Bag Tagged

I'd like to take this moment to thank JRM for always leaving me comments and for tagging me on her blog, My Husbands Slut.

For those who found this blog through hers, I promise over the next few months there will be more exciting things to read on here since I'm moving downtown in 5 days!

Now getting onto the tag:

The rules:
1. Pick up the nearest book.
2. Open to page 123.
3. Find the fifth sentence.
4. Post the next three sentences.
5. Tag five people

1. Nearest book is this brand new one I bought called Merde Actually by Stephen Clarke. It's the sequel to the book A Year in the Merde which was hilarious. It's about a guy from London who moves to Paris for a new job and about all his adventures over a year handling living amongst French people. I highly recommend it.

2. I havn't even opened this book yet so this shall be fun...121, 122... okay 123!

3. Found fifth sentence.

4. Next 3 lines happen to be a full paragraph:

'Did you see her?' Charles asked me when the jig was over and I'd managed to unclamp his fingers from the hem of the old dirndl's petticoat. 'Not bad, eh? Do you think I should ask her for her phone number?'

5. Tagging 5 people. Well.. I don't know many in the anonymous blog circle but here are five in no particular order:

1. SO@24 of starting over at 24
2. Notevenwater of Not Even Water
3. Bondi Betty of Bondi Betty
4. MissCurious of Miss Curious
5. Irish and Jew of An Irish and a Jew

Get over it

I don't understand it.

I'm sure it's a normal thing but it's still confusing.

My friend Maynard told me that when he broke up with his girlfriend (it was a bad break up) that it took him 6 months to get over her. It's been almost 4 months since Wendy and I broke up. At first it was hard because we still hung out the first 2 months, but the last month wasn't so bad. I started going out again. I was hanging out with my brother. A lot of things were distracting me, including the big move (less than a week!) but this past week or so has just been so hard!

I'm not hoping to get back together with her or anything, remembering all of the good times together is making being single hard on me. I miss a lot of things.

I know what sparked this path down memory lane. I let me guard down.

Wendy and I were sending short messages back and forth on facebook. Recently the last few got a bit longer. Finally she sent me this:

"Would you maybe wanna grab a coffee or something after passover? I miss talking to you and I think it would be nice..but if you're not ready or uncomfortable with it, I totally understand..."

Yesterday when I was cleaning out my room didn't help either. I found a birthday card from her and even a piece of paper with her number on it. It must have been the first time I got it from her.

I'm actually terrified to see her anytime soon. I hope this is normal, but i don't feel ready yet. I wonder if she's over me yet either?

Actually as I sort of mentioned in the last post, I think I was using Victoria as a means to get over Wendy, but there wasn't even anything there (ex: I liked when she called, but Victoria would never actually talk to me so it wasn't really like when I used to talk to Wendy at all).

Anyways, the rest of this week will be really busy with moving and once I'm downtown I'll be so busy learning how to cook, do laundry and clean my room that I won't be thinking of Wendy or Victoria.

I know that once I'm settled in downtown, I'll be able to go out more an dhave much more interesting things to talk about then the same ol' crap I keep repeating.

No more excuses

One more week until I move out, hence the lack of posts. Also, once I move, I won't have a computer at first (thinking of giving this one to my parents and buying a new one) so it will be difficult to update regularly but I'll try to squeeze some in at work before I start my day.

Aside from that, right now I'm pretty tired and feeling kind of down. The weather outside sucks.
It's been super nice for more than a week and now it's raining like mad outside and it's cold and dreary.

On top of that I think my blooming friendship with Victoria has been cut short.

I was supposed to do something with her tonight and we played that phone tag thing again. I was the one who initiated that we hang out. However, she was supposed to go out and eat with a friend and I was with my parents having dinner in a restaurant. I was supposed to call her when I was done eating.

When I finished dinner I was exhausted. I decided I didn't feel like running back downtown to hang out with her. I called her up and she told me she hadn't even heard from her friend yet. So, in my head i thought she would cancel with me and all would be good since I didn't want to go out anymore. Instead, she didn't say anything so I stepped up and just said I was near my house and was going to go home. She sounded very annoyed and said something like "oh, ok then. Talk to you later". I told her i was sorry and that soon we'd get to do something because I'll be downtown. She didn't seem to care. I don't blame her since I've been saying that every time I canceled and according to her I canceled 5 times in a row. I could tell she just wanted to get off the phone with me and probably thinks I'm a jerk or something.

It's funny because:
-I'm not usually like this
-She barely knows me and now sees me as being this way
-Each time some thing just happened to come up that would make me cancel
-I know that if this kept happening to me I'd stop talking to the person also

So I feel bad.

I feel that all people are different (duh) and I know how I am. I have some attributes I could live without, one of them is caring how people think about me. I know most people could give a shit about what others think. I try to have that attitude but I've come to terms that deep down inside I like to please others and I hate it when I know others don't look at me in a positive way. Hence why I feel bad about how things ended up with Victoria. I could call her back and try to fix things but I have a feeling that will just make things worse. I guess it's best to let her before a week or two. Actually, I just realized that she's moving in 3 days and I'm not sure if her phone number will work anymore. Maybe it's best I just forget about her.

I hate to admit it but I have a feeling that deep down inside I was enjoying her phone calls because it was a nice step since not having Wendy call me anymore.

Speaking of which, I have a whole other post to go with that.

I don't understand this girl!

For the past 5 days I've been playing phone tag with Victoria.

She'd call me at a bad time, I'd call back and leave a message, she'd call me back and it'd be a bad time, etc. I don't even remember why I called her in the first place!

I called her Sunday night and left a message to ask for contract advice for the apartment I'm moving into. Monday morning, 9am, at work she calls me and says "Hey, you called?". I was at work so I made it short and told her I'd call her back. I did but she wasn't home, so I left a message to apologize if I was rude. 2 hours later my phone vibrates and i missed her call, I call back:

Me- "Hey sorry for missing your call"
Victoria- "It's ok, so I got your message." (No comment on my message, confusion on my end ensued...)
Me- "Which message are you referring to?"
Victoria- "You called me Yesterday"
Me- "Um, I spoke to you this morning..."
Victoria- "Oh you did?"
Me- "Yeah"

I can't remember why but she had to go. Note we still haven't actually had a real conversation yet.

Tuesday night she finally called me to do something (go to a BBQ) but I couldn't make it.

Today at work, she calls me again and totally sounded like a girlfriend with her "Heeyyyyyyy!" intro. Again I told her I was busy at work. Now she calls to ask if i need help with contract advice (which I had originally asked for on SUNDAY!).

After work I call her back. We talk briefly because she is with a friend.

Just now, at 11:30pm, my phone rings and it her again:

Me- "Hey"
Victoria- "Hey how's it going?"
Me- "Good, you?"
Victoria- "Did you call me?"
Me- "Um no? I spoke to you earlier..."
Victoria- "I spoke to you today?"
Me- "Yeah"

Now here is the point of the conversation where you'd expect her to be all "so what's new" and we actually start talking about ANYTHING!

No.

Victoria- "Oh, well sorry to bother you"
Me- "Are you okay? you seem to be confused a lot lately"
Victoria- "Yeah I'm fine, just been out lately and trying to call back those who keep calling me"
Me- "Oh ok...."
Me- " You know we've only hung out once and we're doing all this calling back and forth"
Victoria- "Oh. Lets do something tomorrow"
Me- "THis week is tough because of Passover, but soon"
Victoria- "Oh, ok. Well, sorry to bother you"
Me- "You're not bothering me!" (Meanwhile i"m thinking "TALK ABOUT SOMETHING!"

Then she said goodbye and hung up.

She calls me more than Wendy did and at least Wendy and I had conversations!

This girl is going to drive me crazy!

Date #2 - Psych

Yesterday I had my date with Psych.

Just like with my date with Sheira, I was running late. Fortunately, the weather was so beautiful, she didn't mind waiting outside an extra 15 minutes.

We agreed to meet at the University campus because she's a grad student there. I love being there in the summer because it's so nice and it let me reminisce my old days when I attended the University.

I approached the front gates and out from a pillar jumps out Psych.

Now just a note before I continue. I am not a shallow guy. I am not only attracted to hot models with big tits. I am more into personality than looks, but the small percentage that I reserve for looks is still an important factor for attraction.

That being said, upon first look at Psych, I'm sorry to say, I was not attracted.

It's always a gamble meeting people through the internet because photos can be misleading. Hers in particular. She had about 5 pictures online and looked different in each of them so I didn't know what to expect. In one photo, she did look cute with curly hair and freckles on her face.

So, to a minor extent, I was shocked to see that they were not freckles but in fact a huge case of acne. Aside from that I could see facial hair coming off the ends of her lips. She also had a huge scar on the side of her face.

However, I didn't run away. I stood my ground as a gentleman and ignored all these things to see if she was a nice person.

In fact after hanging out for a bit, the more I looked at her face, I began to notice that under the pimples, mustache hair and scar, she was quite pretty.

We walked and talked for a bit and headed to a coffee shop. We took our coffees to go and sat outside on some steps.

She came off as a very friendly, outgoing, bubbly person. I learned that she is originally from Toronto, has an older sister in London (England) and is traveling to Europe in the next week. She studies psychology and absolutely loves My City.

Maybe it's because I already established in my head that I was interested to start relations with this person, that I felt pretty comfortable the whole hour we hung out. I realized I did a lot of talking but again I think it was due to feeling comfortable (because I talk a lot in general) than being nervous.

If she were to give me a shout to hang out sometime, I think I'd consider hanging out but I can tell right now I'm just not attracted to her personality (and to lesser importance - looks) in that way.

Anyways, summer is coming and I'll be downtown and I'm sure I'll easily meet 8 other girls in the next couple of months.

My nerves will be the death of me

As dull as my weekend has been, it was quite nice and relaxing.
It's currently passover and I spent the whole weekend helping my folks around the house.

both Saturday and Sunday nights were the sedars (big meals), so I didn't get to go out at all this weekend.

One thing I was looking forward to was calling Psych.

She had asked me to call her this weekend since she'd be done her exams by then. So, this afternoon, I gave her a call.

No answer and her machine was full.

Just before supper time I remembered to try her again. I was going to wait until after supper but then decided I was just making excuses and bit the bullet and just called her.

She picked up and sounded confused at first until I told her who I was. She was with her friends enjoying the weather outside. I was jealous because I would have rather been downtown having fun then stuck at home for family dinner but soon enough I'll be on my own and have all the freedom in the world.

Anyways, back to the phone call, we had very short chit chat and then agreed to meet on Tuesday after work for coffee. I tried playing it cool on the phone but got as we were saying goodbye that she really wanted to get off the phone. She was with her friends so I guess that was why, but no matter what the reason, for no particular reason at all I just felt stupid.

I don't know why, but I get that way sometimes. Even when I was first dating Wendy, I remember I was talking to my real good buddy Spider Dude on the phone while lying on my floor freaking out from being so nervous around her. After I while I got really comfortable with her and the nervousness went away, but it's the fact that it stated after she already showed interest in me that bothered me most.

In any case, I know I have nothing to worry about now, because Psych obviously seems interested (to meet for coffee at least) because we already agreed on a time, otherwise she would have made some excuse.

I guess it may be the fact that I met Wendy almost the exact same way and am just adding extra pressure for no reason.

I've been feeling ansy the rest of the night. I know everything will be ok but it's like Dallas Green (of Alexisonfire and City and Color) sings: "My nerves will be the death of me!"

I promise to write how things go on Tuesday!

Key words

From time to time I have fun checking out my blog tracker. Basically it lets me know how many people are visiting this blog and how they got referred (i.e. from another blog, or they bookmarked me, etc.).

It also lists keywords used in a search resulting to finding my blog. I've gotten everything from "first kiss" to "started dating late" to (my favorite) "Bon Jovi".

One I just noticed now: "do late dating bloomers end up ok?"

Um... I hope so!

Up and up?

So this week has been interesting.

I've still been getting calls from Victoria. I've come to the conclusion she just likes to talk on the phone. She basically told how her week has been and gave me some advice on apartment hunting.

Speaking of which, I'm meeting up tomorrow with the person at that place I saw last week. She had called me the other day to tell me that the other new roomate is ok with giving me the big room and taking the small one!

I'm trying not to get too excited just yet since nothing is set in stone but there is a chance I may be moving out of my parents place really soon.

Also, on Sunday I got a call from Psych.

I was at a fabric shop getting something for work when my phone rang. She sounds pretty cute on the phone. She seems like a very structured person. She told me she would call me on one day to set up a meeting place for another day. Then she did call me and went straight to the point of making arrangements to meet, no dilly dalling. I threw in some chit chat and discovered she was sick and that she is Jewish.

I havn't decided if dating a non-Jew is a big issue for me or not (Wendy was Jewish), but her being Jewish is like a bonus.

She told me she's almost done exams and after that she's free to meet up. She told me to call her and gave me her cell number (she called from home). SO I punched her cel number in my phone and said goodbye. Unfortunately as I hung up, I accidentally deleted her number instead of saving it!

When I got home I e-mailed her and she got back to me later in a good mood saying that was probably something she would do and re-gave me her number. Glad to hear she's got a sense of humor. I'm going to cal her during the weekend.

Another thing I noticed, is I'm not afraid to do certain things anymore. Specifically, I decided to call Sheira tonight and I did it without hesitating or thinking it was a bad idea, etc. She didn't pick up and I got a machine. I totally missed the "beep" and left a blank message until the machine hung up on me. So I called back and left a real message, asking her if she was free and would like to watch the hockey game at a bar or something tomorrow night.

Man I'm all over the place lately...

Bummer weekend

Turns out Victoria may be crazy!

I called her up to see what she was up to. She told me that she got really drunk on Thursday. Apparently she had no recollection of calling me late that night at all, or the 10 other people she called, OR driving drunk!

She told me she couldn't find her car the next morning and that when she did find it down the street it was full of junk food so that could only mean she drove drunk (sounds like she had done this before...).

Also, her friends were looking for her and she had passed out in the hallway of her building for a while.

When I sounded concerned about her drunk driving shenanigans she seemed to sound offended, like I shouldn't lecture her because she wasn't aware of what she was doing so it makes it ok..

She then told me that she was going to hang out with her friends to watch the hockey game. On Thursday, she was pretty drunk and that was from hanging out with her not so close friends. This time it was to hang otu with her very close friends.

I made it sound like Body Builder and I would join them but we decided soon after I hung out it was probably a bad idea so we hung out at a friends place and watched it on TV instead at a noisy bar with drunk people.

I also found out, from another friend (who is one of the performers of the comedy troupe that I saw on Friday night) that prior to the show (which I mentioned to Victoria about but told me she wasn't coming to due to the fact she was off to a concert), she had called him to come over and hang out.

They had never hung out before and he has a girlfriend, so he was taken back a bit. My friends and I are still trying to figure out her motives.

In other news, I saw Sheira at the show on Friday night but didn't get a chance to talk to her much. Then after the show, we all usually hang out but she said she had to go call it an early night or something.

The girl stuff isn't bothering me that much (I'm just having fun with it anyways) but I am a bit sad because I finally made up my mind to take this apartment I had my eye on and when I went back to check it out, there was a confusion with which room I was interested in and the bigger room ended up being taken by someone else. I tried to convince my mom and myself that the smaller room would do just fine but with lack of closet it just seemed impossible.

To add to that, later that day, a friend of mine told me he knew someone looking for a room mate and it ended up being the same place!

So overall this weekend hasn't been as exciting as last weekend.

Hockey night

So tonight I hung out with Victoria.

She told me to meet her at a bar to watch the hockey game. I got there before her and when she showed up I discovered the large group next to me were in fact her friends.

We talked but mostly during commercials since she seems to be a huge hockey fan.

She made it her goal to get drunk and she kept saying how tipsy she was getting.

She started talking to some guys next to us and they gave her, her roommate and I free beer, so that was cool.

Victoria is definitely an outgoing social person. She kept saying stuff to her roommate like "See how funny Elwood is? He's awesome!", but not in a way that she loves me. More in a way that she's like that with everyone, which is fine by me. I'm just enjoying her company.


After the game I had to go home since I live far away from downtown.

On the way home, I missed my bus, waited 30 minutes for the next one and then started to fall asleep halfway home.

My phone rang and I was certain it was my mom looking for me (yes i still live with my parents), but it wasn't her.

It was Victoria.

The conversation was half half. I was happy she called me back, but she was drunk and it was hard to tell how much she was actually paying attention to what she or I said.

She did tell me that she was glad we hung out and that she wished I could stay out longer next time. She also blamed me for getting her drunk which was absolutely not true, so I neged her about it.

She's just a very friendly person, it seems, but regardless I think the more comfortable I become with women, even totally as friends, will help me when I am interested in someone.

Interesting...

I'm more than likely reading into this too much but tonight friends of mine are doing a show. It happens once a month and ussally the same mutual friends all show up and then we hang out after the show.

However, I just got a facebook message from my friend Persia telling me that her, Sheira and another friend of hers are going and was wondering if I'll be there too. (I met Sheira at Persia's party 2 weeks ago, and they work together).

I just found it interesting because as much as Persia and I are friends, she's never really called me to do anything, usually I'll just see her at a mutual event. My two thoughts are either:

1. Since we've been hanging out a lot lately and i"m planning on moving downtown, she's inviting me to let me in her closer group of friends, or

2. Sheira wanted to know if I was coming.

It's most likely 1. but still it's exciting.

Also, I was thinking of inviting Victoria to the show. I'm not really trying to pursue either person, just having fun, but I'm wondering if it's wise to be hangin gout with two girls who all of a sudden are giving me attention.

I am seeing Victoria tonight to watch the hockey game so I'll see how things go with that before I worry about tomorrow.

Date #1 - Sheira

I wish I would post more often but I've just been so busy lately! Please, my fellow readers, don't lose interest!

Actually I just realized that the other day when I met up with Sheira could actually be considered DATE #1 (of the 10 dates, each with 10 different girls, that I'm trying to do).

I was running 10 minutes late.

I showed up at the coffee place and she was happy to see me. She wanted to get something to eat instead of coffee. Since I had the car, I had the opportunity to take her somewhere out of the area she lives in.

We ended up going for pizza at this place I like.

Either she really didn't like me or is the most sarcastic person I have ever met. I'm pretty sure it's the latter but it took me a while to figure out.

For example, in the car she started telling me something about how she is Italian and pissed that because of some laws preventing her from getting an Italian dual citizenship because of where her Grandparents were from or something. I was listening but I"m not the best driver in the world and I had to cut her off so I could concentrate on driving. I did it in a non-rude way and she was all "Fine then! Nevermind!" but she was smiling.

Then in the restaurant she was complaining how the menu was so vast and wanted pizza with pepperoni. So I pointed an item to her and she snapped "I'm going down the list ok! Don't screw me up!". Again she was smiling though.

It was a bit overwhelming.

I tried doing the same to her. Not sure if it worked.

I can't remember how it came up or who brought it up but I ended up mentioning a bit about how I dated someone and why we broke up, etc., so I asked Sheira to tell me a story.

She decided to share two. Basically she has been in 2 big relationships. The first one was a big open thing that last over a year.

The second one was not an open thing but they started to not get along or something. I can't remember.

She seems like a big party girl and is someone always surrounded by tons of guys.

Not really my type.

After dinner, I dropped her off and she saoi to call her sometime to do something.

So... I guess she had some fun.

Oh! Two highlights of the date:
1. While driving, my mom called me and I got Sheira to pick up. My mom was so confused and wanted to tell me something so she told Sheira and Sheira told me. So awkward.

2. While talking about religion, Sheira mentioned how she's not really observant anymore, but her sister practices catholicism and plans to lose her virginity once married. Then Sheira says "Like my sister is going to find a virgin. Pshah!"

Little does Sheira know that I'm a virgin.

I may call her again. Got nothing to lose.

Meanwhile, I called Victoria today and she was happy to hear from me. I think she wanted to get together. Unfortunately I had hockey tonight. So, I asked her about tomorrow and she said she's going to go watch the hockey game at a bar but that I could join her and her friends. So, that was cool.

Also, I may get to date #2 really soon. I've been messaging someone back and forth through this online dating site I use. I'll call her Psych since she's a psychologist.

Psych sounds really cool. She likes things like the Simpsons, candy and tobogganing. She seems like a really busy person between school and working at some health clinic treating people with eating disorders.

It's hard to tell by her picture if she's really cute or not. I"m not saying I am only attracted to gorgeous women but I need an attracting of some sort for it to work. The worst thing about online things is people post pictures to show hat they look like but most of the time they look different in all of their photos!

After not hearing from her for a week (3rd e-mail I sent her back and forth) she got back saying she was with friends from out of town and then busy with work and that she wanted to get together sometime soon.

I wrote back and gave her my cel number and she replied saying she's call me this weekend to arrange plans for getting together next week.

So organized.

I'll keep up you all updated on what happens with everyone!

LIving the old days

When I was in University, because I knew a lot of people, I'd have multiple parties to attend in one night. Being, the social person I am, I felt it was obligation to go to every party.

Tonight brought me back to my younger years (a.k.a 3-5 years ago) because I had three parties to go to.

So my evening started with me meeting a potential roomate to live with since I'm planning on moving downtown.

He seemed like a really cool guy but I'm afraid to commit since he's not in a stable job and he has no furnisher.

While having coffee with him, I received a call from Victoria.

Basically, I get together with a bunch or people and we play fun games to laugh at each other (it's not exactly like that but I am writing an anonymous blog and I can't give too much away about my real life). Anyways, I met Victoria at one of the workshops about a month ago.

So when I met Victoria, out of just chatting, I ended up giving her my business card. A few days later she calls me up and wants to go for coffee. I happened to have been at a party and I invited her. She came and liked it.

A week later I called her to see if she was free to hang. She wasn't but i saw her at Workshop again.

Another week passed by and then it was tonight. She had called me. Unfortunately I was with the potential roomate so I had to let her go and said I"ll call her back in 10 minutes, which I did. No answer, so I left a message.

After saying my goodbyes to Potential Roomate, I headed ot party number 1 which was at an Irish Pub.

It was the birthday celebration of someone I met while at a job seminar. While finishing up dinner, I get a call from Victoria (like 3 hours after i had left a message). She apologized for not calling me back sooner but something came up and she had to leave her apartment (she doesn't have a mobile phone, just a lan line). After chatting for a few minutes, something came up and she had to go and said she'd call me back later.

I then finished up and headed to party number 2.

This was a friend from University's birthday celebration at his apartment.

I was having a nice chill time at his place and then I get another call from Victoria.

She couldn't believe that I was at yet another party.

Out of pure coincidence, it seems that she always calls me when I"m at a party, giving her the impression I'm this huge social party person. The funny thing being that in University I was but since a lot of my friends moved away and then I met Wendy, I didn't go out as much.

She didn't want to be rude so she was going to go, but I told her it was chill party and i had time to talk.

We talked for like 30 minutes. I may be completely wrong, but I think she may like me. Our conversation was fun but so weird. She was telling me how she had to study and how she felt rude talking to me on the phone while i was at a party but yet I kept making her laugh and she kept staying on the phone. Then she made a remark about how when she always talks to me we end up on the phone all night.

I was utterly confused since I had only talked to her on the phone maybe twice and it wasn't really about anything more than trying to make plans.

She then told me that she's busy with exams and can't go out until after April 18th, unless it's for a 15 minute type deal, stressing she won't go out to any parties with me (like I"m some party freak - which I'm not!). However, while winding down on the phone and about to hang up she says "Call me for coffee sometime soon" so I asked if she meant after April 18th and she said no.

I guess she wants me to call her...?

So that was kind of cool and weird.

To make things even weirder, I ended up at party number 3 which was Leigh's birthday celebration.

It was TONS of fun. We went to this cool bar that played all this old 60s and 70s retro music (most places don't play that old kind of stuff).

While there I saw so many hot chicks, and for the first time, instead of trying to be suave and try and approach them, I took a tip from The Game and just tried ignoring them as much as possible.

Nothing happened, but I didn't care! I was having too much fun!

That place was even the spot Wendy and I first made out, and you know what? It didnt' bother me one bit.

I then ended up getting a text message from Potential Roomate. He happened to be downstairs (the place had 2 floors) for his friend's birthday party.

So headed down to party number 4!

While there I realized recognized a lot of people since they were all at my friend's party from last weekend.

That's when i noticed that Sheira was there as well.

Not being drunk and seeing that she was smashed, I tried to avoid her the whole night.

Finally at last call, as I walked out of the bathroom, she spotted me, poked me, smiled and said "I'll see you tomorrow at 3!" since we're supposed to meet for coffee. Then she ran off drunkly.

I"m not counting on her showing up because after the bar closed (at 3am) her and the rest of the group were heading to some guys apartment for an after party.

It looked like she was all over a bunch of guys.

I was never expecting anything, but now I have a feeling for sure that i"m just an after thought.

No worries. I'm sure it'll be fun tomorrow. As long as I don't feel shitty.

Crap it's 4:11am and I got lots to do tomorrow!

Goodnight all!

7 day planner

It's official, I'm meeting Sheira for coffee on Sunday.

That was the most painstakingly draggy experience I ever had to get a date.

It goes by almost all logic to the book I'm reading about Pick Up Artists. Their theory is that the girl should do all the work, that the guy shouldn't seem so eager and needy.

However, Sheira made me do all the work: I had to ask her. I had to pick a day. I had to pick a better day for her.

In the end, instead of continuing to ask her if this time o r place was ok, I just told her "We're meeting there and this time!"

I think she liked that I took assertive action.

Now that I have the date, I'm sweating bullets.

I have to tell myself that it's just two people meeting together and having coffee. There is nothing more to that. I don't mean to put myself down but she just seems like someone who wouldn't date someone like me.

She was a bit drunk at the party and I happen to be on top of my game that night, but on Sunday she'll be sober and I'll be showing her the real me.

Don't get me wrong, I like who I am, it's just she may not like the real me as much of who she though I was last weekend.

Either way I'm sure I'll be fine and it'll go fine.

In the meantime I got 3 parties to go to tomorrow night. Three!

I'm glad to see I"m back to my pre-Wendy days when every weekend was an adventure.

Entering the game

Yesterday I met with Leigh briefly so she could lend me a book called The Game - Penetrating the secret society of pickup artists by Neil Strauss.

It's a book about Pick Up Artists - people who follow certain "rules" and use "tricks" to pick up all kinds of women (mostly beautiful). It's not a How to guide, but more of a documentation on how the author (famous for the biographies of Motley Crue, Dave Navarro, Marilyn Manson and Jenna Jameson) trained to become a pick up artist himself. It does, however, list terms and give details on the things he learned and how they work.

Although I am currently in the middle of a fantasy book, as much as I want to read about the adventures of a drow elf and his friends, I'm going to put it aside now to immerse myself in learning about negging, IOI's and other such things. Sorry Drizz't Duorden, but a guy's got to learn. Haha.

I havn't been able to put the book down since yesterday. I'm already 1/4 through it. I'm not planning on becoming a professional pick up artist or hoping to use the skills to get laid but there are a lot of useful tips that I can at least consider to help in my confidence to meet people. I'll see if I ever have the guts to use some of these skills.

If i do, I promise to write about it here.

On a side note, I did end up adding Sheira on my facebook list and messaged her about coffee. She still insists on treating me and wants to meet this week. Unfortunately she's only available really late during the week (which is tough for me living for from the city) or Sunday. I told her Sunday was good but have yet to hear a confirmation.

I'll admit I'm kind of excited that I met a cute girl at a party and she actually wants to go for coffee but I'm not really looking for anything. If anything, at least I'll know someone new to hang out with once I move downtown this summer.