I'm more than likely reading into this too much but tonight friends of mine are doing a show. It happens once a month and ussally the same mutual friends all show up and then we hang out after the show.
However, I just got a facebook message from my friend Persia telling me that her, Sheira and another friend of hers are going and was wondering if I'll be there too. (I met Sheira at Persia's party 2 weeks ago, and they work together).
I just found it interesting because as much as Persia and I are friends, she's never really called me to do anything, usually I'll just see her at a mutual event. My two thoughts are either:
1. Since we've been hanging out a lot lately and i"m planning on moving downtown, she's inviting me to let me in her closer group of friends, or
2. Sheira wanted to know if I was coming.
It's most likely 1. but still it's exciting.
Also, I was thinking of inviting Victoria to the show. I'm not really trying to pursue either person, just having fun, but I'm wondering if it's wise to be hangin gout with two girls who all of a sudden are giving me attention.
I am seeing Victoria tonight to watch the hockey game so I'll see how things go with that before I worry about tomorrow.
Showing posts with label Sheira. Show all posts
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Thursday, April 10, 2008
Wednesday, April 9, 2008
Date #1 - Sheira
I wish I would post more often but I've just been so busy lately! Please, my fellow readers, don't lose interest!
Actually I just realized that the other day when I met up with Sheira could actually be considered DATE #1 (of the 10 dates, each with 10 different girls, that I'm trying to do).
I was running 10 minutes late.
I showed up at the coffee place and she was happy to see me. She wanted to get something to eat instead of coffee. Since I had the car, I had the opportunity to take her somewhere out of the area she lives in.
We ended up going for pizza at this place I like.
Either she really didn't like me or is the most sarcastic person I have ever met. I'm pretty sure it's the latter but it took me a while to figure out.
For example, in the car she started telling me something about how she is Italian and pissed that because of some laws preventing her from getting an Italian dual citizenship because of where her Grandparents were from or something. I was listening but I"m not the best driver in the world and I had to cut her off so I could concentrate on driving. I did it in a non-rude way and she was all "Fine then! Nevermind!" but she was smiling.
Then in the restaurant she was complaining how the menu was so vast and wanted pizza with pepperoni. So I pointed an item to her and she snapped "I'm going down the list ok! Don't screw me up!". Again she was smiling though.
It was a bit overwhelming.
I tried doing the same to her. Not sure if it worked.
I can't remember how it came up or who brought it up but I ended up mentioning a bit about how I dated someone and why we broke up, etc., so I asked Sheira to tell me a story.
She decided to share two. Basically she has been in 2 big relationships. The first one was a big open thing that last over a year.
The second one was not an open thing but they started to not get along or something. I can't remember.
She seems like a big party girl and is someone always surrounded by tons of guys.
Not really my type.
After dinner, I dropped her off and she saoi to call her sometime to do something.
So... I guess she had some fun.
Oh! Two highlights of the date:
1. While driving, my mom called me and I got Sheira to pick up. My mom was so confused and wanted to tell me something so she told Sheira and Sheira told me. So awkward.
2. While talking about religion, Sheira mentioned how she's not really observant anymore, but her sister practices catholicism and plans to lose her virginity once married. Then Sheira says "Like my sister is going to find a virgin. Pshah!"
Little does Sheira know that I'm a virgin.
I may call her again. Got nothing to lose.
Meanwhile, I called Victoria today and she was happy to hear from me. I think she wanted to get together. Unfortunately I had hockey tonight. So, I asked her about tomorrow and she said she's going to go watch the hockey game at a bar but that I could join her and her friends. So, that was cool.
Also, I may get to date #2 really soon. I've been messaging someone back and forth through this online dating site I use. I'll call her Psych since she's a psychologist.
Psych sounds really cool. She likes things like the Simpsons, candy and tobogganing. She seems like a really busy person between school and working at some health clinic treating people with eating disorders.
It's hard to tell by her picture if she's really cute or not. I"m not saying I am only attracted to gorgeous women but I need an attracting of some sort for it to work. The worst thing about online things is people post pictures to show hat they look like but most of the time they look different in all of their photos!
After not hearing from her for a week (3rd e-mail I sent her back and forth) she got back saying she was with friends from out of town and then busy with work and that she wanted to get together sometime soon.
I wrote back and gave her my cel number and she replied saying she's call me this weekend to arrange plans for getting together next week.
So organized.
I'll keep up you all updated on what happens with everyone!
Actually I just realized that the other day when I met up with Sheira could actually be considered DATE #1 (of the 10 dates, each with 10 different girls, that I'm trying to do).
I was running 10 minutes late.
I showed up at the coffee place and she was happy to see me. She wanted to get something to eat instead of coffee. Since I had the car, I had the opportunity to take her somewhere out of the area she lives in.
We ended up going for pizza at this place I like.
Either she really didn't like me or is the most sarcastic person I have ever met. I'm pretty sure it's the latter but it took me a while to figure out.
For example, in the car she started telling me something about how she is Italian and pissed that because of some laws preventing her from getting an Italian dual citizenship because of where her Grandparents were from or something. I was listening but I"m not the best driver in the world and I had to cut her off so I could concentrate on driving. I did it in a non-rude way and she was all "Fine then! Nevermind!" but she was smiling.
Then in the restaurant she was complaining how the menu was so vast and wanted pizza with pepperoni. So I pointed an item to her and she snapped "I'm going down the list ok! Don't screw me up!". Again she was smiling though.
It was a bit overwhelming.
I tried doing the same to her. Not sure if it worked.
I can't remember how it came up or who brought it up but I ended up mentioning a bit about how I dated someone and why we broke up, etc., so I asked Sheira to tell me a story.
She decided to share two. Basically she has been in 2 big relationships. The first one was a big open thing that last over a year.
The second one was not an open thing but they started to not get along or something. I can't remember.
She seems like a big party girl and is someone always surrounded by tons of guys.
Not really my type.
After dinner, I dropped her off and she saoi to call her sometime to do something.
So... I guess she had some fun.
Oh! Two highlights of the date:
1. While driving, my mom called me and I got Sheira to pick up. My mom was so confused and wanted to tell me something so she told Sheira and Sheira told me. So awkward.
2. While talking about religion, Sheira mentioned how she's not really observant anymore, but her sister practices catholicism and plans to lose her virginity once married. Then Sheira says "Like my sister is going to find a virgin. Pshah!"
Little does Sheira know that I'm a virgin.
I may call her again. Got nothing to lose.
Meanwhile, I called Victoria today and she was happy to hear from me. I think she wanted to get together. Unfortunately I had hockey tonight. So, I asked her about tomorrow and she said she's going to go watch the hockey game at a bar but that I could join her and her friends. So, that was cool.
Also, I may get to date #2 really soon. I've been messaging someone back and forth through this online dating site I use. I'll call her Psych since she's a psychologist.
Psych sounds really cool. She likes things like the Simpsons, candy and tobogganing. She seems like a really busy person between school and working at some health clinic treating people with eating disorders.
It's hard to tell by her picture if she's really cute or not. I"m not saying I am only attracted to gorgeous women but I need an attracting of some sort for it to work. The worst thing about online things is people post pictures to show hat they look like but most of the time they look different in all of their photos!
After not hearing from her for a week (3rd e-mail I sent her back and forth) she got back saying she was with friends from out of town and then busy with work and that she wanted to get together sometime soon.
I wrote back and gave her my cel number and she replied saying she's call me this weekend to arrange plans for getting together next week.
So organized.
I'll keep up you all updated on what happens with everyone!
Friday, April 4, 2008
7 day planner
It's official, I'm meeting Sheira for coffee on Sunday.
That was the most painstakingly draggy experience I ever had to get a date.
It goes by almost all logic to the book I'm reading about Pick Up Artists. Their theory is that the girl should do all the work, that the guy shouldn't seem so eager and needy.
However, Sheira made me do all the work: I had to ask her. I had to pick a day. I had to pick a better day for her.
In the end, instead of continuing to ask her if this time o r place was ok, I just told her "We're meeting there and this time!"
I think she liked that I took assertive action.
Now that I have the date, I'm sweating bullets.
I have to tell myself that it's just two people meeting together and having coffee. There is nothing more to that. I don't mean to put myself down but she just seems like someone who wouldn't date someone like me.
She was a bit drunk at the party and I happen to be on top of my game that night, but on Sunday she'll be sober and I'll be showing her the real me.
Don't get me wrong, I like who I am, it's just she may not like the real me as much of who she though I was last weekend.
Either way I'm sure I'll be fine and it'll go fine.
In the meantime I got 3 parties to go to tomorrow night. Three!
I'm glad to see I"m back to my pre-Wendy days when every weekend was an adventure.
That was the most painstakingly draggy experience I ever had to get a date.
It goes by almost all logic to the book I'm reading about Pick Up Artists. Their theory is that the girl should do all the work, that the guy shouldn't seem so eager and needy.
However, Sheira made me do all the work: I had to ask her. I had to pick a day. I had to pick a better day for her.
In the end, instead of continuing to ask her if this time o r place was ok, I just told her "We're meeting there and this time!"
I think she liked that I took assertive action.
Now that I have the date, I'm sweating bullets.
I have to tell myself that it's just two people meeting together and having coffee. There is nothing more to that. I don't mean to put myself down but she just seems like someone who wouldn't date someone like me.
She was a bit drunk at the party and I happen to be on top of my game that night, but on Sunday she'll be sober and I'll be showing her the real me.
Don't get me wrong, I like who I am, it's just she may not like the real me as much of who she though I was last weekend.
Either way I'm sure I'll be fine and it'll go fine.
In the meantime I got 3 parties to go to tomorrow night. Three!
I'm glad to see I"m back to my pre-Wendy days when every weekend was an adventure.
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
Entering the game
Yesterday I met with Leigh briefly so she could lend me a book called The Game - Penetrating the secret society of pickup artists by Neil Strauss.
It's a book about Pick Up Artists - people who follow certain "rules" and use "tricks" to pick up all kinds of women (mostly beautiful). It's not a How to guide, but more of a documentation on how the author (famous for the biographies of Motley Crue, Dave Navarro, Marilyn Manson and Jenna Jameson) trained to become a pick up artist himself. It does, however, list terms and give details on the things he learned and how they work.
Although I am currently in the middle of a fantasy book, as much as I want to read about the adventures of a drow elf and his friends, I'm going to put it aside now to immerse myself in learning about negging, IOI's and other such things. Sorry Drizz't Duorden, but a guy's got to learn. Haha.
I havn't been able to put the book down since yesterday. I'm already 1/4 through it. I'm not planning on becoming a professional pick up artist or hoping to use the skills to get laid but there are a lot of useful tips that I can at least consider to help in my confidence to meet people. I'll see if I ever have the guts to use some of these skills.
If i do, I promise to write about it here.
On a side note, I did end up adding Sheira on my facebook list and messaged her about coffee. She still insists on treating me and wants to meet this week. Unfortunately she's only available really late during the week (which is tough for me living for from the city) or Sunday. I told her Sunday was good but have yet to hear a confirmation.
I'll admit I'm kind of excited that I met a cute girl at a party and she actually wants to go for coffee but I'm not really looking for anything. If anything, at least I'll know someone new to hang out with once I move downtown this summer.
It's a book about Pick Up Artists - people who follow certain "rules" and use "tricks" to pick up all kinds of women (mostly beautiful). It's not a How to guide, but more of a documentation on how the author (famous for the biographies of Motley Crue, Dave Navarro, Marilyn Manson and Jenna Jameson) trained to become a pick up artist himself. It does, however, list terms and give details on the things he learned and how they work.
Although I am currently in the middle of a fantasy book, as much as I want to read about the adventures of a drow elf and his friends, I'm going to put it aside now to immerse myself in learning about negging, IOI's and other such things. Sorry Drizz't Duorden, but a guy's got to learn. Haha.
I havn't been able to put the book down since yesterday. I'm already 1/4 through it. I'm not planning on becoming a professional pick up artist or hoping to use the skills to get laid but there are a lot of useful tips that I can at least consider to help in my confidence to meet people. I'll see if I ever have the guts to use some of these skills.
If i do, I promise to write about it here.
On a side note, I did end up adding Sheira on my facebook list and messaged her about coffee. She still insists on treating me and wants to meet this week. Unfortunately she's only available really late during the week (which is tough for me living for from the city) or Sunday. I told her Sunday was good but have yet to hear a confirmation.
I'll admit I'm kind of excited that I met a cute girl at a party and she actually wants to go for coffee but I'm not really looking for anything. If anything, at least I'll know someone new to hang out with once I move downtown this summer.
Sunday, March 30, 2008
Same ol' Elwood
For the first time in a long time, I was at a party and had a lot of fun.
A friend of mine, Persia, was throwing a house party tonight to celebrate the Iranian New Years (she's Iranian).
At first I was in a corner talking to the only friends of mine who were there besides the people who live there (I'm friends with both roomates) but then I moved to the central part of the party to mingle with others.
I ended up talking to two guys (Guy #1 and Guy #2) for a while until this girl (a friend of Guy #2) showed up and sat next to me. I'll call her Sheira because she kept talking about He-man all night.
All three people were really cool and Sheira wasn't really giving me any more attention than the other 2 guys but she was kind of joking around with me, poked me a few times, etc. She even offered me one of her beers (I only sipped one all night because I was driving).
I got up for a while and mingled, which allowed one of the Guy #1 to move closer to her.
I didn't intend to do anything, but I ended up sitting back where I was before and may or may not have cock blocked the guy. He finished his sentence to Sheira and then gave me a wink.
I have no idea what that meant but first thing I thought was him gesturing "you should go for her,s he's yours, I stand down". Now I know that is a lot to gather from a wink, but thats what it felt like. So, I offered to move but Sheira was ok with me staying, saying I wasn't intruding on anything.
At one point Sheira commented that I like to smile a lot.
She was probably looking at me from time to time, but I'm so bashful when it comes to talking to women that I tend to stare away a lot, so I'll never know if we could have had an eye locking moment or not. I think I need to work on that in the future.
We all kept hanging out for a couple of hours talking about all kinds of stuff. The others were pretty drunk but now everyone was winding down, losing their buzz and just getting tired.
Being the nice guy I am, since they were fun people, I offered Guy #2 and Sheira a ride to their places (Guy #1 went home already).
Guy #2 was closer, so I dropped him off and was alone with Sheira.
We got a chance to talk some more. Sheira had just moved to My City recently and ended up being in the same lab group as Persia, which is how they know each other and explains how Sheira got to the party.
I can't remember how, but I ended up saying that she was a likable person and she seemed to like that comment (well, who wouldn't?)
Now here's where I wonder if I could have done something.
We commented on the time and how tired we both were. She then asked if I wanted some coffee so I wouldn't fall asleep (in a sort of "I'm kidding but seriously" kind of way).
I could have said yes, but it was late (1:30am) and I couldn't tell if she offered more for her safety or because she wanted to hang out a bit more. She told me she wanted to repay me for the lift and it would be her treat.
I said I was fine and ended up driving her straight home.
She said she had fun, that it was nice meeting me and would see me around.
I was tempted to tell her that since we never went for that coffee, would she like to some other time, but instead, in a typical Elwood fashion, I just chuckled and said "ok".
I wasn't trying to do anything but I wonder if I came across as completely not interested (as in to never talk to her again).
I think she may have had a little thing for me but I'm so bad at these things.
I'm still tempted to joke about a raincheck on facebook (I found her profile through Persia's facebook page) and ask her for coffee but decided to wait until tomorrow.
I need to come across more suave I think.
A friend of mine, Persia, was throwing a house party tonight to celebrate the Iranian New Years (she's Iranian).
At first I was in a corner talking to the only friends of mine who were there besides the people who live there (I'm friends with both roomates) but then I moved to the central part of the party to mingle with others.
I ended up talking to two guys (Guy #1 and Guy #2) for a while until this girl (a friend of Guy #2) showed up and sat next to me. I'll call her Sheira because she kept talking about He-man all night.
All three people were really cool and Sheira wasn't really giving me any more attention than the other 2 guys but she was kind of joking around with me, poked me a few times, etc. She even offered me one of her beers (I only sipped one all night because I was driving).
I got up for a while and mingled, which allowed one of the Guy #1 to move closer to her.
I didn't intend to do anything, but I ended up sitting back where I was before and may or may not have cock blocked the guy. He finished his sentence to Sheira and then gave me a wink.
I have no idea what that meant but first thing I thought was him gesturing "you should go for her,s he's yours, I stand down". Now I know that is a lot to gather from a wink, but thats what it felt like. So, I offered to move but Sheira was ok with me staying, saying I wasn't intruding on anything.
At one point Sheira commented that I like to smile a lot.
She was probably looking at me from time to time, but I'm so bashful when it comes to talking to women that I tend to stare away a lot, so I'll never know if we could have had an eye locking moment or not. I think I need to work on that in the future.
We all kept hanging out for a couple of hours talking about all kinds of stuff. The others were pretty drunk but now everyone was winding down, losing their buzz and just getting tired.
Being the nice guy I am, since they were fun people, I offered Guy #2 and Sheira a ride to their places (Guy #1 went home already).
Guy #2 was closer, so I dropped him off and was alone with Sheira.
We got a chance to talk some more. Sheira had just moved to My City recently and ended up being in the same lab group as Persia, which is how they know each other and explains how Sheira got to the party.
I can't remember how, but I ended up saying that she was a likable person and she seemed to like that comment (well, who wouldn't?)
Now here's where I wonder if I could have done something.
We commented on the time and how tired we both were. She then asked if I wanted some coffee so I wouldn't fall asleep (in a sort of "I'm kidding but seriously" kind of way).
I could have said yes, but it was late (1:30am) and I couldn't tell if she offered more for her safety or because she wanted to hang out a bit more. She told me she wanted to repay me for the lift and it would be her treat.
I said I was fine and ended up driving her straight home.
She said she had fun, that it was nice meeting me and would see me around.
I was tempted to tell her that since we never went for that coffee, would she like to some other time, but instead, in a typical Elwood fashion, I just chuckled and said "ok".
I wasn't trying to do anything but I wonder if I came across as completely not interested (as in to never talk to her again).
I think she may have had a little thing for me but I'm so bad at these things.
I'm still tempted to joke about a raincheck on facebook (I found her profile through Persia's facebook page) and ask her for coffee but decided to wait until tomorrow.
I need to come across more suave I think.
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