Hey Elwood, you free? great! Bring your friend....

So I decied a while ago to give up on Cuddly Bear. Every timeI asked her to do something she was busy, but she never even made it up to me by asking me out. Yes, I understand some people think the guy has to make the first move, but if two people like each other and everytime the guy calls, the gir is busy, I don't think I"m asking much for the girl to call back the guy to at least say she's now available to do something.

In any case, I know Cuddly Bear is not interested in me in that way and I've totally lost interest in her myself.

To make thigs worse, she wants to hook up her friend with my friend. I'm totally fine with that. The thing that bugs me is that last night she sent me a message asking if I"m free next weekend to go drinking with some people, but the only reason she's inviting me, is so I"ll bring my friend. I mean yes, she probably does want to hang out with me as "friends", but it's been so long since we've actually done anything or really talked.

In either case, I can't make it. Besides, my friend told me that he thinks her friend is cute (they met at a party) but he has other possibilities and put her on the backburner.

I guess we'll see what happens....

Being Sick Sucks

Picking up is hard when you're sick!
So last weekend I went out but didn't really try to talk and meet new people becasue I had this weird cough thing for a week. Finally on friday it went away and I was out late at a concert. I wak up the net day and I'm sick again!

Since yesterday I've gotten this pretty aweful cold. I went out last night to the hockey game and then even to a bar, for a quick drink with the friend I saw the game with but I couldn't really do much in my state. I pretty much nursed a glass of whiskey (cures everything) and then left.

I fell like once I'm healthy again, next weekend I'll be able to strut my stuff and start having fun again!

The adventure that could have been

Tonight I went to see Wintersleep in concert with RM2. It waa awesome! They had such great energy and it was at a small venue so overall a great show.

After the show we noticed a bunch of girls wearing black zorro masks holding signs with the Guiness Logo on it. We asked what was up and basically the had a list of bars that we could take a free limo ride to and get a free drink plus a free cab ride home.

It sounded to good to be true.

Unfortunately it was.

We picked the bar closest to our house and grabbed the free limo ride. I was so excited when we got in until I handed my free coupon to the barmaid and she didn't know what to do with it. On the way in a guy greeted us who worked there so we asked him what to do adn he told us to speak to Mr. Manager. We spoke to Mr. Manager (who was taking shots and handing people viles of who knows what drugs) and he also didnt' seem to know what the coupon was for.

So we left and grabbed our free cab ride home instead.

Another adventure that never happened...

Elwood's Dating Stories 5 - Hockey Night

Cuddly Bear told me she can't go with me to the hockey game. She had plans already and even though she sounded all excited to go to her first hockey game (and hopefully because I was going too), she said she hadn't seen her friends in a long time and couldn't cancel on them.

As much as I would have liked to go with her, I decided to go with a friend instead. My friend got SUPER excited and she's a huge hockey fan. I think I'll have more fun with her instead because she's all gung ho about dressing up in our hockey team logo, going toa bar before hand and having a good time.

Speaking of hockey, this brings me to another dating blunder I had in my early University days:

I was in my first year at University and I went out one night, in the suburbs were I lived, with some old high school buddies. At the bar, I wasn't having the most fun until I bumped into this guy I knew from college and he introduced me to his friends.

I somehow ended up chatting up a girl amongst the group. I'll call her Pager because I remember having to call her pager all the time to reach her. Anyways, we started chatting for a while and for the first and only time in my life she gave me her number without me evenhaving to ask.

She was a bit older than I and smoked but I still went on a date with her for coffee and it went well.

We had arranged to meet up again later that week at a McDonalds.

Now, keep in mind, I really didnt' have my priorities straight when you read the next paragraph. Back then I was a nerdy kid. I hadn't reached my party phase yet, I rarely drank or got drunk and I lived at home with my parents and studied a lot.

So she shows up late and all excited because she had won two tickets to that nights hockey game and was excited we would go. Being the idiot I was, I totally didn't like hockey back then and didn't even want to concider watching the game even if it meant being with a girl, so I told her thanks but I didnt' like hockey and didnt' want to go and had to study anyways.

She had to scramble quick and made a few calls to find someone to go with and then went off to the game and I never saw her again.

Don't worry, if a girl invites me to a hockey game now, I'm there!

One step forward, one step back?

The Jewish New Years (Rosh Hashana) is a time to celebrate the year you had, the year you're going to have and to throw away your sins and start anew (with Yom Kippur being the holiday we ask for forgiveness for such sins).

That being said, I received an interesting e-mail from Wendy on Monday night.

She started with : "In keeping with the religious aspect of the next two weeks, now is the time to try and rectify any wrong doings over the last year. That being said, I just wanted to apologize for anything I have said or done that hurt you in any way. Anything upsetting that was said was out of frustration not malice, and I'd never do anything to intentionally cause you pain."

Then continued with: "I just want you to know that I wouldn't trade the year I spent with you for anything. You meant a lot to me, and always will. I wish nothing but happiness and great things for you to come this year and always."

I simply replied right away with:

"Thanks for the kind message, although it was not necessary to apologize for anything since I did not think you did any "wrong doings" at all. Things didn't work out between us but I never felt that you said or did anything deliberate to hurt me.

The past year spent together was meaningful to me as well and I got to learn a lot from you about life and myself."

I don't know why, but it bothered me almost completely over the holidays (the past 2 days). It just put Wendy back in my mind. However, even if i"m wrong, I"m just trying to convince myself that she sent that to me as an act of kindness and out of tradition and that there is nothing more to it, no underlining meaning.

ON top of this, I wandered on her facebook page and looked at some recent photos of her and didn't seem as attracted to them as I was in the past, so maybe that's a sign I'm moving on slowly...?

Potential Date with a new girl!

So again, I've been behind in the blog postings, however, the Jewish New Years just happened this week and as a small "resolution" I'll try to find more exciting things to do so I'll have more to post about.

So I never went into details but basically I went to a speed dating event about a month ago. The thing was to have a 3 minute date with 26 women from ages 20 to 30, most being in their middle 20's.

Among them were a few people I already knew from before from various different ways. A couple I knew from elementary school, one I met once at a dinner Wendy invited me to last year, one I met at a meeting for something, etc.

Then there was also Cuddly Bear who I mentioned briefly last post.

I had met C Bear at a party once a couple of years ago and back then she had a boyfriend. Then I saw her twice over the past year when I worked at Old Navy. One of the 2 times she had invited me to her birthday party. I said I would go, but was a bit weirded out by the extremely random invite that I didn't end up going. That was over a year ago.

She recognized me at the event and we chatted for our 3 minutes.

I wrote down a bunch of matches and was told we'd get our responses in a few days. When I got home, however, I had a facebook message from C Bear saying she had fun at our "date" so I asked her if she'd like to go on a real one, and she accepted.

We went out for a beer a few days later and I had fun. We chatted for a couple of hours and she didn't seem bored, and neither was I. Then we walked together until we split directions and she said goodbye and walked away.

I couldn't tell much from our date but I had the feeling that she just wanted to hang out and that she's not really interested in anything more.

I told this to a friend and she told me I say that about everyone. She had a point,s o I decided not to give up completely.

That was 3 weeks ago.

Since then we chat a bit on MSN but she' constantly busy so we haven't' had a chance to get together again and kept apologizing that she's not usually that busy.

I decided to give it one more shot since I can justify her reasons for being busy and bad timing can be a factor in these things. A pair of hockey tickets landed on my lap so I invited her to the game this weekend.

She got really excited (on MSN), saying she'd never been to a hockey game before. Neither have I so it seems i may have found a good match to go with.
The only shitty thing is she had plans already that night and is being wishy washy about if she can come or not.

More on that when I know it!