In My City, they have an annual St Patricks Day parade. The whole city runs downtown and drinks in the streets. Is it like this in other cities? This year the parade the weekend after the actual day, which was this past weekend.
The parade started at 12pm but I decided instead of running out to the parade, I would stay home and cook instead. I was dying to make this chicken stir fry dish and had already defrosted the chicken a couple of days before, so it was now or never to use it.
I figured I'd be a tad late from my cooking adventure. It took me roughly three hours to make a stir fry. I'm a slow cook it seems.
I got a call from my buddy Tall Bob whom I was supposed to meet at the parade asking me where I was. I told him I'd be there soon, so I rushed out of the house and ate my meal on the bus.
I arrived at the meeting spot at 3:30pm way after the parade ended. I had in my bag 2 cans of Guiness and chugged one to "catch up" to Tall Bob and his friends.
We were at a small tiny bar that was pretty empty. TB introduced me to this chick, whom he knew from before and had the hots for. I didn't pay much attention and bought a pitcher of beer.
Later I noticed Tall Bob chatting up the girl but saw that her hand was rubbing the back of another guy who ended up being Tall Bob's friend, without Tall Bob noticing.
Still being oblivious, Tall Bob gets himself, the girl, her friend, Tall Bob's friend and I all into a cab to his place. However, the girl and her friend, totally smashed, convince us to go to their place.
We arrive, the girls friend passes out instantly and Tall Bob's friend ends up in the girls room, with the girl.
Tall Bob is pissed.
So like any drunk, pissed off guy, we headed to a bar and got even more drunk.
After 2 more pints and an Irish Car Bomb I was really feeling it. I was so drunk and on the prowl I was checking out every girl in the room. At one point I kind of wished Wendy would walk in. How pathetic... I gues thats the punishment for getting so drunk.
No wait, puking! Puking is the punishment thats what came next.
After teh bar, we finally made it to Tall Bob's place and I'm nto sure how much time had past since I walked in the door, but i ended straight and his toilet puking my guts out.
Eventually I ended up on his floor passed out and everyone was walking buy waking me up and telling me stuff.
After puking 3 times total, I left, grabbed a bus, got into the metro and headed home. Just as we approached my metro stop, my stomache felt queasy again. I ended up puking a bit in my mouth before the doors open for me to lunge for the nearest garbage can and puke out the rest.
I somehow managed to get home and passed out by 9pm. I ended up sleeping 10 hours!
I hadn't of been that drunk and sick since I was 21. I don't I ever want to drink again...
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Sunday, March 22, 2009
The new age of spaming?
So the other day an ad on Craigslist caught my eye.
It was a normal ad titled something like "Seeking sweet guy" or something like that. The ad itself described someone and saying what they're looking for. It sounded a tad sketch so I used an old junk e-mail account to reply.
The next day I get a response straight in my junk from a "girl" and the e-mail sounded so real, referencing streets in My City and one of the Universities but i knew it was fake/scam because there was a link to her "Web Page" which was basically two pictures of a young person and a short story with a link to some sex personals site and how i need to sign up to contact her.
So I left it at that.
Then this morning I noticed in my junk, another e-mail from the "person" saying "haven't heard from you, did you not like my pics? I'm still up for a coffee and good conversation if u are :-)"
So I wrote back saying that I normally would if she wasn't either a) a robot b) a 40 year old guy or c) someone looking to scam someone else.
Took a shower and upon returning to my computer I received this (I replaced the real names with () . Hey I still want to be anonymous):
"hey i have an idea then, theres a cool little place its called (Cafe) on (real street name) how about we meet up and see if we click? who knows what'll happen :-) I'm really new to(My City) so hoping to meet someone super fun and sexy!! i live on (real street name) and no car, any chance u can pick me up? this is the last email i can send, I'm just at an Internet cafe .. call me soon ok? "
This is really scary! It sounds so real.
I was just curious to see what would happen, so I even wrote back "See you there". If she is a real person well then let her wait at a coffee shop all day since I nevr told her what time I'd be there.
My advice to all the peopel out there tryign to meet peope through the interenet: always do a little research before trying to meet.
Look up on google their e-mail or name in gogle and facebook. Everyone uses face book. If you can;t find them on there and google, then probably a scam.
Also as soon as someone says you need to join some website to meet them, it's also a scam.
Good luck
It was a normal ad titled something like "Seeking sweet guy" or something like that. The ad itself described someone and saying what they're looking for. It sounded a tad sketch so I used an old junk e-mail account to reply.
The next day I get a response straight in my junk from a "girl" and the e-mail sounded so real, referencing streets in My City and one of the Universities but i knew it was fake/scam because there was a link to her "Web Page" which was basically two pictures of a young person and a short story with a link to some sex personals site and how i need to sign up to contact her.
So I left it at that.
Then this morning I noticed in my junk, another e-mail from the "person" saying "haven't heard from you, did you not like my pics? I'm still up for a coffee and good conversation if u are :-)"
So I wrote back saying that I normally would if she wasn't either a) a robot b) a 40 year old guy or c) someone looking to scam someone else.
Took a shower and upon returning to my computer I received this (I replaced the real names with () . Hey I still want to be anonymous):
"hey i have an idea then, theres a cool little place its called (Cafe) on (real street name) how about we meet up and see if we click? who knows what'll happen :-) I'm really new to(My City) so hoping to meet someone super fun and sexy!! i live on (real street name) and no car, any chance u can pick me up? this is the last email i can send, I'm just at an Internet cafe .. call me soon ok? "
This is really scary! It sounds so real.
I was just curious to see what would happen, so I even wrote back "See you there". If she is a real person well then let her wait at a coffee shop all day since I nevr told her what time I'd be there.
My advice to all the peopel out there tryign to meet peope through the interenet: always do a little research before trying to meet.
Look up on google their e-mail or name in gogle and facebook. Everyone uses face book. If you can;t find them on there and google, then probably a scam.
Also as soon as someone says you need to join some website to meet them, it's also a scam.
Good luck
Thursday, March 19, 2009
(ill)ogical thinking?
Yesterday was St Patricks Day. Booze everywhere! WOO! Well, not for me. I work so I couldn't go out and get hammered and instead of drinking, I did a comedy show which went pretty well.
I've been really good lately and haven't really thought or cared about Wendy but the last couple of days have been tough because March 17th is her birthday making it really easy for my thoughts to wander of times past.
Two years ago, we had just started dating (about a month) and St Patty's Day was the first time I met her friends. We all ate dinner and then headed to a bar. It was packed.
I remember introducing myself to all her friends and this one guy had showed up late. So I thought I'd talk a little chit-chat:
Elwood: "Hey hows it going? Elwood"
Guy: "Hey hows it going, I'm Guy"
Elwood: "So how do you know Wendy?"
Guy: "We used to date, you?"
Elwood: "Um... we are... dating".
It was really awkward but turned out he dated her like 3 years prior to meeting him. I originally thought he was her immediate ex.
Another memorable moment was when it was down to myself, Wendy and two of her female friends at the table and a bunch of drunk guys were trying to pick them all up. At one point the girls all went to the bathroom, where one of the guys who was trying to pick up Wendy (I just sat and watched, wasn't jealous at all) turns to me and says "Is that your girl?" and it took me a second to process in my head "Yes, she really is!" and when I told him yes he was really cool about it and shook my hand and let her be when she came back. I was really surprised since this guy was 3 times my size and was acting really drunk and cocky.
Last year was even harder on St Patty's Day because I had just stopped full contact with Wendy a few days before and she still invited me to her birthday party. What's sad is I really wanted to go, but knew it was wrong to do. I knew if I'd shown up, she'd be drunk and I'd get drunk and we'd do something we'd both regret.
I feel sometimes that there were occasions since we've broken up that if I had contacted her or gone to something it would cause it to linger just a little more (like going to her birthday party) but what would have been the point?
That being said, I spent a whole day deciding if I should write on her Facebook wall and wish her a Happy Birthday. On one hand, we haven't been in contact in a long time and maybe that's good to finally lose all ties, but then I thought that there is no reason that I should be ignoring her. She didn't do anything bad to me, so I should just do it. Then I figured that she might wonder why I'm contacting her out of the blue. Then I realized she wished me a Happy Birthday on mine, so whats the big deal.
Ugh stupid brain!
In the end I did write on her wall... a day late.
--
On a related note, after the show, an audience member was asking if we knew of a place that taught comedy and I ended up chatting with her for a few minutes about the theatre I go to that gives free workshops and comedy. It took me a while until I realized how cute she was.
She asked em to write down the info and when I got a pen and paper and started writing it down, I was so tempted to include my phone number. Would that have been slimy?
I've been really good lately and haven't really thought or cared about Wendy but the last couple of days have been tough because March 17th is her birthday making it really easy for my thoughts to wander of times past.
Two years ago, we had just started dating (about a month) and St Patty's Day was the first time I met her friends. We all ate dinner and then headed to a bar. It was packed.
I remember introducing myself to all her friends and this one guy had showed up late. So I thought I'd talk a little chit-chat:
Elwood: "Hey hows it going? Elwood"
Guy: "Hey hows it going, I'm Guy"
Elwood: "So how do you know Wendy?"
Guy: "We used to date, you?"
Elwood: "Um... we are... dating".
It was really awkward but turned out he dated her like 3 years prior to meeting him. I originally thought he was her immediate ex.
Another memorable moment was when it was down to myself, Wendy and two of her female friends at the table and a bunch of drunk guys were trying to pick them all up. At one point the girls all went to the bathroom, where one of the guys who was trying to pick up Wendy (I just sat and watched, wasn't jealous at all) turns to me and says "Is that your girl?" and it took me a second to process in my head "Yes, she really is!" and when I told him yes he was really cool about it and shook my hand and let her be when she came back. I was really surprised since this guy was 3 times my size and was acting really drunk and cocky.
Last year was even harder on St Patty's Day because I had just stopped full contact with Wendy a few days before and she still invited me to her birthday party. What's sad is I really wanted to go, but knew it was wrong to do. I knew if I'd shown up, she'd be drunk and I'd get drunk and we'd do something we'd both regret.
I feel sometimes that there were occasions since we've broken up that if I had contacted her or gone to something it would cause it to linger just a little more (like going to her birthday party) but what would have been the point?
That being said, I spent a whole day deciding if I should write on her Facebook wall and wish her a Happy Birthday. On one hand, we haven't been in contact in a long time and maybe that's good to finally lose all ties, but then I thought that there is no reason that I should be ignoring her. She didn't do anything bad to me, so I should just do it. Then I figured that she might wonder why I'm contacting her out of the blue. Then I realized she wished me a Happy Birthday on mine, so whats the big deal.
Ugh stupid brain!
In the end I did write on her wall... a day late.
--
On a related note, after the show, an audience member was asking if we knew of a place that taught comedy and I ended up chatting with her for a few minutes about the theatre I go to that gives free workshops and comedy. It took me a while until I realized how cute she was.
She asked em to write down the info and when I got a pen and paper and started writing it down, I was so tempted to include my phone number. Would that have been slimy?
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Date # 8 Gloria
I had to work almost all day Saturday which really sucked but it was okay because I knew I had a date that night with Gloria.
I had called her in the afternoon to sort out the details of our night time plans.
The night started with meeting for gourmet pizza at an Italian restaurant. I got to the meeting spot, just before she showed up.
Gloria is almost as tall as me, not skinny but not overweight either and has a very pretty face.
We chatted over dinner and turns out she's very into comedy as well. She has an accent (she's Israeli) which I couldn't tell if I thought was cute or annoying ( i know it's not her fault but I felt it a bit of a turn off).
After dinner we walked over to a theatre to watch this great circus/comedy/jazz show. The show was kind of like this funky Seasame Street type world with a clown, trapeze artists, a juggler, a jazz musician all living in an apartment building.
After the show, Gloria told me she had to get up early and had to call it a night so I told her I'd walk her since she was on my way.
When we got to the spot where we had to split, I nervously kind of stood there and she looked right at me. I said something along the lines of "I had fun tonight, we should hang out again" and she simply replied with a distant "You're too funny...". So then I reassured her with a "we should do something again this week". Then we did the kiss-on-the-cheek thing and she was off.
Overall I had fun but I didn't feel blown away by her. I don't think I'd want to pursue anything but I also wouldn't mind seeing her at least one more time, just to make sure.
I realize I really don't know what I want. I know I don't want anything serious and I have it in my head that once I start dating someone, that's it. Like now, I'm single so I can go out and flirt with girls and try to meet lots of people but if I start dating the first girl I meet, then that's that. Plus i have a lot of potential dates with other people coming up.
I'll most likely call her again this week to do something. I just hope it's for all the right reasons.
--
After Gloria and i split ways at 10:30pm, my night was anything but over. Turns out friends of mine were performing an improv show in honor of St Patrick's Day. Basically the appeal of the show was to watch them do comedy while getting totally wasted.
At the show i bumped into an old buddy of mine from high school and sat with him and his friends. Shortly after I realized I know quite a few people there.
The show itself was a lot of fun with all the performers getting fucking trashed.
After the show, a girl I had never met before come up to me to ask a question:
Random girl - "Hi, I have a random question for you"
Elwood - "Shoot"
Random Girl - "Are you on Plentyoffish...?"
Elwood - : "Yeah"
Random Girl - " I thought I recognized you.
We ended up chatting a little bit. I never exchanged info but I'm going to try and remember her face so I can locate her on Plentyoffish.
--
One last piece of news:
I received last night my matches from the speed dating event. I only had one match and don't remember who this person was but thanks to facebook I found a picture and can now associate her face with her name.
Again, I wasn't really thrown back by anyone at the event but i"m willing to give one date a chance.
I had called her in the afternoon to sort out the details of our night time plans.
The night started with meeting for gourmet pizza at an Italian restaurant. I got to the meeting spot, just before she showed up.
Gloria is almost as tall as me, not skinny but not overweight either and has a very pretty face.
We chatted over dinner and turns out she's very into comedy as well. She has an accent (she's Israeli) which I couldn't tell if I thought was cute or annoying ( i know it's not her fault but I felt it a bit of a turn off).
After dinner we walked over to a theatre to watch this great circus/comedy/jazz show. The show was kind of like this funky Seasame Street type world with a clown, trapeze artists, a juggler, a jazz musician all living in an apartment building.
After the show, Gloria told me she had to get up early and had to call it a night so I told her I'd walk her since she was on my way.
When we got to the spot where we had to split, I nervously kind of stood there and she looked right at me. I said something along the lines of "I had fun tonight, we should hang out again" and she simply replied with a distant "You're too funny...". So then I reassured her with a "we should do something again this week". Then we did the kiss-on-the-cheek thing and she was off.
Overall I had fun but I didn't feel blown away by her. I don't think I'd want to pursue anything but I also wouldn't mind seeing her at least one more time, just to make sure.
I realize I really don't know what I want. I know I don't want anything serious and I have it in my head that once I start dating someone, that's it. Like now, I'm single so I can go out and flirt with girls and try to meet lots of people but if I start dating the first girl I meet, then that's that. Plus i have a lot of potential dates with other people coming up.
I'll most likely call her again this week to do something. I just hope it's for all the right reasons.
--
After Gloria and i split ways at 10:30pm, my night was anything but over. Turns out friends of mine were performing an improv show in honor of St Patrick's Day. Basically the appeal of the show was to watch them do comedy while getting totally wasted.
At the show i bumped into an old buddy of mine from high school and sat with him and his friends. Shortly after I realized I know quite a few people there.
The show itself was a lot of fun with all the performers getting fucking trashed.
After the show, a girl I had never met before come up to me to ask a question:
Random girl - "Hi, I have a random question for you"
Elwood - "Shoot"
Random Girl - "Are you on Plentyoffish...?"
Elwood - : "Yeah"
Random Girl - " I thought I recognized you.
We ended up chatting a little bit. I never exchanged info but I'm going to try and remember her face so I can locate her on Plentyoffish.
--
One last piece of news:
I received last night my matches from the speed dating event. I only had one match and don't remember who this person was but thanks to facebook I found a picture and can now associate her face with her name.
Again, I wasn't really thrown back by anyone at the event but i"m willing to give one date a chance.
Saturday, March 14, 2009
The Need for Speed II - More Speed!
Last night I went to another Speed Dating Event. It was organized by the same people as the last one I went to.
I had a really long day (week, actually) at work, so it was nice to have something to do at night.
This time, the organizers learned a lot from their first event. It was a lot smoother than the previous one. It started more or less on time, no bartender, jut help yourself and no stopping in the middle for a wine tasting/commercial for wine crap.
This time there were 16 guys and 16 girls as opposed to 26 the last time. Nevertheless it was fun.
Of the girls, only one had been there at the previous event. Ira and myself were among a few guys who came back.
For the most part, the people I met were ok. I wasn't blown away from anyone in particular but a few were nice. So, I ended up marking down perhaps 8 people.
This morning I received an e-mail stating that the results will be sent by Sunday night latest and that they were excited because everyone "had a match".
I'm curious to see how many and who I'm matched with.
Regardless, I'm going on a date tomorrow night with Gloria.
I gave her a call last week. She sounded nice and apparently knows one of my friends.
I arranged to go for coffee or something and that I'd call her back before Staurday. I phoned her tonight and I got the impression she was happy to hear from me.
Tomorrow nigth I'm taking her to see a theatre/coemdy/circus/jazz musician show.
I'll let you guys know how it went!
I had a really long day (week, actually) at work, so it was nice to have something to do at night.
This time, the organizers learned a lot from their first event. It was a lot smoother than the previous one. It started more or less on time, no bartender, jut help yourself and no stopping in the middle for a wine tasting/commercial for wine crap.
This time there were 16 guys and 16 girls as opposed to 26 the last time. Nevertheless it was fun.
Of the girls, only one had been there at the previous event. Ira and myself were among a few guys who came back.
For the most part, the people I met were ok. I wasn't blown away from anyone in particular but a few were nice. So, I ended up marking down perhaps 8 people.
This morning I received an e-mail stating that the results will be sent by Sunday night latest and that they were excited because everyone "had a match".
I'm curious to see how many and who I'm matched with.
Regardless, I'm going on a date tomorrow night with Gloria.
I gave her a call last week. She sounded nice and apparently knows one of my friends.
I arranged to go for coffee or something and that I'd call her back before Staurday. I phoned her tonight and I got the impression she was happy to hear from me.
Tomorrow nigth I'm taking her to see a theatre/coemdy/circus/jazz musician show.
I'll let you guys know how it went!
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Productive Day
Yesterday was a pretty productive day.
After work I rushed home to cook dinner. The reason was to get my costume ready for Purim. Purim is a Jewish holiday that is basically halloween in March. The point of the holiday is to dress up, read the story of the holiday from a book (the book of Ester) and get shit-faced drunk until you can't recognize anyone.
No really, that's the point.
So, I took my Iron Man costume I built in October for Halloween out of retirement (A.K.A. it's box).
I went to the grocery store to get a few things for dinner and decided it was the perfect time for me to call Gloria. Surprisingly enough, I didn't feel nervous as the phone rang. I guess I'm getting used to calling girls.
She picked up and we ended up chatting for about 20 minutes before I let her go to cook supper.
The first thing I noticed about her was her accent or lack there of, actually. See, Gloria is Israeli and I figured she'd have a super thick accent (which I don't find so sexy) but she actually only had a minor one which wasn't so bad.
The second thing I noticed is how mature she sounded on the phone. She's only 1 year older than me but just her mannerisms on the phone made her sound like someone in their 40s. Maybe I'm just immature for my age. Who knows.
In any case she sounded interesting enough and I'm still up for having a coffee with her this weekend. We are to tentatively go out Saturday night.
After dinner I headed to the Purim Party. Not much happened.
There were a lot of young drunken people. I got a lot of comments from people about how rad my costume was. How I was the coolest looking Power Ranger. I was thrilled and.... Wait.. Power Ranger?! That was probably the downfall of my night but I did get a little buzzed and there were cute girls looking and talking to me even if they can't figure out the difference between Iron Man and the Red Power Ranger.
So I walked home buzzed and decided while half asleep, that it was the perfect time to e-mail Comic Book Girl. I was so tired, my eyes kept closing as I typed.
This morning at worked I cringed when I checked the e-mail I sent in anticipation to find loads of spelling mistakes and sentences that didn't make sense. thankfully, the e-mail turned out ok.
Basically I told her I'd like to hang out and proposed dinner (or coffee) and a show (i.e. My Show) for tonight but if she couldn't/wasn't up for that, that there was a Local DJ spinning music while you hang out and Draw, next Monday and that if she was interested, we should go together.
I never heard back from her, but it's reasonable because she seems like a very busy person.
Anyways, I never made it to the show because my mom was in the hospital. She has a history of stomach problems and it was bothering her today. When I got tot the Hospital, she was in a lot of pain but before I left a couple of hours later, she felt fine. Whatever it was stopped hurting. She was just waiting for some results as I left. Fingers crossed that everything is ok.
I'm bound to hear from CBG later this week.
After work I rushed home to cook dinner. The reason was to get my costume ready for Purim. Purim is a Jewish holiday that is basically halloween in March. The point of the holiday is to dress up, read the story of the holiday from a book (the book of Ester) and get shit-faced drunk until you can't recognize anyone.
No really, that's the point.
So, I took my Iron Man costume I built in October for Halloween out of retirement (A.K.A. it's box).
I went to the grocery store to get a few things for dinner and decided it was the perfect time for me to call Gloria. Surprisingly enough, I didn't feel nervous as the phone rang. I guess I'm getting used to calling girls.
She picked up and we ended up chatting for about 20 minutes before I let her go to cook supper.
The first thing I noticed about her was her accent or lack there of, actually. See, Gloria is Israeli and I figured she'd have a super thick accent (which I don't find so sexy) but she actually only had a minor one which wasn't so bad.
The second thing I noticed is how mature she sounded on the phone. She's only 1 year older than me but just her mannerisms on the phone made her sound like someone in their 40s. Maybe I'm just immature for my age. Who knows.
In any case she sounded interesting enough and I'm still up for having a coffee with her this weekend. We are to tentatively go out Saturday night.
After dinner I headed to the Purim Party. Not much happened.
There were a lot of young drunken people. I got a lot of comments from people about how rad my costume was. How I was the coolest looking Power Ranger. I was thrilled and.... Wait.. Power Ranger?! That was probably the downfall of my night but I did get a little buzzed and there were cute girls looking and talking to me even if they can't figure out the difference between Iron Man and the Red Power Ranger.
So I walked home buzzed and decided while half asleep, that it was the perfect time to e-mail Comic Book Girl. I was so tired, my eyes kept closing as I typed.
This morning at worked I cringed when I checked the e-mail I sent in anticipation to find loads of spelling mistakes and sentences that didn't make sense. thankfully, the e-mail turned out ok.
Basically I told her I'd like to hang out and proposed dinner (or coffee) and a show (i.e. My Show) for tonight but if she couldn't/wasn't up for that, that there was a Local DJ spinning music while you hang out and Draw, next Monday and that if she was interested, we should go together.
I never heard back from her, but it's reasonable because she seems like a very busy person.
Anyways, I never made it to the show because my mom was in the hospital. She has a history of stomach problems and it was bothering her today. When I got tot the Hospital, she was in a lot of pain but before I left a couple of hours later, she felt fine. Whatever it was stopped hurting. She was just waiting for some results as I left. Fingers crossed that everything is ok.
I'm bound to hear from CBG later this week.
Monday, March 9, 2009
When it Rains it Pours
I came home tonight from a very fun night at the theatre. I got into the show and got a few laugh. I lasted until the second round (for those who're completely lost, I do Improv Comedy at a theatre once a week and perform in an elimination type show).
So I walk into my room, plop onto my computer chair and check my e-mail. I got not one but two interesting e-mails.
The first came from Gloria. I was kind of expecting some kind of response, good or bad. Well it was a good one sine I got some digits! I'm super busy this week but I'll give her a call sometime during the week and hopefully get a chance to meet her on the weekend perhaps.
The second e-mail came from Comic Book Girl. This was a bit more unexpactant. Turns out she was just super busy this past week and didn't get a chance to write to me. She asked me if I "want to hang out sometime". See Beatrix, guys aren't the only ones to break the rules.
I'm really curious to meet this person. She sounds odd and different. Qualities I like. In fact there is this event going on in my city that i think is perfect for us to go to. It's a local Dj playing spinning music while you come, listen and draw something. The only shitty thing is I'm not available for the next session. It's 3 Mondays in a row and tomorrow is the 2nd Monday, so I'll have to wait until next Monday.
However, in her e-mail CBG also showed interest in wanting to come see one of my shows. I know it's better to meet her on a 1 on 1 basis first and not to just invite her to a show where I'll have time for maybe a quick hello. I was thinking, though, that perhaps I can meet her for coffee first and then head to the show with her and perform. Kill 2 birds with 1 stone. What do you think?
I also forgot to mention that one of the reasons I'm so busy this week is that I'm going to another Speed Dating Event, thanks to Ira's pushing, on Thursday.
So expect a lot of posting soon.
So I walk into my room, plop onto my computer chair and check my e-mail. I got not one but two interesting e-mails.
The first came from Gloria. I was kind of expecting some kind of response, good or bad. Well it was a good one sine I got some digits! I'm super busy this week but I'll give her a call sometime during the week and hopefully get a chance to meet her on the weekend perhaps.
The second e-mail came from Comic Book Girl. This was a bit more unexpactant. Turns out she was just super busy this past week and didn't get a chance to write to me. She asked me if I "want to hang out sometime". See Beatrix, guys aren't the only ones to break the rules.
I'm really curious to meet this person. She sounds odd and different. Qualities I like. In fact there is this event going on in my city that i think is perfect for us to go to. It's a local Dj playing spinning music while you come, listen and draw something. The only shitty thing is I'm not available for the next session. It's 3 Mondays in a row and tomorrow is the 2nd Monday, so I'll have to wait until next Monday.
However, in her e-mail CBG also showed interest in wanting to come see one of my shows. I know it's better to meet her on a 1 on 1 basis first and not to just invite her to a show where I'll have time for maybe a quick hello. I was thinking, though, that perhaps I can meet her for coffee first and then head to the show with her and perform. Kill 2 birds with 1 stone. What do you think?
I also forgot to mention that one of the reasons I'm so busy this week is that I'm going to another Speed Dating Event, thanks to Ira's pushing, on Thursday.
So expect a lot of posting soon.
Sunday, March 8, 2009
I see You, You see Me
I don't normally post videos but this one made me feel all gooey inside:
The ending gives me shivers...
The ending gives me shivers...
Thursday, March 5, 2009
The tricks to online dating
I've been actively browsing online dating sites for the past 2-3 years. I was never shown how to use it, no one gave me pointers. I just started doing it and have figured out that somethings work and some don't.
It all started a while back when my friend Spider Dude let me take over his Lavalife account since he had found a girlfriend (through a real world encounter) and had some credits left.
After using Lavalife for a while, I signed up for Jdate and Yahoo Personals. All these sites are pay sites. Coincidentally, I met Wendy through JDate but I never paid because she managed to hide her e-mail address in her profile. I always had fun trying to decipher profiles to get the secret e-mail address. Nowadays, you can't get through the filters, so it' snot as fun browsing through profile after profile anymore.
Eventually I was told about Plentyoffish, which is how I met most of the dates I had this past summer. Recently, a friend pointed me towards OK Cupid!
Both of the latter sites are free sites and they do make online dating more enjoyable. However, I find on these sites that there are either:
1. Party/clubby people looking for friends or for sex
2. Spam pretending to be hot horny women
3. Very large girls with low self esteem. Nowadays, BBW is used all over the place.
This leaves a small, genuine class of people who are just too busy to meet people in the real world or have had enough with bars, clubs, parties, etc. and trying a different approach. I feel I fit best into that class (although sometimes I feel like a very large girl with low self esteem).
Recently I got a message out of the blue on POF and it quickly turned into an e-mail extravaganza over 2 days until it stopped abruptly (see last post).
However, what I didn't mention is at the same time I found another profile on Plentyoffish by someone who seemed interesting and I sent her a message. I couldn't reveal everything I do all at once, otherwise my blog would be boring!
Surprise, surprise, she wrote back to me! We'll call her Goldie.
I learned my lesson with Comic Book Girl and instead of replying right away, gave it some time. What's nice is so has Goldie.
So the questions is, now that we've each sent about 2 to 3 messages to each other, and she still finds me interesting (I can tell since she asked me more questions in her last message), when do I pop the question to meet in real life?
I decided to google search this.
According to this one site I found, if I e-mail back and forth more than 2 e-mails then it's because I'm married or attached and using my e-mail time to have a "mental affair". Well, we don't want her to think that!
I'll reply tomorrow and see if she wants to go for coffee.
It all started a while back when my friend Spider Dude let me take over his Lavalife account since he had found a girlfriend (through a real world encounter) and had some credits left.
After using Lavalife for a while, I signed up for Jdate and Yahoo Personals. All these sites are pay sites. Coincidentally, I met Wendy through JDate but I never paid because she managed to hide her e-mail address in her profile. I always had fun trying to decipher profiles to get the secret e-mail address. Nowadays, you can't get through the filters, so it' snot as fun browsing through profile after profile anymore.
Eventually I was told about Plentyoffish, which is how I met most of the dates I had this past summer. Recently, a friend pointed me towards OK Cupid!
Both of the latter sites are free sites and they do make online dating more enjoyable. However, I find on these sites that there are either:
1. Party/clubby people looking for friends or for sex
2. Spam pretending to be hot horny women
3. Very large girls with low self esteem. Nowadays, BBW is used all over the place.
This leaves a small, genuine class of people who are just too busy to meet people in the real world or have had enough with bars, clubs, parties, etc. and trying a different approach. I feel I fit best into that class (although sometimes I feel like a very large girl with low self esteem).
Recently I got a message out of the blue on POF and it quickly turned into an e-mail extravaganza over 2 days until it stopped abruptly (see last post).
However, what I didn't mention is at the same time I found another profile on Plentyoffish by someone who seemed interesting and I sent her a message. I couldn't reveal everything I do all at once, otherwise my blog would be boring!
Surprise, surprise, she wrote back to me! We'll call her Goldie.
I learned my lesson with Comic Book Girl and instead of replying right away, gave it some time. What's nice is so has Goldie.
So the questions is, now that we've each sent about 2 to 3 messages to each other, and she still finds me interesting (I can tell since she asked me more questions in her last message), when do I pop the question to meet in real life?
I decided to google search this.
According to this one site I found, if I e-mail back and forth more than 2 e-mails then it's because I'm married or attached and using my e-mail time to have a "mental affair". Well, we don't want her to think that!
I'll reply tomorrow and see if she wants to go for coffee.
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
The smell of desperation
My biggest fear with dating is coming across as being desperate. I will admit sometimes I do have that "desperate" vibe, however, that fear will be the death of me.
I've been in situations where I was so afraid of seeming desperate that I just wouldn't do anything at all, and 9 out of 10 times, it was all in my head and what I wanted to do would have been a natural, logical thing to do (like ask a girl out, kissing someone, saying hi, etc...)
Anyways, my smell of desperation seems to be strong lately. As I mentioned in the last post, someone messaged me from out of the blue on Plentyoffish. We'll call her Comic Book Girl (CBG). Comic Book Girl is a few years older than me, loves comics and even has a radio show gig she does on comics.
Her initial message was to the point: She thought I was cool and wanted to know more about me.
That doesn't happen often.
Throughout 2 days we ended up writing back and forth through messages. We wrote back and forth about 10 times. At first out messages were small but got larger and larger.
We got to find out a bit more about each other (what we do, where we live, some hobbies, etc.). From what read it sounded like she genuinely liked what I had to say. She even confirmed it with this line: I'm enjoying this discourse. most of the men on this site are hella dull. talk to you soon, r. :)
Since we were getting into longer messages but I was afraid it was too soon to ask to meet, I figured a nice medium would be to chat so I offered my MSN info to be added. She wrote back with a nice long message about stuff and gave me her MSN info in return.
I added her but she never added me.
She even mentioned in that message that I could e-mail her at that address as well. So I sent her a fairly sized e-mail.
No response. After having wrote back and forth over the course of 24 hours as much as we did, I figured this could not be good.
Two days past, no response.
Starting to feel desperate, I took a chance and sent her another message on Plentyoffish saying that I sent her an e-mail and got no response and that it's possible that my address came as spam (the word registered is in my address), so I pasted the whole e-mail in the message.
No response.
To be honest I'm a bit disappointed because this person sounded really cool. Comic Book Girl was also a bit older than me and I enjoyed in my head the possibilities of being with an older women in terms of sexual experience (assuming she's had more sex than I have, which isn't a hard feat since I'm a virgin...).
I wonder had I not answered her messages so quickly if it would have made a difference. Who knows, maybe she just met somoene else, or she's really busy. The nice thing about plentyoffish is that you can see if the person you sent a message has read it, not read it, read and deleted it or not even bothered opening it but deleted it right away.
CBG read my last two messages and kept them both (but erased all the others).
Oh well, back to the drawing board.
I'm playing the the idea of putting up a genuine craigslist ad.
We'll see...
I've been in situations where I was so afraid of seeming desperate that I just wouldn't do anything at all, and 9 out of 10 times, it was all in my head and what I wanted to do would have been a natural, logical thing to do (like ask a girl out, kissing someone, saying hi, etc...)
Anyways, my smell of desperation seems to be strong lately. As I mentioned in the last post, someone messaged me from out of the blue on Plentyoffish. We'll call her Comic Book Girl (CBG). Comic Book Girl is a few years older than me, loves comics and even has a radio show gig she does on comics.
Her initial message was to the point: She thought I was cool and wanted to know more about me.
That doesn't happen often.
Throughout 2 days we ended up writing back and forth through messages. We wrote back and forth about 10 times. At first out messages were small but got larger and larger.
We got to find out a bit more about each other (what we do, where we live, some hobbies, etc.). From what read it sounded like she genuinely liked what I had to say. She even confirmed it with this line: I'm enjoying this discourse. most of the men on this site are hella dull. talk to you soon, r. :)
Since we were getting into longer messages but I was afraid it was too soon to ask to meet, I figured a nice medium would be to chat so I offered my MSN info to be added. She wrote back with a nice long message about stuff and gave me her MSN info in return.
I added her but she never added me.
She even mentioned in that message that I could e-mail her at that address as well. So I sent her a fairly sized e-mail.
No response. After having wrote back and forth over the course of 24 hours as much as we did, I figured this could not be good.
Two days past, no response.
Starting to feel desperate, I took a chance and sent her another message on Plentyoffish saying that I sent her an e-mail and got no response and that it's possible that my address came as spam (the word registered is in my address), so I pasted the whole e-mail in the message.
No response.
To be honest I'm a bit disappointed because this person sounded really cool. Comic Book Girl was also a bit older than me and I enjoyed in my head the possibilities of being with an older women in terms of sexual experience (assuming she's had more sex than I have, which isn't a hard feat since I'm a virgin...).
I wonder had I not answered her messages so quickly if it would have made a difference. Who knows, maybe she just met somoene else, or she's really busy. The nice thing about plentyoffish is that you can see if the person you sent a message has read it, not read it, read and deleted it or not even bothered opening it but deleted it right away.
CBG read my last two messages and kept them both (but erased all the others).
Oh well, back to the drawing board.
I'm playing the the idea of putting up a genuine craigslist ad.
We'll see...
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