Tonight is the last night I could spend time with Spider Dude before he leaves to go back to Australia. We were hanging out with another one of his friend's, walking around, shooting the shit.
I shared with him the decision I made in my mind last night. Rock Chick is currently away for about 2 weeks. Instead of worrying about what I want to do - should I pursue others? Do I want to stick with Rock Chick?, etc. - I decided I will just do nothing. Take a step back and have a break. concentrate on other things. Work, Improv, having fun.
Then, I'll give Rock chick about a week. If she calls me when she returns and wants to hang out, I'll go with the flow and see what happens. If I don't hear from her for about a week after she's been back then I'll move on to something else.
I know that being the guy I can always make the first move (and some believe I should always make a move), but I realized that even though I could keep pursuing her by making the calls and grabbing her attention, that's not what I always want. I don't want to be with someone that I always need to chase after. I would like to date someone who can reciprocate. If Rock Chick isn't that someone, than I'll have to say goodbye and move on.
Let's see what happens.
Thursday, August 27, 2009
One night at the Sex Shop...
The other day Spider Dude and I met up to hang out. He wanted to go into a sex shop so he could by some enticing underwear for his girlfriend.
Inside we ask the clerk at the counter where "the underwear section" is, and he points us in the right direction. Spider Dude starts looking at a bunch of panties. There are red ones, laced ones, see through ones, ones with holes in the right places, ones with ties. Yes. They had panties with a shirt tie hanging over the front.
After about 15 minutes, the clerk comes up to us and says "The men's underwear is over there".
Inside we ask the clerk at the counter where "the underwear section" is, and he points us in the right direction. Spider Dude starts looking at a bunch of panties. There are red ones, laced ones, see through ones, ones with holes in the right places, ones with ties. Yes. They had panties with a shirt tie hanging over the front.
After about 15 minutes, the clerk comes up to us and says "The men's underwear is over there".
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Party like it's 1985
I know I havn't been posting so often as of late. Work has got a lot better lately, I'm not swamped but things are starting to pick up. I've been going out a lot too. Spider Dude is still in town all the way from Australia. This past week another friend who moved to Israel was in My City and a bunch of us got together almost daily until yesterday. I've been keeping busy but there just hasn't been much to talk about on this blog since I havn't been pursuing people.
It has been almost 1 month and a half since I've met Rock Chick. We've been on probably 7 or 8 dates. We've gone out for dinner, she's come over to watch a movie, we spent a whole day at a concert, etc.
Last night, Spider Dude organized an outing to an 80s dance night at a bar. I was excited to go since he told me he didn't care who came as long as I was there. We both don't mind making fools of ourselves and just have fun - without any alcohol (we're crazy like that).
I had invited Rock Chick back on Monday and she was excited to come. Last minute (yesterday) she called me and asked if she could bring someone. She is part of this exchange program where people from overseas are paired up so when they move to My City for the university, they have someone they can hang out with. It was a smart move since we ended up being a bunch of dudes so at least she had another female around.
The night itself was a lot more fun then I thought it would be. I wasn't feeling so hot during the day but felt better at night. Also, I was afraid I was going to act all weird because Rock Chick was there but I didn't. I think having Spider Dude around helped because I was having fun and not feeling nervous.
The dancing itself was ok. The music wasn't very good but the being around fun people was. After a couple of hours we decided to split since Rock Chick and her friend had to leave to catch the last Subway. Spider Dude had a car and offered to just drive them home (Rock Chick's friend was staying at her place) so I asked him if it was cool if I came for a ride.
On the way there, I ended up sitting in the back seat with Rock Chick. We talked and joked around. At one point I put my hand behind her neck and started to rub it lightly. Again, she didn't throw my hand away but I couldn't tell if she actually liked it or not. I know that if someone does like something they will not allow you to do it but she never shows any signs of acknowledgment. It can be frustrating.
When we arrived at Rock Chick's place I got out of the car to move to the front seat. Rock Chick is leaving to go back to her home city for 2 weeks so I wished her a good trip, told her friend I was that it was nice meeting her and then moved towards Rock Chick. She gave me a hug so I kissed her on the cheek.
In the car, I talked to Spider Dude a bit about it. He told me straight up that he thought she was beautiful looking (he's old school like that). He really liked her. I asked what vibes he got from her and he honestly told me he couldn't tell anything. From how she acted around me he couldn't tell if she sees me as a friend or more.
I don't know what to do anymore. Part of me wants to see what will happen and part of me wants to see what else is out there. Well, she's gone for 2 weeks. By now she should know I like her more than a friend (or she's really clueless) so when she returns I'm leaving it in her court to reach me.
In the meantime I think i may start pursuing other things, not to drop Rock Chick completely, but surely there is nothing wrong to just look around. I'm not saying I'll go on 100 dates in 2 weeks but if the opportunity to meet someone new arises, I won't totally reject it.
What do you guys think? Are things moving too slow with her or am I being too eager? Think she's just yanking my chain?
Share you thoughts.
It has been almost 1 month and a half since I've met Rock Chick. We've been on probably 7 or 8 dates. We've gone out for dinner, she's come over to watch a movie, we spent a whole day at a concert, etc.
Last night, Spider Dude organized an outing to an 80s dance night at a bar. I was excited to go since he told me he didn't care who came as long as I was there. We both don't mind making fools of ourselves and just have fun - without any alcohol (we're crazy like that).
I had invited Rock Chick back on Monday and she was excited to come. Last minute (yesterday) she called me and asked if she could bring someone. She is part of this exchange program where people from overseas are paired up so when they move to My City for the university, they have someone they can hang out with. It was a smart move since we ended up being a bunch of dudes so at least she had another female around.
The night itself was a lot more fun then I thought it would be. I wasn't feeling so hot during the day but felt better at night. Also, I was afraid I was going to act all weird because Rock Chick was there but I didn't. I think having Spider Dude around helped because I was having fun and not feeling nervous.
The dancing itself was ok. The music wasn't very good but the being around fun people was. After a couple of hours we decided to split since Rock Chick and her friend had to leave to catch the last Subway. Spider Dude had a car and offered to just drive them home (Rock Chick's friend was staying at her place) so I asked him if it was cool if I came for a ride.
On the way there, I ended up sitting in the back seat with Rock Chick. We talked and joked around. At one point I put my hand behind her neck and started to rub it lightly. Again, she didn't throw my hand away but I couldn't tell if she actually liked it or not. I know that if someone does like something they will not allow you to do it but she never shows any signs of acknowledgment. It can be frustrating.
When we arrived at Rock Chick's place I got out of the car to move to the front seat. Rock Chick is leaving to go back to her home city for 2 weeks so I wished her a good trip, told her friend I was that it was nice meeting her and then moved towards Rock Chick. She gave me a hug so I kissed her on the cheek.
In the car, I talked to Spider Dude a bit about it. He told me straight up that he thought she was beautiful looking (he's old school like that). He really liked her. I asked what vibes he got from her and he honestly told me he couldn't tell anything. From how she acted around me he couldn't tell if she sees me as a friend or more.
I don't know what to do anymore. Part of me wants to see what will happen and part of me wants to see what else is out there. Well, she's gone for 2 weeks. By now she should know I like her more than a friend (or she's really clueless) so when she returns I'm leaving it in her court to reach me.
In the meantime I think i may start pursuing other things, not to drop Rock Chick completely, but surely there is nothing wrong to just look around. I'm not saying I'll go on 100 dates in 2 weeks but if the opportunity to meet someone new arises, I won't totally reject it.
What do you guys think? Are things moving too slow with her or am I being too eager? Think she's just yanking my chain?
Share you thoughts.
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
Flower Power
I have a date tonight with Rock Chick. I decided I wanted to buy her a flower or two since she said she had a bad week last week and I hadn't really had a chance to see her in a while.
During lunch break I went out of my office to the grocery store next door only to find that they had nothing. Across the street there was a convenience store which also sold flowers. Inside, I saw a bunch of shelves, practically empty. A small plant here and there.
The store lady told me that they are expecting more inventory soon. In search of buying just a flower or 2 our conversation went something like:
Elwood: Do you just have a flower or 2 for sale?
Lady: What kind of flower?
Elwood: Any flower, I don't need a whole plant, it's just a gift.
Lady: How about this piece of bamboo?
Elwood: Oh... Well it's a gift, for a girl, you know?
Lady: Girls love bamboo sticks! (shoving it in my face)
Elwood: Thanks... but it's not what I'm looking for... Have a nice day.
During lunch break I went out of my office to the grocery store next door only to find that they had nothing. Across the street there was a convenience store which also sold flowers. Inside, I saw a bunch of shelves, practically empty. A small plant here and there.
The store lady told me that they are expecting more inventory soon. In search of buying just a flower or 2 our conversation went something like:
Elwood: Do you just have a flower or 2 for sale?
Lady: What kind of flower?
Elwood: Any flower, I don't need a whole plant, it's just a gift.
Lady: How about this piece of bamboo?
Elwood: Oh... Well it's a gift, for a girl, you know?
Lady: Girls love bamboo sticks! (shoving it in my face)
Elwood: Thanks... but it's not what I'm looking for... Have a nice day.
Saturday, August 15, 2009
Needs to work on details
One of my closest friends, Spider Dude, is in town this month. He's from My City but moved to Australia to live with his girlfriend, Luscious Linda, who is now his fiancee.
For the first time in what felt like years, he called me up and we headed out for a walk in the city. We just walked around and chatted about stuff. He asked me about Rock Chick since i mentioned to him that I had been on several dates with her.
Spider Dude: "So, do you like this girl?"
Elwood: "Yeah, I do. At first, I wasn't so attracted to her body type. I thought Wendy was a lot hotter and I normally found others more attractive physically in that way but she's funny and it's her eyes. She's got the sexiest eyes. I melt when she looks at me"
Spider Dude: "That's great! What color are her eyes?"
Elwood: "Um... you know what? I don't know..."
For the first time in what felt like years, he called me up and we headed out for a walk in the city. We just walked around and chatted about stuff. He asked me about Rock Chick since i mentioned to him that I had been on several dates with her.
Spider Dude: "So, do you like this girl?"
Elwood: "Yeah, I do. At first, I wasn't so attracted to her body type. I thought Wendy was a lot hotter and I normally found others more attractive physically in that way but she's funny and it's her eyes. She's got the sexiest eyes. I melt when she looks at me"
Spider Dude: "That's great! What color are her eyes?"
Elwood: "Um... you know what? I don't know..."
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Vacation is over
It's Sunday and I go back to work tomorrow. I had a pretty relaxing, productive and fun vacation. My goals while off work were:
1. Get the ball rolling on finding a new job
2. Make a poster for a festival a friend of mine is organizing
3. Make a 1 minute movie for a film festival I entered
4. Relax
5. Hang out with friends visiting from Australia
To a certain extent, I managed to do all of the above.
Normally, a whole week off to have fun would have been the best way to take advantage and try to meet more new people, be it online or at a party or social gathering, etc. However, since I've been hanging out with Rock Chick, I've decided to stop browsing sites. I'm really confused if it's the smart thing to do but I was talking to Ira last night and he summed it up for me. He asked me: "are you not pursuing other people at the moment because you want to see what happens with Rock Chick and it makes you uncomfortable starting new things while trying to get to know her better?"
The answer is yes.
I spent 2 nights this week with her. Thursday night we were supposed to get together but she forgot she already made plans to watch a movie with a friend. However, she still wanted to see me so she came over and we ate a quick dinner that my roommate had made (she offered us leftover pizza she cooked) and then I walked her all the way to the movie theatre on the other end of town. it was about a 45 minute walk and the weather was absolutely beautiful.
Friday night I had invited her to an interesting party I found out about (a 90's video dance party) but she already had plans with someone else (a female friend), so I went solo. It was an awesome party and filled with hot girls. I'm not sure what I would have done had the opportunity arose, but I was flirting with a few of them, having fun, you know.
Last night I called her up again to see if she's like to get together since really we hadn't done much. Friday she was busy and Thursday all I did was walk her to her other plans. So I called her and she said she wanted to get out of her place. I suggested we walk down to the Old Docks. it's pretty much a wharf near water that is nice to walk around at night.
We arrived there just in time to catch the end of some fireworks. We walked along the docks and then headed to a fancy coffee shop I know of that has an amazing outside garden area to eat dessert, drink coffee and listen to live jazz. After dessert we caught a busker doing a show that lasted about 30 minutes and then we headed to the subway to call it a night.
I had fun with her and I find our conversations are pretty engaging. We have a few inside jokes now and she'll joke around with me and stuff which is great, but I still can't get this feeling that something is missing.
The only reason why I haven't moved on yet is I can't tell if this "feeling of something missing" is justified or not because I also feel I may be expecting too much too fast. The only other person I dated multiple times like this was Wendy and with her by the 3rd date we made out. With Rock Chick, it's now become a habit that we have a quick kiss at the end of our dates. I know that it doesn't have to be a scheduled thing like that, and if the mood is right, we can kiss or do other things during the actual date, not just wait until the end, but I haven't yet felt that that opportunity has arrived. I will touch her arm a bit or put my arm around her briefly while walking but it doesn't lead anywhere. On Thursday I tried holding her hand (after having reason to touch her had, we were joking around and I thought it would be a nice way to lead into hand holding) and she jokingly threw my hand away.
The way our dates on Thursday and Saturday ended were quite different. On Thursday, when I walked her to her destination, when we got there, there was this long awkward goodbye. I wanted to kiss her but was also afraid of making it a habit so I almost didn't. But then I thought now that I have made it a habit she may wonder why I didn't' kiss her this time. I know, it sounds silly, but that's what happened and then finally I went in for the quick kiss, said goodbye and left. I can't help it. It's just she stares right into my eyes each time when we say our goodbyes and it makes me feel like she's expecting me to make a move. But then when I do, it's so quick.
On Saturday night, our goodbye was a bit different. This time when we said goodbye, she leaned in and made a joke kissing motion and noise, like she was telling me "it's OK to kiss me now" which was great but again I cant' tell if it's because she really wants me to or because now it's a habit thing we've started.
Wow.
I feel as I keep typing this post, I'm getting more and more confused.
In the end, I know I am having fun with her, I just don't know if I'd be having more fun with someone else. I found out that in a couple of weeks she's going away for 2 weeks to visit her parents back home. So, I decided I'll give it a bit more time and see what happens. I'm definitely in no rush. If by then I feel that it's going nowhere, then it'll be a great opportunity to end things since she'll be gone for a while.
In the meantime lets see what happens.
1. Get the ball rolling on finding a new job
2. Make a poster for a festival a friend of mine is organizing
3. Make a 1 minute movie for a film festival I entered
4. Relax
5. Hang out with friends visiting from Australia
To a certain extent, I managed to do all of the above.
Normally, a whole week off to have fun would have been the best way to take advantage and try to meet more new people, be it online or at a party or social gathering, etc. However, since I've been hanging out with Rock Chick, I've decided to stop browsing sites. I'm really confused if it's the smart thing to do but I was talking to Ira last night and he summed it up for me. He asked me: "are you not pursuing other people at the moment because you want to see what happens with Rock Chick and it makes you uncomfortable starting new things while trying to get to know her better?"
The answer is yes.
I spent 2 nights this week with her. Thursday night we were supposed to get together but she forgot she already made plans to watch a movie with a friend. However, she still wanted to see me so she came over and we ate a quick dinner that my roommate had made (she offered us leftover pizza she cooked) and then I walked her all the way to the movie theatre on the other end of town. it was about a 45 minute walk and the weather was absolutely beautiful.
Friday night I had invited her to an interesting party I found out about (a 90's video dance party) but she already had plans with someone else (a female friend), so I went solo. It was an awesome party and filled with hot girls. I'm not sure what I would have done had the opportunity arose, but I was flirting with a few of them, having fun, you know.
Last night I called her up again to see if she's like to get together since really we hadn't done much. Friday she was busy and Thursday all I did was walk her to her other plans. So I called her and she said she wanted to get out of her place. I suggested we walk down to the Old Docks. it's pretty much a wharf near water that is nice to walk around at night.
We arrived there just in time to catch the end of some fireworks. We walked along the docks and then headed to a fancy coffee shop I know of that has an amazing outside garden area to eat dessert, drink coffee and listen to live jazz. After dessert we caught a busker doing a show that lasted about 30 minutes and then we headed to the subway to call it a night.
I had fun with her and I find our conversations are pretty engaging. We have a few inside jokes now and she'll joke around with me and stuff which is great, but I still can't get this feeling that something is missing.
The only reason why I haven't moved on yet is I can't tell if this "feeling of something missing" is justified or not because I also feel I may be expecting too much too fast. The only other person I dated multiple times like this was Wendy and with her by the 3rd date we made out. With Rock Chick, it's now become a habit that we have a quick kiss at the end of our dates. I know that it doesn't have to be a scheduled thing like that, and if the mood is right, we can kiss or do other things during the actual date, not just wait until the end, but I haven't yet felt that that opportunity has arrived. I will touch her arm a bit or put my arm around her briefly while walking but it doesn't lead anywhere. On Thursday I tried holding her hand (after having reason to touch her had, we were joking around and I thought it would be a nice way to lead into hand holding) and she jokingly threw my hand away.
The way our dates on Thursday and Saturday ended were quite different. On Thursday, when I walked her to her destination, when we got there, there was this long awkward goodbye. I wanted to kiss her but was also afraid of making it a habit so I almost didn't. But then I thought now that I have made it a habit she may wonder why I didn't' kiss her this time. I know, it sounds silly, but that's what happened and then finally I went in for the quick kiss, said goodbye and left. I can't help it. It's just she stares right into my eyes each time when we say our goodbyes and it makes me feel like she's expecting me to make a move. But then when I do, it's so quick.
On Saturday night, our goodbye was a bit different. This time when we said goodbye, she leaned in and made a joke kissing motion and noise, like she was telling me "it's OK to kiss me now" which was great but again I cant' tell if it's because she really wants me to or because now it's a habit thing we've started.
Wow.
I feel as I keep typing this post, I'm getting more and more confused.
In the end, I know I am having fun with her, I just don't know if I'd be having more fun with someone else. I found out that in a couple of weeks she's going away for 2 weeks to visit her parents back home. So, I decided I'll give it a bit more time and see what happens. I'm definitely in no rush. If by then I feel that it's going nowhere, then it'll be a great opportunity to end things since she'll be gone for a while.
In the meantime lets see what happens.
Monday, August 3, 2009
My weekend with Rock Chick
Yes, I managed to spend a whole weekend with Rock Chick, but nothing steamy like with Glasses. We just hung out. A lot.
Last Monday I had asked Rock Chick if she would like to go with me to this Huge Outdoor Rock Concert that happens once a year in My City. It's a 2 day festival but I was only interested in going on Sunday (Day 2). She had said yes to that and also to asking if she wanted to meet the next day as well.
So, after Tuesday, I wasn't supposed to see her until Sunday. Saturday comes along and I gave her a call to figure out our plans for Sunday. It turned out she was actually biking towards my area of the city to run a few errands. The only thing I had planned that day was to play guitar in a park, so she said she'd come by when she was done her errands.
I was out on my own for about an hour, jamming away, until she showed up. She listened to me play and seemed to like it but also got distracted a lot by things around us. I'm not the best guitar player or singer but i couldn't tell if she was bored. She kept telling me to continue, even when I stopped.
After a while we were talking about getting ice cream at a shop not too far by bike. Since my apartment was close by, the plan was to go back to my place, grab my bike and head to the ice cream shop.
Once we got to my place, I invited her in to check out the place. She also wanted to see old pictures of me on my PC since I told her i used to have a shaved head (and then a giant Afro).
Throughout all this I was getting pretty hungry, so I suggested we get real food and barbecue. She really wanted ice cream and the BBQ wasn't free yet (roommate was using it), so we had ice cream for supper and then BBQ steaks for dessert.
While we were getting the meat, I suggested renting a movie, and she loved the idea.
Once we were cooking the meats, new neighbours of mine i had just met earlier that day, were out on the porch, chatting to us. They asked me about my roommates and I told them that they are a couple. To that, the 2 dudes asked Rock chick and I how long we've been a couple.
Total silence.
Rock chick then mentioned how we went on 3 dates. I find it's always so awkward at the beginning of something like this.
We ate our steaks, made a mean salad and then adjourned to the living room to watch our movie (a Jewish comedy). On the couch we ended up cuddling a bit but she didn't really lean in much. I had my arm around her and she didn't' object but she didn't rest on me either.
After the film, which was hilarious, I walked her out and down my steps. We said our goodbyes and had a quick kiss goodnight.
So what was supposed to be a quick phone call ended up being a 10 hour date.
Sunday was another long day spent together. We arrived at the show grounds at 2pm and left at 11pm. We saw 8 bands in 9 hours. It was awesome! I got to see The Honey Brothers, Beatnuts, beast, The Ting Tings, Vampire Weekend, Rufus Wainright, Arctic Monkeys and the Yeah Yeah Yeahs.
it poured at the beginning and a bit in The Decemberists/Arctic Monkeys sets but otherwise it was a nice and beautiful day.
Throughout the show we talked and at some points I pulled her close and had my arm around her back or both arms around her waist. Each time she didn't pull back, but also seemed distant. by the end of the night she finally reciprocated and put her arm around my back as well and played a bit with it with her hand (taping it and rubbing it).
When the show finished, we were both exhausted and headed home by subway. We had to get off at the same stop but then each take different cars to finally get home. Again, we said our goodbyes and had a very quick kiss.
I had a lot of fun with her but I wonder if we spent a bit too much time together. Also, I can tell she likes me because she keeps letting me do stuff, she's not rejecting my advances, but on the other hand she's not really adding to anything. I figured there are many factors as to why (I'm moving too fast, she's not really that interested, she's afraid and not ready yet, etc.)
An even bigger thing to ask is am I interested in her. I hate when I get this way and start questioning everything. I admit I don't find her drop dead gorgeous and am normally attracted to women who are a bit more nice looking, but she has amazing eyes. Truly piercing eyes. And I find her funny. It's just, I don't know, I'm not blown away yet. But should I be? We've only been on a couple of dates. Even then, though, as much as things went slow with Wendy and I after a while, at the beginning I could tell a big attraction through the both of us. We made out on our 3rd date. it was hot.
I don't think I want to move on just yet, but my best friend Spider Dude is back in My City visiting family and asked if I was seeing anyone, I told him about rock Chick. He told me that it didn't really sound like a liked her that much. He said if the answer is something along the lines of "Yeah, I think so", which it sort of, then I should get out while I'm a head.
I decided to take a little break from Rock Chick. We did spend a whole weekend together. I'm not going to call her until probably Wednesday or Thursday, just to give it a few days. this way it gives me a chance to think things over a bit (or at least stop thinking of things, rather) and see if she calls me or not either.
Last Monday I had asked Rock Chick if she would like to go with me to this Huge Outdoor Rock Concert that happens once a year in My City. It's a 2 day festival but I was only interested in going on Sunday (Day 2). She had said yes to that and also to asking if she wanted to meet the next day as well.
So, after Tuesday, I wasn't supposed to see her until Sunday. Saturday comes along and I gave her a call to figure out our plans for Sunday. It turned out she was actually biking towards my area of the city to run a few errands. The only thing I had planned that day was to play guitar in a park, so she said she'd come by when she was done her errands.
I was out on my own for about an hour, jamming away, until she showed up. She listened to me play and seemed to like it but also got distracted a lot by things around us. I'm not the best guitar player or singer but i couldn't tell if she was bored. She kept telling me to continue, even when I stopped.
After a while we were talking about getting ice cream at a shop not too far by bike. Since my apartment was close by, the plan was to go back to my place, grab my bike and head to the ice cream shop.
Once we got to my place, I invited her in to check out the place. She also wanted to see old pictures of me on my PC since I told her i used to have a shaved head (and then a giant Afro).
Throughout all this I was getting pretty hungry, so I suggested we get real food and barbecue. She really wanted ice cream and the BBQ wasn't free yet (roommate was using it), so we had ice cream for supper and then BBQ steaks for dessert.
While we were getting the meat, I suggested renting a movie, and she loved the idea.
Once we were cooking the meats, new neighbours of mine i had just met earlier that day, were out on the porch, chatting to us. They asked me about my roommates and I told them that they are a couple. To that, the 2 dudes asked Rock chick and I how long we've been a couple.
Total silence.
Rock chick then mentioned how we went on 3 dates. I find it's always so awkward at the beginning of something like this.
We ate our steaks, made a mean salad and then adjourned to the living room to watch our movie (a Jewish comedy). On the couch we ended up cuddling a bit but she didn't really lean in much. I had my arm around her and she didn't' object but she didn't rest on me either.
After the film, which was hilarious, I walked her out and down my steps. We said our goodbyes and had a quick kiss goodnight.
So what was supposed to be a quick phone call ended up being a 10 hour date.
Sunday was another long day spent together. We arrived at the show grounds at 2pm and left at 11pm. We saw 8 bands in 9 hours. It was awesome! I got to see The Honey Brothers, Beatnuts, beast, The Ting Tings, Vampire Weekend, Rufus Wainright, Arctic Monkeys and the Yeah Yeah Yeahs.
it poured at the beginning and a bit in The Decemberists/Arctic Monkeys sets but otherwise it was a nice and beautiful day.
Throughout the show we talked and at some points I pulled her close and had my arm around her back or both arms around her waist. Each time she didn't pull back, but also seemed distant. by the end of the night she finally reciprocated and put her arm around my back as well and played a bit with it with her hand (taping it and rubbing it).
When the show finished, we were both exhausted and headed home by subway. We had to get off at the same stop but then each take different cars to finally get home. Again, we said our goodbyes and had a very quick kiss.
I had a lot of fun with her but I wonder if we spent a bit too much time together. Also, I can tell she likes me because she keeps letting me do stuff, she's not rejecting my advances, but on the other hand she's not really adding to anything. I figured there are many factors as to why (I'm moving too fast, she's not really that interested, she's afraid and not ready yet, etc.)
An even bigger thing to ask is am I interested in her. I hate when I get this way and start questioning everything. I admit I don't find her drop dead gorgeous and am normally attracted to women who are a bit more nice looking, but she has amazing eyes. Truly piercing eyes. And I find her funny. It's just, I don't know, I'm not blown away yet. But should I be? We've only been on a couple of dates. Even then, though, as much as things went slow with Wendy and I after a while, at the beginning I could tell a big attraction through the both of us. We made out on our 3rd date. it was hot.
I don't think I want to move on just yet, but my best friend Spider Dude is back in My City visiting family and asked if I was seeing anyone, I told him about rock Chick. He told me that it didn't really sound like a liked her that much. He said if the answer is something along the lines of "Yeah, I think so", which it sort of, then I should get out while I'm a head.
I decided to take a little break from Rock Chick. We did spend a whole weekend together. I'm not going to call her until probably Wednesday or Thursday, just to give it a few days. this way it gives me a chance to think things over a bit (or at least stop thinking of things, rather) and see if she calls me or not either.
Saturday, August 1, 2009
The long awaited "Part 2"
Quick recap: I found Glasses on OK! Cupid and we messaged each other back and forth a few times before agreeing to meet. We met at a coffee shop for supper. This lead into going for a pitcher of beer at a nearby bar. This then lead to us heading to a very cool dance party where everyone listened to music through giant headphones.
The rest:
We were dancing the night away and she kept dancing really close to me. I tried grabbing her hand but she shut me down saying she doesn't like dancing with someone. However, a while later, and I can't remember how, our hands locked. This lead to making out on the dance floor. Eventually we decided to leave so I walked her towards her place.
As we were going to depart ways, we made out again.
Both times it wasn't sloppy, dirty making out. It was actually quite nice. I made sure to make my kisses very gentle and she liked it. She even ever so slightly nibbled at my bottom lip. First time that ever happened and it was awesome!
From the beginning, I felt really confident the whole time. I really don't know what came over me, maybe it was the alcohol, or the book I've been reading or the alignment of the stars, but I just wasn't nervous at all. I got all kinds of vibes that showed she was into me, so maybe that made me feel less nervous.
All of sudden, I whispered in her ear "are you sure you don't me to at least walk you home?". She agreed and we held hands going to her place. As I mentioned before, as we were approaching her building she straight up told me she wasn't going to have sex with me. I replied that she totally got me all wrong and that wasn't what I was going for. And it's true. Like any guy, I wouldn't turn down the offer (especially being a virgin) but I genuinely wasn't going to force it out, and could have cared less if at her door she said goodnight and went upstairs. Up until then I have a blast regardless.
But the story doesn't end there.
In the elevator she tells me her roommate is conveniently out of town. We enter her place and she says "Do you want to make out on the couch or the bedroom?". I can't remember what I said, if anything, but after we each took a quick bathroom break (all the alcohol made us both need to go) we were in her room. With the lights off.
Again, here was another moment I felt like someone else. We were making out on her bed and I didn't feel nervous at all. I took off my shirt and helped her remove hers. After some more making out she laughed that I still had my pants on. I jumped off the bed and jokingly did a strip tease for her and she loved it. Then I was butt naked.
What was going on with me?? I'm afraid to even walk around my apartment naked when I'm alone, and here I am stripping in front of a stranger.
My experience with Glasses that one night was a million times better than any moment i had spent with Wendy over a full year. The whole time it was just a lot of fun. We joked around and said silly things. We laughed and smiled. At one point I kissed her nose by accident and said "Wait... That's not your mouth!" and she laughed and giggled.
Not knowing how far she wanted to go I would ask questions and she would answer and I could tell she liked that I asked, didn't sound annoyed. She even told me a few things to do.
She really liked being kissed on her neck and one f my favorite things I like doing is kissing necks, so it was a great match!
I won't go into too many details (in case kids read this blog, ha ha) but we did fool around on the bed. We didn't have sex and that was fine with me. I won't know if she ever would have had sex with me (well, intercourse) because I seemed to have had... er... man issues. But it didn't' matter, she didn't seem to care. I did manage to please her. It was the first time I ever made a girl orgasm. I never got that reaction with Wendy.
When we stopped, I moved in close next to her and we cuddled and talked.
We talked about a bunch of stuff. I also asked if it was ok that I stayed the night and she said of it was.
I can't remember what stuff we talked about before we went to bed and which we talked about the next morning, but at one point I told her was a virgin. She laughed but not because I was a virgin but more because she thought it was cute. She told me she never would have guessed by the way I behaved.
We talked for i don't' know how long and then said goodnight night and slept. Well I didn't sleep well at all. I kept waking up every few minutes. At one point we were both up and eventually discovered it had only been about 3 hours that we slept, so we tried to go back to sleep.
Eventually we just were up talking again and cuddling. I had my arms wrapped around her and was leaning against her side while she lied on her back. It felt a bit weird because she was a bigger person than me and maybe it's a guy complex or something but it seemed out of the ordinary having the girl lying on her back while the guy curled up beside her.
I know that just because we fooled around and I stayed over wouldn't necessarily mean anything. I totally was just going with the flow, but the next morning, I decided I didn't want it to go anywhere. Maybe it wasn't the smoothest (or smartest) thing to talk about it but we did.
I joked if this was a typical thing for her (to go this far with guys from the Internet) and she said I was the first guy since she moved My City. I told her that I didn't come over to just use her, that I genuinely had fun but also admitted I didn't see it being a repeat thing. She actually liked my honesty and then admitted to having a date lined up with another guy the next day.
The things that made me decide right there and then that I didn't really want to pursue anything with her were:
- I had been drinking a bit and the next morning I wasn't as attracted to her. One of the big things was that she was a big mix of other ethnicity. She told me she was like a quarter black, white, Chinese, etc. She had light brown skin and a really big nose that I see on many Filipino women. It's maybe a really jerky thing to saw, but I'm not as attracted to non-white people.
- She wasn't Jewish and that is still something i"m trying to come to grips with. I'm not sure if I'd really date a non-Jew or not.
-She said I reminded her of her ex. Apparently he was also really tall and skinny. She said she liked tall and skinny guys., but hearing her mention that I reminded her of her ex also made me think I should get to know her more before doing anything again
-Now I haven't gone home with many women (only 1 before this) so I"m not sure how things normally are the next morning, but I felt that was really clingy. Like, we spooned and cuddled and stuff, and I rubbed her skin gently with my finger, but she was like rubbing me all over with her hands. Up and down my arm, my head, my hair, my face. And at such a fast speed too.
At some point we decided to get up and get on with the day. I had a quick bite to eat at her place and then decided it was time to go. Even though I decided I didn't want it to go anywhere, I genuinely wouldn't mind being her friend. She seemed really cool. As I left I gave her a kiss on the cheek and told her we should do something soon.
I haven't called her since but am debating if I should try to get friendship or not out of it. There is something sort of starting up between Rock Girl and I and I don't' want to make things complicated if I start hanging out with a girl I almost slept with. Can people be friends from situations like this?
Either way, I had a blast Friday night. The only crappy thing is that the next night, the day of my birthday party, I was so tired that the night ended up being really relaxed.
So I hope you guys enjoy my post as much as I had acting it out.
The rest:
We were dancing the night away and she kept dancing really close to me. I tried grabbing her hand but she shut me down saying she doesn't like dancing with someone. However, a while later, and I can't remember how, our hands locked. This lead to making out on the dance floor. Eventually we decided to leave so I walked her towards her place.
As we were going to depart ways, we made out again.
Both times it wasn't sloppy, dirty making out. It was actually quite nice. I made sure to make my kisses very gentle and she liked it. She even ever so slightly nibbled at my bottom lip. First time that ever happened and it was awesome!
From the beginning, I felt really confident the whole time. I really don't know what came over me, maybe it was the alcohol, or the book I've been reading or the alignment of the stars, but I just wasn't nervous at all. I got all kinds of vibes that showed she was into me, so maybe that made me feel less nervous.
All of sudden, I whispered in her ear "are you sure you don't me to at least walk you home?". She agreed and we held hands going to her place. As I mentioned before, as we were approaching her building she straight up told me she wasn't going to have sex with me. I replied that she totally got me all wrong and that wasn't what I was going for. And it's true. Like any guy, I wouldn't turn down the offer (especially being a virgin) but I genuinely wasn't going to force it out, and could have cared less if at her door she said goodnight and went upstairs. Up until then I have a blast regardless.
But the story doesn't end there.
In the elevator she tells me her roommate is conveniently out of town. We enter her place and she says "Do you want to make out on the couch or the bedroom?". I can't remember what I said, if anything, but after we each took a quick bathroom break (all the alcohol made us both need to go) we were in her room. With the lights off.
Again, here was another moment I felt like someone else. We were making out on her bed and I didn't feel nervous at all. I took off my shirt and helped her remove hers. After some more making out she laughed that I still had my pants on. I jumped off the bed and jokingly did a strip tease for her and she loved it. Then I was butt naked.
What was going on with me?? I'm afraid to even walk around my apartment naked when I'm alone, and here I am stripping in front of a stranger.
My experience with Glasses that one night was a million times better than any moment i had spent with Wendy over a full year. The whole time it was just a lot of fun. We joked around and said silly things. We laughed and smiled. At one point I kissed her nose by accident and said "Wait... That's not your mouth!" and she laughed and giggled.
Not knowing how far she wanted to go I would ask questions and she would answer and I could tell she liked that I asked, didn't sound annoyed. She even told me a few things to do.
She really liked being kissed on her neck and one f my favorite things I like doing is kissing necks, so it was a great match!
I won't go into too many details (in case kids read this blog, ha ha) but we did fool around on the bed. We didn't have sex and that was fine with me. I won't know if she ever would have had sex with me (well, intercourse) because I seemed to have had... er... man issues. But it didn't' matter, she didn't seem to care. I did manage to please her. It was the first time I ever made a girl orgasm. I never got that reaction with Wendy.
When we stopped, I moved in close next to her and we cuddled and talked.
We talked about a bunch of stuff. I also asked if it was ok that I stayed the night and she said of it was.
I can't remember what stuff we talked about before we went to bed and which we talked about the next morning, but at one point I told her was a virgin. She laughed but not because I was a virgin but more because she thought it was cute. She told me she never would have guessed by the way I behaved.
We talked for i don't' know how long and then said goodnight night and slept. Well I didn't sleep well at all. I kept waking up every few minutes. At one point we were both up and eventually discovered it had only been about 3 hours that we slept, so we tried to go back to sleep.
Eventually we just were up talking again and cuddling. I had my arms wrapped around her and was leaning against her side while she lied on her back. It felt a bit weird because she was a bigger person than me and maybe it's a guy complex or something but it seemed out of the ordinary having the girl lying on her back while the guy curled up beside her.
I know that just because we fooled around and I stayed over wouldn't necessarily mean anything. I totally was just going with the flow, but the next morning, I decided I didn't want it to go anywhere. Maybe it wasn't the smoothest (or smartest) thing to talk about it but we did.
I joked if this was a typical thing for her (to go this far with guys from the Internet) and she said I was the first guy since she moved My City. I told her that I didn't come over to just use her, that I genuinely had fun but also admitted I didn't see it being a repeat thing. She actually liked my honesty and then admitted to having a date lined up with another guy the next day.
The things that made me decide right there and then that I didn't really want to pursue anything with her were:
- I had been drinking a bit and the next morning I wasn't as attracted to her. One of the big things was that she was a big mix of other ethnicity. She told me she was like a quarter black, white, Chinese, etc. She had light brown skin and a really big nose that I see on many Filipino women. It's maybe a really jerky thing to saw, but I'm not as attracted to non-white people.
- She wasn't Jewish and that is still something i"m trying to come to grips with. I'm not sure if I'd really date a non-Jew or not.
-She said I reminded her of her ex. Apparently he was also really tall and skinny. She said she liked tall and skinny guys., but hearing her mention that I reminded her of her ex also made me think I should get to know her more before doing anything again
-Now I haven't gone home with many women (only 1 before this) so I"m not sure how things normally are the next morning, but I felt that was really clingy. Like, we spooned and cuddled and stuff, and I rubbed her skin gently with my finger, but she was like rubbing me all over with her hands. Up and down my arm, my head, my hair, my face. And at such a fast speed too.
At some point we decided to get up and get on with the day. I had a quick bite to eat at her place and then decided it was time to go. Even though I decided I didn't want it to go anywhere, I genuinely wouldn't mind being her friend. She seemed really cool. As I left I gave her a kiss on the cheek and told her we should do something soon.
I haven't called her since but am debating if I should try to get friendship or not out of it. There is something sort of starting up between Rock Girl and I and I don't' want to make things complicated if I start hanging out with a girl I almost slept with. Can people be friends from situations like this?
Either way, I had a blast Friday night. The only crappy thing is that the next night, the day of my birthday party, I was so tired that the night ended up being really relaxed.
So I hope you guys enjoy my post as much as I had acting it out.
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