Yesterday I received a package from Indie Rock Girl, all the way from San Fransisco.
I opened it up to discover a book and a CD.
The book is a used book from an author I never heard of. Inside the book was a note on the dedications page that reads:
Elwood,
To the man of a thousand stories, a book of more stories.
Have a great Birthday!
Your friend.
Indie Rock Girl
Wow. I totally did not expect any gifts at all, and if anything if she were to give me something I figured it'd be when she's visiting here in 2 weeks.
The only thing that bothers me is how she signed it "Your Friend". Either she's really trying to drive a point though or maybe she thinks I'll forget who she is in the future.
Well I just hope I dont' act too weird around her when she's in town. I officially got that same week off and I've got plenty of things on my plate already so I know I wont be following her around like a dog but it will be nice to see her again.
Saturday, July 24, 2010
That time of year again
Monday is my birthday. I'll be turning 29. This is my last year in my 20's. Do things really go down hill from there?
Nothing too crazy planned this year. When I was younger I used to try and invite everyone I know and have a huge party at some bar and get really wasted. For my 21st, I think 30 people or more I know showed up to the bar and we took over the whole upper section. I drank way too much and spent the whole night puking.
I learnt many lessons that night and starting toning it down in the following years.
Last year I went to a quirky thing called a Silent Disco where you go to dance but all the music is coming from headphones you're wearing, not giant speakers. So the room itself is pretty quiet when you remove your headphones. That party, 8-10 people showed up.
This year I decided to have a house party. The last 2 years Ive had people over and then we've gone somewhere else, but this time I want a full 100%, come after 9pm, house party. Music, snacks, beer, friends. I ended up inviting ~ 50 people on Facebook.
I expect maybe 10.
Not to say I think I'm unpopular, it's because of miscommunication. Originally I organized for the party to be at my place. Then I found out I forgot i had to work at the comedy club that night, so rather then cancel, I moved it to a bar nearby to meet after my show. Then I got work that the comedy club fucked up and I'm actually working next week. So i moved the party back to my place.
I wonder how many people are going to get lost. Then last night i went out to this registration party for a really cool film festival I partake in every year and bumped into a bunch of people I know. To each I said "So you coming tomorrow night?". The response each time: "What's tomorrow night?"
*sigh*
Well, it's not quantity, but the quality I guess. I'm sure some people I know will come. I slept really bad last night and this morning it sounds like a demolition team decided to cause total chaos right outside my window, so I got about 6 hours of bad sleep.So it's probably best if I dont' over do it tonight anyways.
Better get my day started and clean up.
I'll let you know how it goes.
Nothing too crazy planned this year. When I was younger I used to try and invite everyone I know and have a huge party at some bar and get really wasted. For my 21st, I think 30 people or more I know showed up to the bar and we took over the whole upper section. I drank way too much and spent the whole night puking.
I learnt many lessons that night and starting toning it down in the following years.
Last year I went to a quirky thing called a Silent Disco where you go to dance but all the music is coming from headphones you're wearing, not giant speakers. So the room itself is pretty quiet when you remove your headphones. That party, 8-10 people showed up.
This year I decided to have a house party. The last 2 years Ive had people over and then we've gone somewhere else, but this time I want a full 100%, come after 9pm, house party. Music, snacks, beer, friends. I ended up inviting ~ 50 people on Facebook.
I expect maybe 10.
Not to say I think I'm unpopular, it's because of miscommunication. Originally I organized for the party to be at my place. Then I found out I forgot i had to work at the comedy club that night, so rather then cancel, I moved it to a bar nearby to meet after my show. Then I got work that the comedy club fucked up and I'm actually working next week. So i moved the party back to my place.
I wonder how many people are going to get lost. Then last night i went out to this registration party for a really cool film festival I partake in every year and bumped into a bunch of people I know. To each I said "So you coming tomorrow night?". The response each time: "What's tomorrow night?"
*sigh*
Well, it's not quantity, but the quality I guess. I'm sure some people I know will come. I slept really bad last night and this morning it sounds like a demolition team decided to cause total chaos right outside my window, so I got about 6 hours of bad sleep.So it's probably best if I dont' over do it tonight anyways.
Better get my day started and clean up.
I'll let you know how it goes.
Lost all comunication skills
So last Wednesday I went on a date with another person I met recently on Plentyoffish.com. She had contacted me out of the blue, simply stating that I seemed like a funny person. After a bunch of back and forth e-mails, I got her phone number and arranged a date.
We met up close to where I live and I brought her to a little hipster type cafe with really good vegetarian food (and I'm not even a vegetarian).
She was cute and seemed nice but I totally blew it. Why, you might ask? because I've officially forgotten how to communicate with women (or maybe people in general).
We're talking and I discovered she was Moroccan. That's fine, except for reasons I don't even know, I proceed to ask her questions about her culture. See, my ex sister-in-law (Ira's ex wife) was Moroccan. So, I was curious if this girl followed the same customs my brother's ex's family did. But it ended coming out like this:
Elwood: So when Passover is finished and you're allowed to eat bread again, does your family do that thing where they only eat sweets?
The Moroccan: Yes we do.
Elwood: My brother's Ex used to host that at their place when they were married.
The Moroccan: Oh that's nice :)
Elwood: Yeah! I always hated that! We'd always go over and eat pancakes when all I ever wanted was something with more substance. One year I left early to go eat at Wendy's.
The Moroccan: Oh... I kind of like my traditions...
See what I mean?
She didnt' seem too insulted and I tried to save my ass by apologizing, saying I was just rambling about old memories ad how I had a long day at work. She said she also had a long day at work and expects to say equally awkward things.
We went to eat and hung out for an hour but here's where I had my second strike (in my mind). We ended up talking about work and I feel like I spoke a bit too much about my work. On the bright side, she seemed to agree with my views 100% and gave me advice and a website to check out for new jobs. So that was cool. However, I don't feel like I really got to learn much about her because i babbled so much about my job.
At the end of our date, she pulled what I've done in the past. Her bus came so she ran for it, so we departed in an awkward manner.
I gave it a couple of days and decided last minute to invite her to an event last night but I didn't know if she works on Fridays or what so instead of calling her during the day, I texted her. It's possible she never got it or chose to ignore it but I never heard back.
My attitude now is to just go on dates and have fun with absolutely 0% expectation (as oppose to Elwood of the past) but now I'm realizing I should still put a bit of an effort to come off as a cool guy who actually cares to listen to you.
Well practice makes perfect I guess.
We met up close to where I live and I brought her to a little hipster type cafe with really good vegetarian food (and I'm not even a vegetarian).
She was cute and seemed nice but I totally blew it. Why, you might ask? because I've officially forgotten how to communicate with women (or maybe people in general).
We're talking and I discovered she was Moroccan. That's fine, except for reasons I don't even know, I proceed to ask her questions about her culture. See, my ex sister-in-law (Ira's ex wife) was Moroccan. So, I was curious if this girl followed the same customs my brother's ex's family did. But it ended coming out like this:
Elwood: So when Passover is finished and you're allowed to eat bread again, does your family do that thing where they only eat sweets?
The Moroccan: Yes we do.
Elwood: My brother's Ex used to host that at their place when they were married.
The Moroccan: Oh that's nice :)
Elwood: Yeah! I always hated that! We'd always go over and eat pancakes when all I ever wanted was something with more substance. One year I left early to go eat at Wendy's.
The Moroccan: Oh... I kind of like my traditions...
See what I mean?
She didnt' seem too insulted and I tried to save my ass by apologizing, saying I was just rambling about old memories ad how I had a long day at work. She said she also had a long day at work and expects to say equally awkward things.
We went to eat and hung out for an hour but here's where I had my second strike (in my mind). We ended up talking about work and I feel like I spoke a bit too much about my work. On the bright side, she seemed to agree with my views 100% and gave me advice and a website to check out for new jobs. So that was cool. However, I don't feel like I really got to learn much about her because i babbled so much about my job.
At the end of our date, she pulled what I've done in the past. Her bus came so she ran for it, so we departed in an awkward manner.
I gave it a couple of days and decided last minute to invite her to an event last night but I didn't know if she works on Fridays or what so instead of calling her during the day, I texted her. It's possible she never got it or chose to ignore it but I never heard back.
My attitude now is to just go on dates and have fun with absolutely 0% expectation (as oppose to Elwood of the past) but now I'm realizing I should still put a bit of an effort to come off as a cool guy who actually cares to listen to you.
Well practice makes perfect I guess.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
A month in review
Yeah I've been real busy and lazy and havn't been posting anything.
So here's what you missed:
- My job moved offices from very close to my apartment (20 min) to very far from my apartment (~1 hour) by public transit. The new office is nice but I don't have my own office. I got thrown into the warehouse.
- I decided to start looking for a new job. I've applied a bit and even had an interview but it was with a company a bit too similar to what I'm doing right now, so I turned down teh second interview.
- I've been doing a shitload of improv lately. Thats been a lot of fun.
- I was sick a couple of weeks ago, so that sucked but I'm much better now.
- I went on a date with someone who cantacted me online. Turned out she dated one of Wendy's friends back when I was dating Wendy and we actually met at Wendy's party 3 years ago. Weird. The date itself was aweful. We spent an hour driving tryign to find parking. Then all she wanted to talk about was dating. She basically is looking for marriage and I told her i"m just loking to have fun. So she decided to give me advice: I need a fuxck buddy. Wow,. And then she didn't even offer herself! Haha. I was tempted to joke abotu that but I kept my tongue. As soon as I was done my beer and asked if she'd like to leave, she practically bolted to the door. At the end she felt the need to inform me that it would never work out. Dont' worry I caught on right at the beginning!
- Another girl unrelated also contacted me online. She said she thought my profile was funny. We're due to meet for a date ths wednesday. So I'm glad to see that I'll have dating stuff to talk abotu again, since this is a dating blog.
-In 3 weeks, IRG will be back in town. I'm both excited and nervous. We'll see what happens.
In 1 week, it's my birthday. I'mboth excited and nervous. We'll see what happens :)
So here's what you missed:
- My job moved offices from very close to my apartment (20 min) to very far from my apartment (~1 hour) by public transit. The new office is nice but I don't have my own office. I got thrown into the warehouse.
- I decided to start looking for a new job. I've applied a bit and even had an interview but it was with a company a bit too similar to what I'm doing right now, so I turned down teh second interview.
- I've been doing a shitload of improv lately. Thats been a lot of fun.
- I was sick a couple of weeks ago, so that sucked but I'm much better now.
- I went on a date with someone who cantacted me online. Turned out she dated one of Wendy's friends back when I was dating Wendy and we actually met at Wendy's party 3 years ago. Weird. The date itself was aweful. We spent an hour driving tryign to find parking. Then all she wanted to talk about was dating. She basically is looking for marriage and I told her i"m just loking to have fun. So she decided to give me advice: I need a fuxck buddy. Wow,. And then she didn't even offer herself! Haha. I was tempted to joke abotu that but I kept my tongue. As soon as I was done my beer and asked if she'd like to leave, she practically bolted to the door. At the end she felt the need to inform me that it would never work out. Dont' worry I caught on right at the beginning!
- Another girl unrelated also contacted me online. She said she thought my profile was funny. We're due to meet for a date ths wednesday. So I'm glad to see that I'll have dating stuff to talk abotu again, since this is a dating blog.
-In 3 weeks, IRG will be back in town. I'm both excited and nervous. We'll see what happens.
In 1 week, it's my birthday. I'mboth excited and nervous. We'll see what happens :)
Lost Post: Questions Answered
I did it again. I wrote a blog post and only saved it instead of published!. This one dates back to almost a month ago. Enjoy!
After I wrote this post, I received a comment from a reader, Stepahine who had this to ask:
- are you still in contact with IRG?
- does she miss you?
- why is her going back to the US the end? just because everybody expects it and it's common sense...
You still have time enough to use common sense, why not live now?
It got me thinking and I e-mailed IRG to find out how things will be when she is visiting next month. Turns out she is actually staying here over a full week and will be house-sitting a friends place not too far from where I live.I basically mentioned in my e-mail that I was thinking of taking the same week off work while she is here visiting and admitted I was still thining of her and just wanted to know her thoughts so when we are together we are on the same page.
From her response i can now answer those questions:
- are you still in contact with IRG? Yes we e-mail back and forth almost every second day.
- does she miss you? She mentioned in her e-mail how she had a lot of fun with me while she was here and wants to have fun again when she returns, but hasn't mentioned that she misses me. So, no, I don't think she misses me but is excited to see me again.
- why is her going back to the US the end? just because everybody expects it and it's common sense... Because I don't want a long distance relationship and she definitely does not want one. She wrote that while she is back, she wants to hang out and do a lot together and we could even be "pretend" boyfriend/girlfriend but when she leaves again, that's it for good. She never knows when she'll be back and she wants to start looking for dates online. Her words exactly: But when I get back from my vacation, I think I might try to do some Craig's List dating again.
She ends with: So all this is to say that I always want to be your friend and I want to spend my vacation time with you, but I still don't plan on us being a permanent type of long-distance relationship, you know? I'm sure you know, but I just want to be clear. I hope this isn't upsetting or something.
So there you have it.
After I wrote this post, I received a comment from a reader, Stepahine who had this to ask:
- are you still in contact with IRG?
- does she miss you?
- why is her going back to the US the end? just because everybody expects it and it's common sense...
You still have time enough to use common sense, why not live now?
It got me thinking and I e-mailed IRG to find out how things will be when she is visiting next month. Turns out she is actually staying here over a full week and will be house-sitting a friends place not too far from where I live.I basically mentioned in my e-mail that I was thinking of taking the same week off work while she is here visiting and admitted I was still thining of her and just wanted to know her thoughts so when we are together we are on the same page.
From her response i can now answer those questions:
- are you still in contact with IRG? Yes we e-mail back and forth almost every second day.
- does she miss you? She mentioned in her e-mail how she had a lot of fun with me while she was here and wants to have fun again when she returns, but hasn't mentioned that she misses me. So, no, I don't think she misses me but is excited to see me again.
- why is her going back to the US the end? just because everybody expects it and it's common sense... Because I don't want a long distance relationship and she definitely does not want one. She wrote that while she is back, she wants to hang out and do a lot together and we could even be "pretend" boyfriend/girlfriend but when she leaves again, that's it for good. She never knows when she'll be back and she wants to start looking for dates online. Her words exactly: But when I get back from my vacation, I think I might try to do some Craig's List dating again.
She ends with: So all this is to say that I always want to be your friend and I want to spend my vacation time with you, but I still don't plan on us being a permanent type of long-distance relationship, you know? I'm sure you know, but I just want to be clear. I hope this isn't upsetting or something.
So there you have it.
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