About 2 weeks ago I received a Facebook chat message from New Years Eve Girl.
We spoke for a bit and patched things up about how awkward it was her last night in town. She even invited me to visit whenever I wanted.
I thought about it a lot and decided I wanted to go. I hadn't been traveling on my own in a long time plus I have other friends and even family I could see in her city.
She was cool having me come and I'm visiting her this weekend.
After I settled things with my train ticket I got a little nervous and was afraid I hadn't thought it through enough.
First was the fact I realized I barely know her and I'll be staying with her. Then I discovered both the friend I was hoping to meet up with and my aunt and uncle are out of town that weekend, so I have no one else to visit but NYE girl. Which is fine but if she turns out crazy I'm on my own.
Then there's this underlying notion of 'us'. I admit at first I was a bit excited on how this could be a booty call but kept on mind it might not. Well when we were making arrangements, She kept hinting I'm coming as a friend. So to avoid awkwardness when I arrive, I brought it up and in the open. She said we will be friends who cuddle. However I'm sleeping in her bed with her because the couch is too small (according to her).
Weve been chatting online every night this week since I bought my ticket and she sounds pretty stressed. I want to have a stress free weekend ago in making sure to be laid back and just go with the flow.
More to come on my trip.
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Friday, January 27, 2012
Oops!
Name: Curly Sue (she had really curly hair in her profile pic
First contact: Just before Christmas
How'd we meet: Ok Cupid!.
The situation:
She contacted me online and we exchanged several e-mails over a couple of weeks. I asked her for coffee. She said she was on her way to Florida but u could call when she returned.
Finally when I called, it felt awkward on the phone. We arranged to potentially meet over the weekend.
The dealbreaker: I forgot to call her
I had a real busy weekend and only remembered Sunday night I was supposed to call. I did anyways but got her voice mail.
I left a message with an apology and asked for a rain check.
No response since. I don't blame her. Ha ha.
First contact: Just before Christmas
How'd we meet: Ok Cupid!.
The situation:
She contacted me online and we exchanged several e-mails over a couple of weeks. I asked her for coffee. She said she was on her way to Florida but u could call when she returned.
Finally when I called, it felt awkward on the phone. We arranged to potentially meet over the weekend.
The dealbreaker: I forgot to call her
I had a real busy weekend and only remembered Sunday night I was supposed to call. I did anyways but got her voice mail.
I left a message with an apology and asked for a rain check.
No response since. I don't blame her. Ha ha.
Monday, January 23, 2012
Avoiding the awkward
b>Name: The Other NYE Girl (ONYEG)
First contact: originally met on new years eve. Grabbed a beer 3 weeks later
How'd we meet: NYE Dance party.
The situation:
My friends brought to my attention that there was another girl that looked totally into me and it seemed like we were hitting it off. Also, due to the fact that she lives in my city, I tracked her down on Facebook. I had help from a mutual friend, who encouraged me, so it's not stalking (right?).
The dealbreaker: none (so far)
First off I didn't realize how pretty she was, which made it hard for me to stop thinking it was a "date".
I know we met at a party and then arranged to have a beer but it doesn't mean insta-relationship
This is also a reason I get nervous. I feel I don't know how to act and I know the typical "be yourself". But what happens when "being yourself" IS being a nervous guy? As a performer you'd think I could be anyone I want to be, but nope, I just talk a lot and act nervous.
However, she was the one keeping it cool. It felt like she could tell I was nervous and made an effort to keep things going rather then feel awkward and want to leave.
For instance, a couple of times we ended up talking about stuff that was leading into an awkward direction and she changed the subject to something more fun to talk about. But totally in a smooth way without any feeling of "Oh god this is terrible".
At the end of the night, it was her who said she shed like to get together again sometime for a beer.
She could have just said that but it was nice doe once to hear the other person say it than me all the time.
First contact: originally met on new years eve. Grabbed a beer 3 weeks later
How'd we meet: NYE Dance party.
The situation:
My friends brought to my attention that there was another girl that looked totally into me and it seemed like we were hitting it off. Also, due to the fact that she lives in my city, I tracked her down on Facebook. I had help from a mutual friend, who encouraged me, so it's not stalking (right?).
The dealbreaker: none (so far)
First off I didn't realize how pretty she was, which made it hard for me to stop thinking it was a "date".
I know we met at a party and then arranged to have a beer but it doesn't mean insta-relationship
This is also a reason I get nervous. I feel I don't know how to act and I know the typical "be yourself". But what happens when "being yourself" IS being a nervous guy? As a performer you'd think I could be anyone I want to be, but nope, I just talk a lot and act nervous.
However, she was the one keeping it cool. It felt like she could tell I was nervous and made an effort to keep things going rather then feel awkward and want to leave.
For instance, a couple of times we ended up talking about stuff that was leading into an awkward direction and she changed the subject to something more fun to talk about. But totally in a smooth way without any feeling of "Oh god this is terrible".
At the end of the night, it was her who said she shed like to get together again sometime for a beer.
She could have just said that but it was nice doe once to hear the other person say it than me all the time.
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
Fake date
b>Name: Undercover Aussie
First contact: , february 17, 2011
How'd we meet: OK Cupid
Her Whole profile was actually the lyrics to the song "asshole" by Dennis Leary cut up to be answers to each section. Plus her 1 picture was very cute.
The situation:
We wrote back and forth several times, getting to know each other. The messages starts getting longer and longer do I asked her to meet up for a drink.
The dealbreaker: she lied about who she was.
I've done the online thing for 6 years now and met tons of people - some cool, some crazy. Ive always approached it with caution but never had I met anyone who'd lied so blatantly as Undercover Aussie.
After asking her out for drinks she relied she'd love to but was in Melbourne, australia. At first I was excited because I had live in Australia for a year and loved if there. But then more truths came out.
I thought she had just moved there for whatever reason. Turned out she was FROM there and lied about her location because she had lived in My City, wanted to come back sometime in the future (no date planned) and thought she could make friends online before her return.
A bit odd way to do it but I wasn't completely thrown off until she admitted her ENTIRE profile was a lie. She wasn't 24 she was 32 and her picture was a fake also. I asked why the fake picture and she said its because it looked more Canadian! Plus the real Undercover Aussie wasn't even pretty. Obviously this person had self image problems.
I told her I was disappointed to be deceived like that and she felt bad do she disabled the fake account. Good riddance!
First contact: , february 17, 2011
How'd we meet: OK Cupid
Her Whole profile was actually the lyrics to the song "asshole" by Dennis Leary cut up to be answers to each section. Plus her 1 picture was very cute.
The situation:
We wrote back and forth several times, getting to know each other. The messages starts getting longer and longer do I asked her to meet up for a drink.
The dealbreaker: she lied about who she was.
I've done the online thing for 6 years now and met tons of people - some cool, some crazy. Ive always approached it with caution but never had I met anyone who'd lied so blatantly as Undercover Aussie.
After asking her out for drinks she relied she'd love to but was in Melbourne, australia. At first I was excited because I had live in Australia for a year and loved if there. But then more truths came out.
I thought she had just moved there for whatever reason. Turned out she was FROM there and lied about her location because she had lived in My City, wanted to come back sometime in the future (no date planned) and thought she could make friends online before her return.
A bit odd way to do it but I wasn't completely thrown off until she admitted her ENTIRE profile was a lie. She wasn't 24 she was 32 and her picture was a fake also. I asked why the fake picture and she said its because it looked more Canadian! Plus the real Undercover Aussie wasn't even pretty. Obviously this person had self image problems.
I told her I was disappointed to be deceived like that and she felt bad do she disabled the fake account. Good riddance!
Monday, January 16, 2012
New friends
Name: Kitten
First contact: Sometime in middle of December, 2011
How'd we meet: OK Cupid
I found her profile online. She looked cute and also looked familiar, so I sent her a message.
The situation:
Turned out we had seen each other in real life. I'd seen here at a theater I'd frequented and we had mutual friends. I'd never spoken to her though and knew little about Kitten.
So we chatted a bit online and exchanges a few e-mails.
The dealbreaker: not interested
Totally on her part. After a couple of weeks getting to know each other online, she admitted Internet dating freaked her out. Had nothing to do with me but she also had no interest in me romantically.
She comes to the theater on a regular basis now and we've become friends.
She's a good person and I wish the best for her.
First contact: Sometime in middle of December, 2011
How'd we meet: OK Cupid
I found her profile online. She looked cute and also looked familiar, so I sent her a message.
The situation:
Turned out we had seen each other in real life. I'd seen here at a theater I'd frequented and we had mutual friends. I'd never spoken to her though and knew little about Kitten.
So we chatted a bit online and exchanges a few e-mails.
The dealbreaker: not interested
Totally on her part. After a couple of weeks getting to know each other online, she admitted Internet dating freaked her out. Had nothing to do with me but she also had no interest in me romantically.
She comes to the theater on a regular basis now and we've become friends.
She's a good person and I wish the best for her.
Friday, January 13, 2012
My beliefs vs your brliefs
b>Name: Messiah
First contact: Sometime in beginning of December, 2011
How'd we meet: OK Cupid
I found her profile online, read it and thought she was interesting and cute. E-mailed her but no answer until 1 month later.
The situation:
After a couple of back and forth emails we met up for dinner. All you can eat sushi.
It was pretty relaxed because the pretext of out encounter was that Messiah is just new to town and looking to make friends. She's definitely interesting because she's travelled the world and seen many things.
The dealbreaker: religion.
During our dinner the topic of religion came up.
Turns out she believes in a strain of Judaism that isn't common (her religion believes Jesus is the messiah and remained Jewish).
I don't like to judge people and if that's what she believes, great. She sounded very passionate about it.
It's just her beliefs really clash with mine. I wouldn't say to the point I can't hang out with her but definitely nothing romantic.
Maybe I am judging but I just didn't get the best vibe.
First contact: Sometime in beginning of December, 2011
How'd we meet: OK Cupid
I found her profile online, read it and thought she was interesting and cute. E-mailed her but no answer until 1 month later.
The situation:
After a couple of back and forth emails we met up for dinner. All you can eat sushi.
It was pretty relaxed because the pretext of out encounter was that Messiah is just new to town and looking to make friends. She's definitely interesting because she's travelled the world and seen many things.
The dealbreaker: religion.
During our dinner the topic of religion came up.
Turns out she believes in a strain of Judaism that isn't common (her religion believes Jesus is the messiah and remained Jewish).
I don't like to judge people and if that's what she believes, great. She sounded very passionate about it.
It's just her beliefs really clash with mine. I wouldn't say to the point I can't hang out with her but definitely nothing romantic.
Maybe I am judging but I just didn't get the best vibe.
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
Bad Timing
Here's my first attempt at recapping my dates. As mentioned in my previous post, a majority are people I met online. This makes it easier for me to remember the person and when we met. I mainly stick to 2 sites, Plentyoffish and OK Cupid! Unfortunately, POF erases messages after a while so I'll have to go by memory of the encounters from there.
So here goes :)
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Name: Gigi
First contact: Dec 9th, 2010
How'd we meet: OK Cupid/A party
The situation: I received a message from Gigi on OK Cupid. She said she read my profile and just had to contact me. She looked familiar to me and then I realized...
The dealbreaker:
...That I had met her at a party a week earlier. A party I was invited to by Cute Jew 2 (you can read all about her and why she stopped talking to me, here ). Cute Jew 2 and I had just started to date and this party was full of girls, all her friends. I knew no one. I remember eyeing Gigi a bit at the party.
The other thing that was a real deal breaker, even had I not been with Cute Jew 2 at the time, was the fact she had picked a terrible picture for her profile. She looked pale like a vampire and her hair looked wet and flat. In real life I knew she was much prettier.
So yeah we actually never met. Then things went sour real quick with Cute Jew 2, which started my drought of dates until about June.
So here goes :)
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Name: Gigi
First contact: Dec 9th, 2010
How'd we meet: OK Cupid/A party
The situation: I received a message from Gigi on OK Cupid. She said she read my profile and just had to contact me. She looked familiar to me and then I realized...
The dealbreaker:
...That I had met her at a party a week earlier. A party I was invited to by Cute Jew 2 (you can read all about her and why she stopped talking to me, here ). Cute Jew 2 and I had just started to date and this party was full of girls, all her friends. I knew no one. I remember eyeing Gigi a bit at the party.
The other thing that was a real deal breaker, even had I not been with Cute Jew 2 at the time, was the fact she had picked a terrible picture for her profile. She looked pale like a vampire and her hair looked wet and flat. In real life I knew she was much prettier.
So yeah we actually never met. Then things went sour real quick with Cute Jew 2, which started my drought of dates until about June.
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