable enough to hang out with them outside of work. On top of that, the groom to be is good friends with a lot of people I went to high school with (he's only a year or two younger than me).

I was told I'm allowed to bring someone and feel a hell of a lot better if I could find someone to go with. I'm not currently dating anyone, so this becomes a challenge. I don't have any real close female friends I could ask. I know a couple of girls I see almost every week at the theatre and we've hung out outside of the workshops as well.

How do I approach it though "Hi Jen? Hey It's Elwood. how are you doing? this is going to sound weird but I'm invited to a swanky, fancy dress up engagement party. I know we haven't hung out much but I thought it'd be a great way to get to know you. Would you lie to be my date?"

Or how about "Hi Sarah! How are you? I'm invited to my boss's son's engagement party and I was wondering if you'd like to be my date. I thought I could show off if I invited someone who was really good looking like yourself"

Yeah, I wouldn't wouldn't ask it either of those way, but my question is: a) Is it wrong to ask, and b) whats the best way to ask.

The Backrubber

I filled out a survey on OK Cupid! to determine what "kind of guy" I am in terms of a relationship.

Here's my result:

The Backrubber Deliberate Gentle Sex Dreamer (DGSD)

Lusty but indirect. Kind, but also using friendship as a means to sex. Oh, that feels gooood. You are The Backrubber.

We call you “The Backrubber” because you straddle that fine line between coming on to someone and just treating her nicely. Backrubs are just one example; you’d meet for coffee, or talk about books/movies, or even argue a little bit, all the while mostly preferring to screw.

Your indirect approach is not some evil trickery, but rather a result of your open mind. You’d enjoy either love or sex, but the latter definitely doesn’t require the former. While you are responsible and ambitious, you absolutely DON’T have uptight views on relationships. So ultimately, you just enjoy a woman, and let things take their course. If she wants you, great. If not, that’s fine too.

Though you’re not thinking too much about Love at this point in your life, odds are, when the time comes, you’ll be very happy settling down. Your ideal mate is gentle and horny, just like you.

Old habits die hard

I said I wasn't going to, and I kind of haven't really, but I sort of started browsing online dating sites again. It started with a "oh, maybe I'll just have a gander" to checking my account several times a day. I haven't broken out of this lazy spell to actually contact anyone, I'm just looking at peoples' profiles, see who's new, who's gone/taken.

I decided to update my profile and picture. I took down my old goofy-faced pictures and replaced them with newer, more recent... goofy face pictures. As much as I want to show i"m a grown up, I also want attention, and it's working. Just not in the way I thought.

I got an e-mail stating a 30 year old added me as a "favorite" on Plentyoffish.com. It's basically a way of keeping tabs on people you want to keep tabs on. So, I messaged her and I get back a reply that she thought my pictures were funny and that's all she wanted to say.

This is not much unlike "I like you as a brother" kind of situation, in the sense that I'm coming across as a guy that will entertain you with my pictures. It's happened a few times now that I've been contact (or stopped in the street) and told that my profile pictures are funny, but they don't want to get to know me.

Maybe it's time I "grow up" a bit, but it's so hard. I don't even look good when I smile normally!

Labour Day Weekend

This week has a been pretty chill but also interesting. Friday night I went to visit my parents in the suburbs and ended up staying over. I like doing that from time to time. I get a nicely cooked meal, watch a movie with my family and sleep in a warm bed.

Saturday I went shopping for a new bag to carry around all my crap. My previous bag, although I loved it, was on it's last leg. It's a postman bag and the strap was about to break off. I went to the mall in the suburbs with my mom and saw all kinds of bags that were sort of what I wanted but didn't have this feature or that feature. Eventually, I ended up in a shop that had the exact same bag! So I grabbed it right away.

I spent the rest of the afternoon chilling in my room working on a poster for a friend. It looks awesome. I'm really starting to get the hang of making posters for comedy shows. I did 2 already and have the opportunity to do a whole bunch in the next month.

Last night i saw Inglorious Bastards. I highly recommend you go see it. It was AWESOME! Some might say it's Quentin Tarintino's best movie but it was highly enjoyable.

Sunday morning I just chilled at home. Not even 24 hours after I wrote the post on how I was going to move on from Rock Chick, I received an e-mail from Plentyoffish and one from Ok Cupid. The OK Cupid one said someone checked out my profile and like it but I need to rate others to find out who it was (waste of time). the Plentyoffish one was an actual message from what seems to be a very enthusiastic and outgoing. She read my profile and seems to really like what I had to say and wants me to write back. She's from out of town and also a big chubby. I can tell from her picture I'm not attracted to her at all. Why can't girls I'm attracted to send me messages out of the blue?

I worked some more on the poster and in the afternoon I headed to my weekly workshop with my comedy group. I thought it went super well. We tried something new and I feel it's the beginning of something much grander in the future.

Then I headed to the theatre that i frequent every Sunday as well. I had a blast in the workshop. This is followed by a show which I felt I did really well in. I made a lot of the right choices (which is hard in improv) and even got a few compliments after the show.

On the way home I ended up walking right by the open window of a bar and thought I recognized someone I hadn't seen in about 5 years. I pretended to walk inside to get a better look and still couldn't care. So, I said "fuck it" and walked up to the person i thought was my old friend and it was!

Turns out she was visiting with her boyfriend all the way from Boston, had been in town for a few days and is leaving tomorrow. This is the second time this happened.

Tomorrow, my day off, I plan on just relaxing, finishing up the posters and cleaning my room with hopefully some time to jam on the ol' guitar in the park.

Happy a have Labour Day everyone!

On To The Next One

I don't get it.

I meet someone online and we end up going out on several dates. Not one or two, like 7. Each time, unless I"m totally mistaken, I've shown that I was interested in being more than friends without having to throw my tongue in her mouth. Each time, she didn't do anything to make it seem obvious she was totally not interested in me either. All the while, I felt something just wasn't right but kept at it anyways.

Well, it's been over a week and a half, so I know that Rock Chick should have returned back to town. I didn't expect her to call me as soon as she got off the plane but she's definitely been back a few days. Heck, she never called me before either, I was always making the calls.

I'm guessing she was just never into me and just couldn't say no to hanging out. This time, I really don't think I'm over reacting. Besides, she's still going on plentyoffish.com. Yes, obviously I'm no better since I went on to find out, but I couldn't' help it. I was really curious.

In a way I feel a little used but that's what dating is, right? You go out with someone a couple of times an if it's not for you, you move on. It's bound to happen so you have to enjoy each date for itself. I probably just should have gotten out a lot sooner, but didn't really mind either.

In any case, since I stopped actively pursuing girls online, I've been doing a lot of other proactive things like playing my guitar, working on posters for friends' shows coming up, working hard at work, doing a lot of improv, etc., so I've been keeping busy.

I'm not holding my breath to hear from Rock Chick again.
I also think I'll start looking around online soon but not really in the biggest rush.