For about 2 weeks now, my roomate, RM1's, boyfriend has moved to My City. She met him in Toronto (where she is originaly from) and only after a short while, he moved out here to be closer to her.
Well he got to be REAL close to her because he's here a lot.
Don't get me wrong, I like the guy and I have no problems with im permenantly living here (but he's moving into his own place next week). It's just I find it hard soemtimes looking at peole being all lovey-dubby in public (on the bus, streets, in the metro, etc.) and now i got to see it when I get home too?
Don't worry their not having sex off the hallway walls or anything. My room is next to RM1's but thankfully our closets ar inbetween the rooms, so I havn't heard "anything" yet.
Soon, my new RM2 will move in and she's got a boyfriend too. This means soon we'll have 2 guys here!
I guess i"m just jealous and which I had a guy... er I mean girl to bring over. It's been over a month and the only females I've had over are my mom and a couple of friends.
I know it'll happen eventually, I ues it's just the kind of guy I am. I spent a whole your overseas travelling and didn't hook up once. I wasn't lookig for that either, so I never really tried. On the other hand the situtation never really arose either.
Oh great, I can hear RM1 giggling from her boyfriend tickling her in the kitchen...
At keast I'm away this weekend to another wedding out of town (was at one last weekend and been super busy at work hence the lack of posts) so I won't have to endure a lot of this over the weekend.
Thursday, June 26, 2008
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
I don't do yelling
Today I found out a did a blunder at work and got yelled at pretty badly by one of the partners of the company. I admit it was something that I did (although unknowingly and by accident) but it is the fact that I got yelled at and threatened to almost be fired that got me upset.
And when upset I cry.
Thankfuly, I waited until I got to my office.
I never did well with yelling growing up. My parents rarely yelled at me but I would always get upset if they did. I hated it.
I myself rarely yell (I can't remember any time that I realy did). I get "mad" which is me just bitching mostly but I've never raisd my voice and told someone off (or threatened to fire them).
It's a fear I have with being in a relationship. I managed to date wendy a whole year and not really have an argument with her. She yelled at me a few times for getting her mad but I never said anything back or yelled at her. I'd just calmly apoligize and figure a way to fix it. I'm afraid that I'lll meet someone who will yell at me and I won't know how to respond.
My brother Jason takes arguments really badly. To me an argument is when Person A voices their opinion (usually loudly) about something and then Person B voices their opinion about the same thing (usually the opposite answer). However, Jason just brings up old stuff. For example, if his wife is complaining to him about the glass being half full, a proper response to the argument would be "The glass is half empty!". Instead he'll say somethign like "You're always complaining! Why are you tryig to control me? Blah blah blah".
I;mglad to know I"m not like that. I'm a bit more like my brother Ira who also tries to calmly end an argument but then he is also extreme in that he'll do stuff to totally avoid the perchance of an argument. going back to the same example, he'd just avoid buying a glass to begin with. No glass, no argument of it being half full or not.
I guess I just need to work on voicing my opinion when I get into a situation with a future girlfirend.
And when upset I cry.
Thankfuly, I waited until I got to my office.
I never did well with yelling growing up. My parents rarely yelled at me but I would always get upset if they did. I hated it.
I myself rarely yell (I can't remember any time that I realy did). I get "mad" which is me just bitching mostly but I've never raisd my voice and told someone off (or threatened to fire them).
It's a fear I have with being in a relationship. I managed to date wendy a whole year and not really have an argument with her. She yelled at me a few times for getting her mad but I never said anything back or yelled at her. I'd just calmly apoligize and figure a way to fix it. I'm afraid that I'lll meet someone who will yell at me and I won't know how to respond.
My brother Jason takes arguments really badly. To me an argument is when Person A voices their opinion (usually loudly) about something and then Person B voices their opinion about the same thing (usually the opposite answer). However, Jason just brings up old stuff. For example, if his wife is complaining to him about the glass being half full, a proper response to the argument would be "The glass is half empty!". Instead he'll say somethign like "You're always complaining! Why are you tryig to control me? Blah blah blah".
I;mglad to know I"m not like that. I'm a bit more like my brother Ira who also tries to calmly end an argument but then he is also extreme in that he'll do stuff to totally avoid the perchance of an argument. going back to the same example, he'd just avoid buying a glass to begin with. No glass, no argument of it being half full or not.
I guess I just need to work on voicing my opinion when I get into a situation with a future girlfirend.
Monday, June 16, 2008
Feeling Better
Having friends that understand you rocks!
Feel shitty last night, I e-mailed Spider Dude and told him what happened .
He got back to me with a message i can truly relate to:
Dearest Elwood,
You are a good guy - and you did the right thing. But yes, it does feel pretty shitty and it is very normal.
I know that after I broke up with (my ex), whenever I thought she was with a new guy, it made me feel
a) pretty low, and
b) like I had to go out and find someone quickly too (like a competition).
I'm afraid to admit it but it's true, that is how I feel a bit. He continues with:
Luckily I recognized that these were reactionary feelings and went at my own pace.
So yes, you'll feel shitty now, but it will pass and it will get better.
I'm sure it will. I slept really badly last night, but felt better inside once I slept on it. Besides i"m actually hanging out with the guy who's interested in wendy on Wednesday. Shows I got balls, haha.
Feel shitty last night, I e-mailed Spider Dude and told him what happened .
He got back to me with a message i can truly relate to:
Dearest Elwood,
You are a good guy - and you did the right thing. But yes, it does feel pretty shitty and it is very normal.
I know that after I broke up with (my ex), whenever I thought she was with a new guy, it made me feel
a) pretty low, and
b) like I had to go out and find someone quickly too (like a competition).
I'm afraid to admit it but it's true, that is how I feel a bit. He continues with:
Luckily I recognized that these were reactionary feelings and went at my own pace.
So yes, you'll feel shitty now, but it will pass and it will get better.
I'm sure it will. I slept really badly last night, but felt better inside once I slept on it. Besides i"m actually hanging out with the guy who's interested in wendy on Wednesday. Shows I got balls, haha.
Sunday, June 15, 2008
Holy fuck!
I was going to wrtie about how my weeknd was great and I started to finally have some fun but that all turned ot shit tonight.
A not too close friend (a guy I met at a seek-a-job conference a year ago; we hang out once in a while) just asked me if it'd be ok to take Wendy out for coffee.
I know he's a good guy. I know im not the boss of Wendy. I know that it's over and we'll never ever ever get baback together for many reasons including that I don't want to get back together.
I told him to go for it. Like i said it's not up to me and if they end up dating then great for them.
So why does this bother me??
Also, what do you guys think of friends asking to go out with your ex?
A not too close friend (a guy I met at a seek-a-job conference a year ago; we hang out once in a while) just asked me if it'd be ok to take Wendy out for coffee.
I know he's a good guy. I know im not the boss of Wendy. I know that it's over and we'll never ever ever get baback together for many reasons including that I don't want to get back together.
I told him to go for it. Like i said it's not up to me and if they end up dating then great for them.
So why does this bother me??
Also, what do you guys think of friends asking to go out with your ex?
Shitty feelings
This afternoon I was hanging out with my brother Ira and this girl he's been dating for a bit. After hanging out for a while we all had to leave and take the metro together. I was going to my parents place for dinner, and Ira's date had to go home. The whole way home, I started to feel pretty depressed.
I saw them together and they looked happy (even though Ira told me he was going to dump her tonight) and I felt very left out. On top of that I looked around and saw everyone enjoying the Summer outside and going off to hangout somewhere and enjoy the sun. People with guitars, and Frisbees and friends. Meanwhile I was headed to the suburbs to hang out with my parents on Fathers Day.
No one forced me to go and I was excited to go when I was asked earlier in the day, but I was starting to regret my decision. I finally moved away from the grasp of my parents and had all th efreedom int he world to do as i pleased but instead i put myself in a situation where I felt tied down again. It really sucked.
I started feelign better when we got out of the metro and it started to rain hard.
I saw them together and they looked happy (even though Ira told me he was going to dump her tonight) and I felt very left out. On top of that I looked around and saw everyone enjoying the Summer outside and going off to hangout somewhere and enjoy the sun. People with guitars, and Frisbees and friends. Meanwhile I was headed to the suburbs to hang out with my parents on Fathers Day.
No one forced me to go and I was excited to go when I was asked earlier in the day, but I was starting to regret my decision. I finally moved away from the grasp of my parents and had all th efreedom int he world to do as i pleased but instead i put myself in a situation where I felt tied down again. It really sucked.
I started feelign better when we got out of the metro and it started to rain hard.
Saturday, June 14, 2008
Date # 4 - Med Head
Last night was probably the most interesting date I had so far. The night itself turned out to be pretty random.
I made contact with Med Head online a couple of weeks ago. All I knew was that she had a sense of humor, was half Jewish/half Greek from Manhattan and was in My City studying Med School.
We had arranged to meet at a street corner at 8pm. As I approached the corner, I had to wait across the street for the light to turn green. I noticed a cute girl waiting all by herself and wondered if that was her. After a while I decided to play a little joke and call her on my cell but just as i was looking for her number, my phone was ringing and it was her! I look up and the person across the street is on the phone, so that was Med Head.
I have to say Med Head is really pretty. Definitely the prettiest of the girls I talked about on this site.
So we started to walk and talk. Things started off ok. I may have been taking a bit too much, but that's a problem I have in general. The only bad (and kind of gross thing) was that I haven't been feeling too hot the past couple of days and while we were walking, my stomach was a bit... upset. Thank god we were outside, but I'm afraid she might think I.... smell. Hopefully there was a breeze or something pushing away from us.
Anyways, there is a festival in town this week and every year where they sell tickets, is a beer tent that's really cheap and a band or something playing at night. We bought beer (awkwardly; the bartender didn't know who to give the money to, we both didn't know who was paying, or what)., found a bench and sat and chatted for a while.
While chatting I saw Trucker, RM1's boyfriend walk by. Turns out he was there looking for RM1. He turns to us and awkwardly asks if we're on a date. to which I hesitate and she simply says "yeah, sort of...".
We continued chatting and I know I was enjoying it but I don't know if she was. She laughed a bit at my jokes but she didn't seem so into me. then again, we just met right?
I'm not sure what her deal is because basically she has to study all summer for mes school but I think she just wanted to meet new people outside of the med circle (all her friends are from her classes, she told me).
After about an hour and a half, she said she had to go study. Again, I made things a tad awkward by walking with her for several blocks towards her house which was in the complete opposite direction to where I live, and she knew that. I apologized if I was coming off creepy, but she said it was ok.
Then as we approached the street we started at, the bus to take me back to the beer tent was coming. I quickly said goodbye and ran towards the bus. In my stride, I told her I had fun and that we should do something again, to which she simply replied something like "ya ok".
I'm not sure if she'd want to meet up again but to find out I deliberately told her earlier in the night about a website that picked her interest. So, when I got home, I had an excuse to e-mail her. I sent her the link, an apology for running off to abruptly and also mentioned that if she ever need a break from Med School, she could always give me call since I'll be around all summer. She mentioned earlier how she once dressed up as a goth person for halloween, so I joked in the message that we could dress up as goths and roam the streets scaring people
So, she was off and i was on a bus headed back to the beer tent. This is when the night got interesting.
I get off the bus, go to the beer tent and bump into RM1. Her boyfriend is nowhere to be seen. Turns out he just missed her and walked home, which was where I had left Med Head! This is about 10 blocks away from the beer tent which is the opposite direction from where I live.
RM1 asked if I wanted to walk with her. Since the weather was so nice, I accepted and we walked. We decide, while walking, to stop for ice cream. At the ice cream place, I bumped into this guy I know, JJ.
JJ was off to this preview show for the festival. Basically, each act in the festival had a 3 minute windo to to showcase their show for later in the week. It's totally not whre I expeted at the end of the night, and it was definitely a lot of fun.
Overall, regardless if the date went well or not, I had a good time.
I made contact with Med Head online a couple of weeks ago. All I knew was that she had a sense of humor, was half Jewish/half Greek from Manhattan and was in My City studying Med School.
We had arranged to meet at a street corner at 8pm. As I approached the corner, I had to wait across the street for the light to turn green. I noticed a cute girl waiting all by herself and wondered if that was her. After a while I decided to play a little joke and call her on my cell but just as i was looking for her number, my phone was ringing and it was her! I look up and the person across the street is on the phone, so that was Med Head.
I have to say Med Head is really pretty. Definitely the prettiest of the girls I talked about on this site.
So we started to walk and talk. Things started off ok. I may have been taking a bit too much, but that's a problem I have in general. The only bad (and kind of gross thing) was that I haven't been feeling too hot the past couple of days and while we were walking, my stomach was a bit... upset. Thank god we were outside, but I'm afraid she might think I.... smell. Hopefully there was a breeze or something pushing away from us.
Anyways, there is a festival in town this week and every year where they sell tickets, is a beer tent that's really cheap and a band or something playing at night. We bought beer (awkwardly; the bartender didn't know who to give the money to, we both didn't know who was paying, or what)., found a bench and sat and chatted for a while.
While chatting I saw Trucker, RM1's boyfriend walk by. Turns out he was there looking for RM1. He turns to us and awkwardly asks if we're on a date. to which I hesitate and she simply says "yeah, sort of...".
We continued chatting and I know I was enjoying it but I don't know if she was. She laughed a bit at my jokes but she didn't seem so into me. then again, we just met right?
I'm not sure what her deal is because basically she has to study all summer for mes school but I think she just wanted to meet new people outside of the med circle (all her friends are from her classes, she told me).
After about an hour and a half, she said she had to go study. Again, I made things a tad awkward by walking with her for several blocks towards her house which was in the complete opposite direction to where I live, and she knew that. I apologized if I was coming off creepy, but she said it was ok.
Then as we approached the street we started at, the bus to take me back to the beer tent was coming. I quickly said goodbye and ran towards the bus. In my stride, I told her I had fun and that we should do something again, to which she simply replied something like "ya ok".
I'm not sure if she'd want to meet up again but to find out I deliberately told her earlier in the night about a website that picked her interest. So, when I got home, I had an excuse to e-mail her. I sent her the link, an apology for running off to abruptly and also mentioned that if she ever need a break from Med School, she could always give me call since I'll be around all summer. She mentioned earlier how she once dressed up as a goth person for halloween, so I joked in the message that we could dress up as goths and roam the streets scaring people
So, she was off and i was on a bus headed back to the beer tent. This is when the night got interesting.
I get off the bus, go to the beer tent and bump into RM1. Her boyfriend is nowhere to be seen. Turns out he just missed her and walked home, which was where I had left Med Head! This is about 10 blocks away from the beer tent which is the opposite direction from where I live.
RM1 asked if I wanted to walk with her. Since the weather was so nice, I accepted and we walked. We decide, while walking, to stop for ice cream. At the ice cream place, I bumped into this guy I know, JJ.
JJ was off to this preview show for the festival. Basically, each act in the festival had a 3 minute windo to to showcase their show for later in the week. It's totally not whre I expeted at the end of the night, and it was definitely a lot of fun.
Overall, regardless if the date went well or not, I had a good time.
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Elwood's got a date!
So after a few false leads, I'm finally going on a date tomorrow night with someone I met on that online dating site.
A lot of people on these kind of sites all write the same stuff. From their profiles you can single out what kin dof 'group' they could belong in:
1. Those online looking for sex
2. Those online who for one reason or another believe they need to find someoen to make their life complete and will find their prince charming online
3. Those who have boyfriends but still going online for shits and giggles
4. Those who are bored
5. Those who are older and looking to start a family
6. Those who just want to have fun and see who they can meet/are too busy to meet someone at a bar
I put myself more in the last group.
You can also do the same by just looking at profile pictures:
People in group 1 mostly show pictures of their boobs ready to pop out, or a picture of them in a club drunk.
People in group 2 usually have either a blurry or hard to see picture (if they believe they are not attractive) or are dressed in their fanciest, prettiest outfit.
People in group 3 usualy have a picture with their boyfriend in it.
People in group 5 practically are in their wedding dresses already
People in group 6 (and all the groups actually) may or may not even have a profile picture. Now I did some thinking and came up witht he conclusio of why someone wouldn't put their picture up online. It's either:
a) They don't thin they are attractive and worry by showing their picture no one will talk to them
b) They don't feel the need to have someone talk to them based solely on their looks.
So, after avoiding profiles with no pictures, I started to read them as well.
I stumbled upon a very funny and interesting one. Decided to message the person and she wrote back with a picture attached. I will admit she looks pretty. After writing back and forth a couple of times, being extremely jokey in the messages, I finaly asked her for coffee/beer and she wrote me back her number. I gave her a call last night and we agreed to meet up tomorrow evening to go check out this "alternative theatre" event happening in My City. I just found out a band I know of is playing there for FREE at the exact same time I arranged to meet her so that'll be cool. I hope I'll be able to find her.
Wish me luck!
I
A lot of people on these kind of sites all write the same stuff. From their profiles you can single out what kin dof 'group' they could belong in:
1. Those online looking for sex
2. Those online who for one reason or another believe they need to find someoen to make their life complete and will find their prince charming online
3. Those who have boyfriends but still going online for shits and giggles
4. Those who are bored
5. Those who are older and looking to start a family
6. Those who just want to have fun and see who they can meet/are too busy to meet someone at a bar
I put myself more in the last group.
You can also do the same by just looking at profile pictures:
People in group 1 mostly show pictures of their boobs ready to pop out, or a picture of them in a club drunk.
People in group 2 usually have either a blurry or hard to see picture (if they believe they are not attractive) or are dressed in their fanciest, prettiest outfit.
People in group 3 usualy have a picture with their boyfriend in it.
People in group 5 practically are in their wedding dresses already
People in group 6 (and all the groups actually) may or may not even have a profile picture. Now I did some thinking and came up witht he conclusio of why someone wouldn't put their picture up online. It's either:
a) They don't thin they are attractive and worry by showing their picture no one will talk to them
b) They don't feel the need to have someone talk to them based solely on their looks.
So, after avoiding profiles with no pictures, I started to read them as well.
I stumbled upon a very funny and interesting one. Decided to message the person and she wrote back with a picture attached. I will admit she looks pretty. After writing back and forth a couple of times, being extremely jokey in the messages, I finaly asked her for coffee/beer and she wrote me back her number. I gave her a call last night and we agreed to meet up tomorrow evening to go check out this "alternative theatre" event happening in My City. I just found out a band I know of is playing there for FREE at the exact same time I arranged to meet her so that'll be cool. I hope I'll be able to find her.
Wish me luck!
I
Monday, June 9, 2008
Fresh Start
So I admit I havn't been putting much effort inthis blog as much as I did in the beginning.
Well, I decided to give it another shot! I started to go out a lot more and soon enough I'll be blogginabout all these crazyi adventures I'm sure to have this summer.
You may notice some changes alreay. I added labels to all posts (thi sbeing post #90!), so it's easier to find posts on a particular topic. It was really hard reading all the old posts about Wendy. At one point I almost cried... but i'm doing ok.
This past weekend I went out to a few parties and bumped into a lot of people I knew and even made a few new friends. It was a lot of fun.
Also new to the blog is a list of the 10 girls I'm trying to go on a date with. So far I've been on 3 dates (with 3 different people).
You'll also find a list of people I've mentioned, from friends to crazy girls.
Hope you like the changes and please, do come back!
Well, I decided to give it another shot! I started to go out a lot more and soon enough I'll be blogginabout all these crazyi adventures I'm sure to have this summer.
You may notice some changes alreay. I added labels to all posts (thi sbeing post #90!), so it's easier to find posts on a particular topic. It was really hard reading all the old posts about Wendy. At one point I almost cried... but i'm doing ok.
This past weekend I went out to a few parties and bumped into a lot of people I knew and even made a few new friends. It was a lot of fun.
Also new to the blog is a list of the 10 girls I'm trying to go on a date with. So far I've been on 3 dates (with 3 different people).
You'll also find a list of people I've mentioned, from friends to crazy girls.
Hope you like the changes and please, do come back!
Thursday, June 5, 2008
Here comes the calvary
So it's been a couple of weeks at my new place and I love it. It's a huge place, great location, and allows me to go out and still come home at a reasonable hour.
I live with 2 girls who both have boyfriends. Up until now, Rm 2 would leave and stay at her boyfriends, but he'd never come here. Also RM1's boyfriend lived in Toronto. However, that all changed this week.
Rm1's boyfriend just moved to Montreal and since then (Sunday), he's been over every night. I totally don't have a problem with that. If anything, I kind of wish I had someone to invite over. In any case, I just hope Rm1 won't have a problem and feel that her space is being threatened when I eventually have women over.
Speaking of which, I'm currently in contact with 3 new people off that addictive dating site:
1. New Mommy - Been sending a few messages back and forth. Seemd kind of nice until she mentioned she just gave birth 6 months ago to a baby girl. I totally didn't notie taht she had kids when I read the profile. So, I'm pretty much going to remian friendly but doubt I'll ever meet this person.
2. Olive - Sounds like a very sarcastic/funny person who happens to be Half Jewish/Half Greek. She had no picture when I sent her an e-mail but she sent me hers without asking and she's cute. I'm interested to see if we'll ever meet. She's studying to be a doctor.
3. Ladybug - She's really cute in her picture. I sent her a message and she read my profile and wrote back. I kind of wrote in my profile that I'm constantly playing guitar so I think she thinks I"m actually good since she asked if i'd lke to meet up and exchange a song for a beer. I'm trying to play things cool with this one and see what happens.
Summer is coming and the females of My City are shedding layers. Things are looking up!
I live with 2 girls who both have boyfriends. Up until now, Rm 2 would leave and stay at her boyfriends, but he'd never come here. Also RM1's boyfriend lived in Toronto. However, that all changed this week.
Rm1's boyfriend just moved to Montreal and since then (Sunday), he's been over every night. I totally don't have a problem with that. If anything, I kind of wish I had someone to invite over. In any case, I just hope Rm1 won't have a problem and feel that her space is being threatened when I eventually have women over.
Speaking of which, I'm currently in contact with 3 new people off that addictive dating site:
1. New Mommy - Been sending a few messages back and forth. Seemd kind of nice until she mentioned she just gave birth 6 months ago to a baby girl. I totally didn't notie taht she had kids when I read the profile. So, I'm pretty much going to remian friendly but doubt I'll ever meet this person.
2. Olive - Sounds like a very sarcastic/funny person who happens to be Half Jewish/Half Greek. She had no picture when I sent her an e-mail but she sent me hers without asking and she's cute. I'm interested to see if we'll ever meet. She's studying to be a doctor.
3. Ladybug - She's really cute in her picture. I sent her a message and she read my profile and wrote back. I kind of wrote in my profile that I'm constantly playing guitar so I think she thinks I"m actually good since she asked if i'd lke to meet up and exchange a song for a beer. I'm trying to play things cool with this one and see what happens.
Summer is coming and the females of My City are shedding layers. Things are looking up!
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