Once a year in My City there is a night where the downtown area has activities that last through the night. Museums, theatres, exhibits are places, etc. all stay open until the early morning hours. That night was last night.
It's a really hit and miss affair. I've had some years where everything I went to blew my mind, others not so much.
This year was so-so in the 'wow department' but the friends I hung out with made it enjoyable nonetheless. I was with 2 guy friends and Indie Rock Girl.
At 4am, we all decided to call it a night. Being the gentleman i am, I walked IRG home and when we arrived at her place she invited me in. This is the second time I stayed the night.
I was totally exhausted but after much force, managed to break my tired spell and we got to fooling around. Yet again I had problems but we did end up moving ahead a step. If this trend continues, we'll be having normal sex real soon.
The best thing was the communication. Being with IRG is awesome for that. She has a non-stress attitude and when we were done and cuddling we talked about a lot of stuff including sex related things as well. She told me she's happy with how I'm trying to please her and the next time we get it on she'll show me exactly what she likes.
We then slept the night and spent most of the day in bed talking. It felt great.
So far things just keep getting better and better with her.
Sunday, February 28, 2010
Saturday, February 27, 2010
I knew there had to be a catch
Last night, IRG and i went to a concert. It was awesome. I'm starting to feel more comfortable around her (and maybe girls in general?). I held her a bit during the show and we made out a bit on the way home. No more of this "kiss goodbye" nonsense I had with Rock Girl.
I'm still catching myself second guessing my actions but I'm also conquering my fears and doing them anyways, as opposed to before when I wouldn't.
She's made it easier for me too. She's spelled it out right in front of me her feelings for me. The other day I got an e-mail from her concerning something but she commented on how she really lucked out with Craigslist. How he met a guy who is cute, funny and nice.
It feels almost too good to be true and I may have found out the reason why.
Before the show, we had dinner together and we just talking about whatever until the conversation moved onto past relationships. That's when I found out that she had been dating a guy for about 2 years prior to moving to My City. They broke up before she moved but then he came to visit her several times and there was a lot of drama. In the end he told her never to talk to him again (for whatever reason) and now has a new girlfriend back in his home town.
That happened only back in November. If you do the math, she's technically only been out of a 4 year relationship for 3 months. That's not a very long time.
So, now I realize I could just be a rebound guy.
In any case, I figure we're both getting something out of this very time limited "relationship":
-She gets to spend time with a super awesome guy (me) , have fun and feel good.
-I get to have more practice dating someone and doing things I haven't really had a chance to explore before (sexual and non)
Both parties win.
I just hope I don't discover she's a psycho before she leaves. After is ok.
I'm still catching myself second guessing my actions but I'm also conquering my fears and doing them anyways, as opposed to before when I wouldn't.
She's made it easier for me too. She's spelled it out right in front of me her feelings for me. The other day I got an e-mail from her concerning something but she commented on how she really lucked out with Craigslist. How he met a guy who is cute, funny and nice.
It feels almost too good to be true and I may have found out the reason why.
Before the show, we had dinner together and we just talking about whatever until the conversation moved onto past relationships. That's when I found out that she had been dating a guy for about 2 years prior to moving to My City. They broke up before she moved but then he came to visit her several times and there was a lot of drama. In the end he told her never to talk to him again (for whatever reason) and now has a new girlfriend back in his home town.
That happened only back in November. If you do the math, she's technically only been out of a 4 year relationship for 3 months. That's not a very long time.
So, now I realize I could just be a rebound guy.
In any case, I figure we're both getting something out of this very time limited "relationship":
-She gets to spend time with a super awesome guy (me) , have fun and feel good.
-I get to have more practice dating someone and doing things I haven't really had a chance to explore before (sexual and non)
Both parties win.
I just hope I don't discover she's a psycho before she leaves. After is ok.
Monday, February 22, 2010
"So I guess we're no longer platonic?"
All week Indie Rock Girl an I had planned to go see a show on Saturday night. I bought the tickets and we we're supposed to meet up and go enjoy ourselves. What was not planned was being invited over for dessert (before we even went to the show).
The show was excellent and then we walked back to IRG's place. Both her room mates were out of town so we had the whole place to ourselves.
We had to defrost the dessert so while it sat on the counter, we sat on her bed and watched the Olympics.
Then we made out.
Then she stopped me to see the results for one of the races. Korea won gold.
Then we made out.
Then things went way past being 'strictly platonic'.
I don't want to go into details because I feel it's unfair to IRG to talk about this stuff even if she doesn't know I write this blog (it makes me feel even more guilty) and it makes it feel a little less special to me if I tell everyone, but I will say this:
When it came for the moment of glory... I blanked again. This time I don't know why. I wasn't drunk. I was afraid. I know the person. I like the person. I didn't feel nervous. Yet, I just couldn't get it to work.
Eventually we gave up, but she didn't seem to care. She was quite cheery (I guess I pleased her enough) and we just laid there on her bed for a while and talked.
It was nice.
The only other thing to note is the only condom I had with me was a flavoured condom. Gross, I know. The only reason I even have the stupid things is because the first time I bought a box years ago, I was super nervous and grabbed the first thing I found. I thought it said lubricated but it actually said luscious colors.
I explained that to IRG and she laughed.
Cut to Sunday night. I arrived home from hanging out with Ira to see I have an e-mail from IRG. She asked how I was and told me about her day. Then she mentions how she was at the drugstore and bought a box of non-scented condoms "so we'll be prepared for next time". She continued with "I hope there will be a next time!".
I don't know when that will be, but hopefully sometime soon :)
The show was excellent and then we walked back to IRG's place. Both her room mates were out of town so we had the whole place to ourselves.
We had to defrost the dessert so while it sat on the counter, we sat on her bed and watched the Olympics.
Then we made out.
Then she stopped me to see the results for one of the races. Korea won gold.
Then we made out.
Then things went way past being 'strictly platonic'.
I don't want to go into details because I feel it's unfair to IRG to talk about this stuff even if she doesn't know I write this blog (it makes me feel even more guilty) and it makes it feel a little less special to me if I tell everyone, but I will say this:
When it came for the moment of glory... I blanked again. This time I don't know why. I wasn't drunk. I was afraid. I know the person. I like the person. I didn't feel nervous. Yet, I just couldn't get it to work.
Eventually we gave up, but she didn't seem to care. She was quite cheery (I guess I pleased her enough) and we just laid there on her bed for a while and talked.
It was nice.
The only other thing to note is the only condom I had with me was a flavoured condom. Gross, I know. The only reason I even have the stupid things is because the first time I bought a box years ago, I was super nervous and grabbed the first thing I found. I thought it said lubricated but it actually said luscious colors.
I explained that to IRG and she laughed.
Cut to Sunday night. I arrived home from hanging out with Ira to see I have an e-mail from IRG. She asked how I was and told me about her day. Then she mentions how she was at the drugstore and bought a box of non-scented condoms "so we'll be prepared for next time". She continued with "I hope there will be a next time!".
I don't know when that will be, but hopefully sometime soon :)
Friday, February 19, 2010
First Base
Tonight I went over to Indie Rock Chick's apartment to watch this weeks episode of LOST!
She made me pizza and then we headed into her room to watch it on her laptop. The episode was AWESOME! Then we switched on the Olympics and watched that for a while.
We were sitting on her floor leaning against her bed. I then put my arm around her and eventually sometime during the Olympics, I leaned in and kissed her cheek and then her lips. We ended up making out.
So it's official. I am claiming that my move. It's the cheek than lips move. To all you shy people out there like me. It totally works. Just lean in, kiss the cheek and they will know right away your intentions. Hasn't failed me yet!
It was nice.
Very very high school.
Actually, I wouldn't know since I never did any of this stuff during high school, which is why I'm loving it now. I'm such a kid.
At one point we were lying on our stomachs watching her screen and I had my arm around her for a bit and then she put her arm around me and even rubbed my hair. I felt really relaxed then, knowing that the feelings must be mutual and I didn't have to worry that I was forcing her into anything.
The only strange thing about the two times we made out tonight was that is was extremely slow. I'm not saying I wanted to be making out super hard core or anything but each kiss felt like it lasted a good 3 or 4 seconds. Our tongues were moving at 1km/hr. I started to veer off at one point, but I felt guilty and tried concentrating again.
Well I hope things will feel a little less awkward from now on.
I'm going out with her again on Saturday. Hooray!
She made me pizza and then we headed into her room to watch it on her laptop. The episode was AWESOME! Then we switched on the Olympics and watched that for a while.
We were sitting on her floor leaning against her bed. I then put my arm around her and eventually sometime during the Olympics, I leaned in and kissed her cheek and then her lips. We ended up making out.
So it's official. I am claiming that my move. It's the cheek than lips move. To all you shy people out there like me. It totally works. Just lean in, kiss the cheek and they will know right away your intentions. Hasn't failed me yet!
It was nice.
Very very high school.
Actually, I wouldn't know since I never did any of this stuff during high school, which is why I'm loving it now. I'm such a kid.
At one point we were lying on our stomachs watching her screen and I had my arm around her for a bit and then she put her arm around me and even rubbed my hair. I felt really relaxed then, knowing that the feelings must be mutual and I didn't have to worry that I was forcing her into anything.
The only strange thing about the two times we made out tonight was that is was extremely slow. I'm not saying I wanted to be making out super hard core or anything but each kiss felt like it lasted a good 3 or 4 seconds. Our tongues were moving at 1km/hr. I started to veer off at one point, but I felt guilty and tried concentrating again.
Well I hope things will feel a little less awkward from now on.
I'm going out with her again on Saturday. Hooray!
Monday, February 15, 2010
Baby Steps
Tonight Indie Rock Girl came over.
I had a late night last night and decided instead of going to the theater like I normally do on a Sunday night, I'd take it much easier. I sent RCG an e-mail when I woke up inviting her over to watch the Winter Olympics. She accepted and said she could either meet me after dinner or come earlier if I fed her. So, being the gentleman I am, I invited her over for supper and made her my world famous grilled cheese sandwich, with a side dish and she drank almost half a bottle of white wine.
After an unsuccessful attempt to get my Internet working to watch the Olympics live by streaming it on my PC, we moved to the living room instead. I was snuggling under a nice blanket but she didn't want to cover up and just sat there cross armed.
After watching for over an hour and chatting, I realized that she really is a fun person to talk to. She's quirky but I like that about her. After summoning a lot of courage, I leaned my head on her shoulder. I was already kind of leaning on her before (to stretch my legs) but after much thought, I went for it.
Afterwards I asked if it was ok, and she said yes. Then after a few minutes I started rubbing her arm. No flinching, no objections.
Ok, this is good.
Then I shifted and put my arm around her shoulders and she curled up next me. I kept rubbing her arm slowly off and on the rest of the time and she seemed to like it.
I'm pretty sure I could have gone in for a kiss, but I didn't want to rush it. It was late, my roommates were sleeping, and we were trying to be really quiet. Plus it was really nearing the time she had to leave.
Finally, I had to kick her out, unfortunately, and she knew she had to go anyways. As she was in my room putting on her jacket I was sitting on my bed. I looked up and she pulls something out of her pocket and hands it to me. It was a green valentine card she made out of cardboard paper. On the back it read:
Happy Valentine's Day - Thanks for all the music and good times. I'm glad we met :) - IRG
That probably would have been a good time to kiss her but again I balked. I did thank her though, and I studied the card for a while, to show my sincerity.
I walked her to my front door and before she left she gave me a hug. This was the first time. Usually it would be a quick "Goodbye" and she'd leave. This time she said "Thanks for dinner. I'll have to come back and finish the other half of wine".
This is good right? :)
More to come (I hope) ...
I had a late night last night and decided instead of going to the theater like I normally do on a Sunday night, I'd take it much easier. I sent RCG an e-mail when I woke up inviting her over to watch the Winter Olympics. She accepted and said she could either meet me after dinner or come earlier if I fed her. So, being the gentleman I am, I invited her over for supper and made her my world famous grilled cheese sandwich, with a side dish and she drank almost half a bottle of white wine.
After an unsuccessful attempt to get my Internet working to watch the Olympics live by streaming it on my PC, we moved to the living room instead. I was snuggling under a nice blanket but she didn't want to cover up and just sat there cross armed.
After watching for over an hour and chatting, I realized that she really is a fun person to talk to. She's quirky but I like that about her. After summoning a lot of courage, I leaned my head on her shoulder. I was already kind of leaning on her before (to stretch my legs) but after much thought, I went for it.
Afterwards I asked if it was ok, and she said yes. Then after a few minutes I started rubbing her arm. No flinching, no objections.
Ok, this is good.
Then I shifted and put my arm around her shoulders and she curled up next me. I kept rubbing her arm slowly off and on the rest of the time and she seemed to like it.
I'm pretty sure I could have gone in for a kiss, but I didn't want to rush it. It was late, my roommates were sleeping, and we were trying to be really quiet. Plus it was really nearing the time she had to leave.
Finally, I had to kick her out, unfortunately, and she knew she had to go anyways. As she was in my room putting on her jacket I was sitting on my bed. I looked up and she pulls something out of her pocket and hands it to me. It was a green valentine card she made out of cardboard paper. On the back it read:
Happy Valentine's Day - Thanks for all the music and good times. I'm glad we met :) - IRG
That probably would have been a good time to kiss her but again I balked. I did thank her though, and I studied the card for a while, to show my sincerity.
I walked her to my front door and before she left she gave me a hug. This was the first time. Usually it would be a quick "Goodbye" and she'd leave. This time she said "Thanks for dinner. I'll have to come back and finish the other half of wine".
This is good right? :)
More to come (I hope) ...
Saturday, February 13, 2010
That was fast
As quickly as it arrived, it left:
As mentioned, a week or two ago, I received out of the blue a message on Plentyoffish.com from a very outgoing girl. She was super excited to have found me since she liked what my profile had to say. We exchanged messages back and forth a few times. I end up asking her to meet and...
then nothing.
It's funny because this has happened before.
he cycle repeats.
As mentioned, a week or two ago, I received out of the blue a message on Plentyoffish.com from a very outgoing girl. She was super excited to have found me since she liked what my profile had to say. We exchanged messages back and forth a few times. I end up asking her to meet and...
then nothing.
It's funny because this has happened before.
he cycle repeats.
Monday, February 8, 2010
This is getting too easy
So yet again, since I've been hanging out with Indie Rock Girl and been busy with work and other stuff, I haven't been really searching for dates on Plentyoffish.com. Then, out of the blue, a girl e-mails me. She ready my profile and really liked it.
We've e-mail back and forth only once and already I can tell she's the exact opposite of Indie Rock Girl. This girl sounds outgoing, wacky and adventurous. She stays up late and parties hard, while IRG is more laid back and doesn't really drink or like big crowds.
I think after a couple of e-mails I can easily set up a time to meet this new girl.
To yet another challenge!
We've e-mail back and forth only once and already I can tell she's the exact opposite of Indie Rock Girl. This girl sounds outgoing, wacky and adventurous. She stays up late and parties hard, while IRG is more laid back and doesn't really drink or like big crowds.
I think after a couple of e-mails I can easily set up a time to meet this new girl.
To yet another challenge!
She definitely enjoys my company...
So I thought about it for a few minutes and I've been spending a lot of time with Indie Rock Girl. Since I met her 3 weeks ago, we have hung out eight times.
I can definitely say I enjoy spending time with her and would love to see how long I can keep this up for, but I don't want to analyze it too much. Just have fun.
Again, I find it really tough to read her feeling towards me. When we hang out, we have fun, joke around, etc. but she's a shy person. However, after almost every time we've hung out, I'll get an e-mail a day or two later saying she had fun and wants to know if I'm free another night to get together.
If she just wants to be friends or more, that's got to be a good sign, right?
For instance i saw her yesterday and got an e-mail tonight saying she had fun hanging out yesterday and wants to know if I'm free this week. My biggest fear would be to suggest something that would make it very obvious that I may want to up the level a bit and instead of agreeing, she'll get scared away and then I'll lose her as a friend as well.
On the other hand, one of the main rules in improv is take risks. If you don't take a risk, you'll never know the outcome. So perhaps the next thing I'll suggest we do is a movie and wine.
I can definitely say I enjoy spending time with her and would love to see how long I can keep this up for, but I don't want to analyze it too much. Just have fun.
Again, I find it really tough to read her feeling towards me. When we hang out, we have fun, joke around, etc. but she's a shy person. However, after almost every time we've hung out, I'll get an e-mail a day or two later saying she had fun and wants to know if I'm free another night to get together.
If she just wants to be friends or more, that's got to be a good sign, right?
For instance i saw her yesterday and got an e-mail tonight saying she had fun hanging out yesterday and wants to know if I'm free this week. My biggest fear would be to suggest something that would make it very obvious that I may want to up the level a bit and instead of agreeing, she'll get scared away and then I'll lose her as a friend as well.
On the other hand, one of the main rules in improv is take risks. If you don't take a risk, you'll never know the outcome. So perhaps the next thing I'll suggest we do is a movie and wine.
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