"Wow! I haven't been here since I went to University 5 years ago" - He said entering the shady diner.
"That seat is ripped. you're going to have to sit next to me" - She said, approaching the booth and sliding into the seat, invitingly. He sat down, close, their bare legs touching each other ever so slightly.
They each ordered a milkshake and shared a plate of fries. Throughout their conversation, their eye locked on occasion. Feeling comfortable, he put his arm over the back of the booth seat behind her and gently rub his his finger on the top of her back, just diagonal of her neck. They talked some more and even played 2 rounds of thumb war.
Feeling stuffed and tired, they went to the cash, where he paid for the meal, kindly declining her offer to chip in. Outside he grabbed his bike and walked with her a couple of blocks towards her house, moving a couple of block further away from his place.
At the traffic light he stopped, moved his bike out of the way and approached her.
"That was a fun show" - she said looking into his eyes.
"Yeah it was, thanks for coming. You're like my #1 fan" - He said, grabbing her fingers.
"I had fun" - She said, not grabbing back her fingers.
"Me too" - He said, leaning in and giving her a gentle kiss.
"We'll be in touch about the concert on Sunday" - He said and they walked in opposite directions.
"OK" - She said.
He then got on his bike and rode into the night.
Thus concludes Chapter 1 of Elwood and Rock Chick.
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Monday, July 27, 2009
Elwood turns 28 a.k.a breaking the rules
Today I turned 28.
I don't feel twenty eight at all. I feel like I'm still a young guy, not close to 30. When my brother was 26, he got married. When I was 26, I was dressing up as a barbarian for a Medieval party.
I'm sure its related to the experience I've had in life. I started a lot of things late, including dating. However, every year (or lately, I guess i can even say day) I feel that I'm getting better, more relaxed at it.
Last night I went out to celebrate my birthday with some friends. Knowing a lot of people and not really having a key group of friends anymore (many have move away), I just invited a whole bunch of people and ended up with a group of about 10 friends, most not knowing each other.
We started at my apartment, then went to a bar and ended up at this dance party. Not any dance party though. It was Silent Disco! What is silent disco? it was a room full of people dancing to music. Except, instead of the music being pumped through very loud speakers, it was supplied through giant headphones that everyone wore. That meant that the room itself was quite silent.
I had fun hanging out and was glad to see a lot of my friends but I was pretty exhausted from what I had done the night before. Believe you me, what i did the night before was a ton of fun but it did hinder on my being fully awake and energetic for my birthday. I am willing to say that it was almost worth it.
What is it that made me so tired to celebrate my own birthday? Well I'll tell you.
I had been messaging back and forth a girl I met on OK! Cupid for a bit and we had arranged to meet up for "coffee and baileys" Friday evening. Lets call her Glasses (since she has some pretty funky glasses). I arrived at the coffee shop first but when she arrived, we ended up having dinner with our coffee since we were both starving.
The meal was going fine. We had a lot to talk about. I accidentally mentioned i was reading a book and she wanted to know what it was but I didn't want to tell her and then she insisted I did. So probably breaking the first rule, I showed her that I was reading "How to Succeed with Women" but informed her I was reading it as a joke and not to take it seriously. It ended up being a great idea that I showed her that because it quickly became an inside joke between us the whole night.
From the beginning of reading the book I told myself i wouldn't' take it seriously but I was already breaking rules, they insist on a first date you only spend between 45 - 60 minutes and lead it up to a second date. Well, I was breaking that rule by a lot
After coffee we ended going for some beer at a nice terrace. Then after having shared a pitcher (and don't forget our strongly alcoholic coffees from the coffee shop), we headed out towards the direction we both lived.
I had heard about the Silent Disco and had mentioned it to Glasses earlier on in the date but then we found out when I bumped into a friend, that it only started at 12am and it was 20$ to get in.
At 11:45, we happened to walk by the building that was housing the party and I convinced Glasses to come in with me for a second and found out what Silent Disco was all about. Turned out it started at 11:30pm, so there were already people there, and the price was only 5$!
We went in and it was tons of fun. There was a bar, a bunch of people dancing and really fun music. We were there for a couple of hours and I realized that Glasses was dancing pretty close to me. I didn't feel comfortable just grabbing her and grinding but I did get the impression that she wanted to be close to me.
At one point I grabbed her hand so we could dance to a song but she let go after a couple of seconds saying she gets uncomfortable dancing with someone. I didn't' freak out or feel stupid, and totally took that in stride.
After a couple of drink and after being there for a couple of hours, our hands ended up touching and then locking, that when I decided to move in even closer and kissed her. It was really interesting making out at a party with really big headphone on our heads. Without the music, it was really just too people kissing in front of strangers in a room. The headphones were really bulky so we kept hitting each other with them.
After a short while we decided to leave.
I walked her to the point where we would have to split up to head to our respective apartments and we made out some more. I don't get it but I wasn't scared at all! I felt really calm and confident that she was into me, and I into her and that was all I needed.
I whispered in her ear if I could at least walk her home. She agreed. I swear that when I said that my true intentions were not to go sleep with her. I genuinely just wanted to walk her home to make sure she got home safe and also to see, curiously, what would happen next.
On the walk there she told me that I could come up but she wouldn't sleep with me. I told her she got me all wrong and that she didn't know me well, and that that wasn't my intention at all.
We got to her place and she let me in.
End of Part 1
There is a lot more I want to talk about my Friday night experience, but it's late so you'll have to come and check up for part 2 sometime soon.
I don't feel twenty eight at all. I feel like I'm still a young guy, not close to 30. When my brother was 26, he got married. When I was 26, I was dressing up as a barbarian for a Medieval party.
I'm sure its related to the experience I've had in life. I started a lot of things late, including dating. However, every year (or lately, I guess i can even say day) I feel that I'm getting better, more relaxed at it.
Last night I went out to celebrate my birthday with some friends. Knowing a lot of people and not really having a key group of friends anymore (many have move away), I just invited a whole bunch of people and ended up with a group of about 10 friends, most not knowing each other.
We started at my apartment, then went to a bar and ended up at this dance party. Not any dance party though. It was Silent Disco! What is silent disco? it was a room full of people dancing to music. Except, instead of the music being pumped through very loud speakers, it was supplied through giant headphones that everyone wore. That meant that the room itself was quite silent.
I had fun hanging out and was glad to see a lot of my friends but I was pretty exhausted from what I had done the night before. Believe you me, what i did the night before was a ton of fun but it did hinder on my being fully awake and energetic for my birthday. I am willing to say that it was almost worth it.
What is it that made me so tired to celebrate my own birthday? Well I'll tell you.
I had been messaging back and forth a girl I met on OK! Cupid for a bit and we had arranged to meet up for "coffee and baileys" Friday evening. Lets call her Glasses (since she has some pretty funky glasses). I arrived at the coffee shop first but when she arrived, we ended up having dinner with our coffee since we were both starving.
The meal was going fine. We had a lot to talk about. I accidentally mentioned i was reading a book and she wanted to know what it was but I didn't want to tell her and then she insisted I did. So probably breaking the first rule, I showed her that I was reading "How to Succeed with Women" but informed her I was reading it as a joke and not to take it seriously. It ended up being a great idea that I showed her that because it quickly became an inside joke between us the whole night.
From the beginning of reading the book I told myself i wouldn't' take it seriously but I was already breaking rules, they insist on a first date you only spend between 45 - 60 minutes and lead it up to a second date. Well, I was breaking that rule by a lot
After coffee we ended going for some beer at a nice terrace. Then after having shared a pitcher (and don't forget our strongly alcoholic coffees from the coffee shop), we headed out towards the direction we both lived.
I had heard about the Silent Disco and had mentioned it to Glasses earlier on in the date but then we found out when I bumped into a friend, that it only started at 12am and it was 20$ to get in.
At 11:45, we happened to walk by the building that was housing the party and I convinced Glasses to come in with me for a second and found out what Silent Disco was all about. Turned out it started at 11:30pm, so there were already people there, and the price was only 5$!
We went in and it was tons of fun. There was a bar, a bunch of people dancing and really fun music. We were there for a couple of hours and I realized that Glasses was dancing pretty close to me. I didn't feel comfortable just grabbing her and grinding but I did get the impression that she wanted to be close to me.
At one point I grabbed her hand so we could dance to a song but she let go after a couple of seconds saying she gets uncomfortable dancing with someone. I didn't' freak out or feel stupid, and totally took that in stride.
After a couple of drink and after being there for a couple of hours, our hands ended up touching and then locking, that when I decided to move in even closer and kissed her. It was really interesting making out at a party with really big headphone on our heads. Without the music, it was really just too people kissing in front of strangers in a room. The headphones were really bulky so we kept hitting each other with them.
After a short while we decided to leave.
I walked her to the point where we would have to split up to head to our respective apartments and we made out some more. I don't get it but I wasn't scared at all! I felt really calm and confident that she was into me, and I into her and that was all I needed.
I whispered in her ear if I could at least walk her home. She agreed. I swear that when I said that my true intentions were not to go sleep with her. I genuinely just wanted to walk her home to make sure she got home safe and also to see, curiously, what would happen next.
On the walk there she told me that I could come up but she wouldn't sleep with me. I told her she got me all wrong and that she didn't know me well, and that that wasn't my intention at all.
We got to her place and she let me in.
End of Part 1
There is a lot more I want to talk about my Friday night experience, but it's late so you'll have to come and check up for part 2 sometime soon.
Saturday, July 25, 2009
Last Night I Didn't Go Home
And tonight is the night I"m going out to celebrate my birthday.
Yes my date went very well.
Details to come.
Yes my date went very well.
Details to come.
Friday, July 24, 2009
I Take That Back
During the shower this morning, I realized how negative my last post sounded while in my mind when I wrote it I thought otherwise. I've been moving in a posititive direction with my experiences and attitude with women latley and I shouldn't make assumptions and sound negative after every encounter.
My first reaction to missing ROck Chicks call last night shoudl have been something more like "Sweet, she's probably calling me to thank me" instead of "ugh! She' calling me to say she just wants to be friends".
Either way, I'm supposed to have a date with a new person tonight.
More to come.
Love,
Elwood
My first reaction to missing ROck Chicks call last night shoudl have been something more like "Sweet, she's probably calling me to thank me" instead of "ugh! She' calling me to say she just wants to be friends".
Either way, I'm supposed to have a date with a new person tonight.
More to come.
Love,
Elwood
Assuming makes an ASS out of U and ME
During my talk with Rock Chick last night, she mentioned how her parents were visiting and she needed to find something to entertain them with. I suggested this great comedy/dance show I saw a few weeks ago. The way she took in the information made it sound like she wasn't too into it.
In the end, Ira asked me if I wanted to go with him if I didn't mind seeing it again. I accepted and some other friend of mine were going as well.
I was at home eating a pizza and running late, and got there just before the doors opened. Ira had been there before me, talk to... Rock Chick. She actually brought her parents to the show, and loved it!
Of course Ira made me feel super awkward, dropping hints and purposely scheming so I sat next to her and stuff.
After the show Ira pissed the fuck out of me asking "Where's Rock Chick?", "Go talk to her", "Go look for her", etc. I told him not to ell me what to do and talked to my friend for a bit. Rock Chick came by to say goodbye and left with a high five.
Ira and I actually had tickets to another show tonight (a stand up comedian) and I just got home from that. As Ira was saying goodbye he tells me "Don't give up on Rock Chick, she likes you". 5 minutes later in my room, i discover that she called me 20 minutes ago, no message.
I texted he to see if she was still up but looks like the answer is no.
She most probably called to talk about the show and how much fun it was but I just have gut feeling it may have been to give me a a speech similar to that of Catch22's. I know, I know, I shouldn't assume anything but I felt that I've been showing sign of desperation all around her the past couple of times we spoke, and know women can smell it miles away.
Alas, I shall find out next time I speak with her, and you guys will be the first to know.
In the end, Ira asked me if I wanted to go with him if I didn't mind seeing it again. I accepted and some other friend of mine were going as well.
I was at home eating a pizza and running late, and got there just before the doors opened. Ira had been there before me, talk to... Rock Chick. She actually brought her parents to the show, and loved it!
Of course Ira made me feel super awkward, dropping hints and purposely scheming so I sat next to her and stuff.
After the show Ira pissed the fuck out of me asking "Where's Rock Chick?", "Go talk to her", "Go look for her", etc. I told him not to ell me what to do and talked to my friend for a bit. Rock Chick came by to say goodbye and left with a high five.
Ira and I actually had tickets to another show tonight (a stand up comedian) and I just got home from that. As Ira was saying goodbye he tells me "Don't give up on Rock Chick, she likes you". 5 minutes later in my room, i discover that she called me 20 minutes ago, no message.
I texted he to see if she was still up but looks like the answer is no.
She most probably called to talk about the show and how much fun it was but I just have gut feeling it may have been to give me a a speech similar to that of Catch22's. I know, I know, I shouldn't assume anything but I felt that I've been showing sign of desperation all around her the past couple of times we spoke, and know women can smell it miles away.
Alas, I shall find out next time I speak with her, and you guys will be the first to know.
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Elwood The Player
It's late and i need to sleep but I haven't posted in a while, so here's a super fast post!
1. On the weekend I last minute ended up in Ottawa for a friends birthday. The night was a blast! We were 5 guys and had tons of fun at a club. We met 3 girls and one was tall and so hot and I flirted well with her. I almost got a kiss but her friends ditched and she left into the night.
2. I waited 2 days from when Rock Chick was to return home from Mexico. No call from her, so I called her instead. We spoke on the phone for over an hour. She's cute and funny. Her parents are in town this week so we won't see each other again until perhaps next week. That's if she wants to, I'm still unsure on her intentions.
3. I've been messaging back and forth a new girl on Ok! Cupid. We finally made arrangements for coffee this Friday.
4. Sunday is my 28th birthday. I don't feel 28. I feel 22. I'm having a party Saturday night. Should be fun.
Goodnight all!
1. On the weekend I last minute ended up in Ottawa for a friends birthday. The night was a blast! We were 5 guys and had tons of fun at a club. We met 3 girls and one was tall and so hot and I flirted well with her. I almost got a kiss but her friends ditched and she left into the night.
2. I waited 2 days from when Rock Chick was to return home from Mexico. No call from her, so I called her instead. We spoke on the phone for over an hour. She's cute and funny. Her parents are in town this week so we won't see each other again until perhaps next week. That's if she wants to, I'm still unsure on her intentions.
3. I've been messaging back and forth a new girl on Ok! Cupid. We finally made arrangements for coffee this Friday.
4. Sunday is my 28th birthday. I don't feel 28. I feel 22. I'm having a party Saturday night. Should be fun.
Goodnight all!
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Validation
I'm about halfway through How to Succeed with Women by Ron Louis and David Copeland.
Originally I wanted to write blog after blog about each bit of information I was learning from the book. Unfortunately, I've been reading it so fast and working so much overtime that i just havn't had a chance to do that.
The main things discussed have been confidence, advice on dress and looking good, myths guys seem to have on dating and also who to be romantic with women.
One thing that I will admit that has stuck with me was a part that mentions how you shouldn't let women validate your life. Life shouldn't feel crappy when your single and great when you're with someone. Life should always feel great for all kinds of reasons and things you got going on. Then, once you feel great abut life, if a women were to come in the picture it's only an extra thing added to your already super duper awesome life.
Reading that made me realize I was (am) a bit like that. I would feel great if I had a good interaction with a girl and awful if it didn't' go my way and think about it for days.
Although I do wish I had a more enjoyable job, I'm enjoying my life. I live on my own in an amazing area. I have a job and at least make some money. I'm super active in improv and actually get paid to make people laugh and feel good. I've been out and about meeting all kinds of new people.
When I had my date last week with Rock Chick, I was curious to see what the book had to say on dates and first kisses but flipping through the book, I discovered they only touch that stuff 5 chapters later.
I'm kind of glad I didn't read anything on the subject at the time, it allowed me to do what i"m best at: make stuff up.
Originally I wanted to write blog after blog about each bit of information I was learning from the book. Unfortunately, I've been reading it so fast and working so much overtime that i just havn't had a chance to do that.
The main things discussed have been confidence, advice on dress and looking good, myths guys seem to have on dating and also who to be romantic with women.
One thing that I will admit that has stuck with me was a part that mentions how you shouldn't let women validate your life. Life shouldn't feel crappy when your single and great when you're with someone. Life should always feel great for all kinds of reasons and things you got going on. Then, once you feel great abut life, if a women were to come in the picture it's only an extra thing added to your already super duper awesome life.
Reading that made me realize I was (am) a bit like that. I would feel great if I had a good interaction with a girl and awful if it didn't' go my way and think about it for days.
Although I do wish I had a more enjoyable job, I'm enjoying my life. I live on my own in an amazing area. I have a job and at least make some money. I'm super active in improv and actually get paid to make people laugh and feel good. I've been out and about meeting all kinds of new people.
When I had my date last week with Rock Chick, I was curious to see what the book had to say on dates and first kisses but flipping through the book, I discovered they only touch that stuff 5 chapters later.
I'm kind of glad I didn't read anything on the subject at the time, it allowed me to do what i"m best at: make stuff up.
Saturday, July 11, 2009
The hesitation sensation
I just got back from my second date with Rock Chick. All in all it was a lot of fun.
The night started when we met at the bar where my friend was hosting this artsy party. There was an arts and crafts table, a 30 minute poetic slide show project and even an interpretive dancer (which was quite weird).
We chatted a lot and I made sure to give lots of eye contact. Something I never paid much attention to before. Besides she has really nice eyes.
we couldn't stay long at the bar party because I had to make the show that I was in the same night, at the other end of downtown. We grabbed a bus and the subway and made it to the comedy club.
The doorman let Rock Chick in for free to watch me perform. Even though I was late, I was allowed to open (introduce) the troupe.
The show went really well and Rock Chick told me she really enjoyed it.
Following the show we went for a midnight meal.
Our date lasted 4 hours!
At the end of the night I was walking with her a bit, towards her side of town, even though it was in the complete opposite direction to where I lived.
I wasn't nervous the whole night and was kind of excited to be on another date but the only think I was hoping to get out of it, my short term goal you can say, was a simple kiss.
We stopped at a street corner and both told each other how much fun we had.
We stared in each others eyes for a split second...
and I hesitated.
Then we talked a bit more, and I still hesitated.
Finally I got real close to her, she didn't flinch or turn back. I I smacked her hand a high five but still kind of kept holding it, and finally went in for the kiss.
That's when my lips hit dead on with her cheek.
I quickly changed plans and went with it and then kissed her other cheek. I couldn't believe how smooth I was. I didn't flinch, or whine or complain.
I can't tell if she just thought that was what I was going for or if she wasn't ready or just wasn't interested, but I doubt she'd want to spend all that time together if it was just a way to make a new friend.
She's going to Mexico for a week but we'll be in touch when she comes back.
Yes, I admit that I am thinking of the events that happened tonight, but compared to my old attitude I'd have left feeling 95% depressed or let down.
While she's away it gives me the best opportunity to contact other girls and see where they may lead.
The night started when we met at the bar where my friend was hosting this artsy party. There was an arts and crafts table, a 30 minute poetic slide show project and even an interpretive dancer (which was quite weird).
We chatted a lot and I made sure to give lots of eye contact. Something I never paid much attention to before. Besides she has really nice eyes.
we couldn't stay long at the bar party because I had to make the show that I was in the same night, at the other end of downtown. We grabbed a bus and the subway and made it to the comedy club.
The doorman let Rock Chick in for free to watch me perform. Even though I was late, I was allowed to open (introduce) the troupe.
The show went really well and Rock Chick told me she really enjoyed it.
Following the show we went for a midnight meal.
Our date lasted 4 hours!
At the end of the night I was walking with her a bit, towards her side of town, even though it was in the complete opposite direction to where I lived.
I wasn't nervous the whole night and was kind of excited to be on another date but the only think I was hoping to get out of it, my short term goal you can say, was a simple kiss.
We stopped at a street corner and both told each other how much fun we had.
We stared in each others eyes for a split second...
and I hesitated.
Then we talked a bit more, and I still hesitated.
Finally I got real close to her, she didn't flinch or turn back. I I smacked her hand a high five but still kind of kept holding it, and finally went in for the kiss.
That's when my lips hit dead on with her cheek.
I quickly changed plans and went with it and then kissed her other cheek. I couldn't believe how smooth I was. I didn't flinch, or whine or complain.
I can't tell if she just thought that was what I was going for or if she wasn't ready or just wasn't interested, but I doubt she'd want to spend all that time together if it was just a way to make a new friend.
She's going to Mexico for a week but we'll be in touch when she comes back.
Yes, I admit that I am thinking of the events that happened tonight, but compared to my old attitude I'd have left feeling 95% depressed or let down.
While she's away it gives me the best opportunity to contact other girls and see where they may lead.
Friday, July 10, 2009
The old switcheroo
When Rock Chick and I exchanged phone numbers it took over a week to actually make first contact and arrange a date. If I called, it would ring until the machine went off. I'd leave a message and wouldn't get a call back in a day or two.
I must have done something right on our first date because since then, she's either picked up her phone right away or if I've left a message, she'd call me the same day.
We had spoken on Tuesday, made arrangements for Friday, bumped into each other Wednesday and then talked on talked a bit last night.
I had invited her to this party a friend is hosting at a bar but after the initial invite I forgot i had to do a show the same night. I felt it would get complicated to invite her if I wasn't going to stay long, but she said she wanted to come and see my show and didn't mind all the traveling (the bar and place of show are at opposite ends of downtown).
On the phone last night she said she doesn't mind "tagging along". I told her that I hope she didn't feel that that was the case, but she was all cheery and said doesn't mind being all over the place and it'll be fun.
Regardless of how things go, the advice the How To Succeed With Women book says it's always good to have multiple prospects and not get hung up on one person. This way you feel less pressured and if nothing comes out of it, you have other people to pursue. Before, I used to really only hone on one person, but now I've still been checking out POF and other options, so I'm not feeling too worried about tonight.
I must have done something right on our first date because since then, she's either picked up her phone right away or if I've left a message, she'd call me the same day.
We had spoken on Tuesday, made arrangements for Friday, bumped into each other Wednesday and then talked on talked a bit last night.
I had invited her to this party a friend is hosting at a bar but after the initial invite I forgot i had to do a show the same night. I felt it would get complicated to invite her if I wasn't going to stay long, but she said she wanted to come and see my show and didn't mind all the traveling (the bar and place of show are at opposite ends of downtown).
On the phone last night she said she doesn't mind "tagging along". I told her that I hope she didn't feel that that was the case, but she was all cheery and said doesn't mind being all over the place and it'll be fun.
Regardless of how things go, the advice the How To Succeed With Women book says it's always good to have multiple prospects and not get hung up on one person. This way you feel less pressured and if nothing comes out of it, you have other people to pursue. Before, I used to really only hone on one person, but now I've still been checking out POF and other options, so I'm not feeling too worried about tonight.
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Networking
Ira: "You should totally go. it'll be a great way to make new contacts, possible leads for a new job. Plus there will probably tons of girls".
What Ira was referring to was a networking cocktail party that was being held for young people to network and swap contacts.
I managed to skip work early (6pm - that's early for me as of late) and grabbed a bus to head to the bar where the event was being held. On the way I decided to stop off at home (2 blocks away) and change into something a bit more "professional" looking.
Twenty minutes of ironing a grey buttoned shirt and gray cotton pants later, I showed up at the designated bar.
There were actually a lot of people. A few cute girls as well.
I managed to talk to a whole bunch of people. We were given name tag holders to put our business card inside. Instead of putting the one from work, I put in the one for my comedy troupe. I thought it was a good move since once someone heard I was a comedian, their eyes would light up. I also did it because I actually designed the logo for that card where as my work card was done by someone else.
After being there for about an hour, I was chatting with 2 girls I vaguely knew and then I glanced over my shoulder and saw someone that looked somewhat familiar but I couldn't think at the time of who she was or how I knew her.
Even as this mysterious person came towards me to talk to me, for a the first couple of seconds I still wasn't 100% sure who I was about to talk to until suddenly my brain woke up and started working again.
It was Rock Chick.
She was there also looking to make new connections related to work.
I'm so glad I didn't flinch or ask her who she was, but subconsciously figured it out before she could even notice.
We chatted a bit and then she, unknowing to her, gave me an awesome excuse not to hover around her. She mentioned a guy who was looking for someone with my experience and suggested I go hunt him down.
About 30 minutes later, Ira was dying to leave, so I went up to Rock Chick to say goodbye. She had actually chatted with Ira and found out he was my brother but he did not know yet that she was Rock Chick.
As Ira and I began to leave, she offered to walk me to the door. I asked her if we were still on for Friday and she said yes. Then I gave her a double kiss on the cheek (very common custom where I live) and I left the bar.
Until Friday!
What Ira was referring to was a networking cocktail party that was being held for young people to network and swap contacts.
I managed to skip work early (6pm - that's early for me as of late) and grabbed a bus to head to the bar where the event was being held. On the way I decided to stop off at home (2 blocks away) and change into something a bit more "professional" looking.
Twenty minutes of ironing a grey buttoned shirt and gray cotton pants later, I showed up at the designated bar.
There were actually a lot of people. A few cute girls as well.
I managed to talk to a whole bunch of people. We were given name tag holders to put our business card inside. Instead of putting the one from work, I put in the one for my comedy troupe. I thought it was a good move since once someone heard I was a comedian, their eyes would light up. I also did it because I actually designed the logo for that card where as my work card was done by someone else.
After being there for about an hour, I was chatting with 2 girls I vaguely knew and then I glanced over my shoulder and saw someone that looked somewhat familiar but I couldn't think at the time of who she was or how I knew her.
Even as this mysterious person came towards me to talk to me, for a the first couple of seconds I still wasn't 100% sure who I was about to talk to until suddenly my brain woke up and started working again.
It was Rock Chick.
She was there also looking to make new connections related to work.
I'm so glad I didn't flinch or ask her who she was, but subconsciously figured it out before she could even notice.
We chatted a bit and then she, unknowing to her, gave me an awesome excuse not to hover around her. She mentioned a guy who was looking for someone with my experience and suggested I go hunt him down.
About 30 minutes later, Ira was dying to leave, so I went up to Rock Chick to say goodbye. She had actually chatted with Ira and found out he was my brother but he did not know yet that she was Rock Chick.
As Ira and I began to leave, she offered to walk me to the door. I asked her if we were still on for Friday and she said yes. Then I gave her a double kiss on the cheek (very common custom where I live) and I left the bar.
Until Friday!
Blast from the past
Elwood: "Hey what are you doing today?"
Ira: "I have a date"
Elwood: "Oh yeah... Who is she?"
Ira: "Someone I met on Plentyoffish"
Elwood: "I know that! I mean who is she? whats her name?"
Ira: "I have a date Gloria"
That happened on Sunday.
I was phased by it at all. I was happy my brother was at least giving it a chance even though he knows i didn't' hit it off with her.
Three days later (today) he told me he doesn't think he'll be calling her back...
Elwood: "How come?"
Ira: "She's too intellectual!"
Ira: "I have a date"
Elwood: "Oh yeah... Who is she?"
Ira: "Someone I met on Plentyoffish"
Elwood: "I know that! I mean who is she? whats her name?"
Ira: "I have a date Gloria"
That happened on Sunday.
I was phased by it at all. I was happy my brother was at least giving it a chance even though he knows i didn't' hit it off with her.
Three days later (today) he told me he doesn't think he'll be calling her back...
Elwood: "How come?"
Ira: "She's too intellectual!"
Sunday, July 5, 2009
Date # 10 - Rock Chick
Last night I went on a date with another person I met through POF. She's studying geology (hence the name Rock Chick), is originally from Winnipeg and moved to Montreal for her masters.
Once I got her number, we played phone tag for almost 2 weeks. We managed to talk once but again had a hard time connecting. Even though I;d miss her call, call her and then have to leave a message, she still got back to me and even showed interest in meeting.
Finally I reached her Saturday afternoon and we arranged to meet up later that evening.
I showed up to the Subway station and waited for her, looking out since I could on;y base what she looked like by 1 picture from POF. I know it could have a been a big gamble meeting up with someone who only posted 1 picture, and not a great one at that. However, when she came out the doors, the b-lined right to me so I knew it was her right away.
She's actually cute!
Our date started off a tad rocky since I had invited her to an art exhibit of a friend of RM1. RM1's boyfriend (who just moved in with her and I , by the way) was also heading there so I walked with him to the place and then split up to go meet Rock Girl.
Once i met Rock Girl, we headed back to towards the exhibit but it wasn't open and RM1's boyfriend was there and asking if we wanted to join him for a while, until the exhibit opened (even though he knew i was on a date). I managed to convince Rock Girl that we go somewhere else and she was cool with it.
We ended up going for ice cream (which I payed for), then to the Jazz Festival which is booming in My City right now and we saw a great Latino band. Following this we went to the docks and saw fireworks.
Our date lasted 4 hours. I may have talked a bit too much but it didn't look like she cared and I felt comfortable around her , cracking jokes and stuff. The eerie thing was I would think of something to say (a joke or fact or whatever) and she would beat me to it by like 2 seconds and say the exact same thing! It was like that with Wendy but I had dated her for months before that started happening.
Speaking of which (which by the way, Dolce, I haven't brought up in a long time and am only doing so in context, haha), this dated marked the tenth date of GFTOW. I wondered how long it would take to achieve a single date with 10 different girls and it ended up taking almost 16 months.
Am I completely over Wendy by now? Yes. do I still think about her? A little. Mostly the situations I was in with her since it's all I have to fall back on when I daydream about certain things. Even then, especially since starting to read that How to Succeed with Woman book, I have that wanting feeling of being with someone less than I used to. I now know that it's all just a game and it's supposed to be fun. I'll meet someone eventually and I know I have a lot to offer.
At the end of the date, Rock Girl told me she wanted to hang out again and we said we'd call each other sometime later this week.
To make things even more fun, after she left, I headed to the Subway, bumped into a friend and went for a beer at 11:30pm.
Fun times indeed.
Once I got her number, we played phone tag for almost 2 weeks. We managed to talk once but again had a hard time connecting. Even though I;d miss her call, call her and then have to leave a message, she still got back to me and even showed interest in meeting.
Finally I reached her Saturday afternoon and we arranged to meet up later that evening.
I showed up to the Subway station and waited for her, looking out since I could on;y base what she looked like by 1 picture from POF. I know it could have a been a big gamble meeting up with someone who only posted 1 picture, and not a great one at that. However, when she came out the doors, the b-lined right to me so I knew it was her right away.
She's actually cute!
Our date started off a tad rocky since I had invited her to an art exhibit of a friend of RM1. RM1's boyfriend (who just moved in with her and I , by the way) was also heading there so I walked with him to the place and then split up to go meet Rock Girl.
Once i met Rock Girl, we headed back to towards the exhibit but it wasn't open and RM1's boyfriend was there and asking if we wanted to join him for a while, until the exhibit opened (even though he knew i was on a date). I managed to convince Rock Girl that we go somewhere else and she was cool with it.
We ended up going for ice cream (which I payed for), then to the Jazz Festival which is booming in My City right now and we saw a great Latino band. Following this we went to the docks and saw fireworks.
Our date lasted 4 hours. I may have talked a bit too much but it didn't look like she cared and I felt comfortable around her , cracking jokes and stuff. The eerie thing was I would think of something to say (a joke or fact or whatever) and she would beat me to it by like 2 seconds and say the exact same thing! It was like that with Wendy but I had dated her for months before that started happening.
Speaking of which (which by the way, Dolce, I haven't brought up in a long time and am only doing so in context, haha), this dated marked the tenth date of GFTOW. I wondered how long it would take to achieve a single date with 10 different girls and it ended up taking almost 16 months.
Am I completely over Wendy by now? Yes. do I still think about her? A little. Mostly the situations I was in with her since it's all I have to fall back on when I daydream about certain things. Even then, especially since starting to read that How to Succeed with Woman book, I have that wanting feeling of being with someone less than I used to. I now know that it's all just a game and it's supposed to be fun. I'll meet someone eventually and I know I have a lot to offer.
At the end of the date, Rock Girl told me she wanted to hang out again and we said we'd call each other sometime later this week.
To make things even more fun, after she left, I headed to the Subway, bumped into a friend and went for a beer at 11:30pm.
Fun times indeed.
Thursday, July 2, 2009
I Just Called To Say I Love You
I saw Stevie Wonder last night, bitches!
Well, I didn't actually see him. I saw him on a giant screen just around the corner from the outdoor stage where he was playing for free. There must have been 10,000 people about, so it was tough to get anywhere close to viewing status.
The show itself was pretty rad. He started off with a bunch of stuff I didn't know, then switched to his classics, also doing a few covers throughout.
The weirdest thing was twice he just sat there, while the band did absolutely nothing and a Michael Jackson song was being played over the speakers. My friend thinks they ran out of rehearsal time to nail the songs and instead just played the record as a tribute.
To end it all off, there were fireworks that exploded off of 4 building tops. It was wicked!
Oh, and there were tonsof hot girls walking about.
I love My City.
Well, I didn't actually see him. I saw him on a giant screen just around the corner from the outdoor stage where he was playing for free. There must have been 10,000 people about, so it was tough to get anywhere close to viewing status.
The show itself was pretty rad. He started off with a bunch of stuff I didn't know, then switched to his classics, also doing a few covers throughout.
The weirdest thing was twice he just sat there, while the band did absolutely nothing and a Michael Jackson song was being played over the speakers. My friend thinks they ran out of rehearsal time to nail the songs and instead just played the record as a tribute.
To end it all off, there were fireworks that exploded off of 4 building tops. It was wicked!
Oh, and there were tonsof hot girls walking about.
I love My City.
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