What's the point of excitment if it's taken away?

My day started with a pleasant surprise.

When I arrived at work, I checked my e-mail to see that I received a message on Facebook from Catch22, sent from last night. Basically it was just her asking me how my trip was and telling me about her Christmas.

Then she says:
So yes, I'm back in town just in time for my New Year's Eve plans to totally fall through. Bugger!
Anyway I think I'll hit the harbor for some skating tomorrow evening and then possibly this party at a bar. If you're free it would be great to have company. Otherwise let me know when you're up for that coffee...

So, I"m sure you can guess that I was pretty happy to read this.

I already made last minute plans last night so I wasn't sure what to write but I had to get my work started so I decided to think about it while I worked.

I only had to work half the day, packing boxes with my co-worker (almost everyone is on vacation). When we were done I decided that I'd let her know about the party I am going to and see what she says about that. However when I opened my e-mail, I had received a second message.

This one not sounding as good:
Hey, turns out I'm going to skip town tonight - my family is celebrating in Small Town Outside Of The City (4 hours), so I'm catching a train this morning!
Catch ya later,
Catch22

That was sent during the middle of my shift.

I highly doubt that had I gotten back to her sooner, she would have ditched her family to hang out with me, but I'm wondering if I had missed my chance.

In any case, I wrote back to her saying that I was going to invite her to the party I am going to and that it's too bad that she's going to be out of town. I also left her my phone number , saying that she should give me a call when she gets back and we can go for coffee.

Now the ball is in her court.

In the end it's probably better that we're not meeting up since I still feel pretty sick. My throat isn't sore anymore but my nose is still stuffy, and my chest is starting to hurt.

I probably shouldn't even go out tonight but I would rather be out and sick then home all alone and lonely (RM1 and RM2 are out of town). So, I'm going to take a nice nap now, wake up, eat a good hardy meal, get all dressed up (I'm wearing a suit tonight!) and then head over to the party with my newly purchased bottle of Bailey's and a litre of milk and see how the night goes!

Happy New Years everyone!

Back from Dominican Republic

Monday morning at 1am I arrived back in My City from the resort I stayed in at the Dominican Republic.

My trip was great and I plan on documenting each day on here.

Unfortunately, on the plane ride home I acquired a cold and today was pretty hellish. I have tons of work to do and I felt really achy and tired and sluggish.

I'm really disappointed because it kind of killed the wave of relaxation I got from being away.

I really hope I can get rid of this cold fast because New Years Eve is approaching and no one will want to kiss a guy with a runny nose.

In any case I have as yet to make plans. One thing is for sure, I know what I don't want to do on New Years Eve this year, and that is breaking up with someone.

Depending on how i feel I may not get to post my Dominican trip until after after New Years. Don't' worry though, it's full of girls, partying, karaoke, underage girls, beach volleyball, Micheal Jackson, and yes, even boobies.

The response

The day after I wrote my last post, I received a message from Catch22 on facebook:

Hey,

Saturday was a good party wasn't it?

My week was fine. <>.

Unfortunately I have plans pretty much every night this week. Coffee in the new year perhaps? Drop me a line when you're back in town and in the meanwhile enjoy Catcher in the Rye.

Hope your Sunday was great and lazy too, Catch22.

Sounds good enough I guess. It would have been nice to have hung out with her now but with the holidays and everything, I understand. Plus it'll give me a chance to see what else is out there and if we manage ot get back in touch after the holidays, then great. If not no harm done.

In any case I wrote back to her saying it's all good and then yesterday she wrote back again commenting very briefly (1 line) on a book I told her that I recently bought and wished me a happy holiday.

I then wrote back a much longer response chatting up on the book and stuff. I'm not sure if that was really necessary to do but at I figured maybe this will keep a "chat" going online while she's away. Although, at the rate she gets back to me (about 5-7 days between messages) it may take a long time to get to know her through this method.

All in all I'm not worried because I realized recently that I have met a whole bunch of new women that I've chatted with and even though I may not have had any interested in them (or vice versa) at least it's helping me get more comfortable with the female species, haha.

Besides, in 4 days I'll be in the DOMINICAN REPUBLIC! I'll be gone for 7 days.
I'm super busy at work and have a lo of packing and preparing for the trip between now and Sunday so I may not have a chance to post again until I get back.

I hope to have lots of crazy stories to blog about when I return.

So to all my reader, HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

I was wrong, you were right...

As the great Adam Sandler says it in Happy Gilmore:

"I'm stupid, you're smart; I was wrong, you were right; you're the best, I'm the worse; You're very good looking, I'm not attractive; "

You told me to be patient and to not write it off yet.
Today my friend Slymm called me. He was the one who invited me to the party to begin with. He was also curious as to what happened that night. He wanted to know if I got catch22's number.

I told him the whole sorry and he even told me not to worry about it and it doesn't mean anything yet.

Well, after hanging up and arriving home (he called while i was in my parents car on my way home), I go into my room, turn on my computer, check facebook and low and behold:

Catch22 accepted your friend request.

I waited a while contemplating what to write. I even sent Slymm a message on MSN about it. He called me back later and was really happy to hear it.

I'm trying really hard not to make a repeat of this situation. Basically, nothing has even happened yet and already several people are rooting for me. Slymm was telling me how he "really saw something" from Catch22 and I chatting at the party. He went on and on.

That's great but lets give this a little time, some breathing space.

I told him how I had this plan on inviting her to my show tomorrow night (I perform comedy one a week at a theatre). He said that it wasn't a good idea. That it defeats the purpose of being alone with her and getting to know her. He has a good point. He told me I'll have a chance to let her see me in action in the future, if all goes well.


Well after avoiding it all day, I finally sent Catch22 a message on Facebook:

Hi Catch22,
It was fun hanging out with you and Laura last Saturday.
I am no longer a Greasey Spoon Restaurant virgin.

Hope you had a good week. Mine wasn't bad. I finished my book and now I want to read Catcher In The Rye sometime soon.

Was wondering if you'd like to go for coffee or something sometime next week? Monday perhaps?

Have a great lazy Sunday,
Elwood


Now all I can do is wait.

Oh Well...

So I think it's safe to say I won't be hearing from Catch22.

Now I know some of you may be thinking "Don't sound so eager, it's only been 4 days", well that's what my room mate said to me. However, in this day and age everyone uses facebook and as soon as they get a friend request they add them. Heck I sometimes add people I don't even know by accident.

If she had added me and then given me the opportunity to ask her out and then not replied that would make more sense. Not adding me at all must mean one of the following:

1. I sent the add to the wrong person - I double checked and no, I sent it to the write Catch22.

2. She liked talking to me but really feels she's not ready to meet new guys

3. She met someone else at the party and they hit it off first -Maybe that gorgeous blond is bisexual.

4. Once I left the cab, the car got abducted by aliens and that is why she hasn't been able to check facebook.


Whatever. I had fun at the party either way and I'm sure I'll meet more people at more parties!

Things Mom's Shouldn't Say to Sons

I was in the car with my mom the other day. She was driving me home after coming over for dinner.

We were discussing how my dad is getting at that age where he shouldn't be driving anymore (he's in his mid 70's):

Me: Mom, Dad has to stop driving. It's dangerous.

Mom: "I know but who's going to drive him around? Me? I hate driving him around. He always comes up with a reason to stop somewhere 'I need to go to the bank', 'I need to pick up my pills at the pharmacy'"

Me: To go pick up Viagara right? (please see this post).

Mom: No! It doesn't work!


My own fault for trying to be funny.

Last Night Was Interesting A.K.A I Worry Too Much

Last night friend of mine invited me out to his friend's birthday party. I had had a long day of Christmas shopping and after a short nap, ended up bowling with RM1 and her friends. Afterwards, I called up my buddy and he told me the address to the party.

The party was quite fun. I saw a bunch of people I hadn't seen in a very long time, including the birthday girl.

At the party, I ended up chatting with a bunch of people I have never met. Among them were two girls, lets call them Concert Girl and Catch 22. Concert girl talked to me about a lot of shows she went to. Catch 22 talked to me about a lot of books she read and enjoyed, including Catch 22. Both of them were friends from a long time ago, lost touch and reconnected in grad school at My University in My City.

I'll be quite honest but I thought Catch 22 to be quite cute. She was tall, thin, nerdy looking with glasses, had interesting things to say and seemed interested in what I had to say.

We ended up chatting for a while but I had ran out of beer, so I went to get another bottle. From experience, as much as I wanted to talk to her all night, I didn't feel it necessary to hover around her all night, so I took the opportunity of getting a beer and moved around the party.

I realized I was taking a chance because shortly after another guy was chatting with her. However, I didn't go to the party in hopes of finding a girlfriend. I went to go and have a good time. So that's what I tried to do.

After chatting with a bunch of other different people, a few more beers and even a couple of shots of vodka and fisherman's friends (don't' ask), I ended up talking to Catch 22 and Concert Girl again.

Out of the blue they kind of moved back a few steps and started talking to themselves in a sort of whisper. I can't remember exactly what they were saying because a) I was a bit drunk and b) I was trying not to eavesdrop.

From what I gathered, one of them was asking the other one if it was too soon to start meeting other guys or was it ok to hit on guys at the party or something. Now I probably shouldn't have opened my mouth, but I did, and I can't remember what I said but after prying just a little (with a curious air, not trying to be rude), I found out that Catch 22 had been in a relationship that had ended a few months ago.

Now here's the interesting thing. Concert Girl didn't hover over her like a protective mother. She actually walked away to do something or talk to someone else, and let Catch 22 fill me in with a bit of her relationship history.

Basically, I found out, that Catch 22 dated a guy for about 8 months but he moved away and either he, or she didn't want to continue the relationship as a long distance thing. I think it was her decision (at least I hope it was).

Now most guys who go to a party and see a girl they think they would be interested in, would most likely chat them up about anything and then eventually try to get their number (or now a days facebook contact) and further more try to get into their pants.

Me, on the other hand, ended up talking to her about her situation and gave a helping-hand kind of advice.

I don't know if that was a god or bad thing. I didn't' get to personal, and just gave her a little example of how I know from second hand experiences that long distance relationships are tough and completely different from normal every day to day relationships. However, I may have been trudging already too close to the friends zone.

Later on in the night, I'm once talking to Concert Girl and Catch 22 (after moving around, again not trying to latch onto just them) this dude joined us. I will admit I started to worry a bit. He was this fit, good looking blond guy. He had a french Parisian accent and both the girls seemed interested in hearing his every move.

I'm embarrassed to say I felt a tad threatened. I kept thinking that maybe he was the guy that catch 22 had mentioned to Concert Girl if it was to soon or not to flirt with (again I have no real proof if that was ever said or I made that up in my tipsy state in my head).

In any case, I tried not to let that bother me. However, about 20 minutes later, I noticed the hot french blond making out with another guy just over Catch 22's shoulder.

I'll admit I laughed out loud when I saw that.

As the party started to fizzle out, I ended up asking Concert Girl and catch 22 how they were getting home. They said they were walking and we had discovered that although we all lived in 3 different parts of My City, we were all along the same way for at least half of the walk.

All 3 of us left together with a much needed stop at a local grease spoon for some french fries.

While waiting outside in the line to get in (this place is really popular) Catch 22 said she wish she had brought a hat because she was super cold. I immediately took off my hat and placed it on her head. To my surprise, she didn't freak out and instead wore my hat the whole time ate in the restaurant.

After eating, we decided to cab instead of walk.

Since I realized the night was about to end, I kept thinking in my head what to say when we have to depart. However, I soon realized that we were at a red light and this was where I needed to get out. So I got my hat back (Catch 22 was still wearing it) and simply said something along the lines "Lets have sex sometime"

Just kidding.

What I really said was "It was nice meeting you. Have a good night".

I felt that I didn't have time to ask for any contact info and I also wasn't sure h0w to do it.

Well tonight I decided to search for her name on facebook. I overheard her telling the gay guy her last name so he could ad her on facebook and then she decided to tell me how her name is spelt differently from the obvious way you'd it would be spelled, so that made it easy.

I simply added her as a friend and left a message saying "It was nice meeting you last night. I'm glad I remembered taking back my hat because it was cold tonight!". Short and sweet I thought.

Now if she adds me as a friend, I have no idea what to do next.

Again I'm in worry mode:
-What if she isn't' over her ex-boyfriend?
-She's not Jewish, How do I feel about this?
-Did she like me?
-It's Christmas soon and she'll be busy with her family, she has no time for me.
-etc. etc.

Why can't I just be smooth like most guys and take it all with a grain of salt?

Filling the gap

So what has Elwood been up since late October? Did he get hurt? Did he fall in love? Has he been out on the adventure of his life? Did he lose his virginity? Did he discover he had super powers?

Well to be honest, nothing much has happened since October 19th.

To try and keep things interesting I'll fill in teh gaps over several posts.

Halloween

By mid october I was spending countless hours on my halloween costume. It took me several weeks, and lots of carboard and tape to complete. It turned out great! I'd say what it is but it would totally give me away and I don't want to take any chances (it's on youtube!).

I went to a couple of parties and really got a lot of compliments on the costume.

I find it way easier to approach people while in costume because it almost feels like you can pretend you are who you dressed up is, be it a superhero (which I was), a cartoon caracter, a slutty nurse, etc.

So a part of me was hoping to meet soem cool new people (particularly of the female species) but it proved to be a real challenge this year. See my costume was too good. Quickly after intoru=ducing myself, the other person would totally get so distracted with my costume, that all we'd talk about was the costume. Then when that was done, they'd leave not even let me get a chance to chat with them abdout anything non-my-costume related.

An example:
Me: Cool costume! You're a theif right?
Female theif: Yeah, dollar store stuff. Your costume looks crazy! How long did it take?
Me: About 3 weeks. So I'm Elwood whats you're name?
FT: Wow! Wait a minute are you (superhero from recent movie)?? That's amazing!
Me: Yes I am... so you go to University? What are you studying?
FT: Wow I can't believe you amde this all by yourself!
Me: Yeah I did, out of cardboard and duct tape... and i even have some lights. Look (Non enthusiastically on lights).
FT: WOW!
Three other people walking by (in unisen): HOLY FUCK! HE'S (Superhero from recent movie) !

By then it was impossible to even breath. Dont get me wrong, I love attention, but I also wantesd to meet people.

I think I was hoping a repeat of what happened during halloween in the past. On 2 halloweens I ended up making otu with someone adn it was nice. Last year I was dating Wendy and didn't care. So yeah, I guess after putting so much effort into my costume and not even getting a chance to meet one girl, let alone make out with someone, kind of put me down.

Overall I did have a great time and alrady have an idea for next years Halloween costume!

I'm back

A huge shout out to ~Mary, Famously Single, Trips and Dolce.

I originally started this blog as an outlet for having broken up with my first girlfriend, Wendy, after dating for period of almost 1 year. At first, I was really into it and had tons of things to get out of my head and this blog was a good way to do that.

Then I moved downtown and started meeting a lot of people and went on a few dates. I had fun talking about them.

Then the dates stopped, been a while since I had been on a real date. I then got really busy with a lot of things including going out, work and even building my Halloween costume.

I felt that I just didn't really have much to write about. I then decided since I was already updating like once every 2 weeks or month, that maybe I was just losing interest and it'd be best to just stop updating.

However, after ready your comments, it really made me feel special. That some people get something out of what I have to say (if anything they just think its funny, which is fine by me).

I can't promise that I'll have the time, energy, interest to update regularly or even have anything exciting to write about, but I will try my best to keep this thing going.

Have patience.

You really love me?

Wow, I still have fans? Actual peolpe who read this blog?
I never knew.

A new post coming soon.

I promise.

Elwood

Hey Elwood, you free? great! Bring your friend....

So I decied a while ago to give up on Cuddly Bear. Every timeI asked her to do something she was busy, but she never even made it up to me by asking me out. Yes, I understand some people think the guy has to make the first move, but if two people like each other and everytime the guy calls, the gir is busy, I don't think I"m asking much for the girl to call back the guy to at least say she's now available to do something.

In any case, I know Cuddly Bear is not interested in me in that way and I've totally lost interest in her myself.

To make thigs worse, she wants to hook up her friend with my friend. I'm totally fine with that. The thing that bugs me is that last night she sent me a message asking if I"m free next weekend to go drinking with some people, but the only reason she's inviting me, is so I"ll bring my friend. I mean yes, she probably does want to hang out with me as "friends", but it's been so long since we've actually done anything or really talked.

In either case, I can't make it. Besides, my friend told me that he thinks her friend is cute (they met at a party) but he has other possibilities and put her on the backburner.

I guess we'll see what happens....

Being Sick Sucks

Picking up is hard when you're sick!
So last weekend I went out but didn't really try to talk and meet new people becasue I had this weird cough thing for a week. Finally on friday it went away and I was out late at a concert. I wak up the net day and I'm sick again!

Since yesterday I've gotten this pretty aweful cold. I went out last night to the hockey game and then even to a bar, for a quick drink with the friend I saw the game with but I couldn't really do much in my state. I pretty much nursed a glass of whiskey (cures everything) and then left.

I fell like once I'm healthy again, next weekend I'll be able to strut my stuff and start having fun again!

The adventure that could have been

Tonight I went to see Wintersleep in concert with RM2. It waa awesome! They had such great energy and it was at a small venue so overall a great show.

After the show we noticed a bunch of girls wearing black zorro masks holding signs with the Guiness Logo on it. We asked what was up and basically the had a list of bars that we could take a free limo ride to and get a free drink plus a free cab ride home.

It sounded to good to be true.

Unfortunately it was.

We picked the bar closest to our house and grabbed the free limo ride. I was so excited when we got in until I handed my free coupon to the barmaid and she didn't know what to do with it. On the way in a guy greeted us who worked there so we asked him what to do adn he told us to speak to Mr. Manager. We spoke to Mr. Manager (who was taking shots and handing people viles of who knows what drugs) and he also didnt' seem to know what the coupon was for.

So we left and grabbed our free cab ride home instead.

Another adventure that never happened...

Elwood's Dating Stories 5 - Hockey Night

Cuddly Bear told me she can't go with me to the hockey game. She had plans already and even though she sounded all excited to go to her first hockey game (and hopefully because I was going too), she said she hadn't seen her friends in a long time and couldn't cancel on them.

As much as I would have liked to go with her, I decided to go with a friend instead. My friend got SUPER excited and she's a huge hockey fan. I think I'll have more fun with her instead because she's all gung ho about dressing up in our hockey team logo, going toa bar before hand and having a good time.

Speaking of hockey, this brings me to another dating blunder I had in my early University days:

I was in my first year at University and I went out one night, in the suburbs were I lived, with some old high school buddies. At the bar, I wasn't having the most fun until I bumped into this guy I knew from college and he introduced me to his friends.

I somehow ended up chatting up a girl amongst the group. I'll call her Pager because I remember having to call her pager all the time to reach her. Anyways, we started chatting for a while and for the first and only time in my life she gave me her number without me evenhaving to ask.

She was a bit older than I and smoked but I still went on a date with her for coffee and it went well.

We had arranged to meet up again later that week at a McDonalds.

Now, keep in mind, I really didnt' have my priorities straight when you read the next paragraph. Back then I was a nerdy kid. I hadn't reached my party phase yet, I rarely drank or got drunk and I lived at home with my parents and studied a lot.

So she shows up late and all excited because she had won two tickets to that nights hockey game and was excited we would go. Being the idiot I was, I totally didn't like hockey back then and didn't even want to concider watching the game even if it meant being with a girl, so I told her thanks but I didnt' like hockey and didnt' want to go and had to study anyways.

She had to scramble quick and made a few calls to find someone to go with and then went off to the game and I never saw her again.

Don't worry, if a girl invites me to a hockey game now, I'm there!

One step forward, one step back?

The Jewish New Years (Rosh Hashana) is a time to celebrate the year you had, the year you're going to have and to throw away your sins and start anew (with Yom Kippur being the holiday we ask for forgiveness for such sins).

That being said, I received an interesting e-mail from Wendy on Monday night.

She started with : "In keeping with the religious aspect of the next two weeks, now is the time to try and rectify any wrong doings over the last year. That being said, I just wanted to apologize for anything I have said or done that hurt you in any way. Anything upsetting that was said was out of frustration not malice, and I'd never do anything to intentionally cause you pain."

Then continued with: "I just want you to know that I wouldn't trade the year I spent with you for anything. You meant a lot to me, and always will. I wish nothing but happiness and great things for you to come this year and always."

I simply replied right away with:

"Thanks for the kind message, although it was not necessary to apologize for anything since I did not think you did any "wrong doings" at all. Things didn't work out between us but I never felt that you said or did anything deliberate to hurt me.

The past year spent together was meaningful to me as well and I got to learn a lot from you about life and myself."

I don't know why, but it bothered me almost completely over the holidays (the past 2 days). It just put Wendy back in my mind. However, even if i"m wrong, I"m just trying to convince myself that she sent that to me as an act of kindness and out of tradition and that there is nothing more to it, no underlining meaning.

ON top of this, I wandered on her facebook page and looked at some recent photos of her and didn't seem as attracted to them as I was in the past, so maybe that's a sign I'm moving on slowly...?

Potential Date with a new girl!

So again, I've been behind in the blog postings, however, the Jewish New Years just happened this week and as a small "resolution" I'll try to find more exciting things to do so I'll have more to post about.

So I never went into details but basically I went to a speed dating event about a month ago. The thing was to have a 3 minute date with 26 women from ages 20 to 30, most being in their middle 20's.

Among them were a few people I already knew from before from various different ways. A couple I knew from elementary school, one I met once at a dinner Wendy invited me to last year, one I met at a meeting for something, etc.

Then there was also Cuddly Bear who I mentioned briefly last post.

I had met C Bear at a party once a couple of years ago and back then she had a boyfriend. Then I saw her twice over the past year when I worked at Old Navy. One of the 2 times she had invited me to her birthday party. I said I would go, but was a bit weirded out by the extremely random invite that I didn't end up going. That was over a year ago.

She recognized me at the event and we chatted for our 3 minutes.

I wrote down a bunch of matches and was told we'd get our responses in a few days. When I got home, however, I had a facebook message from C Bear saying she had fun at our "date" so I asked her if she'd like to go on a real one, and she accepted.

We went out for a beer a few days later and I had fun. We chatted for a couple of hours and she didn't seem bored, and neither was I. Then we walked together until we split directions and she said goodbye and walked away.

I couldn't tell much from our date but I had the feeling that she just wanted to hang out and that she's not really interested in anything more.

I told this to a friend and she told me I say that about everyone. She had a point,s o I decided not to give up completely.

That was 3 weeks ago.

Since then we chat a bit on MSN but she' constantly busy so we haven't' had a chance to get together again and kept apologizing that she's not usually that busy.

I decided to give it one more shot since I can justify her reasons for being busy and bad timing can be a factor in these things. A pair of hockey tickets landed on my lap so I invited her to the game this weekend.

She got really excited (on MSN), saying she'd never been to a hockey game before. Neither have I so it seems i may have found a good match to go with.
The only shitty thing is she had plans already that night and is being wishy washy about if she can come or not.

More on that when I know it!

I like to spoon it, spoon it

This weekend has been a pretty girl-involved weekend for me. It's late, and I'm tired so I won't go into all the details right now but here's a quick overview:
1. I went on a date with a girl from the speed dating event, I'll call her Cuddly Bear (because she's cute and cuddly looking).
2. I went to a party last night and hung out0 with a friend of RM2's who was cute.
3. I went home with a girl I knew and we spooned

I just want to spend a couple of minutes talking about #3. I had a workshop tonight and afterwards, several people from the workshop decided to go for drinks at the local bar, God of the Sky. It happened to be the 10th anniversary of the bar so it was packed and beer was flowing.

Carla, is a girl I've known from a bit through University. She's 8 years younger than me. I think she's cute but don't really want to pursue anything with her. That being said though, I saw that she was looking at me a bit tonight and we were both drinking.

She was going to walk home and halfway through the night I offered to walk her home and she accepted. She lives the complete opposite direction from where I live but I'm a gentleman and thought i"d be nice.

I wasn't expecting anything and I wasn't looking for sex. If anything, the most I wanted was to just cuddle with someone.

Well I got my wish.

I walked her home and she invited me up to watch a movie saying "I made you walk all this way, I know you don't want to just walk back home right away".

So we hit the couch and moments later we kind of cuddled. She was lying on the end and I was leaning on her, so even though I had my arm around her, I was kind of the secondary person in the hugging.

After a while, her roommate got up to go to the bathroom and Carla immediately moved to make it look like nothing was going on (which was true - nothing was going on). From then we never got back to our previous position.

I still managed to keep my arm around her front and rubbed her belly a bit.

For once I kind of m"made some moves" knowing that if she didn't want me to snuggle with her, she would have moved my arm away, but on the other hand, I didn't feel like she was really into it either.

When the movie ended, she got up brushed her teeth and came back, looking at me. I wasn't sure what to do so I simply said "I guess this is where you kick me out" and she just agreed.

So, I put my shoes on, left her apartment and had to walk home.

In the rain.

But, I still had fun. I would have kicked out if I was the same person I was 5 years ago, so I"m improving. On the other hand, it just made me feel even more lonely knowing that i hadn't snuggled with someone since Wendy and I kind of miss it.

Next time, don't tell me!

Tonight I went out with my new friend Concert Girl. I'm calling her that because i met her through craigslist while looking for someone to go to a concert with last month.

Concert Girl is from Germany and is travelling through Canada, staying in My City for 6 months. We've hung out a couple of times so far and she invited me out tonight with a friend of hers, Hot German (named so for obvious reasons) whom she met while travelling recently.

I met them at a cafe and then headed to a bar where we had a few beers. While there a friend of mine, Big Red, sent me a text asking what I was up to. I told him where i was and invited him to join us.

Once we met him we went to a second bar, actually it was more like a lounge and i quite liked the music. The place was packed so we had to squish into a corner. The seating ended up being Hot German and I across from Concert Girl and Big Red.

So, I ended up chatting with Hot German for a while about Australia. Both of us had been and we were sharing our experiences. I noticed that she started to lean into me a bit and was talking into my ear a lot because the place was noisy.

The most I did in return was i placed my arm along the bench behind her, but not actually touching her.

After a while, I get a text message. I check my phone and it's from Big Red from across the table! I casually read my phone and it simply says "She's really into you take her home".

For the life of me I don't understand how others can perceive things like that but I can't. Until then I didn't care if she was or was not into me and i wasn't trying anything. Then Big Red makes me aware and I felt like it just killed the mood for everyone.

What happened next was I texted him back saying that although she may be into me, both of the girls were heading on a road trip tomorrow and had to get up early. His response to that was simply "offer to show her something from your trip to Australia in your house". At this point I was in the bathroom, but when I returned to the table, everyone was quiet, like the secret was out. Then to make matters worse Big Red says "Lets all go to Elwood's! he's go beers!" and I even added "oh yeah and my roommates are gone".

More silence.

Finally the Germans admitted they had to get up early and we left.

Hot German is going straight to another city upon returning here from the road trip so I will never see her again. Meanwhile, I hope Concert Girl still wants to be friends because I think she's cool and fun to hang out with.

The night wasn't as awkward as I may make it sound but I feel like had I not been told someone was into me, I would have acted more natural.

Can you keep up with me?

It's Friday night. It's almost midnight. It's really hot in my room. I'm kind of tired. Yet, for some reason I just feel like doing something.

The big party I hear outside my window from an adjacent apartment isn't helping.

I hate when I'm like this. I'm just someone that always likes to keep busy. All my friends know this because sometimes I want to do so many tings it's hard to keep up.

I don't know why, but sometimes i feel like everyone else is doing something and i"m always stuck at home. The funny thing is that I actually do quite a lot. There are periods when I"ll have 4-5 parties to go to in one night. I'm constantly going out to shows and hanging out with people. But, there are also periods when I feel alone. Like tonight.


However,I guess I am changing and excepting that it's good to be alone sometimes because in the past, when I'd feel like this, I'd just go out aimlessly, looking for something to do.

In the end, it could be ind of depressing, because it's like I'm walking around hoping to find someone to entertain me. For something random to happen.

It has worked in the past. One night, 4 years ago, I was really antsy and decided to go walk around the local hangouts in hope to find someone I knew. After wandering the streets for over an hour I decided to give up but on the way home bumped into 3 drunk girls who admired my The Darkness t-shirt and we had a beer together. Turns out 2 of them were from Ireland on a work visa and in Montreal for the summer.

We ended up hanging out all summer and I met lots of other cool travellers through them. It was because of them that I ended up in Australia. They convinced me to go travel.

As much as I'd like for something like that to happen (or perhaps I meet a hot chick), I feel like i"m too old (and maybe more mature now?) to go out and seek for things.

Well I hope this post made some sense. It's so damn hot in here.

I'm off to bed.

The Need for Speed

As usual, I've been behind on my blogging duties. I've been debating about just ending this blog completely, but then exciting enough things tend to happen that make it worthwhile to hang onto this guy for a little bit longer.

So what "exciting" happened recently? No, I didn't get laid... but I did manage to surpass my goal of going on 10 dates, each with a different person.

Yes, you read correctly. In fact, I went on 26 dates all in one night to be in fact!

That's right, I own a time machine.

NO! I went to a speed dating event.

Actually, I found out about it last minute through my brother Ira and he pulled some strings to get me into the event.

It was held in a giant hall rented by the organizers. There were 26 women and about 20 guys (a few times, a female would be left alone at the table).

We were all given numbers and cards. We then sat at a table and had 3 minutes to chat before moving on. at my discretion, I would put down the numbers of women I liked on the card. At the end of the night, the organizers took the cards. Eventually, they go through each card and single out the matches. If you get a match, you'll receive the other person's e-mail address and can set up a real date whenever.

Out of the 26 women I met, I can safely put them into 4 categories:
1. People I was I thought were cute/interested in
2. People who totally had no interest in m/wanting to be there but were dragged by friends
3. People I just wasn't attracted to at all
4. People I know from before hand (but none I knew well, all acquaintances)

I'd say they were almost all equal amounts. I ended up putting down about 6 or 7 numbers but will be surprised if I get more than 1 or 2 matches.

the tricky thing was knowing when to write down the number, if interested. What i ended up doing which may have looked bad was this:

Say, I was at table #22 and I liked girl #22, I would want to write #22 on my card but not in front of her. So, at the end of the 3 minutes, I would get up say good bye and go sit at the next table, which in this example, is table # 23.

At table #23, instead of glancing back to the previous table to see what number it was, I would look at the current number (here #23) and minus 1 (hence #22)., and mark it down.

I realized later on that this could mislead the person I'm with into thinking that immediately before even saying hi or introducing myself, that I wrote down their number right away.

As for the people themselves, there were a bunch of teachers, doctors (or med students) a couple of psychologists, a few people in marketing/fashion/design and a couple of individuals in different jobs (cosmetician, watch store owner).

I got along very well with some but it went by all too fast and will only know which were interested when I found out who I got matched with.

I won't get the results until probably later this weekend. However, there was one girl there whom I had met once at a party two years ago. Since then I saw her a couple of times when I worked at Old Navy last year.

The last time I spoke to her she had come to Old Navy while i was working the fitting rooms and had asked me to come to her birthday party (that being the 2nd or 3rd time i"d ever met her). Being who I am, I convinced myself with made up reasons why I shouldn't/couldn't go.

She seemed happy to see me last night though and I ended up talking her last before the evening ended.

When I got home, she left me a message on facebook (we were already "friends") saying "Thanks for the date!" so I casually wrote back "You're welcome. Would you like to go on a real one?".

To this she first said "sure could be fun" and then a few hours later wrote back again feeling that she may not have come across interested and changed her answer to "YEAH! I'd love to!"

So that's positive I guess. I got her number and I'm to call her this weekend to make plans

Either way I think it's cool I got a date before the results of the event even came out.

The only freaky thing about this whole thing is that not only do I have competition, I'm also competing again my brother! I told him we need to compare notes before we start calling for dates. I definitely don't want to date a girl my brother is after.

Elwood's first druken post

So yeah, I admit it I"m drunk.
I don't know why, but even though I have to get up at 9am tomorrow, I decided to go out with Sheira and some other people I know, to get drunk and hit up a club. As a rule, I hate clubs but tonight I decided to get out of my slump, go get drunk and party. By slump, I mean by the fact that I've been thinking of Wendy a lot lately. To make things worse (or better?) I realized, that although she's been giving me a lot of attention on facebook lately, it's not due to the fact that she may still have feelings for me, but that she's just addicted to Facebook. I realized she likes to write comments to everyone she knows and sends them mesages, etc. It's not just me.

So, tonight I got drunk went to two clubsan dwas kind of hoping i"d hook up. It didn't happen but what did happen was a pretty cute girl was dancing alone and i did this really sleazy move by first touching her hip and then even grabbing her hand. She kind of smiled and puled her hand back to say she wasn;t interested. On one hand I'm disgusted with myself to have gone down to that level (I hate seeing sleazy guys try to pick up chicks at club/bars) but on the other hand, at least I tried. Notrmally I wouldnt do anything, but tonight I stepped up and tried soemthign ballsy.

Well I better get to sleep or I'll be super exhausted tomorrow.

Goodnight the internet!

Getting worse

I realize I've been hitting a downward spiral as of late. I'm constantly checking online and hoping to meet someone. i"m on dating sites, craigslist, etc. I'm sending out tons of e-mails and messages. All usually get deleted or ignored.

It's funny because it feels like I've forgotten how to meet people in real life.

Actually, thats not entitrely true. I've met a lot of new people this summer and have definitey expanded my social circle. The only downside is that I tend to emit a "Let's be friends" radiation. I don' t know if it's something I do, or how I act or look but that's usually the case.

For example, I met a Sheira at the park yesterday with 2 other girls. they were all in bikinis and looking hot. They didn't seem to care and then they went into detailed discussions about other guys and how they want to go for them.

Now I don't expect any of them to start admitting their dying love to me, but I also don't like to be treated as "one of the girls". I wasn't wearing a bikini...

Well, summer is almost over and I didn't get evena single kiss out of the few people I went on dates left. However, I said it's almost over.

Lets see what happens next.

All Day Long I Dream About Sex

This is horrible. It's been getting really bad. I'm just jonzing out!
Is this normal? I guess it makes sense at age 27. Man I feel sorry for people who remain virgins until their 40's (or dead!).

My thoughts have been completely insane lately. I look at women on the street, bus, park, etc. and I'm no longer being bashful inside. Instead, the first thought in my mind is "What an ass!". This totally isn't who I am, and it scares me. It scares me because I think I'm becoming like every other guy out there.

I realized that I keep joking with RM2 about having sex. What's worse is I even started talking to Wendy on Facebook again and I admitted how I"d have sex with Wendy if it were to come to that.

What's happening to me?!

(P.S. I had originally accidently posted this on my old public blog that my Uncle still reads... Even though I deleted it, I hope he doesn't e-mail me asking me about this!)

Mr. Roboto

Last weekend was my birthday. I am no longer a 26 year old virgin.I am now a 27 year old virgin!
My actual birthday was on Saturday, but I went out with people on Friday night. It was a quiet birthday. there were probably about 15 people there. They composed of old friends, fairly newer friends and soem aquintances (or friends of friends).

Nothing exciting happened in the girl department, and i was a bit down that I was all alone, where as last year, my party was pretty mucht the same but having Wendy around brought some excitment. However, I didn't think about her or wish she was there or something, for the whole night so that was a good sign.

The real action started on Saturday.

My brother Ira insisted we attend a Robot, Monster and Dolls Fetish Party. I had never gone to a fetish party but I can't say no to any reason to dress up.

Ira wanted me to make us our costumes, so 50$ and 1 week later, I had build 2 robot costumes using cardboard, spray paint, aluminum tape, jock straps and I even wore aluminum pants.

I'm not one to post pictures on here but this can't be ignored:
For my face, I simply had a piece of silver cardboard on like a headband, so you're not missing much be having my face hidden.

Ira, myself and a guy I've been hanging out lately, we'll call him Big Red, took a cab to the party. Inside there were all kind of people dressed up in all kinds of costumes.

Ira and I had matching costumes except his was gold and he wore black khakis. Our costumes were a hit. On the front I put lights that can be pushed on and off. Every single guy and girl played with them (and one chick even licked one!).

At one point in the ngiht, I was on my way tot eh bathroom when a pretty hot and drunk looking girl came up to me and started playing with the light. She was pushing them really hard, off and on. Then she looks down at her own chest and started to poke her own tits, to see if they'd turn on. I thought to myself "oh what the hell" and even joined in.

Just as I was getting all excited and thinking that maybe I'll finally have a chance to pick someone up at a party (a crazy fetish party to eb exact), she turns up and looks me straight int he eyes and says "Do you have any speed?". I simple said no and moved on. I'm not into drugs or chicks who do 'em.

Ira and I ended up claiming 2nd place in the costume contest. We won a gift certificate to a fetish shop, a ticket each to the next party, and a dildo. We never saw the dildo (or the tickets) but we got our info taken down to get contacted about it. Later in the night, we were told we could exchange the dildo for something else.

After the party, we went to the After Party which kind of sucked.

I crawled into bed at 6am. What a night!

Bye Bye Blondie

Wow I've been so busy, I hate that I can't write more often! this blog would actually be good if i could write on a daily basis then huge blocks like this.

Since i last blogged, I saw and had coffee again with Blondie. The movie we she wanted to see was sold out so we settled for coffee.

Again, it was ok hanging out with her but nothing exciting. At the end of the night, i got a handshake, which may be a huge step from her since she admitted that she doesn't even like it when family members touch her.

I decided to stop hanging out with her. I'm looking for someone a bit more social and outgoing. It's been almost 2 weeks and I havn't heard anythign from her either, so I don't think I'm breaking her heart or anything.

Another dead end

This really confused me.

I put up an ad on craigslist in the dating section to find someone to go with me to a movie last week. Three days after the movie, I get an e-mail from a responding to the old ad (lets call her CL Girl), telling me how pissed she is that she didn't see the ad sooner.

We send e-mails back and forth, shooting the shit about comedians coming to town and which shows are worth seeing.

I decide to raise the bar and asked her out for coffee/beer. I mean she responded to an ad in the dating section of a classified website and even though it was now an old and useless ad, she still sent me an e-mail. So I figured this was a good next step.

Wrong.

She wrote back to me last night saying:

"I didn't want to leave you hanging like a lot of people do on craigslist but I'm not up for meeting.

Weird...

Anyways I simply wrote back:

Well, thanks for your... honesty.

Have a good life.

Elwood

Well, then, back to the hunt!

The Follow Up

Last Saturday I had acquired free tickets to go see the Canadian premiere of Just Buried, a movie starring Jay Baruchel (one of Judd Apatow's crew - famous for the tv show Undeclared and also had a role in Knocked Up).

i wanted to take Blondie but she wasn't sure if she was free that night or not and said she'd get back to me Saturday morning. I never heard from her and she didn't pick up her cell phone. Not wanting to waste the free ticket, I phoned a bunch of people to go with but everyone was busy.

I decided to have some fun and posted it on craigslist. I then went out to this meeting I had for a couple of hours and accidentally left my phone in my apartment. While at the meeting, I realized I didn't really want to depend on craigslist. I wouldn't have time to find anyone if I went back home and saw I got no responses. So, I asked a friend at the meeting and she accepted.

We had never hung out before but she seemed cool enough. During the film I got cold and used my sweater as a blanket. Then I got hot so I pulled my arms from under it. Then she got cold and wanted it so I passed it to her. Then I got cold and thought if i tugged on it she'd start cuddling with me.

Guys, that doesn't work.

Instead we kind of fought over it until we each had a part.

However, after the movie I got a text from Blondie saying she was free and wanted to go for coffee.

I said goodbye to my friend and went for coffee with Blondie at 12:30am.

It was a fun date talking to her about whatever. however, at the end of the night, she said good bye to me by standing 5 feet away, giving me the thumbs up and saying "I had fun" and then walked away. A hug or something would have been nice...

I decided that I'm not really looking for any ting serious with anyone but I'd like to have someone to hang out with and be physical with. I'm not talking sex, I just mean hanging out and having fun and being flirtatious, and then watching a movie or something and snuggling. Kissing would be nice, but if that's not what they want, I'm fine with that.

Of course out of all the girls to meet in My City, I pick one who doesn't like being touched apparently.

We've been texting back and forth since yesturday and basically she invited me to movie tomorrow night. I asked if it was a scary movie and she said she wasn't sure. I then joked that I don't like scary movies and asked if there are really scary parts, could I hold on to her.

Her reply was "Maybe if its really scary. I've never been big on physical contact... it doesn't run in my family :P".

Well.. that kind of sucks.

I'm still going to go and see what happens but I'm not expecting anything different then if I went to the movie with my brother. Just two people hanging out.

On a side note, I got an e-mail a couple of days ago from someoen who had read my post about the free movie tickets and was disappointed she missed the occasion. Funny enough, we've e-mailed back and forth a couple of times now, talking about comedians we like.

Today and asked her out for coffe or beer and have yet to get a response.

We'll see what happens.

Date #5 - Blondie

Ah to find time to actualy write this blog! Sorry to keep you hanging.

So on Tuesday I had a date with Blondie. Like the last 3 people I went on a date with, I found her online at the same dating site.

What caught me on her profile wasn't her picture (which didn't really do her wonders) but the fact that she was an illustrator and liked to draw comics. We had sent back and forth a couple of messages until I just asked her if she wanted to meet in person for some coffee. I'm not the biggest fan of getting to know someone on the Internet first and then in real life. You're basically doing it twice because you can never tell if the person is the same both on the Internet and in person.

When I didn't hear from her for a couple of days I maybe I had turned her off for wanting to meet so quickly and thought of ways to change my strategy for the next person. However, a couple of days later she got back to me and was up to meet for coffee.

We arranged to meet at a French cafe closer to ehr part of downtown and since her face was hard to see in the pictures, my only way of recognizing her was that she was blond and said she'd be wearing a bright red jacket.

Well that day it was 29 C outside so I thougth I wouldn't find her. I gotthere on time and waited. Then a gorgeous tall blond showed up at the same corner looking for someone. She didnt fit the description at all (Blondie was supposed to be 5'7", this person was easily 5'11") but I was really hoping it was her, haha.

It wasn't.

But after that person left, a very average, someone cute looking blong with glasses, holding a red jacket in her arms appeared.

We nixed coffee and went for dinner instead. We chatted quite a bit and I learned that she is originaly from Montreal, of Dutch decent (her father was born in Holland), moved to Ontario for art school and recently graduated and moved back home with her parents.

She's an illustrator looking for work and does a lot fo stuf fon the computer.

We also chatted a bit about the online dating scene. I think she's new to dating (either after a while or in geenral) and is meeting a lot of peopel online btu I think she's just interested in making friends right now (which is pretty much my mentality as well).

After dinner, this was usually the time where we pay the bill and awkwardly go seperate ways Tthe bill came and she said "So we're going to go, then?" so I started to get ready to go home when she contiued with "..for coffee?"

I was shocked.

SO we went for coffee and chatted some more about stuff.

It started getting late and i had to go home and get some stuff done. When we got outside, I commented how it was so nice and would be the best time for a walk but that I really needed to get home. She agreed and decided to walk me halfway home in the wrong direction.

When it was finally time to part ways i asked if she'd be free saturday night. She said she was pretty busy all weekend, so I joked abotu it being due to her having all these dates from the dating site. She actually admitted to that being the reason but tod me that I was the best one so far.

So that was cool.

I'm not really sure what I want or what to do next. She's very simple looking, nothing fantastic (Wendy was definitely prettier), but she's not ugly. She also has a pretty average body which is fine by me but it's something in her character thats attracting me a bit. She has this nerdy feel to her, which I like. Turns out we both readthe same webcomics! And we both like the same novelty t-shirt from that site!

I also just got an e-mail from her now saying she may be busy but she gave me her cell number anyways and said I could call her to see whats up.

So we'll see what happens

Summer Time Rocks

I've been realy tired and worn out from the 2 weddings I attended recently and I feel like it's been catching up with me.

I was feeling a bit down seeing other people get married. From missing being with someone and not wishing to get married. Hell no! I ain't ready for that yet. Also there is a bit of pressure on me since I'm the last of the cousins (we'e 14) to get married. Thankfully, Ira's divorce kind of put him at the top of the list again, so I may be out of the clear for a little bit longer, haha.

Anyways, I was pretty hot this evening and decided to go take a bike ride to the bookstore to research soem ideas for work. The drive was fantastic!

I live on an area that is a nit higher up then the city center, so when I need to go into the heart of downtown, I just coast downwards and it feels great. Especially tonight with the nice cool summer breeze pushing in my face.

I chilled at the bookstore for a bit. After the book store, I decided to get myself a milkshake and just chilled some more. I guess the point of this story is as much a sometime I yearn to be sith someone, sometimes being alone feels so good. Living over seas really let me appreciate going for long walks on my own. I would just hit the streets and explore and enjoy some "Elwood" time.

When I used to hang out with Psycho Girl back in the day, she owuld always take me on walks and all I wanted to do was make out with her (which I never did since I was so shy), but now i"m so glad I've come to appreciate walking and biking alone.

So for all you people who sometimes feel really lonely, enjoy the summer and go for a walk or a bike ride and enjoy some time to yourself! You'll come to realize there are plus things to being single!

Speaking of which, I'm actually going on another date tomorrow night. This makes Date #5 of 10 dates. Keep a look out for a post about it soon.

Interesting

On the way home from grocery shopping I bumped into this weird guy I used to know from undergrad. Turns out he lives near me.

After a couple of minutes of chit chat I say my goodbyes to which he replies "If you're ever by 1234 Smith Street Ave just knock on my door!"

Why can't girls say that to me and not creepy guys?

Roomate Blues

For about 2 weeks now, my roomate, RM1's, boyfriend has moved to My City. She met him in Toronto (where she is originaly from) and only after a short while, he moved out here to be closer to her.

Well he got to be REAL close to her because he's here a lot.

Don't get me wrong, I like the guy and I have no problems with im permenantly living here (but he's moving into his own place next week). It's just I find it hard soemtimes looking at peole being all lovey-dubby in public (on the bus, streets, in the metro, etc.) and now i got to see it when I get home too?

Don't worry their not having sex off the hallway walls or anything. My room is next to RM1's but thankfully our closets ar inbetween the rooms, so I havn't heard "anything" yet.

Soon, my new RM2 will move in and she's got a boyfriend too. This means soon we'll have 2 guys here!

I guess i"m just jealous and which I had a guy... er I mean girl to bring over. It's been over a month and the only females I've had over are my mom and a couple of friends.

I know it'll happen eventually, I ues it's just the kind of guy I am. I spent a whole your overseas travelling and didn't hook up once. I wasn't lookig for that either, so I never really tried. On the other hand the situtation never really arose either.

Oh great, I can hear RM1 giggling from her boyfriend tickling her in the kitchen...

At keast I'm away this weekend to another wedding out of town (was at one last weekend and been super busy at work hence the lack of posts) so I won't have to endure a lot of this over the weekend.

I don't do yelling

Today I found out a did a blunder at work and got yelled at pretty badly by one of the partners of the company. I admit it was something that I did (although unknowingly and by accident) but it is the fact that I got yelled at and threatened to almost be fired that got me upset.

And when upset I cry.

Thankfuly, I waited until I got to my office.

I never did well with yelling growing up. My parents rarely yelled at me but I would always get upset if they did. I hated it.

I myself rarely yell (I can't remember any time that I realy did). I get "mad" which is me just bitching mostly but I've never raisd my voice and told someone off (or threatened to fire them).

It's a fear I have with being in a relationship. I managed to date wendy a whole year and not really have an argument with her. She yelled at me a few times for getting her mad but I never said anything back or yelled at her. I'd just calmly apoligize and figure a way to fix it. I'm afraid that I'lll meet someone who will yell at me and I won't know how to respond.

My brother Jason takes arguments really badly. To me an argument is when Person A voices their opinion (usually loudly) about something and then Person B voices their opinion about the same thing (usually the opposite answer). However, Jason just brings up old stuff. For example, if his wife is complaining to him about the glass being half full, a proper response to the argument would be "The glass is half empty!". Instead he'll say somethign like "You're always complaining! Why are you tryig to control me? Blah blah blah".

I;mglad to know I"m not like that. I'm a bit more like my brother Ira who also tries to calmly end an argument but then he is also extreme in that he'll do stuff to totally avoid the perchance of an argument. going back to the same example, he'd just avoid buying a glass to begin with. No glass, no argument of it being half full or not.

I guess I just need to work on voicing my opinion when I get into a situation with a future girlfirend.

Feeling Better

Having friends that understand you rocks!

Feel shitty last night, I e-mailed Spider Dude and told him what happened .
He got back to me with a message i can truly relate to:

Dearest Elwood,
You are a good guy - and you did the right thing. But yes, it does feel pretty shitty and it is very normal.
I know that after I broke up with (my ex), whenever I thought she was with a new guy, it made me feel
a) pretty low, and
b) like I had to go out and find someone quickly too (like a competition).

I'm afraid to admit it but it's true, that is how I feel a bit. He continues with:

Luckily I recognized that these were reactionary feelings and went at my own pace.
So yes, you'll feel shitty now, but it will pass and it will get better.

I'm sure it will. I slept really badly last night, but felt better inside once I slept on it. Besides i"m actually hanging out with the guy who's interested in wendy on Wednesday. Shows I got balls, haha.

Holy fuck!

I was going to wrtie about how my weeknd was great and I started to finally have some fun but that all turned ot shit tonight.

A not too close friend (a guy I met at a seek-a-job conference a year ago; we hang out once in a while) just asked me if it'd be ok to take Wendy out for coffee.

I know he's a good guy. I know im not the boss of Wendy. I know that it's over and we'll never ever ever get baback together for many reasons including that I don't want to get back together.

I told him to go for it. Like i said it's not up to me and if they end up dating then great for them.

So why does this bother me??

Also, what do you guys think of friends asking to go out with your ex?

Shitty feelings

This afternoon I was hanging out with my brother Ira and this girl he's been dating for a bit. After hanging out for a while we all had to leave and take the metro together. I was going to my parents place for dinner, and Ira's date had to go home. The whole way home, I started to feel pretty depressed.

I saw them together and they looked happy (even though Ira told me he was going to dump her tonight) and I felt very left out. On top of that I looked around and saw everyone enjoying the Summer outside and going off to hangout somewhere and enjoy the sun. People with guitars, and Frisbees and friends. Meanwhile I was headed to the suburbs to hang out with my parents on Fathers Day.

No one forced me to go and I was excited to go when I was asked earlier in the day, but I was starting to regret my decision. I finally moved away from the grasp of my parents and had all th efreedom int he world to do as i pleased but instead i put myself in a situation where I felt tied down again. It really sucked.

I started feelign better when we got out of the metro and it started to rain hard.

Date # 4 - Med Head

Last night was probably the most interesting date I had so far. The night itself turned out to be pretty random.

I made contact with Med Head online a couple of weeks ago. All I knew was that she had a sense of humor, was half Jewish/half Greek from Manhattan and was in My City studying Med School.

We had arranged to meet at a street corner at 8pm. As I approached the corner, I had to wait across the street for the light to turn green. I noticed a cute girl waiting all by herself and wondered if that was her. After a while I decided to play a little joke and call her on my cell but just as i was looking for her number, my phone was ringing and it was her! I look up and the person across the street is on the phone, so that was Med Head.

I have to say Med Head is really pretty. Definitely the prettiest of the girls I talked about on this site.

So we started to walk and talk. Things started off ok. I may have been taking a bit too much, but that's a problem I have in general. The only bad (and kind of gross thing) was that I haven't been feeling too hot the past couple of days and while we were walking, my stomach was a bit... upset. Thank god we were outside, but I'm afraid she might think I.... smell. Hopefully there was a breeze or something pushing away from us.

Anyways, there is a festival in town this week and every year where they sell tickets, is a beer tent that's really cheap and a band or something playing at night. We bought beer (awkwardly; the bartender didn't know who to give the money to, we both didn't know who was paying, or what)., found a bench and sat and chatted for a while.

While chatting I saw Trucker, RM1's boyfriend walk by. Turns out he was there looking for RM1. He turns to us and awkwardly asks if we're on a date. to which I hesitate and she simply says "yeah, sort of...".

We continued chatting and I know I was enjoying it but I don't know if she was. She laughed a bit at my jokes but she didn't seem so into me. then again, we just met right?

I'm not sure what her deal is because basically she has to study all summer for mes school but I think she just wanted to meet new people outside of the med circle (all her friends are from her classes, she told me).

After about an hour and a half, she said she had to go study. Again, I made things a tad awkward by walking with her for several blocks towards her house which was in the complete opposite direction to where I live, and she knew that. I apologized if I was coming off creepy, but she said it was ok.

Then as we approached the street we started at, the bus to take me back to the beer tent was coming. I quickly said goodbye and ran towards the bus. In my stride, I told her I had fun and that we should do something again, to which she simply replied something like "ya ok".

I'm not sure if she'd want to meet up again but to find out I deliberately told her earlier in the night about a website that picked her interest. So, when I got home, I had an excuse to e-mail her. I sent her the link, an apology for running off to abruptly and also mentioned that if she ever need a break from Med School, she could always give me call since I'll be around all summer. She mentioned earlier how she once dressed up as a goth person for halloween, so I joked in the message that we could dress up as goths and roam the streets scaring people

So, she was off and i was on a bus headed back to the beer tent. This is when the night got interesting.

I get off the bus, go to the beer tent and bump into RM1. Her boyfriend is nowhere to be seen. Turns out he just missed her and walked home, which was where I had left Med Head! This is about 10 blocks away from the beer tent which is the opposite direction from where I live.

RM1 asked if I wanted to walk with her. Since the weather was so nice, I accepted and we walked. We decide, while walking, to stop for ice cream. At the ice cream place, I bumped into this guy I know, JJ.

JJ was off to this preview show for the festival. Basically, each act in the festival had a 3 minute windo to to showcase their show for later in the week. It's totally not whre I expeted at the end of the night, and it was definitely a lot of fun.

Overall, regardless if the date went well or not, I had a good time.

Elwood's got a date!

So after a few false leads, I'm finally going on a date tomorrow night with someone I met on that online dating site.

A lot of people on these kind of sites all write the same stuff. From their profiles you can single out what kin dof 'group' they could belong in:
1. Those online looking for sex
2. Those online who for one reason or another believe they need to find someoen to make their life complete and will find their prince charming online
3. Those who have boyfriends but still going online for shits and giggles
4. Those who are bored
5. Those who are older and looking to start a family
6. Those who just want to have fun and see who they can meet/are too busy to meet someone at a bar

I put myself more in the last group.

You can also do the same by just looking at profile pictures:
People in group 1 mostly show pictures of their boobs ready to pop out, or a picture of them in a club drunk.
People in group 2 usually have either a blurry or hard to see picture (if they believe they are not attractive) or are dressed in their fanciest, prettiest outfit.
People in group 3 usualy have a picture with their boyfriend in it.
People in group 5 practically are in their wedding dresses already

People in group 6 (and all the groups actually) may or may not even have a profile picture. Now I did some thinking and came up witht he conclusio of why someone wouldn't put their picture up online. It's either:
a) They don't thin they are attractive and worry by showing their picture no one will talk to them
b) They don't feel the need to have someone talk to them based solely on their looks.

So, after avoiding profiles with no pictures, I started to read them as well.

I stumbled upon a very funny and interesting one. Decided to message the person and she wrote back with a picture attached. I will admit she looks pretty. After writing back and forth a couple of times, being extremely jokey in the messages, I finaly asked her for coffee/beer and she wrote me back her number. I gave her a call last night and we agreed to meet up tomorrow evening to go check out this "alternative theatre" event happening in My City. I just found out a band I know of is playing there for FREE at the exact same time I arranged to meet her so that'll be cool. I hope I'll be able to find her.

Wish me luck!

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Fresh Start

So I admit I havn't been putting much effort inthis blog as much as I did in the beginning.

Well, I decided to give it another shot! I started to go out a lot more and soon enough I'll be blogginabout all these crazyi adventures I'm sure to have this summer.

You may notice some changes alreay. I added labels to all posts (thi sbeing post #90!), so it's easier to find posts on a particular topic. It was really hard reading all the old posts about Wendy. At one point I almost cried... but i'm doing ok.

This past weekend I went out to a few parties and bumped into a lot of people I knew and even made a few new friends. It was a lot of fun.

Also new to the blog is a list of the 10 girls I'm trying to go on a date with. So far I've been on 3 dates (with 3 different people).

You'll also find a list of people I've mentioned, from friends to crazy girls.

Hope you like the changes and please, do come back!

Here comes the calvary

So it's been a couple of weeks at my new place and I love it. It's a huge place, great location, and allows me to go out and still come home at a reasonable hour.

I live with 2 girls who both have boyfriends. Up until now, Rm 2 would leave and stay at her boyfriends, but he'd never come here. Also RM1's boyfriend lived in Toronto. However, that all changed this week.

Rm1's boyfriend just moved to Montreal and since then (Sunday), he's been over every night. I totally don't have a problem with that. If anything, I kind of wish I had someone to invite over. In any case, I just hope Rm1 won't have a problem and feel that her space is being threatened when I eventually have women over.

Speaking of which, I'm currently in contact with 3 new people off that addictive dating site:

1. New Mommy - Been sending a few messages back and forth. Seemd kind of nice until she mentioned she just gave birth 6 months ago to a baby girl. I totally didn't notie taht she had kids when I read the profile. So, I'm pretty much going to remian friendly but doubt I'll ever meet this person.

2. Olive - Sounds like a very sarcastic/funny person who happens to be Half Jewish/Half Greek. She had no picture when I sent her an e-mail but she sent me hers without asking and she's cute. I'm interested to see if we'll ever meet. She's studying to be a doctor.

3. Ladybug - She's really cute in her picture. I sent her a message and she read my profile and wrote back. I kind of wrote in my profile that I'm constantly playing guitar so I think she thinks I"m actually good since she asked if i'd lke to meet up and exchange a song for a beer. I'm trying to play things cool with this one and see what happens.

Summer is coming and the females of My City are shedding layers. Things are looking up!

Tales of Victoria

I swear I could make a whole blog just on Victoria.

I truly don't understand this girl. She had just called me. Yesterday we ended up not getting together since a) I forgot to call her and b) when I did call her, her machine picked up.

She wanted to see what I was up to, and when I asked her what she was up to, she told me she had just woken up and was still in bed. Even Wendy, never woke up and her first thought was to call and see what I was up to, and we dated for almost a year. Now if Victoria and i had some history, that would make sense, but we havn't even hung out together...

Then she tells me she recently slept in her car since she's sort of couch surfing. She kind of moved back home to the suburbs but its very far from downtown. We joked about her getting a Mystery Machine and she said I could be her Shaggy.

Great, so now we're sort of flirting.... and then after literaly 2 minutes of chit-chat she says "Well... I just wanted to see what was up with you..." which someone usualy says as they run out of things to say and want to go. Does she chronically forget that I bore her or something?

I'm sorry I keep bringing her up, but her shenanigans are just too funny and odd not to post.
Man I want to see if we ever meet up and go out drinking, I'm sure I'd have a whole novel of stuff to write about.

The return of Victoria

So I went to this sketch comedy show last Thursday and forgot to mention that while there I bumped into Victoria.

I was thrown off because instead of getting ignored she gave me an excited "Heyyyyyyy!". We chatted for a couple of minutes. I told her i never called her because I figured her phone was disconnected (she's currently looking for a new place and is couch surfing), but hark, I am wrong, she got the phone to transfer to her computer, or something.

After the show, I saw her again and she invites me to a BBQ. Not wanting to cancel (and genuinely interested), I was all gung ho to go until she tells me its in the suburbs.

Great, first I kept canceling because I lived in the suburbs and she was downtown. Now I'm downtown and she's in the suburbs.

Still, for reasons I will not understand myself, I kept trying to figure out ways for me to get to the BBQ (I can go borrow my parents car, I can easily take the bus) even though I had no real urge to go at all (since it was far away).

She suggests we meet up on Monday instead. We shook on it and I promised if I canceled she had the right to never talk to me again.

Monday comes around. I give her a call and... She cancels on me!

Ok, a blind person could have seen that happening, but I don't think she deliberately made plans with me just to cancel and get back at me. Her excuse was legit enough:

"Oh I forgot it's my mother's birthday!"

So, we figured out the best time to meet instead. I didn't mean to but I ended up double booking to go watch the hockey game at a bar last night. Victoria, me and Sheira.

Yesterday after work, I realized I made a mistake and dint' really want to hang out with both of them at the same time.

Well that never happened because guess what? Victoria canceled on me again.

I'm well past even caring about hanging out with this girl. It's become a game of "lets see if someone will cancel".

We have "plans" to meet on Friday.

Place your bets peoeple.

Date # 3 - Happy

Last Monday I met up with Happy. This marks the 4th girl I've met to go on a date since I broke up with Wendy. I have yet to have a second date with any of these people.

I'm not sure I can even call what I did really a date...

We arranged to meet for coffee. Thankfully, she picked a place right around the corner from me which was super convinient in case I needed to bail. I was a bit worried she'd be really ugly.

When Happy showed up, I was stunned. I will admit she was a bit a larger person than I'm normally attracted to, but her face was so pretty. I didn't have a hard time keeping eye contact with her.

So we sat down and chatted about stuff for a while. She seemed interested but then she asked me about what I was looking for on the dating website we found each other on. She was intrigued that I had just moved downtowna nd asked me if the reason I was on the site was to meet other people to hang out with. I slowly said "yes but...." ensuing I was also looking for something if it were to lead into it.

Then Happy started to tell me about a party her friend was having and that I would love her friends and I should go...

...Except she wouldn't be there. She had anohter arty she'd be going to insted...


I was thrown off a bit but didn't mind. I want to meet new peopel and i love randomness. However, i totally got the impression that
a) she was looking for anything
b) if she was, I"m not what she's looking for

I also havn't heard from her since except to tell me that the party was moved to a day I can't attend. I wrote a note to her saying that we should hangout some time but havn't heard from her since.

Well, it could have been worse, I guess.

Knowing People Is Nice

Last night I went to the local theatre to see a sketch comedy show some of my friends were performing in. I've been to the theatre a few times. Through my improv/artsy friends and the theatre I realized i"m starting to know a lot of people again.

Last night at the show, I bumped into a bunch of people I knew from one way or another. Even just knowing someone by their name or face and not really knowing them well is a nice feeling.

Last night reminded me of my days in University. There, I was such a sociable guy, I would be able to walk down one stretch of highway and actually know everybody I passed. Once I graduated, my connections started to diminish. Then when I met Wendy, forget it, I was spending all my time with her, my social circle was killed.

Now that I'm downtown and out and about, I'm feeling good.

Back Online

It's been exactly two weeks that I've been livingin my apartment and it's finally starting to feel a bit more like home.

I finally broke down a lot of the empty boxes that were in my room and replaced them with some furniture. I have a new desk for my new computer, as well as a bookshelf. It has yet to have some shelves with books so right now it looks like a giant coffin in my room.

The best part about my room is how all my firniture is from IKEA yet each piece is a different shade of brown...

I'm starting to get a feeling for my roomates. They seem really nice and friendly. RM1 is out of town this weekend so they apartment is pretty quiet.

I started to bike ride around the area and it's great. I even started to bump into people i know which is always a nice feeling.

Sheira has been calling me lately to hang out and do stuff. Unfortunately both times I was busy but I hope not to have a Victoria repeat. I don't understand why I keep having bad timing issues.

Meanwhile I have been in contact with someone online (let's call her Happy) and we're in the negotiating phases of when and were is a god time to eet up for coffee or a beer. So, Monday night may mark Date # 3 on my list of 10 different people to date.

I decided to go out on a limb on this one. Happy viwed my profile. I read hers and even though she had no picture, decided to give it a try. We started messaging back and forth. I get the feeling that she is a more laid back person who doesn't need to go out and get drunk to have a good time. She also seems big into foreign films and culture.

We then exchanged e-mails and phone numbers. I have yet to talk to her or meet her in person, ans as of yet I have no idea how she looks. I know most people will insist on a photo first but the last person I met online, the photos did no justice at all. So whats the point?

I feel a bit guilty though. I did a little bit of research on this person. At first i google searched and facebooked her e-mail address but no luck. I figured out it must be what she uses to meet people online and it is not her personal address.

When she gave me her phone number though, Google gave me a hit with her personal e-mail address, thus giving me her last name. I then put that in Facebook and found her. Unfortunately, it was all for nothing because I can't see anything except a tiny pic of her in ski clothes (i.e. no face visible) until i add her as a friend.

It's scary, though, the possibility of stalking someone on the net.

Update

I have a few minutes this morning to take advantage and write a quick post to update you all in whats been going on lately.


Well, the move went well. I had help by 3 friends (at different times) and it only took 2 trips to get everything to the apartment. I already unpacked all my essentials but I still have some boxes in the middle of my room, and will stay there until I get more furniture (a desk, bookshelf, etc.).

I have the most fucked up closet in the world.


The depth of the closet is about 2/3 of a regular closet so all my clothes sit in it at an angle. On top of that, there is a single shelf to put stuff on but I can't because the architect put the shelf exactly in line with the top of the doorway, leaving about a 5 inch space to put things on a 12 inch shelf!

Other than that the apartment rocks! I'm living with two roomates, which I'll call RM1 and RM2 for simplicity. RM1 is very friendly. She's about 10 years older than me but pretty cool. She'll ask me how my day was and stuff like that. We've even been chilling int he kitchen watching LOST episodes a couple of times this week so that was awesome.

I've seen RM2 for a total of 15 minutes this entire past week. She's either in her room or out. This is fine by me, but I just found out last night that she's moving out in June. She just moved in last week! Well, maybe the new roomate will be a hottie.

As for girls, I found out that Victoria (whom I havn't spoken to since my last cancellation of plans due to the fact that she never had a cell phone and she moved) was seen at a party being very touchy feeling with a guy I know. It doesn't bother me, and not that I even wanted to, but I'm sure if I played my cards right I could have ended up like that. Instead, once again, I screwed up chances with a girl who was showing me interest.

On the bright side, I hung out with Sheira this past week. We went out for coffee and just chilled for an hour. Again, not something I ever really wanted to pursue, but we're totally in the 'buddies' zone, which is fine by me. We discovered we're both huge Radiohead fans and decided to go to the show this summer. I think it'll be fun to hang out with Sheira over the summer since she's new to My City and it feels good to show people around the great city I grew up in.

As for internet dating, I've been contact 3 times by mail order brides from Russia, a 38 year old male graphic designer (?) and a girl sent me a smile on Lavalife, thus convincing me to buy credits, but turned out to be a waste since she never replied to my message.

I'm hoping to get a computer in the next week or so, so hopefully I'll be able to update more often.

Peace!

Elwood's Embarking on a new chapter

Why do ex's want to know everything about your life after you've broken up? Is it just chit chat? I'm totally stumped.

Also Wendy offered to help me move.

Thankfully I have enough help, but I wondered how this whole process would be if i was dating someone. Having someone close to you helping you out other than your mom. Shopping together for furniture, picking out essentials, learning about how they would do things,etc. Then after a long day of unpacking, snuggling up in a bed together for a day well accomplished.

Maybe that is why I've been so pissy around my mom lately...

Well, that may be the case this summer, except replace 'day of unpacking' with 'night of drinking' and snuggling with 'bon chicca wah wah'.

Speaking of which, tomorrow is the BIG DAY.

I'm at about 15 boxes and still have to pack my CDs, graphic design stuff, guitar and all my clothes. I got a bunch of friends willing to help. I'm planning on doing it all in one trip and have horrid visions of the bed flying off the roof of the van.

I feel a little guilty but I've arranged it all so I don't need my mom's help. I think I'd go nuts other wise. Besides, I want to prove I ain't no mama's boy! (anymore...)

I can't believe it's finally happening. I'm moving out! Goodbye Parent's Basement, hello Elwood's Palace of Love.

Also, I won't have a computer for a little while so it will be hard to post . Enjoy this little break but don't go too far away, I'll be back!

Bag Tagged

I'd like to take this moment to thank JRM for always leaving me comments and for tagging me on her blog, My Husbands Slut.

For those who found this blog through hers, I promise over the next few months there will be more exciting things to read on here since I'm moving downtown in 5 days!

Now getting onto the tag:

The rules:
1. Pick up the nearest book.
2. Open to page 123.
3. Find the fifth sentence.
4. Post the next three sentences.
5. Tag five people

1. Nearest book is this brand new one I bought called Merde Actually by Stephen Clarke. It's the sequel to the book A Year in the Merde which was hilarious. It's about a guy from London who moves to Paris for a new job and about all his adventures over a year handling living amongst French people. I highly recommend it.

2. I havn't even opened this book yet so this shall be fun...121, 122... okay 123!

3. Found fifth sentence.

4. Next 3 lines happen to be a full paragraph:

'Did you see her?' Charles asked me when the jig was over and I'd managed to unclamp his fingers from the hem of the old dirndl's petticoat. 'Not bad, eh? Do you think I should ask her for her phone number?'

5. Tagging 5 people. Well.. I don't know many in the anonymous blog circle but here are five in no particular order:

1. SO@24 of starting over at 24
2. Notevenwater of Not Even Water
3. Bondi Betty of Bondi Betty
4. MissCurious of Miss Curious
5. Irish and Jew of An Irish and a Jew

Get over it

I don't understand it.

I'm sure it's a normal thing but it's still confusing.

My friend Maynard told me that when he broke up with his girlfriend (it was a bad break up) that it took him 6 months to get over her. It's been almost 4 months since Wendy and I broke up. At first it was hard because we still hung out the first 2 months, but the last month wasn't so bad. I started going out again. I was hanging out with my brother. A lot of things were distracting me, including the big move (less than a week!) but this past week or so has just been so hard!

I'm not hoping to get back together with her or anything, remembering all of the good times together is making being single hard on me. I miss a lot of things.

I know what sparked this path down memory lane. I let me guard down.

Wendy and I were sending short messages back and forth on facebook. Recently the last few got a bit longer. Finally she sent me this:

"Would you maybe wanna grab a coffee or something after passover? I miss talking to you and I think it would be nice..but if you're not ready or uncomfortable with it, I totally understand..."

Yesterday when I was cleaning out my room didn't help either. I found a birthday card from her and even a piece of paper with her number on it. It must have been the first time I got it from her.

I'm actually terrified to see her anytime soon. I hope this is normal, but i don't feel ready yet. I wonder if she's over me yet either?

Actually as I sort of mentioned in the last post, I think I was using Victoria as a means to get over Wendy, but there wasn't even anything there (ex: I liked when she called, but Victoria would never actually talk to me so it wasn't really like when I used to talk to Wendy at all).

Anyways, the rest of this week will be really busy with moving and once I'm downtown I'll be so busy learning how to cook, do laundry and clean my room that I won't be thinking of Wendy or Victoria.

I know that once I'm settled in downtown, I'll be able to go out more an dhave much more interesting things to talk about then the same ol' crap I keep repeating.