Happy Passover

Tonight was the first night of Passover. Being Jewish, it's tradition to have a Seder (big meal) the first 2 nights of the 8 days of Passover.

To my surprise, my mom had asked me to invite Indie Rock Girl to join us for the first Seder. I'm still convinced my mom doesn't know we're dating but she also continued to say that the reason she wants IRG to come is because my brother Jason (who's being an idiot and not talking to my parents for stupid reasons) is not coming with his family so our table will be empty.

In any case, I invited IRG and she accepted.

We met before hand and then travelled to the suburbs to meet my family. The only other time I brought a girl over for dinner was when I was dating Wendy and that was already after 3 or 4 months. IRG and I have only known each other a couple of months.

The night went well without any major disasters. My Mom, Dad, my brother Ira and my Aunt were there and all seemed to like IRG.

Throughout most of the night, I didn't really get a chance to talk to IRG too much. She seemed to interact with my family and did enjoy the food, but I seemed a bit worried she didn't have a good time.

We got a lift back into town and then took the subway towards our apartments (we live not too far from each other). Just when my mind was starting to go down that path called Worry, she turned to me and said "You look cute tonight".

I was sporting dress pants, a dress shirt and a tie. Also, I shaved my beard.

I've had a beard for the past 3 months and Indie Rock Girl has not seen me without on  until tonight.

We also had a small chat about what to call each other. I admitted that I kept referring my friends to her as "the girl I'm dating" but was getting tired of it. She told me she's been referring me as her "Sort-of Boyfriend".

Since she's leaving and I don't want a long distance relationship (actually wee have yet to talk about that...), I can live with that.

I'M SOMEONES SORT-OF BOYFRIEND!

I don't hear that everyday

"Yah we need to have sex a lot more often".

That is definitely not something I thought I'd hear (or read in this case) from someone. Ever!

She realizes we're both extremely busy people and then when we do manage to see each other, we're out and about doing stuff. We're both the type who want to explore and do things than just stay inside all the time wathching TV. Although now it seems like we may be doing a different kind of exploring.

Indie Rock Girl leaves in about 2 months. We have a lot of exploring to do.

Crazy Eights

The other day I was at Indie Rock Girl's sitting on her bed. I was teaching her how to play Crazy Eights and was trying to remember all the rules:

Elwood: "Ok so if you get a 2, you pick up 2 cards"
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok"
Elwood: "If you get an 8, you chane the suit. You can put down multiple cards of the same number..."
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok"
Elwod: "...and if you put down an ace you can dop all cards of the same suit".
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok"
Elwood: "A jack mean you miss a turn, and the Queen of spades is pick up 5 cards"
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok"
Elwood: "and everytime a King is played, I get to kiss you".
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok! :) "

I was half kidding when I said that but she was totally into it. Then I won. With a king.

Fun times

While snuggling in my bed:

Indie Rock Girl: "I wish I could live in the USA (where she is from) and here (where she is until May) at the same time.

Elwood: "So you're enjoying living here in My City now?"

Indie Rock Girl: "Ever since I met you it's been more fun"

Elwood: "I'm glad to hear that. I can always come and visit."

Indie Rock Girl: "The invitation is always open".

Wow!

Going for the gold

Last night it happened. I finally had what I considered real sex.

Yes, I attempted and failed to have sex with Wendy when we dated, but it always felt pressured and she never helped me out at all.

Yes, there were 2 occasions were I tried to have sex with total strangers, one I met through the Internet, one at a Halloween party, but both times I had "performance" problems and didn't have actual intercourse (so technically not sex).

Yes, I did have my first go at intercourse sex with a friend who ended up at my place after some drinking and technically lost my virginity but the whole thing lasted literally 10 seconds and it was done way prematurely (i.e. not by my command).

Even the first 2 times with Indie Rock Girl were a let down, the first time having performance problems, the second time finished prematurely. However, last night was totally different.

The night started with IRG coming over for dinner. Before she arrived, she texted me to double check what time to show up at my place. Also in her text she included the question if she could stay the night (the answer was yes).

She arrived in time for me to have dinner (take out Chinese) on the table with candles - I added a little romantic twist to dinner.

After dinner we went to my room, talked for a while and then got close and then kissed. Finally it was time to go at it.

And we succeeded.

The experience was amazing:
- No drinking involved
- Not a stranger but someone I knew and was comfortable with
- No worries about what I was doing
- No worries about the lights being on
- No worried about my roommates (they no longer are sleeping in the room next to mine).
- No worries about protection (she brought a condom)
- No performance problems (little Elwood was working just fine)

The actual act last a good couple of minutes until I reached... what the term for a guy? Climax?

It felt so good, I literally almost cried. I told that to IRG and she smiled at me and said "That's awesome".

Then we snuggled and talked for like an hour. It felt great.

This is what I want to remember as my first real time of having sex. IRG has said I'm getting better each time and she hopes there will be many more other times in the future.

Don't Fuck It Up

I feel like as hard as it is trying to "get the girl" it's the "keeping the girl" that's even harder. I'm not saying that I'm having a hard time with Indie Rock Girl, I just feel like instead of worrying about if she likes me or not, now I'm worrying about how to get her to keep liking me.

We met tonight to watch Lost and then we went to see friends of mine do a show and I just got home now. She left something in my room so she walked back with me and then we said our goodbyes and with a kiss.

After she left my room mate brought to my attention that I sounded funny because I had asked her a question and then answered it myself. Them being:

"So when do you think I'll be seeing you again?", and "Probably not for a long time".

I was just referring to the fact that I know she's not available Friday night and possibly Saturday night and I'm usually busy Sunday nights so that makes it until next week. However, it did sound pretty funny how I said it.

The only thing that bugged me was that I suggested we meet tomorrow. She said no because she needs to rest. I don't blame her, we've been doing a lot together. My biggest fear (and I'm sure I've said it countless times) is to come across too needy. I doubt that little slip will push her away but I feel like I need to be careful. When I meet someone I like (even as friends), I just want to spend a lot of time with them.

Well, we may meet up again on Saturday. Until then...

Making It Easy For Me

I received an e-mail from Indie Rock girl today.

No not that kind of e-mail. A Good one.

She was asking me how my day was and they asked me if I could do something for her. She wants me to learn one of her favorite songs on the guitar so I could play it for her while she sings.

I was thinking the other day how it would be fun to learn a song just for her. It kind of takes away the romanticism (and element of surprise) but now I have a song I can learn just for her.