Quick recap: I found Glasses on OK! Cupid and we messaged each other back and forth a few times before agreeing to meet. We met at a coffee shop for supper. This lead into going for a pitcher of beer at a nearby bar. This then lead to us heading to a very cool dance party where everyone listened to music through giant headphones.
The rest:
We were dancing the night away and she kept dancing really close to me. I tried grabbing her hand but she shut me down saying she doesn't like dancing with someone. However, a while later, and I can't remember how, our hands locked. This lead to making out on the dance floor. Eventually we decided to leave so I walked her towards her place.
As we were going to depart ways, we made out again.
Both times it wasn't sloppy, dirty making out. It was actually quite nice. I made sure to make my kisses very gentle and she liked it. She even ever so slightly nibbled at my bottom lip. First time that ever happened and it was awesome!
From the beginning, I felt really confident the whole time. I really don't know what came over me, maybe it was the alcohol, or the book I've been reading or the alignment of the stars, but I just wasn't nervous at all. I got all kinds of vibes that showed she was into me, so maybe that made me feel less nervous.
All of sudden, I whispered in her ear "are you sure you don't me to at least walk you home?". She agreed and we held hands going to her place. As I mentioned before, as we were approaching her building she straight up told me she wasn't going to have sex with me. I replied that she totally got me all wrong and that wasn't what I was going for. And it's true. Like any guy, I wouldn't turn down the offer (especially being a virgin) but I genuinely wasn't going to force it out, and could have cared less if at her door she said goodnight and went upstairs. Up until then I have a blast regardless.
But the story doesn't end there.
In the elevator she tells me her roommate is conveniently out of town. We enter her place and she says "Do you want to make out on the couch or the bedroom?". I can't remember what I said, if anything, but after we each took a quick bathroom break (all the alcohol made us both need to go) we were in her room. With the lights off.
Again, here was another moment I felt like someone else. We were making out on her bed and I didn't feel nervous at all. I took off my shirt and helped her remove hers. After some more making out she laughed that I still had my pants on. I jumped off the bed and jokingly did a strip tease for her and she loved it. Then I was butt naked.
What was going on with me?? I'm afraid to even walk around my apartment naked when I'm alone, and here I am stripping in front of a stranger.
My experience with Glasses that one night was a million times better than any moment i had spent with Wendy over a full year. The whole time it was just a lot of fun. We joked around and said silly things. We laughed and smiled. At one point I kissed her nose by accident and said "Wait... That's not your mouth!" and she laughed and giggled.
Not knowing how far she wanted to go I would ask questions and she would answer and I could tell she liked that I asked, didn't sound annoyed. She even told me a few things to do.
She really liked being kissed on her neck and one f my favorite things I like doing is kissing necks, so it was a great match!
I won't go into too many details (in case kids read this blog, ha ha) but we did fool around on the bed. We didn't have sex and that was fine with me. I won't know if she ever would have had sex with me (well, intercourse) because I seemed to have had... er... man issues. But it didn't' matter, she didn't seem to care. I did manage to please her. It was the first time I ever made a girl orgasm. I never got that reaction with Wendy.
When we stopped, I moved in close next to her and we cuddled and talked.
We talked about a bunch of stuff. I also asked if it was ok that I stayed the night and she said of it was.
I can't remember what stuff we talked about before we went to bed and which we talked about the next morning, but at one point I told her was a virgin. She laughed but not because I was a virgin but more because she thought it was cute. She told me she never would have guessed by the way I behaved.
We talked for i don't' know how long and then said goodnight night and slept. Well I didn't sleep well at all. I kept waking up every few minutes. At one point we were both up and eventually discovered it had only been about 3 hours that we slept, so we tried to go back to sleep.
Eventually we just were up talking again and cuddling. I had my arms wrapped around her and was leaning against her side while she lied on her back. It felt a bit weird because she was a bigger person than me and maybe it's a guy complex or something but it seemed out of the ordinary having the girl lying on her back while the guy curled up beside her.
I know that just because we fooled around and I stayed over wouldn't necessarily mean anything. I totally was just going with the flow, but the next morning, I decided I didn't want it to go anywhere. Maybe it wasn't the smoothest (or smartest) thing to talk about it but we did.
I joked if this was a typical thing for her (to go this far with guys from the Internet) and she said I was the first guy since she moved My City. I told her that I didn't come over to just use her, that I genuinely had fun but also admitted I didn't see it being a repeat thing. She actually liked my honesty and then admitted to having a date lined up with another guy the next day.
The things that made me decide right there and then that I didn't really want to pursue anything with her were:
- I had been drinking a bit and the next morning I wasn't as attracted to her. One of the big things was that she was a big mix of other ethnicity. She told me she was like a quarter black, white, Chinese, etc. She had light brown skin and a really big nose that I see on many Filipino women. It's maybe a really jerky thing to saw, but I'm not as attracted to non-white people.
- She wasn't Jewish and that is still something i"m trying to come to grips with. I'm not sure if I'd really date a non-Jew or not.
-She said I reminded her of her ex. Apparently he was also really tall and skinny. She said she liked tall and skinny guys., but hearing her mention that I reminded her of her ex also made me think I should get to know her more before doing anything again
-Now I haven't gone home with many women (only 1 before this) so I"m not sure how things normally are the next morning, but I felt that was really clingy. Like, we spooned and cuddled and stuff, and I rubbed her skin gently with my finger, but she was like rubbing me all over with her hands. Up and down my arm, my head, my hair, my face. And at such a fast speed too.
At some point we decided to get up and get on with the day. I had a quick bite to eat at her place and then decided it was time to go. Even though I decided I didn't want it to go anywhere, I genuinely wouldn't mind being her friend. She seemed really cool. As I left I gave her a kiss on the cheek and told her we should do something soon.
I haven't called her since but am debating if I should try to get friendship or not out of it. There is something sort of starting up between Rock Girl and I and I don't' want to make things complicated if I start hanging out with a girl I almost slept with. Can people be friends from situations like this?
Either way, I had a blast Friday night. The only crappy thing is that the next night, the day of my birthday party, I was so tired that the night ended up being really relaxed.
So I hope you guys enjoy my post as much as I had acting it out.
Saturday, August 1, 2009
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
A story unfolds
"Wow! I haven't been here since I went to University 5 years ago" - He said entering the shady diner.
"That seat is ripped. you're going to have to sit next to me" - She said, approaching the booth and sliding into the seat, invitingly. He sat down, close, their bare legs touching each other ever so slightly.
They each ordered a milkshake and shared a plate of fries. Throughout their conversation, their eye locked on occasion. Feeling comfortable, he put his arm over the back of the booth seat behind her and gently rub his his finger on the top of her back, just diagonal of her neck. They talked some more and even played 2 rounds of thumb war.
Feeling stuffed and tired, they went to the cash, where he paid for the meal, kindly declining her offer to chip in. Outside he grabbed his bike and walked with her a couple of blocks towards her house, moving a couple of block further away from his place.
At the traffic light he stopped, moved his bike out of the way and approached her.
"That was a fun show" - she said looking into his eyes.
"Yeah it was, thanks for coming. You're like my #1 fan" - He said, grabbing her fingers.
"I had fun" - She said, not grabbing back her fingers.
"Me too" - He said, leaning in and giving her a gentle kiss.
"We'll be in touch about the concert on Sunday" - He said and they walked in opposite directions.
"OK" - She said.
He then got on his bike and rode into the night.
Thus concludes Chapter 1 of Elwood and Rock Chick.
"That seat is ripped. you're going to have to sit next to me" - She said, approaching the booth and sliding into the seat, invitingly. He sat down, close, their bare legs touching each other ever so slightly.
They each ordered a milkshake and shared a plate of fries. Throughout their conversation, their eye locked on occasion. Feeling comfortable, he put his arm over the back of the booth seat behind her and gently rub his his finger on the top of her back, just diagonal of her neck. They talked some more and even played 2 rounds of thumb war.
Feeling stuffed and tired, they went to the cash, where he paid for the meal, kindly declining her offer to chip in. Outside he grabbed his bike and walked with her a couple of blocks towards her house, moving a couple of block further away from his place.
At the traffic light he stopped, moved his bike out of the way and approached her.
"That was a fun show" - she said looking into his eyes.
"Yeah it was, thanks for coming. You're like my #1 fan" - He said, grabbing her fingers.
"I had fun" - She said, not grabbing back her fingers.
"Me too" - He said, leaning in and giving her a gentle kiss.
"We'll be in touch about the concert on Sunday" - He said and they walked in opposite directions.
"OK" - She said.
He then got on his bike and rode into the night.
Thus concludes Chapter 1 of Elwood and Rock Chick.
Monday, July 27, 2009
Elwood turns 28 a.k.a breaking the rules
Today I turned 28.
I don't feel twenty eight at all. I feel like I'm still a young guy, not close to 30. When my brother was 26, he got married. When I was 26, I was dressing up as a barbarian for a Medieval party.
I'm sure its related to the experience I've had in life. I started a lot of things late, including dating. However, every year (or lately, I guess i can even say day) I feel that I'm getting better, more relaxed at it.
Last night I went out to celebrate my birthday with some friends. Knowing a lot of people and not really having a key group of friends anymore (many have move away), I just invited a whole bunch of people and ended up with a group of about 10 friends, most not knowing each other.
We started at my apartment, then went to a bar and ended up at this dance party. Not any dance party though. It was Silent Disco! What is silent disco? it was a room full of people dancing to music. Except, instead of the music being pumped through very loud speakers, it was supplied through giant headphones that everyone wore. That meant that the room itself was quite silent.
I had fun hanging out and was glad to see a lot of my friends but I was pretty exhausted from what I had done the night before. Believe you me, what i did the night before was a ton of fun but it did hinder on my being fully awake and energetic for my birthday. I am willing to say that it was almost worth it.
What is it that made me so tired to celebrate my own birthday? Well I'll tell you.
I had been messaging back and forth a girl I met on OK! Cupid for a bit and we had arranged to meet up for "coffee and baileys" Friday evening. Lets call her Glasses (since she has some pretty funky glasses). I arrived at the coffee shop first but when she arrived, we ended up having dinner with our coffee since we were both starving.
The meal was going fine. We had a lot to talk about. I accidentally mentioned i was reading a book and she wanted to know what it was but I didn't want to tell her and then she insisted I did. So probably breaking the first rule, I showed her that I was reading "How to Succeed with Women" but informed her I was reading it as a joke and not to take it seriously. It ended up being a great idea that I showed her that because it quickly became an inside joke between us the whole night.
From the beginning of reading the book I told myself i wouldn't' take it seriously but I was already breaking rules, they insist on a first date you only spend between 45 - 60 minutes and lead it up to a second date. Well, I was breaking that rule by a lot
After coffee we ended going for some beer at a nice terrace. Then after having shared a pitcher (and don't forget our strongly alcoholic coffees from the coffee shop), we headed out towards the direction we both lived.
I had heard about the Silent Disco and had mentioned it to Glasses earlier on in the date but then we found out when I bumped into a friend, that it only started at 12am and it was 20$ to get in.
At 11:45, we happened to walk by the building that was housing the party and I convinced Glasses to come in with me for a second and found out what Silent Disco was all about. Turned out it started at 11:30pm, so there were already people there, and the price was only 5$!
We went in and it was tons of fun. There was a bar, a bunch of people dancing and really fun music. We were there for a couple of hours and I realized that Glasses was dancing pretty close to me. I didn't feel comfortable just grabbing her and grinding but I did get the impression that she wanted to be close to me.
At one point I grabbed her hand so we could dance to a song but she let go after a couple of seconds saying she gets uncomfortable dancing with someone. I didn't' freak out or feel stupid, and totally took that in stride.
After a couple of drink and after being there for a couple of hours, our hands ended up touching and then locking, that when I decided to move in even closer and kissed her. It was really interesting making out at a party with really big headphone on our heads. Without the music, it was really just too people kissing in front of strangers in a room. The headphones were really bulky so we kept hitting each other with them.
After a short while we decided to leave.
I walked her to the point where we would have to split up to head to our respective apartments and we made out some more. I don't get it but I wasn't scared at all! I felt really calm and confident that she was into me, and I into her and that was all I needed.
I whispered in her ear if I could at least walk her home. She agreed. I swear that when I said that my true intentions were not to go sleep with her. I genuinely just wanted to walk her home to make sure she got home safe and also to see, curiously, what would happen next.
On the walk there she told me that I could come up but she wouldn't sleep with me. I told her she got me all wrong and that she didn't know me well, and that that wasn't my intention at all.
We got to her place and she let me in.
End of Part 1
There is a lot more I want to talk about my Friday night experience, but it's late so you'll have to come and check up for part 2 sometime soon.
I don't feel twenty eight at all. I feel like I'm still a young guy, not close to 30. When my brother was 26, he got married. When I was 26, I was dressing up as a barbarian for a Medieval party.
I'm sure its related to the experience I've had in life. I started a lot of things late, including dating. However, every year (or lately, I guess i can even say day) I feel that I'm getting better, more relaxed at it.
Last night I went out to celebrate my birthday with some friends. Knowing a lot of people and not really having a key group of friends anymore (many have move away), I just invited a whole bunch of people and ended up with a group of about 10 friends, most not knowing each other.
We started at my apartment, then went to a bar and ended up at this dance party. Not any dance party though. It was Silent Disco! What is silent disco? it was a room full of people dancing to music. Except, instead of the music being pumped through very loud speakers, it was supplied through giant headphones that everyone wore. That meant that the room itself was quite silent.
I had fun hanging out and was glad to see a lot of my friends but I was pretty exhausted from what I had done the night before. Believe you me, what i did the night before was a ton of fun but it did hinder on my being fully awake and energetic for my birthday. I am willing to say that it was almost worth it.
What is it that made me so tired to celebrate my own birthday? Well I'll tell you.
I had been messaging back and forth a girl I met on OK! Cupid for a bit and we had arranged to meet up for "coffee and baileys" Friday evening. Lets call her Glasses (since she has some pretty funky glasses). I arrived at the coffee shop first but when she arrived, we ended up having dinner with our coffee since we were both starving.
The meal was going fine. We had a lot to talk about. I accidentally mentioned i was reading a book and she wanted to know what it was but I didn't want to tell her and then she insisted I did. So probably breaking the first rule, I showed her that I was reading "How to Succeed with Women" but informed her I was reading it as a joke and not to take it seriously. It ended up being a great idea that I showed her that because it quickly became an inside joke between us the whole night.
From the beginning of reading the book I told myself i wouldn't' take it seriously but I was already breaking rules, they insist on a first date you only spend between 45 - 60 minutes and lead it up to a second date. Well, I was breaking that rule by a lot
After coffee we ended going for some beer at a nice terrace. Then after having shared a pitcher (and don't forget our strongly alcoholic coffees from the coffee shop), we headed out towards the direction we both lived.
I had heard about the Silent Disco and had mentioned it to Glasses earlier on in the date but then we found out when I bumped into a friend, that it only started at 12am and it was 20$ to get in.
At 11:45, we happened to walk by the building that was housing the party and I convinced Glasses to come in with me for a second and found out what Silent Disco was all about. Turned out it started at 11:30pm, so there were already people there, and the price was only 5$!
We went in and it was tons of fun. There was a bar, a bunch of people dancing and really fun music. We were there for a couple of hours and I realized that Glasses was dancing pretty close to me. I didn't feel comfortable just grabbing her and grinding but I did get the impression that she wanted to be close to me.
At one point I grabbed her hand so we could dance to a song but she let go after a couple of seconds saying she gets uncomfortable dancing with someone. I didn't' freak out or feel stupid, and totally took that in stride.
After a couple of drink and after being there for a couple of hours, our hands ended up touching and then locking, that when I decided to move in even closer and kissed her. It was really interesting making out at a party with really big headphone on our heads. Without the music, it was really just too people kissing in front of strangers in a room. The headphones were really bulky so we kept hitting each other with them.
After a short while we decided to leave.
I walked her to the point where we would have to split up to head to our respective apartments and we made out some more. I don't get it but I wasn't scared at all! I felt really calm and confident that she was into me, and I into her and that was all I needed.
I whispered in her ear if I could at least walk her home. She agreed. I swear that when I said that my true intentions were not to go sleep with her. I genuinely just wanted to walk her home to make sure she got home safe and also to see, curiously, what would happen next.
On the walk there she told me that I could come up but she wouldn't sleep with me. I told her she got me all wrong and that she didn't know me well, and that that wasn't my intention at all.
We got to her place and she let me in.
End of Part 1
There is a lot more I want to talk about my Friday night experience, but it's late so you'll have to come and check up for part 2 sometime soon.
Saturday, July 25, 2009
Last Night I Didn't Go Home
And tonight is the night I"m going out to celebrate my birthday.
Yes my date went very well.
Details to come.
Yes my date went very well.
Details to come.
Friday, July 24, 2009
I Take That Back
During the shower this morning, I realized how negative my last post sounded while in my mind when I wrote it I thought otherwise. I've been moving in a posititive direction with my experiences and attitude with women latley and I shouldn't make assumptions and sound negative after every encounter.
My first reaction to missing ROck Chicks call last night shoudl have been something more like "Sweet, she's probably calling me to thank me" instead of "ugh! She' calling me to say she just wants to be friends".
Either way, I'm supposed to have a date with a new person tonight.
More to come.
Love,
Elwood
My first reaction to missing ROck Chicks call last night shoudl have been something more like "Sweet, she's probably calling me to thank me" instead of "ugh! She' calling me to say she just wants to be friends".
Either way, I'm supposed to have a date with a new person tonight.
More to come.
Love,
Elwood
Assuming makes an ASS out of U and ME
During my talk with Rock Chick last night, she mentioned how her parents were visiting and she needed to find something to entertain them with. I suggested this great comedy/dance show I saw a few weeks ago. The way she took in the information made it sound like she wasn't too into it.
In the end, Ira asked me if I wanted to go with him if I didn't mind seeing it again. I accepted and some other friend of mine were going as well.
I was at home eating a pizza and running late, and got there just before the doors opened. Ira had been there before me, talk to... Rock Chick. She actually brought her parents to the show, and loved it!
Of course Ira made me feel super awkward, dropping hints and purposely scheming so I sat next to her and stuff.
After the show Ira pissed the fuck out of me asking "Where's Rock Chick?", "Go talk to her", "Go look for her", etc. I told him not to ell me what to do and talked to my friend for a bit. Rock Chick came by to say goodbye and left with a high five.
Ira and I actually had tickets to another show tonight (a stand up comedian) and I just got home from that. As Ira was saying goodbye he tells me "Don't give up on Rock Chick, she likes you". 5 minutes later in my room, i discover that she called me 20 minutes ago, no message.
I texted he to see if she was still up but looks like the answer is no.
She most probably called to talk about the show and how much fun it was but I just have gut feeling it may have been to give me a a speech similar to that of Catch22's. I know, I know, I shouldn't assume anything but I felt that I've been showing sign of desperation all around her the past couple of times we spoke, and know women can smell it miles away.
Alas, I shall find out next time I speak with her, and you guys will be the first to know.
In the end, Ira asked me if I wanted to go with him if I didn't mind seeing it again. I accepted and some other friend of mine were going as well.
I was at home eating a pizza and running late, and got there just before the doors opened. Ira had been there before me, talk to... Rock Chick. She actually brought her parents to the show, and loved it!
Of course Ira made me feel super awkward, dropping hints and purposely scheming so I sat next to her and stuff.
After the show Ira pissed the fuck out of me asking "Where's Rock Chick?", "Go talk to her", "Go look for her", etc. I told him not to ell me what to do and talked to my friend for a bit. Rock Chick came by to say goodbye and left with a high five.
Ira and I actually had tickets to another show tonight (a stand up comedian) and I just got home from that. As Ira was saying goodbye he tells me "Don't give up on Rock Chick, she likes you". 5 minutes later in my room, i discover that she called me 20 minutes ago, no message.
I texted he to see if she was still up but looks like the answer is no.
She most probably called to talk about the show and how much fun it was but I just have gut feeling it may have been to give me a a speech similar to that of Catch22's. I know, I know, I shouldn't assume anything but I felt that I've been showing sign of desperation all around her the past couple of times we spoke, and know women can smell it miles away.
Alas, I shall find out next time I speak with her, and you guys will be the first to know.
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Elwood The Player
It's late and i need to sleep but I haven't posted in a while, so here's a super fast post!
1. On the weekend I last minute ended up in Ottawa for a friends birthday. The night was a blast! We were 5 guys and had tons of fun at a club. We met 3 girls and one was tall and so hot and I flirted well with her. I almost got a kiss but her friends ditched and she left into the night.
2. I waited 2 days from when Rock Chick was to return home from Mexico. No call from her, so I called her instead. We spoke on the phone for over an hour. She's cute and funny. Her parents are in town this week so we won't see each other again until perhaps next week. That's if she wants to, I'm still unsure on her intentions.
3. I've been messaging back and forth a new girl on Ok! Cupid. We finally made arrangements for coffee this Friday.
4. Sunday is my 28th birthday. I don't feel 28. I feel 22. I'm having a party Saturday night. Should be fun.
Goodnight all!
1. On the weekend I last minute ended up in Ottawa for a friends birthday. The night was a blast! We were 5 guys and had tons of fun at a club. We met 3 girls and one was tall and so hot and I flirted well with her. I almost got a kiss but her friends ditched and she left into the night.
2. I waited 2 days from when Rock Chick was to return home from Mexico. No call from her, so I called her instead. We spoke on the phone for over an hour. She's cute and funny. Her parents are in town this week so we won't see each other again until perhaps next week. That's if she wants to, I'm still unsure on her intentions.
3. I've been messaging back and forth a new girl on Ok! Cupid. We finally made arrangements for coffee this Friday.
4. Sunday is my 28th birthday. I don't feel 28. I feel 22. I'm having a party Saturday night. Should be fun.
Goodnight all!
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