So last Wednesday I went on a date with another person I met recently on Plentyoffish.com. She had contacted me out of the blue, simply stating that I seemed like a funny person. After a bunch of back and forth e-mails, I got her phone number and arranged a date.
We met up close to where I live and I brought her to a little hipster type cafe with really good vegetarian food (and I'm not even a vegetarian).
She was cute and seemed nice but I totally blew it. Why, you might ask? because I've officially forgotten how to communicate with women (or maybe people in general).
We're talking and I discovered she was Moroccan. That's fine, except for reasons I don't even know, I proceed to ask her questions about her culture. See, my ex sister-in-law (Ira's ex wife) was Moroccan. So, I was curious if this girl followed the same customs my brother's ex's family did. But it ended coming out like this:
Elwood: So when Passover is finished and you're allowed to eat bread again, does your family do that thing where they only eat sweets?
The Moroccan: Yes we do.
Elwood: My brother's Ex used to host that at their place when they were married.
The Moroccan: Oh that's nice :)
Elwood: Yeah! I always hated that! We'd always go over and eat pancakes when all I ever wanted was something with more substance. One year I left early to go eat at Wendy's.
The Moroccan: Oh... I kind of like my traditions...
See what I mean?
She didnt' seem too insulted and I tried to save my ass by apologizing, saying I was just rambling about old memories ad how I had a long day at work. She said she also had a long day at work and expects to say equally awkward things.
We went to eat and hung out for an hour but here's where I had my second strike (in my mind). We ended up talking about work and I feel like I spoke a bit too much about my work. On the bright side, she seemed to agree with my views 100% and gave me advice and a website to check out for new jobs. So that was cool. However, I don't feel like I really got to learn much about her because i babbled so much about my job.
At the end of our date, she pulled what I've done in the past. Her bus came so she ran for it, so we departed in an awkward manner.
I gave it a couple of days and decided last minute to invite her to an event last night but I didn't know if she works on Fridays or what so instead of calling her during the day, I texted her. It's possible she never got it or chose to ignore it but I never heard back.
My attitude now is to just go on dates and have fun with absolutely 0% expectation (as oppose to Elwood of the past) but now I'm realizing I should still put a bit of an effort to come off as a cool guy who actually cares to listen to you.
Well practice makes perfect I guess.
Saturday, July 24, 2010
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
A month in review
Yeah I've been real busy and lazy and havn't been posting anything.
So here's what you missed:
- My job moved offices from very close to my apartment (20 min) to very far from my apartment (~1 hour) by public transit. The new office is nice but I don't have my own office. I got thrown into the warehouse.
- I decided to start looking for a new job. I've applied a bit and even had an interview but it was with a company a bit too similar to what I'm doing right now, so I turned down teh second interview.
- I've been doing a shitload of improv lately. Thats been a lot of fun.
- I was sick a couple of weeks ago, so that sucked but I'm much better now.
- I went on a date with someone who cantacted me online. Turned out she dated one of Wendy's friends back when I was dating Wendy and we actually met at Wendy's party 3 years ago. Weird. The date itself was aweful. We spent an hour driving tryign to find parking. Then all she wanted to talk about was dating. She basically is looking for marriage and I told her i"m just loking to have fun. So she decided to give me advice: I need a fuxck buddy. Wow,. And then she didn't even offer herself! Haha. I was tempted to joke abotu that but I kept my tongue. As soon as I was done my beer and asked if she'd like to leave, she practically bolted to the door. At the end she felt the need to inform me that it would never work out. Dont' worry I caught on right at the beginning!
- Another girl unrelated also contacted me online. She said she thought my profile was funny. We're due to meet for a date ths wednesday. So I'm glad to see that I'll have dating stuff to talk abotu again, since this is a dating blog.
-In 3 weeks, IRG will be back in town. I'm both excited and nervous. We'll see what happens.
In 1 week, it's my birthday. I'mboth excited and nervous. We'll see what happens :)
So here's what you missed:
- My job moved offices from very close to my apartment (20 min) to very far from my apartment (~1 hour) by public transit. The new office is nice but I don't have my own office. I got thrown into the warehouse.
- I decided to start looking for a new job. I've applied a bit and even had an interview but it was with a company a bit too similar to what I'm doing right now, so I turned down teh second interview.
- I've been doing a shitload of improv lately. Thats been a lot of fun.
- I was sick a couple of weeks ago, so that sucked but I'm much better now.
- I went on a date with someone who cantacted me online. Turned out she dated one of Wendy's friends back when I was dating Wendy and we actually met at Wendy's party 3 years ago. Weird. The date itself was aweful. We spent an hour driving tryign to find parking. Then all she wanted to talk about was dating. She basically is looking for marriage and I told her i"m just loking to have fun. So she decided to give me advice: I need a fuxck buddy. Wow,. And then she didn't even offer herself! Haha. I was tempted to joke abotu that but I kept my tongue. As soon as I was done my beer and asked if she'd like to leave, she practically bolted to the door. At the end she felt the need to inform me that it would never work out. Dont' worry I caught on right at the beginning!
- Another girl unrelated also contacted me online. She said she thought my profile was funny. We're due to meet for a date ths wednesday. So I'm glad to see that I'll have dating stuff to talk abotu again, since this is a dating blog.
-In 3 weeks, IRG will be back in town. I'm both excited and nervous. We'll see what happens.
In 1 week, it's my birthday. I'mboth excited and nervous. We'll see what happens :)
Lost Post: Questions Answered
I did it again. I wrote a blog post and only saved it instead of published!. This one dates back to almost a month ago. Enjoy!
After I wrote this post, I received a comment from a reader, Stepahine who had this to ask:
- are you still in contact with IRG?
- does she miss you?
- why is her going back to the US the end? just because everybody expects it and it's common sense...
You still have time enough to use common sense, why not live now?
It got me thinking and I e-mailed IRG to find out how things will be when she is visiting next month. Turns out she is actually staying here over a full week and will be house-sitting a friends place not too far from where I live.I basically mentioned in my e-mail that I was thinking of taking the same week off work while she is here visiting and admitted I was still thining of her and just wanted to know her thoughts so when we are together we are on the same page.
From her response i can now answer those questions:
- are you still in contact with IRG? Yes we e-mail back and forth almost every second day.
- does she miss you? She mentioned in her e-mail how she had a lot of fun with me while she was here and wants to have fun again when she returns, but hasn't mentioned that she misses me. So, no, I don't think she misses me but is excited to see me again.
- why is her going back to the US the end? just because everybody expects it and it's common sense... Because I don't want a long distance relationship and she definitely does not want one. She wrote that while she is back, she wants to hang out and do a lot together and we could even be "pretend" boyfriend/girlfriend but when she leaves again, that's it for good. She never knows when she'll be back and she wants to start looking for dates online. Her words exactly: But when I get back from my vacation, I think I might try to do some Craig's List dating again.
She ends with: So all this is to say that I always want to be your friend and I want to spend my vacation time with you, but I still don't plan on us being a permanent type of long-distance relationship, you know? I'm sure you know, but I just want to be clear. I hope this isn't upsetting or something.
So there you have it.
After I wrote this post, I received a comment from a reader, Stepahine who had this to ask:
- are you still in contact with IRG?
- does she miss you?
- why is her going back to the US the end? just because everybody expects it and it's common sense...
You still have time enough to use common sense, why not live now?
It got me thinking and I e-mailed IRG to find out how things will be when she is visiting next month. Turns out she is actually staying here over a full week and will be house-sitting a friends place not too far from where I live.I basically mentioned in my e-mail that I was thinking of taking the same week off work while she is here visiting and admitted I was still thining of her and just wanted to know her thoughts so when we are together we are on the same page.
From her response i can now answer those questions:
- are you still in contact with IRG? Yes we e-mail back and forth almost every second day.
- does she miss you? She mentioned in her e-mail how she had a lot of fun with me while she was here and wants to have fun again when she returns, but hasn't mentioned that she misses me. So, no, I don't think she misses me but is excited to see me again.
- why is her going back to the US the end? just because everybody expects it and it's common sense... Because I don't want a long distance relationship and she definitely does not want one. She wrote that while she is back, she wants to hang out and do a lot together and we could even be "pretend" boyfriend/girlfriend but when she leaves again, that's it for good. She never knows when she'll be back and she wants to start looking for dates online. Her words exactly: But when I get back from my vacation, I think I might try to do some Craig's List dating again.
She ends with: So all this is to say that I always want to be your friend and I want to spend my vacation time with you, but I still don't plan on us being a permanent type of long-distance relationship, you know? I'm sure you know, but I just want to be clear. I hope this isn't upsetting or something.
So there you have it.
Saturday, June 26, 2010
No Interest
I'm starting to realize how lately I've just had absolutely no interest in dating or pursuing anyone right now. I've been browsing a little on Plentyoffish.com and Okcupid.com but haven't really felt like contacting anyone. The one or two messages I've gotten, I didnt' really care to respond to.
Ira wants me to go with him to this No Pants Party tomorrow night, but i"m just not feeling it.
So yeah, I'm not sure if I'll have anything too exciting to write about for now. I'm just keeping it low key at the moment. I am really curious how things will turn out in a month when IRG comes back for that week, but until then I'm just going to chill.
Ira wants me to go with him to this No Pants Party tomorrow night, but i"m just not feeling it.
So yeah, I'm not sure if I'll have anything too exciting to write about for now. I'm just keeping it low key at the moment. I am really curious how things will turn out in a month when IRG comes back for that week, but until then I'm just going to chill.
Sunday, June 20, 2010
I'm thinking of you...
It's been over a month and I realized I'm still thinking and talking to others about Indie Rock Girl.
Maybe I miss her more than I realize...
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In other news, I changed teh design of the site. It now matches my shirt in the picture!
Maybe I miss her more than I realize...
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In other news, I changed teh design of the site. It now matches my shirt in the picture!
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Plans Changed
Apologies for being M.I.A. for the past 2 weeks or so. I lot of things have been going on and I've just been so busy. I recently found out that my office is moving from somewhere close to my place (20 min) to somewhere far from my place (~1 hour). So I've been getting my shit together and getting motivated to start looking for a new job. I feel like it's time to move on.
This doesn't mean I haven't been having fun.
Literally only 4 days after I wrote a post about how I'm going to take at least a month off before I even look at another girl, I got drunk and went home with a friend. Totally not how I expected that night to end!
I was out doing a comedy show and had plans of maybe meeting up with this girl I know from the theater. We kind of hung out a few times with other theater folk and happen to bump into each other earlier int eh week and I went over to her place for a beer.
This night, after the show, I called her up and she was heading to a what she called a "loft party". It sounded like fun so I met her there. It ended up being one of the most straight-out-of-a-college-movie I've ever been to. You know those movies that have a scene or are about a party where it's just packed with great looking people, there's this awesome band playing and everyone is just drinking and having fun. usually this leads to some kind of hijinx afterwards? Well that's the kind of party I was at.
We arrived there at like 12am. My friend, we'll call her Ozzy, forgot to tell me, but it ended up being a 1920's themed party. Everyone there was dressed up. There were even 4 guys looking like the B-sharps.
Ozzy had brought a bunch of beers and it was too late for me to buy any but she ended up feeding me beer all night. Then the band started. They were freaking amazing.
They were like this instrumental post rock band. Ozzy worked with a bunch of them and was totally into it. It was a tiny place and it was packed and everyone was loving it. There was even a tiny bar serving alcohol (illegally?).
At one point, after the band ended, the cops showed up and Ozzy and I ended up at the apartment above the current one. Everyone kind of just moved up there, so we did too. After another hour or so of partying, the people in that apartment kicked everyone out, so we all moved back to the original one.
I'm not sure what tie it was but I realized I was standing pretty close to Ozzy and our hands kind of touched, so I went for it and held her hand and then gave her a kiss. Immediately after making out for like 2 minutes, she turns to me and says "So you want to go?". Next thing I know it I'm outside her apartment and she immediately says "want to come up?".
In her place, her roommates are still up (by now it's like 5 am, the sun ) is coming up and we sit and have more beer. Eventually, the roommate left us alone and we crawled into Ozzy's room.
Now just a reminder that by then I had like 6 or 7 beers, which for me is a lot. It didnt' take much for both of us to get naked but I was so sloshed there was no way I was going to have the ability to have actual sex. I did please her though and then we both just passed out.
It was really sloppy and the first thought I had when I woke up, surprisingly was guilt. I know there was nothing to feel guilty about but I felt I had just finished things with IRG and then without a heartbeat I went and (almost) slept with another friend of mine. I'm over it now but it did bug me for a couple of days. Especially when I got home from Ozzy's apartment and received an e-mail from IRG.
I'm super surprised I've already slept with 2 girls that I"m friends with. Actually, they are both friends with each other. Actually, Ozzy was there the night I lost my virginity to my other friend. The 3 of us went out for drinks and I ended up going home with my other friend.
I wonder how long I can keep this up :P I'm running out of female friends.
This doesn't mean I haven't been having fun.
Literally only 4 days after I wrote a post about how I'm going to take at least a month off before I even look at another girl, I got drunk and went home with a friend. Totally not how I expected that night to end!
I was out doing a comedy show and had plans of maybe meeting up with this girl I know from the theater. We kind of hung out a few times with other theater folk and happen to bump into each other earlier int eh week and I went over to her place for a beer.
This night, after the show, I called her up and she was heading to a what she called a "loft party". It sounded like fun so I met her there. It ended up being one of the most straight-out-of-a-college-movie I've ever been to. You know those movies that have a scene or are about a party where it's just packed with great looking people, there's this awesome band playing and everyone is just drinking and having fun. usually this leads to some kind of hijinx afterwards? Well that's the kind of party I was at.
We arrived there at like 12am. My friend, we'll call her Ozzy, forgot to tell me, but it ended up being a 1920's themed party. Everyone there was dressed up. There were even 4 guys looking like the B-sharps.
Ozzy had brought a bunch of beers and it was too late for me to buy any but she ended up feeding me beer all night. Then the band started. They were freaking amazing.
They were like this instrumental post rock band. Ozzy worked with a bunch of them and was totally into it. It was a tiny place and it was packed and everyone was loving it. There was even a tiny bar serving alcohol (illegally?).
At one point, after the band ended, the cops showed up and Ozzy and I ended up at the apartment above the current one. Everyone kind of just moved up there, so we did too. After another hour or so of partying, the people in that apartment kicked everyone out, so we all moved back to the original one.
I'm not sure what tie it was but I realized I was standing pretty close to Ozzy and our hands kind of touched, so I went for it and held her hand and then gave her a kiss. Immediately after making out for like 2 minutes, she turns to me and says "So you want to go?". Next thing I know it I'm outside her apartment and she immediately says "want to come up?".
In her place, her roommates are still up (by now it's like 5 am, the sun ) is coming up and we sit and have more beer. Eventually, the roommate left us alone and we crawled into Ozzy's room.
Now just a reminder that by then I had like 6 or 7 beers, which for me is a lot. It didnt' take much for both of us to get naked but I was so sloshed there was no way I was going to have the ability to have actual sex. I did please her though and then we both just passed out.
It was really sloppy and the first thought I had when I woke up, surprisingly was guilt. I know there was nothing to feel guilty about but I felt I had just finished things with IRG and then without a heartbeat I went and (almost) slept with another friend of mine. I'm over it now but it did bug me for a couple of days. Especially when I got home from Ozzy's apartment and received an e-mail from IRG.
I'm super surprised I've already slept with 2 girls that I"m friends with. Actually, they are both friends with each other. Actually, Ozzy was there the night I lost my virginity to my other friend. The 3 of us went out for drinks and I ended up going home with my other friend.
I wonder how long I can keep this up :P I'm running out of female friends.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
The Lone Warrior
It's been 2 weeks since Indie Rock Girl moved away.
Everyone keeps asking me how I'm doing, like I'm going to commit suicide or something.
I'm fine.
Really.
IRG and I have been in touch almost everyday by e-mail and that has been really nice although I don't expect it to last forever.Lets face it. We'll both end up meeting new people and then it'll definitly be hard to keep in touch.
On the bright side, it's now summer and in My City, when Summer hits, it's like Girls Gone Wild. The rate of car accidents go up because there are just so many gorgeous women out and about in the streets, hardly wearing anything.
I'm not planning on even going on a date with anyone anytime soon but in the meantime, I'm just going to enjoy the streets :)
Everyone keeps asking me how I'm doing, like I'm going to commit suicide or something.
I'm fine.
Really.
IRG and I have been in touch almost everyday by e-mail and that has been really nice although I don't expect it to last forever.Lets face it. We'll both end up meeting new people and then it'll definitly be hard to keep in touch.
On the bright side, it's now summer and in My City, when Summer hits, it's like Girls Gone Wild. The rate of car accidents go up because there are just so many gorgeous women out and about in the streets, hardly wearing anything.
I'm not planning on even going on a date with anyone anytime soon but in the meantime, I'm just going to enjoy the streets :)
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