I'll admit, today I was under the impression that things went worse last night than I thought because Cute Jew 2 never came to my show tonight. Yesterday she was all excited and wanted to go. I couldn't remember if she had that enthusiasm before or after I insulted her for commenting on her kissing. Either way, at the end of the night, when I walked her to the bus I forgot about the show and just wished her a good trip (she's going away for the weekend) and told her to call me when she got back into town.
Realizing this, I texted her when I got home to confirm if she was still coming.
No answer.
I figured. it was late so that was why. So at work today I texted her again.
No answer.
All day I thought she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. I didn't let it bother me but I made up my mind I'd have to see if i hear from her when she's back. If she doesn't get in touch with me than that's that.
Well turns out she did write back to me on facebook and I never got the message since for some strange reason facebook stopped e-mailing me updates. Turns out she was just too busy to come. However, her text was really short so there is a possibility I did turn her off last night with my comments but I'll just have to see what happens.
Guess there's always a an explanation for everything.
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Small World
Unless I ruined things yesterday with my comments yesterday I guess you can say Cute Jew 2 and I are dating. Since I've decided to see how things go and keep it exclusive (i.e. not dating anyone else), I've lost any interest to go on dating websites.
However, I don't intent to delete my profiles, just not use them. Maybe if things get more serious with CJ2 I can always change my availability on the sites but most people get the idea when it shows the user hasn't logged on in months.
However, OK!Cupid sent me an e-mail to inform me that I received mail from someone on their website. I could have ignored it but I read it out of curiosity and basically a girl read my profile and liked it and decided to send me a message.
Well, I realized I recognized her picture. I met her at a party CJ2 invited me to 2 weeks ago. There were 8 people there and I was the only guy. I didn't say more to her except hi and introduce myself. Plus, my OK!Cupid profile is outdated with a picture of me with a mustache. I now have a goatee.
Being the gentleman I am I figured since she put so much effort to contact me (she stated that in her message) that I wouldn't keep her hanging and let her know I'm currently dating someone else.
As someone who has set tons of messages without any responses, I feel a response is better than none. So my dear readers, keep that in mind when internet dating.
That's my 2 cents.
However, I don't intent to delete my profiles, just not use them. Maybe if things get more serious with CJ2 I can always change my availability on the sites but most people get the idea when it shows the user hasn't logged on in months.
However, OK!Cupid sent me an e-mail to inform me that I received mail from someone on their website. I could have ignored it but I read it out of curiosity and basically a girl read my profile and liked it and decided to send me a message.
Well, I realized I recognized her picture. I met her at a party CJ2 invited me to 2 weeks ago. There were 8 people there and I was the only guy. I didn't say more to her except hi and introduce myself. Plus, my OK!Cupid profile is outdated with a picture of me with a mustache. I now have a goatee.
Being the gentleman I am I figured since she put so much effort to contact me (she stated that in her message) that I wouldn't keep her hanging and let her know I'm currently dating someone else.
As someone who has set tons of messages without any responses, I feel a response is better than none. So my dear readers, keep that in mind when internet dating.
That's my 2 cents.
King of Awkward
I swear you'd think I do it on person just to have an awkward story...
Tonight I had another date with Cute Jew 2 (CJ2). This makes it's date # 9 in 3 weeks.
We had seen a movie Saturday night and after the movie marked the first time we really kissed more than once (i.e. make out). She really liked it and even gave me a "crazy in love" look which did freak me out a bit but I just reminded myself that she's not very experienced and must just be excited as I am.
Tonight, however, we took it easy. CJ2 came over and I cooked us dinner. We then went to my room to watch some TV on my computer. Halfway through the episode, it turned into a make out session. At first I was really overwhelmed. She was kissing me with such force and it was so frantic it felt like she need my kisses to live or something. I enjoyed it but felt it was a bit much.
I then learnt a bit of my limits with her. I had placed my hand on her hip and started moving it toward her leg. As I inched her butt, she grabbed my hand and moved it higher up her hip again. No touching below the hip... got it.
Another thing I learned tonight is I sometimes say asshole things without knowing it. Now please keep in mind I was completely oblivious to what I was really saying. After kissing for a while, she pulled her head back and smiled at me. I looked at her and said "boy you really like kissing".
For reasons I still don't fully understand, I offended her. Maybe it was the way I said it but I just meant that I could tell she really enjoyed kissing me by the way she was doing it. I calmed her down and we got over it.
Things were great again, we were snuggling and talking and listening to music and having fun. That is until I opened my dumb mouth again and said "I just need to teach you how to French Kiss properly".
Again, I don't know what even prompted me to say such a thing but I did. I just felt that while kissing her she practically choked me with her tongue. I know everyone is different but with any girl I've made out with before her, we'd always have both our tongues touching and moving in different directions. CJ2 just shoved her tongue i my mouth and it really caught me off guard. So much so, that i guess it made me say what I said and then again offending her.
To save my ass I told her not to take anything I say seriously (which is true). She was utterly confused and said "i dont' know if you're joking or not. Were you joking when you said that?" to which I replied "yes I was... kind of".
We ended up making out again and it it was much better to my liking. She slowed things down and got rid of the awkwardness.
To cap the night nicely (and make up for the things i said), I walked her to the bus and waited in the colld for 20 minutes with her to keep her company.
I hope I get to see her again...
Tonight I had another date with Cute Jew 2 (CJ2). This makes it's date # 9 in 3 weeks.
We had seen a movie Saturday night and after the movie marked the first time we really kissed more than once (i.e. make out). She really liked it and even gave me a "crazy in love" look which did freak me out a bit but I just reminded myself that she's not very experienced and must just be excited as I am.
Tonight, however, we took it easy. CJ2 came over and I cooked us dinner. We then went to my room to watch some TV on my computer. Halfway through the episode, it turned into a make out session. At first I was really overwhelmed. She was kissing me with such force and it was so frantic it felt like she need my kisses to live or something. I enjoyed it but felt it was a bit much.
I then learnt a bit of my limits with her. I had placed my hand on her hip and started moving it toward her leg. As I inched her butt, she grabbed my hand and moved it higher up her hip again. No touching below the hip... got it.
Another thing I learned tonight is I sometimes say asshole things without knowing it. Now please keep in mind I was completely oblivious to what I was really saying. After kissing for a while, she pulled her head back and smiled at me. I looked at her and said "boy you really like kissing".
For reasons I still don't fully understand, I offended her. Maybe it was the way I said it but I just meant that I could tell she really enjoyed kissing me by the way she was doing it. I calmed her down and we got over it.
Things were great again, we were snuggling and talking and listening to music and having fun. That is until I opened my dumb mouth again and said "I just need to teach you how to French Kiss properly".
Again, I don't know what even prompted me to say such a thing but I did. I just felt that while kissing her she practically choked me with her tongue. I know everyone is different but with any girl I've made out with before her, we'd always have both our tongues touching and moving in different directions. CJ2 just shoved her tongue i my mouth and it really caught me off guard. So much so, that i guess it made me say what I said and then again offending her.
To save my ass I told her not to take anything I say seriously (which is true). She was utterly confused and said "i dont' know if you're joking or not. Were you joking when you said that?" to which I replied "yes I was... kind of".
We ended up making out again and it it was much better to my liking. She slowed things down and got rid of the awkwardness.
To cap the night nicely (and make up for the things i said), I walked her to the bus and waited in the colld for 20 minutes with her to keep her company.
I hope I get to see her again...
Sunday, December 5, 2010
Elwood 2.0
Yesterday I went through a complete wardrobe change.
A female friend of mine has been asking me for the longest time to allow her to take me shopping. Once I agreed she said I was in for a very unique experience.
We started at my apartment.
She went through all my drawers and closet and we went over every single item of clothing I owned. Basically she told me that I have a good style but I don't wear anything that fits me properly. For example I've been wearing a size 32 pants when in fact I'm really a 29-30. I have a tendency to buy large shirts when I should be wearing medium or small. She told me that from now on I should only look for European cut clothing because they are usually designed to be more fitted.
This was perfect timing since I'm moving in less than a month and have tons of old clothes i should have got rid of ages ago. Well, after we looked through all my clothes, I ended up with 3 large garbage bags worth of stuff to donate to a thrift store. My closet is bare and my My drawers went from brimming with clothes to one completely empty and the other half full.
Then we hit the stores.
She's a very fashionable person in a way that I like. She's not all about spending loads of cash on high end designer makes just because it's Armani. On the other hand she is all about finding things that have a little something that makes it unique but not far out there.
Oh and she know's how to find thing on sale.
We basically went to a store that is known for selling designer clothes at ridiculously lower prices. Plus they have a liquidation section. With her help I bout about 150$ worth of clothes (came to 5 items) that would have normally cost close to 300$.
The only downfall was she really wanted to dress my up classy and we went to Zara right before the stores closed. I ended up being convinced to be one pair of pants and one shirt that cost more money than all the other items together. However, she insisted they look awesome on me.
I figured if I'm going for change, than I'll go all the way.
The other god thing about my shopping "date" was I had brand new clothes for my real date that night. I was invited to a Hanukkah party by Cute Jew 2.
While having dinner with my shopping friend, I had a realization about two things that I have a bad habit of doing:
1. I'm very indecisive when it comes to dating someone especially at the beginning. I worry so much about what could happen, what I want, etc. instead of just enjoying the moment. It's totally OK to date someone for a while and then realize they are not for you. I don't have to figure it out on the first date.
2. I tell too many people my progress when dating someone. I'm so wishy washy, hat I keep changing my mind, like i am with CJ2. If i would just keep it all to myself, then no one would know my indecisiveness and I'd be able to just figure things out myself instead of feeling like i have to keep justifying everything to my friends. Otherwise they'll ask me things like "Oh I thought you liked her" or "Oh didn't you say you weren't interested?" all the time.
So I'm going to try really hard this time to keep my dating information to myself and if I'm in the mood to talk tot someone or rant about it, I'll just use this blog. That's what I started it for in the first place.
Speaking of which, even though I wrote a post recently that I'd tell Cute Jew 2 that I'm not up for dating her, last night went int eh complete opposite direction. I think I made her like me more.
We went to her "party", which ended up being 8 girls and myself hanging out at an apartment having dessert. I was decked out in my new clothes and for once kept pretty quiet (mostly due to be exhausted but also trying something new).
Because I never had time to go home, I just met her straight from shopping and that didn't allow me to go get the CD I burnt for her (I made a copy of an album she told me she wanted to buy). Once I told her that, her face lit up like I did the most awesome thing in the world. Bonus points for me.
The party was nice and chill and then when it got late we went to the Subway together.
We were both tired and quiet but she leaned on my shoulder so I put my arm around her. Then on the subway car, her stop was coming up so she told em she had a really nice time Adan was glad I came.
I couldn't help it but I felt like it was the right moment to kiss her. I could see she really wanted me to and I just couldnt' resist (and wanted to also) so I did.
She's coming tonight to support me at my show. She's really excited.
I also found out something very interesting last night. I dont' know why the conversation came in that direction and I wasn't purposely trying to veer it there, but we were talking about dating experience. I.e. how many b/f - g/f have we had. She admitted she's dated 4 guys, the longest being 4 years and the other 3 only 6 months each.
She told me she usually gets a lot of guys after her but most of them just want to get in her pants.
She is exactly where I was when I was dating Wendy.
I'm not sure what I want from this especially now that there won't be any sex, but for now I just want to go with the flow.
A female friend of mine has been asking me for the longest time to allow her to take me shopping. Once I agreed she said I was in for a very unique experience.
We started at my apartment.
She went through all my drawers and closet and we went over every single item of clothing I owned. Basically she told me that I have a good style but I don't wear anything that fits me properly. For example I've been wearing a size 32 pants when in fact I'm really a 29-30. I have a tendency to buy large shirts when I should be wearing medium or small. She told me that from now on I should only look for European cut clothing because they are usually designed to be more fitted.
This was perfect timing since I'm moving in less than a month and have tons of old clothes i should have got rid of ages ago. Well, after we looked through all my clothes, I ended up with 3 large garbage bags worth of stuff to donate to a thrift store. My closet is bare and my My drawers went from brimming with clothes to one completely empty and the other half full.
Then we hit the stores.
She's a very fashionable person in a way that I like. She's not all about spending loads of cash on high end designer makes just because it's Armani. On the other hand she is all about finding things that have a little something that makes it unique but not far out there.
Oh and she know's how to find thing on sale.
We basically went to a store that is known for selling designer clothes at ridiculously lower prices. Plus they have a liquidation section. With her help I bout about 150$ worth of clothes (came to 5 items) that would have normally cost close to 300$.
The only downfall was she really wanted to dress my up classy and we went to Zara right before the stores closed. I ended up being convinced to be one pair of pants and one shirt that cost more money than all the other items together. However, she insisted they look awesome on me.
I figured if I'm going for change, than I'll go all the way.
The other god thing about my shopping "date" was I had brand new clothes for my real date that night. I was invited to a Hanukkah party by Cute Jew 2.
While having dinner with my shopping friend, I had a realization about two things that I have a bad habit of doing:
1. I'm very indecisive when it comes to dating someone especially at the beginning. I worry so much about what could happen, what I want, etc. instead of just enjoying the moment. It's totally OK to date someone for a while and then realize they are not for you. I don't have to figure it out on the first date.
2. I tell too many people my progress when dating someone. I'm so wishy washy, hat I keep changing my mind, like i am with CJ2. If i would just keep it all to myself, then no one would know my indecisiveness and I'd be able to just figure things out myself instead of feeling like i have to keep justifying everything to my friends. Otherwise they'll ask me things like "Oh I thought you liked her" or "Oh didn't you say you weren't interested?" all the time.
So I'm going to try really hard this time to keep my dating information to myself and if I'm in the mood to talk tot someone or rant about it, I'll just use this blog. That's what I started it for in the first place.
Speaking of which, even though I wrote a post recently that I'd tell Cute Jew 2 that I'm not up for dating her, last night went int eh complete opposite direction. I think I made her like me more.
We went to her "party", which ended up being 8 girls and myself hanging out at an apartment having dessert. I was decked out in my new clothes and for once kept pretty quiet (mostly due to be exhausted but also trying something new).
Because I never had time to go home, I just met her straight from shopping and that didn't allow me to go get the CD I burnt for her (I made a copy of an album she told me she wanted to buy). Once I told her that, her face lit up like I did the most awesome thing in the world. Bonus points for me.
The party was nice and chill and then when it got late we went to the Subway together.
We were both tired and quiet but she leaned on my shoulder so I put my arm around her. Then on the subway car, her stop was coming up so she told em she had a really nice time Adan was glad I came.
I couldn't help it but I felt like it was the right moment to kiss her. I could see she really wanted me to and I just couldnt' resist (and wanted to also) so I did.
She's coming tonight to support me at my show. She's really excited.
I also found out something very interesting last night. I dont' know why the conversation came in that direction and I wasn't purposely trying to veer it there, but we were talking about dating experience. I.e. how many b/f - g/f have we had. She admitted she's dated 4 guys, the longest being 4 years and the other 3 only 6 months each.
She told me she usually gets a lot of guys after her but most of them just want to get in her pants.
She is exactly where I was when I was dating Wendy.
I'm not sure what I want from this especially now that there won't be any sex, but for now I just want to go with the flow.
Saturday, December 4, 2010
On The Fence
Tonight I was at a dinner party. My good friend Spider Dude is back in town for a month from Australia. I ended up spending most of the night chatting with another friend, I'll call Tall Friend (yup she's tall). Tall Friend has been bugging me lately about my progress with Cute Jew 2.
She was curious on how things are going and I said "OK". It's not the first time and she's not the first person to mention that I don't really sound so into her from my reaction.
I've been really all over the place with CJ2. She's cute and interesting but a few things bother me. She's short, seems inexperienced, and not very independent. It's mostly the exact opposite of what I liked so much about Indie Rock Girl.
IRG lived on her own, not very far from me. She was very outgoing and seemed very independent. She knew what she wanted and would tell me as it were.
CJ2 lives with her parents far away, and is extremely shy. At first I thought i could live with these things but if they are bothering me now, then there is no point leading her on.
I realize on top of all that, that I think I just don't really want to date date right now (or at least not with her). Tall Friend was telling me how she just joined OK Cupid and just wants to meet new people and get out there and also admitted to being open to casual sex.
Now I'm not saying I want to go out and sleep on the first date with every girl I meet, but that's kind of what I feel like I want as well. Just to meet different people and see what happens. GO out and have fun.
I met CJ2, find out she likes me and already have been on 5 dates in two weeks. If i keep that up I'll definitely be misleading her and also won't have the time to meet other people.
I've been on the fence with her but I think I've made up my mind that she's not for me in that way. I'd still like to hang out with her perhaps once in a while but not spend all my free time with her.
She invited me to a party tomorrow night which I'll still attend but I think I'll just let her know afterwards that I'm just not in the right frame of mind to date right now which is the truth. I am pretty preoccupied with moving and also will be spending a lot of time looking for a new job once the new year begins and I'm all settled into my new apartment.
Then again, before dinner tonight, I had it in my head that I was going to try and finally get a kiss from her.
See what I mean by being on the fence? However, I think it's true that I'm not really into her and the whole point of writing this post was for me to wake up and be aware of the obvious.
Well, I'll post what happens later this weekend.
She was curious on how things are going and I said "OK". It's not the first time and she's not the first person to mention that I don't really sound so into her from my reaction.
I've been really all over the place with CJ2. She's cute and interesting but a few things bother me. She's short, seems inexperienced, and not very independent. It's mostly the exact opposite of what I liked so much about Indie Rock Girl.
IRG lived on her own, not very far from me. She was very outgoing and seemed very independent. She knew what she wanted and would tell me as it were.
CJ2 lives with her parents far away, and is extremely shy. At first I thought i could live with these things but if they are bothering me now, then there is no point leading her on.
I realize on top of all that, that I think I just don't really want to date date right now (or at least not with her). Tall Friend was telling me how she just joined OK Cupid and just wants to meet new people and get out there and also admitted to being open to casual sex.
Now I'm not saying I want to go out and sleep on the first date with every girl I meet, but that's kind of what I feel like I want as well. Just to meet different people and see what happens. GO out and have fun.
I met CJ2, find out she likes me and already have been on 5 dates in two weeks. If i keep that up I'll definitely be misleading her and also won't have the time to meet other people.
I've been on the fence with her but I think I've made up my mind that she's not for me in that way. I'd still like to hang out with her perhaps once in a while but not spend all my free time with her.
She invited me to a party tomorrow night which I'll still attend but I think I'll just let her know afterwards that I'm just not in the right frame of mind to date right now which is the truth. I am pretty preoccupied with moving and also will be spending a lot of time looking for a new job once the new year begins and I'm all settled into my new apartment.
Then again, before dinner tonight, I had it in my head that I was going to try and finally get a kiss from her.
See what I mean by being on the fence? However, I think it's true that I'm not really into her and the whole point of writing this post was for me to wake up and be aware of the obvious.
Well, I'll post what happens later this weekend.
Sunday, November 28, 2010
A little bit too cocky?
I just got home from another date with Cute Jew 2 (CJ2). We've been seeing each other quite a bit in a short while. I met her last Friday, went to a show Saturday night, she came to support me at a show i was in on Sunday, we went for dinner Thursday and I saw her yet again tonight.
Thursday dinner was quite nice and afterwards I walked her to the subway station. We were going in different directions. She told that dinner was nice and when I suggested we go out Saturday night her face lit up with a smile and a "yeah OK!".
When friends had asked me how things were going with CJ2, I would say no bad but I could tell she really likes me.I even cracked the joke that it's been "too easy". My coworker said I was sounding cocky.
I thought about it today and after going on a couple of dates all ending with me standing quite far from her saying how I had fun, I decided tonight I'd attempt to kiss her.
Those who follow my blog long enough will know I have a terrible time kissing girls on dates for the first time.
Tonight we went to play pool and bowling (at the same place), had coffee and then I walked with her for several blocks in her direction home. It was really cold tonight but when we arrived at the subway, I went inside and she followed. Again I was standing kind of far but had every intention to move in close.
Before I could do anything she smiled and said she had fun and we should do something again soon (actually I can't remember if she said something like "lets get together again" or "we should do something sometime" - big difference) and then came up to me and gave me a hug.
I tried to hold her tight but didn't feel it reciprocated so a loosened. Now I"m sure if she wanted a kiss she would have stayed in my arms and looked up or something (she's like a foot shorter than me than me) but instead she b-lined for the door. She still smiled and said she wanted to see me again.
So, I can't tell if she did that out of being shy or if she did that to show she just wants to be friends. As she was leaving I said "Wait. When would you like to..." but I instead of finishing my sentence i just said "Oh, we'll figure something out I'm sure" and left.
I'll give it a couple of days before i call her and see how she reacts. If she wants to get together and again so eagerly than I'll assume she's just shy.
I'll keep you posted!
Thursday dinner was quite nice and afterwards I walked her to the subway station. We were going in different directions. She told that dinner was nice and when I suggested we go out Saturday night her face lit up with a smile and a "yeah OK!".
When friends had asked me how things were going with CJ2, I would say no bad but I could tell she really likes me.I even cracked the joke that it's been "too easy". My coworker said I was sounding cocky.
I thought about it today and after going on a couple of dates all ending with me standing quite far from her saying how I had fun, I decided tonight I'd attempt to kiss her.
Those who follow my blog long enough will know I have a terrible time kissing girls on dates for the first time.
Tonight we went to play pool and bowling (at the same place), had coffee and then I walked with her for several blocks in her direction home. It was really cold tonight but when we arrived at the subway, I went inside and she followed. Again I was standing kind of far but had every intention to move in close.
Before I could do anything she smiled and said she had fun and we should do something again soon (actually I can't remember if she said something like "lets get together again" or "we should do something sometime" - big difference) and then came up to me and gave me a hug.
I tried to hold her tight but didn't feel it reciprocated so a loosened. Now I"m sure if she wanted a kiss she would have stayed in my arms and looked up or something (she's like a foot shorter than me than me) but instead she b-lined for the door. She still smiled and said she wanted to see me again.
So, I can't tell if she did that out of being shy or if she did that to show she just wants to be friends. As she was leaving I said "Wait. When would you like to..." but I instead of finishing my sentence i just said "Oh, we'll figure something out I'm sure" and left.
I'll give it a couple of days before i call her and see how she reacts. If she wants to get together and again so eagerly than I'll assume she's just shy.
I'll keep you posted!
Monday, November 22, 2010
Snowball Effect
Friday night I meet Cute Jew 2 at a dinner event. Last night we went out together. We had dinner before hand and then watch a fun circus show. She holds really good eye contact and trust me she is not hard on the eyes.
During dinner I told her about the show I perform in on Sundays. Come Sunday, I get a text from her asking me what time the show starts and then she showed up with her friend that night.
After the show she left with her friend and I didn't really get to say goodbye so I texted her "I'm glad you came tonight, Are you free this week to grab a coffee or something". To which she replied yes and either Monday night or Thursday night.
I picked Thursday because if I had picked Monday then I would have seen her 4 days in a row. Now, if a girl wants to hang out with me 4 days in a row, I'm guessing either she is bored and really looking for something to do with friends, or she may have a thing for me.
I figured I find Cute Jew 2 pretty cute and interesting so I'd like to see where it goes. I'm always confused at the beginning when I meet someone if it's to just be friends or more. But regardless 4 days in a row is a bit extreme. I think I'll wait a couple of days to let it build up.
During dinner I told her about the show I perform in on Sundays. Come Sunday, I get a text from her asking me what time the show starts and then she showed up with her friend that night.
After the show she left with her friend and I didn't really get to say goodbye so I texted her "I'm glad you came tonight, Are you free this week to grab a coffee or something". To which she replied yes and either Monday night or Thursday night.
I picked Thursday because if I had picked Monday then I would have seen her 4 days in a row. Now, if a girl wants to hang out with me 4 days in a row, I'm guessing either she is bored and really looking for something to do with friends, or she may have a thing for me.
I figured I find Cute Jew 2 pretty cute and interesting so I'd like to see where it goes. I'm always confused at the beginning when I meet someone if it's to just be friends or more. But regardless 4 days in a row is a bit extreme. I think I'll wait a couple of days to let it build up.
Saturday, November 20, 2010
Friday Night Dinner
This is a long one but worth the read. Especially since I've been updating so seldom. Enjoy!
I'm not sure if I ever mentioned this before, but I'm Jewish.
I'm not religious but I like to follow a few traditions just because that's how I was raised. I got to synagogue twice a year on the High Holidays (equivalent to most Christians who only go to Church on Christmas) and follow Hanukkah and Passover which are really excuses to hang out with family and have a big meal.
I keep quasi kosher. The main food rules are not to mix meat and milk and do not eat pork. I do neither but will go out and eat Chinese food (which isn't kosher food).
So now you have an idea of how much I follow the religion.
My brother Ira, on the other hand, is all over the place. He was always more into the religion than I was. He went to Hebrew school, lived in Israel for a year and goes to Synagogue every Saturday. He won't drive on Shabbat (Sabbath) and observes all the holidays (there's plenty).
He was married for 8 years to a woman who was more observant than he was when they met and he became more himself during their marriage.After the marriage he became close fiends to other people who were just as observant as he.
Recently he got involved with someone who was a step even more religious and was wearing a kippah all the time. My mother got very nervous she'd lose her son to religion but thankfully they broke up because he felt he couldn't keep up with her.
So now you have an idea of how much he follows the religion.
Besides the religious aspect, there is a pretty tight Jewish community in My City and my brother flocks to all the events. Last night there was an Ethiopian dinner held at a Synagogue for the younger community.
I usually avoid these events since I'm not comfortable being around religious people and don't really follow a lot of it. Ira kept pushing me to go since all it was going to be was a speech by a guest rabbi from Ethiopia and it would be full of single women, which is one of the main reasons he wanted to go.When a friend of mine invited me to the same dinner, I decided to give it a shot.
I showed up late due to work and missed the speech. When I arrived in the dinner hall, there was easily over a hundred people ranging from 20 to 45. Most were mid-twenties to mid-thirties and mostly single. More single guys than girls.
There were a few old acquaintances I bumped into and noticed a bunch of women my brother had been on dates with including his ex-wife. I even bumped into Rock Chick. I hadn't seen her since our few dates the year before.
I'm glad my friend was there so I got to hang out with him and other people closer to my age than be Ira's wing man. He's 10 years older than me and I didnt' really care to sit with a bunch of 40 year olds.
At my table was my friend, two young Israeli guys, my friend's 2 friends an old acquaintance with his wife and kid and two cute young female students. I'll call them Cute Jew 1 and Cute Jew 2 (or CJ1 and CJ2 for short).
At first I started talking to Cute Jew 1 since she was a bit closer to me but over the night I switched to Cute Jew 2. I really got her attention when Australia came up. Apparently she had been there and was super excited to exchange stories.
At one point of the night, after the delicious meal, Rock chick came to say hi at the table and I discovered that Rock Chick and Cute Jew 2 new each other.
After 10pm, they opened a bar. While waiting in line Rock chick runs up to me (all of a sudden she's my friend now?) and asks if I"m single. I was thrown off by that but said yes. She continues to tell me that Cute Jew 2 likes me and is really shy and wanted Rock Girl to get my number for her.
To be honest I was thinking of asking Cute Jew for her number when I left anyways so I told Rock Chick I'd just go talk to her myself.
I swear you'd think the whole place was trying to set us up. I walk up to CJ1 and CJ2 sitting alone at a table and "all of a sudden" CJ1 had to "go to the bathroom", leaving us alone. Earlier I had told Cute Jew 2 about the improv theater I go to and she seems interested by that. So, knowing there is a show tonight I wanted to go to, but not alone, I invited her.
Her face lit up like a Christmas light.
I'm trying not to get too excited about it but it's very rare I meet girls at parties. She's cute, young and seems fun and interesting. I'm not sure if she knows I'm 29 but I do act a lot younger so that may be a good match. She's a tad more observant than me in terms of religion but I don't think she's looking for marriage or anything hard core like that, so that's good.
Right now, my main concern in my life is finding an apartment and then a new job. Meeting cute girls at parties though, are a nice bonus :)
We're to meet tonight before the show for coffee, and then go to the show.
Let's see what happens.
I'm not sure if I ever mentioned this before, but I'm Jewish.
I'm not religious but I like to follow a few traditions just because that's how I was raised. I got to synagogue twice a year on the High Holidays (equivalent to most Christians who only go to Church on Christmas) and follow Hanukkah and Passover which are really excuses to hang out with family and have a big meal.
I keep quasi kosher. The main food rules are not to mix meat and milk and do not eat pork. I do neither but will go out and eat Chinese food (which isn't kosher food).
So now you have an idea of how much I follow the religion.
My brother Ira, on the other hand, is all over the place. He was always more into the religion than I was. He went to Hebrew school, lived in Israel for a year and goes to Synagogue every Saturday. He won't drive on Shabbat (Sabbath) and observes all the holidays (there's plenty).
He was married for 8 years to a woman who was more observant than he was when they met and he became more himself during their marriage.After the marriage he became close fiends to other people who were just as observant as he.
Recently he got involved with someone who was a step even more religious and was wearing a kippah all the time. My mother got very nervous she'd lose her son to religion but thankfully they broke up because he felt he couldn't keep up with her.
So now you have an idea of how much he follows the religion.
Besides the religious aspect, there is a pretty tight Jewish community in My City and my brother flocks to all the events. Last night there was an Ethiopian dinner held at a Synagogue for the younger community.
I usually avoid these events since I'm not comfortable being around religious people and don't really follow a lot of it. Ira kept pushing me to go since all it was going to be was a speech by a guest rabbi from Ethiopia and it would be full of single women, which is one of the main reasons he wanted to go.When a friend of mine invited me to the same dinner, I decided to give it a shot.
I showed up late due to work and missed the speech. When I arrived in the dinner hall, there was easily over a hundred people ranging from 20 to 45. Most were mid-twenties to mid-thirties and mostly single. More single guys than girls.
There were a few old acquaintances I bumped into and noticed a bunch of women my brother had been on dates with including his ex-wife. I even bumped into Rock Chick. I hadn't seen her since our few dates the year before.
I'm glad my friend was there so I got to hang out with him and other people closer to my age than be Ira's wing man. He's 10 years older than me and I didnt' really care to sit with a bunch of 40 year olds.
At my table was my friend, two young Israeli guys, my friend's 2 friends an old acquaintance with his wife and kid and two cute young female students. I'll call them Cute Jew 1 and Cute Jew 2 (or CJ1 and CJ2 for short).
At first I started talking to Cute Jew 1 since she was a bit closer to me but over the night I switched to Cute Jew 2. I really got her attention when Australia came up. Apparently she had been there and was super excited to exchange stories.
At one point of the night, after the delicious meal, Rock chick came to say hi at the table and I discovered that Rock Chick and Cute Jew 2 new each other.
After 10pm, they opened a bar. While waiting in line Rock chick runs up to me (all of a sudden she's my friend now?) and asks if I"m single. I was thrown off by that but said yes. She continues to tell me that Cute Jew 2 likes me and is really shy and wanted Rock Girl to get my number for her.
To be honest I was thinking of asking Cute Jew for her number when I left anyways so I told Rock Chick I'd just go talk to her myself.
I swear you'd think the whole place was trying to set us up. I walk up to CJ1 and CJ2 sitting alone at a table and "all of a sudden" CJ1 had to "go to the bathroom", leaving us alone. Earlier I had told Cute Jew 2 about the improv theater I go to and she seems interested by that. So, knowing there is a show tonight I wanted to go to, but not alone, I invited her.
Her face lit up like a Christmas light.
I'm trying not to get too excited about it but it's very rare I meet girls at parties. She's cute, young and seems fun and interesting. I'm not sure if she knows I'm 29 but I do act a lot younger so that may be a good match. She's a tad more observant than me in terms of religion but I don't think she's looking for marriage or anything hard core like that, so that's good.
Right now, my main concern in my life is finding an apartment and then a new job. Meeting cute girls at parties though, are a nice bonus :)
We're to meet tonight before the show for coffee, and then go to the show.
Let's see what happens.
Monday, November 15, 2010
Guess I have charm
So although I wasn't too thrilled of the date I recently went on, one of the things we discussed was if she had met anyone else from online through OK!Cupid. She told me yes, but no one she saw second time.
This had been our second encouter, and then after a week of me not contacting her, she sent me an e-mail to see what was up.
Guess I'm doing something right.
I decided to give it another go and wrote back. If i hear from here again, I'll ask her out on another date and go from there.
Updates to follow!
This had been our second encouter, and then after a week of me not contacting her, she sent me an e-mail to see what was up.
Guess I'm doing something right.
I decided to give it another go and wrote back. If i hear from here again, I'll ask her out on another date and go from there.
Updates to follow!
Monday, November 8, 2010
Major turn Off
So last night I went to see Bonobo in concert. It was amazing. I made it kind of a date by inviting the Bi-Girl I mention in my last post.
The show was great and so was her company. We chatted before the show and she seems to think I"m funny since she laughed a lot. That's a plus. Also, she mentioned that she's met several people online but never went on a second date. Technically this was our second rendez-vous.
However, halfway during the show she took off her sweater. Then when the show was over and the lights came back on I was able to see that she had very hair arms. Hairier than my own.
Now I know I may not be being fair by saying this but it really turned me off. She is of Eastern Europe descent but it just really turned me off. Is this normal (for me to be turned off)?
In any case we had an awkward end of the night. She just walked away to catch her subway without a proper goodbye. I don't know if she's for me anyways, so I decided to not contact her and if she contacts me I'll decide then if I want to pursue it or not.
The show was great and so was her company. We chatted before the show and she seems to think I"m funny since she laughed a lot. That's a plus. Also, she mentioned that she's met several people online but never went on a second date. Technically this was our second rendez-vous.
However, halfway during the show she took off her sweater. Then when the show was over and the lights came back on I was able to see that she had very hair arms. Hairier than my own.
Now I know I may not be being fair by saying this but it really turned me off. She is of Eastern Europe descent but it just really turned me off. Is this normal (for me to be turned off)?
In any case we had an awkward end of the night. She just walked away to catch her subway without a proper goodbye. I don't know if she's for me anyways, so I decided to not contact her and if she contacts me I'll decide then if I want to pursue it or not.
Friday, November 5, 2010
Back in the game
Tonight I had my first "date" with a girl since IRG left (for the second time).
I'm a bit lost on this one.
We met through OK!Cupid. After a few messages back and forth, I had invited her to come check out this haunted house i was performing in. Apparently she came but I was so into the theatrics of the show, I missed out seeing a lot of people who told me that came. In any case she said she recognized me even with all this makeup on (I was a half burned person).
So, after discovering she came, I popped the question if she's like to go for coffee. I brought her to a Nice place tonight, but unfortunately it was packed so we went for a beer at a bar close by instead.
She's 22, tall and originally from a different city. We chatted about movies, TV, Books, family, etc. She seems pretty cool.
The thing I'm lost about is on her profile she's list as "bi" and "interested in guys and girls who like guys" which are both fine. However, she has a really short haircut and was dressed boyish. Now I'm not saying because she dresses this way it must mean she's a lesbian, but I just got the feeling she was. Either way she's cute.
After the beer, I invited her to a concert I'm going to in 2 days but unfortunately had 2 tickets but no one to go with. She doesn't know the band but is willing to give them a try.
Sounds exciting. Wi;; keep you guys posted.
I'm a bit lost on this one.
We met through OK!Cupid. After a few messages back and forth, I had invited her to come check out this haunted house i was performing in. Apparently she came but I was so into the theatrics of the show, I missed out seeing a lot of people who told me that came. In any case she said she recognized me even with all this makeup on (I was a half burned person).
So, after discovering she came, I popped the question if she's like to go for coffee. I brought her to a Nice place tonight, but unfortunately it was packed so we went for a beer at a bar close by instead.
She's 22, tall and originally from a different city. We chatted about movies, TV, Books, family, etc. She seems pretty cool.
The thing I'm lost about is on her profile she's list as "bi" and "interested in guys and girls who like guys" which are both fine. However, she has a really short haircut and was dressed boyish. Now I'm not saying because she dresses this way it must mean she's a lesbian, but I just got the feeling she was. Either way she's cute.
After the beer, I invited her to a concert I'm going to in 2 days but unfortunately had 2 tickets but no one to go with. She doesn't know the band but is willing to give them a try.
Sounds exciting. Wi;; keep you guys posted.
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Strange Encounter
I'm back with a new (short) story.
Today was a very long day at work. I got home around 11pm; work emergency. I need to take a bus, subway and another bus just to get home. While waiting for the second bus, a girl comes up to me and says "I know you, but how?". I was so out of it, I couldn't even think who she could be. After she kept probing me, finally I guessed "is it from improv?" and she says "yeah that's it! You're the farter!"
OK. You're probably wondering WTF is going on... Long story short, last week I performed in a show with about 100 people watching. I start on stage alone and within the first 10 seconds accidentally let out the biggest fart. The crowd went into histarics. Three feet away, front row were sat my parents, laughing too, thankfully.
Back to tonight:
In our brief encounter the following happened:
- She got to know my real name (up until then she kept calling me "Fart Boy")
- I discovered she lives around the corner from me
- She gave me the number for her lanlord (I'm looking for a new apartment)
- After I told her i was on my way to Suways to grab dinner, she informed me that Pizza Pizza across the street ghad 5$ medium pizzas all week.
-She ordered me a pizza without even asking if I like pepperoni (which I don't eat since it's pork and follow a few kosher rules)
-As I was leaving she turns to me and says "do you hang out in the neighbourhood?", wuickly followed by "I'm not tyring to hit on you" and then "Just wondering since I'm looking for people to hang out with".
So we swapped numbers.
She seems a bit odd and really ins't my type but maybe we can hang out and do some cool stuff.
Today was a very long day at work. I got home around 11pm; work emergency. I need to take a bus, subway and another bus just to get home. While waiting for the second bus, a girl comes up to me and says "I know you, but how?". I was so out of it, I couldn't even think who she could be. After she kept probing me, finally I guessed "is it from improv?" and she says "yeah that's it! You're the farter!"
OK. You're probably wondering WTF is going on... Long story short, last week I performed in a show with about 100 people watching. I start on stage alone and within the first 10 seconds accidentally let out the biggest fart. The crowd went into histarics. Three feet away, front row were sat my parents, laughing too, thankfully.
Back to tonight:
In our brief encounter the following happened:
- She got to know my real name (up until then she kept calling me "Fart Boy")
- I discovered she lives around the corner from me
- She gave me the number for her lanlord (I'm looking for a new apartment)
- After I told her i was on my way to Suways to grab dinner, she informed me that Pizza Pizza across the street ghad 5$ medium pizzas all week.
-She ordered me a pizza without even asking if I like pepperoni (which I don't eat since it's pork and follow a few kosher rules)
-As I was leaving she turns to me and says "do you hang out in the neighbourhood?", wuickly followed by "I'm not tyring to hit on you" and then "Just wondering since I'm looking for people to hang out with".
So we swapped numbers.
She seems a bit odd and really ins't my type but maybe we can hang out and do some cool stuff.
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Taking the bait
I decided I want to get out there and just meet people. Yes, my long term secret goal is to meet someone to date but for now why not just see who's out there? So, I made an ad on craigslist in search of a concert buddy. I placed it in the Strictly Platonic section and already received 2 responses!
The first one was from a 20 year old who says she likes to go to shows but not alone. Her musical tastes are similar to mine so that's good.
The second one is a bit more interesting. Unless it's a huge coincidence, I think this person once contacted me for an ad I put up 2 years ago. The e-mail address is different but the name attached the e-mail is the same. She sounds like a concert pro, always going to shows but mostly alone and wants company. The funny thing is 2 years back, the ad she answered was when I was looking for someone to attend a movie I won free tickets to. She wrote after the movie happened, saying too bad she missed my ad because she would have loved to go. We ended up writing back 3-4 times until I asked her for coffee or a beer. She simply replied that she didn't want to leave me hanging but had no interest in meeting.
Well looky here!
I think I'll keep this story to myself if we end up meeting.
The first one was from a 20 year old who says she likes to go to shows but not alone. Her musical tastes are similar to mine so that's good.
The second one is a bit more interesting. Unless it's a huge coincidence, I think this person once contacted me for an ad I put up 2 years ago. The e-mail address is different but the name attached the e-mail is the same. She sounds like a concert pro, always going to shows but mostly alone and wants company. The funny thing is 2 years back, the ad she answered was when I was looking for someone to attend a movie I won free tickets to. She wrote after the movie happened, saying too bad she missed my ad because she would have loved to go. We ended up writing back 3-4 times until I asked her for coffee or a beer. She simply replied that she didn't want to leave me hanging but had no interest in meeting.
Well looky here!
I think I'll keep this story to myself if we end up meeting.
Monday, September 20, 2010
End Of Summer Review
Wow it's been exactly 1 month since I last posted something on here. Well I feel it's only fair I update you all (apparently I have 19 followers!) with what's been going on in my life this past 30 days:
Living: After living in an amazing apartment in an amazing area of town for the past 2+ years, I was informed by my roommate that she's pregnant (by my other roommate, her boyfriend) and they would like to live alone (makes sense) when the baby is due in January. So, I am on the search for a new place. I looked very briefly but need to start doing a better job. I calculated it and don't think I can afford a small place all by myself, so my options are either find someone and look for a place together or find random people on Craigslist and hope they are cool people to live with. There's been a bit of tension some days with the guy roommate and I so I'm getting eager to leave. I really hope I find something relatively close to where I live right now.
Work: It's been over 2 months at the new location and things are starting to feel smoother. However, I still want to find a new job. I've been looking almost every day and sending out resumes when I can but I haven't heard from anyone. I got one e-mail saying "thanks but you're not what we want, but we'll let you know if something else comes up". I got another e-mail saying "give us your portfolio" and never heard back. Finally I once got a call but I was at work in front of a coworker and really didn't answer the questions very well. Plus i never got the person's contact so I don't even know who I spoke with. I think I just need to try a bit harder, maybe change my cover letter or something. I hope I find something soon...
Indie Rock Girl: She's gone but we still e-mail back and forth. Recently she started telling me about a date she went on and then asked if it's cool she tells me about it. I thought about it and decided I dont' really care. It did bother me at first but I figure if she tells me these things it'll only make me more comfortable with it. Besides I told her she'd have to hear about my dates in return. Mwuhahah!
Girls: Speaking of which, I haven't been on any dates since she left. However, I have been browsing the Internet dating sites (Plentyoffish.com and OKCupid.com) and I have been getting tons of mail.OK, not tons but quite a few. It's been almost an equal mix of response to my initial e-mail to them as much as out of the blue E-mails from other girls. That's great, except most of them never responded to my response. There was one girl that sounded cool but she admitted to me that she takes drugs so that ended that for me. I have a potential date with a French girl later this week but I'm not too interested. I'm going to set it up regardless just to get out there and meet people.
So in a nutshell I'm doing fine but there are a lot of changes that are int eh process of happening (hopefully sooner than later): new job; new apartment; new g/f? I feel kind of "blah" lately but in 2 weeks I will be heading to a wedding in Tennessee so that will be a lot of fun.
I will make every effort to update when interesting things occur.
Until then!
Living: After living in an amazing apartment in an amazing area of town for the past 2+ years, I was informed by my roommate that she's pregnant (by my other roommate, her boyfriend) and they would like to live alone (makes sense) when the baby is due in January. So, I am on the search for a new place. I looked very briefly but need to start doing a better job. I calculated it and don't think I can afford a small place all by myself, so my options are either find someone and look for a place together or find random people on Craigslist and hope they are cool people to live with. There's been a bit of tension some days with the guy roommate and I so I'm getting eager to leave. I really hope I find something relatively close to where I live right now.
Work: It's been over 2 months at the new location and things are starting to feel smoother. However, I still want to find a new job. I've been looking almost every day and sending out resumes when I can but I haven't heard from anyone. I got one e-mail saying "thanks but you're not what we want, but we'll let you know if something else comes up". I got another e-mail saying "give us your portfolio" and never heard back. Finally I once got a call but I was at work in front of a coworker and really didn't answer the questions very well. Plus i never got the person's contact so I don't even know who I spoke with. I think I just need to try a bit harder, maybe change my cover letter or something. I hope I find something soon...
Indie Rock Girl: She's gone but we still e-mail back and forth. Recently she started telling me about a date she went on and then asked if it's cool she tells me about it. I thought about it and decided I dont' really care. It did bother me at first but I figure if she tells me these things it'll only make me more comfortable with it. Besides I told her she'd have to hear about my dates in return. Mwuhahah!
Girls: Speaking of which, I haven't been on any dates since she left. However, I have been browsing the Internet dating sites (Plentyoffish.com and OKCupid.com) and I have been getting tons of mail.OK, not tons but quite a few. It's been almost an equal mix of response to my initial e-mail to them as much as out of the blue E-mails from other girls. That's great, except most of them never responded to my response. There was one girl that sounded cool but she admitted to me that she takes drugs so that ended that for me. I have a potential date with a French girl later this week but I'm not too interested. I'm going to set it up regardless just to get out there and meet people.
So in a nutshell I'm doing fine but there are a lot of changes that are int eh process of happening (hopefully sooner than later): new job; new apartment; new g/f? I feel kind of "blah" lately but in 2 weeks I will be heading to a wedding in Tennessee so that will be a lot of fun.
I will make every effort to update when interesting things occur.
Until then!
Friday, August 20, 2010
Thank God For The Wire
The week back to work after having time off is always tough. Add onto to that the fact that Indie Rock Girl is gone probably forever. She e-mailed me the other day to say she had fun in My City and and said our friendship is special to me and hopes we can always be friends. So that was nice.
To keep me sane I've been watching an episode of The Wire, Season 1, every day this week. And it's helping!
Then when I'm through with that, I got Battlestar Galactica to get into.
Hooray for HMV gift certificates!
To keep me sane I've been watching an episode of The Wire, Season 1, every day this week. And it's helping!
Then when I'm through with that, I got Battlestar Galactica to get into.
Hooray for HMV gift certificates!
Monday, August 16, 2010
All good things come to an end
She's gone.
We had dinner together tonight at a great vegetarian place. Then she came over to check something on the Internet. I walked her to the door. We hugged and she said "Well... bye!". Or something along those lines.
I didn't have much else to say either. I'm trying not to make a big deal out of it and figured the less said the better.
She leaves tomorrow to fly back home and I'm not sure if she'll ever come back to Montreal. I guess the plan is to stay in touch via e-mail but I'm hoping to keep them pretty sporadic so I don't get too excited and distracted by them. I knwo it sounds silly but I have to get it in my head that from now on it'll be e-mails from a friend, like a pen pal, and not like a long distant girlfriend.
Don't worry about me, I'm fine this time.
I had a lot of fun with her this past week but we both knew this was going to happen and I have other things to keep my mind afloat: 1. Findind a new job and 2. finding a new apartment.
Yes, my roommates have informed me that they will be wanting to live alone come this January (they are a couple) which makes total sense.
In the end, I gave IRG her gift and she loved it. We ended up going to her friend'sd party which was fun adn had amazing food. Then we ended the night at the apartment she was staying at. This time she invited me up, so that felt nice.
Well she's gone.
I'll get over her but I can't but say:
I'll miss you.
We had dinner together tonight at a great vegetarian place. Then she came over to check something on the Internet. I walked her to the door. We hugged and she said "Well... bye!". Or something along those lines.
I didn't have much else to say either. I'm trying not to make a big deal out of it and figured the less said the better.
She leaves tomorrow to fly back home and I'm not sure if she'll ever come back to Montreal. I guess the plan is to stay in touch via e-mail but I'm hoping to keep them pretty sporadic so I don't get too excited and distracted by them. I knwo it sounds silly but I have to get it in my head that from now on it'll be e-mails from a friend, like a pen pal, and not like a long distant girlfriend.
Don't worry about me, I'm fine this time.
I had a lot of fun with her this past week but we both knew this was going to happen and I have other things to keep my mind afloat: 1. Findind a new job and 2. finding a new apartment.
Yes, my roommates have informed me that they will be wanting to live alone come this January (they are a couple) which makes total sense.
In the end, I gave IRG her gift and she loved it. We ended up going to her friend'sd party which was fun adn had amazing food. Then we ended the night at the apartment she was staying at. This time she invited me up, so that felt nice.
Well she's gone.
I'll get over her but I can't but say:
I'll miss you.
Saturday, August 14, 2010
My Week With Indie Rock Girl
What started off as an awkward beginning soon melted into a comfortable state.
After my freak out on Monday night, Indie Rock Girl and I met up Tuesday night to go watch a Shakespeare play in the park. The weather was beautiful and we biked there. When we arrived she asked me to hold he hand. Immediately it felt like a huge weight fell off my shoulders.
The play was a lot of fun. I really thought I'd hate it but it was very enjoyable.
After the show I biked with her back to the apartment and we stared at each other for a few seconds in silence so I asked if I could come up.
Cut to 5 minutes later making out on the couch.
I'll spare the details but we ended up in the bed and we had a pretty long period of sex. Aside from the time I went home with a friend just after IRG left (we never had intercourse), this was the first time I had sex since May.
Wednesday morning we went for breakfast and then spent the day shopping.
At night she came to watch me perform in a show and then we called it an early night since we had to get up early the next morning to go to the water slides with my brother Ira and his 2 friends.
The day at the water slides was a lot of fun. I didn't plan it that way, but ended up spending almost all my time with IRG since she didn't want to do a lot of the same stuff as my brother and his friends. However, everyone was really cool about it and she was fine when I ditched a little to go hang out with my bro on a ride or two. Originally I thought I'd miss out on a lot of fun rides since she seemed to just want to laze around in the pool and stuff but when my bro and his friends went off to wait in line for a specific ride, IRG and I ended up doing all the rides at the park (there are about 10 different kinds) and when we met up again, Ira and his friends had only been able to do that one ride due to the line up (it's the most popular one).
After the water slides, I had to rush home to get ready for another show I was in. IRG met me there to watch us perform. It was a pretty good show.
After the show, I walked her home and asked if I could come up again. I didnt' like that I had to ask but I really just wanted to spend the night with her. I had no intention of having sex. I just figured our time together is coming to an end and it would feel nice to sleep with another body. At first she was skeptical because she thought I asked to come up for sex, but when I told her i just wanted to sleep together, she was ok with that.
The next morning we woke up in each others arms and when I left to get my day going, she thanked me for coming up and said it was nice! That just blew my mind since I felt like I did a very needy thing and then she ended up being glad I did.
Friday I spent the day with my parents and had another show at night.
Today (Saturday) I have a few errands to attend to and I really want to see if I could work on her birthday present. Obviously I'd rather just spend time with her but I decided to save time, instead of making it on the computer, I could do it by hand using pencil crayons and it'll go a hell of a lot faster, and look more homemade too. Then I'll meet her later today to hang out for a bit.
I hope I get the chance, because tonight is a party her friend's are throwing her and even though I'll be there, it''ll be hard to spend time 1 on 1.
Well I best get my day started!
After my freak out on Monday night, Indie Rock Girl and I met up Tuesday night to go watch a Shakespeare play in the park. The weather was beautiful and we biked there. When we arrived she asked me to hold he hand. Immediately it felt like a huge weight fell off my shoulders.
The play was a lot of fun. I really thought I'd hate it but it was very enjoyable.
After the show I biked with her back to the apartment and we stared at each other for a few seconds in silence so I asked if I could come up.
Cut to 5 minutes later making out on the couch.
I'll spare the details but we ended up in the bed and we had a pretty long period of sex. Aside from the time I went home with a friend just after IRG left (we never had intercourse), this was the first time I had sex since May.
Wednesday morning we went for breakfast and then spent the day shopping.
At night she came to watch me perform in a show and then we called it an early night since we had to get up early the next morning to go to the water slides with my brother Ira and his 2 friends.
The day at the water slides was a lot of fun. I didn't plan it that way, but ended up spending almost all my time with IRG since she didn't want to do a lot of the same stuff as my brother and his friends. However, everyone was really cool about it and she was fine when I ditched a little to go hang out with my bro on a ride or two. Originally I thought I'd miss out on a lot of fun rides since she seemed to just want to laze around in the pool and stuff but when my bro and his friends went off to wait in line for a specific ride, IRG and I ended up doing all the rides at the park (there are about 10 different kinds) and when we met up again, Ira and his friends had only been able to do that one ride due to the line up (it's the most popular one).
After the water slides, I had to rush home to get ready for another show I was in. IRG met me there to watch us perform. It was a pretty good show.
After the show, I walked her home and asked if I could come up again. I didnt' like that I had to ask but I really just wanted to spend the night with her. I had no intention of having sex. I just figured our time together is coming to an end and it would feel nice to sleep with another body. At first she was skeptical because she thought I asked to come up for sex, but when I told her i just wanted to sleep together, she was ok with that.
The next morning we woke up in each others arms and when I left to get my day going, she thanked me for coming up and said it was nice! That just blew my mind since I felt like I did a very needy thing and then she ended up being glad I did.
Friday I spent the day with my parents and had another show at night.
Today (Saturday) I have a few errands to attend to and I really want to see if I could work on her birthday present. Obviously I'd rather just spend time with her but I decided to save time, instead of making it on the computer, I could do it by hand using pencil crayons and it'll go a hell of a lot faster, and look more homemade too. Then I'll meet her later today to hang out for a bit.
I hope I get the chance, because tonight is a party her friend's are throwing her and even though I'll be there, it''ll be hard to spend time 1 on 1.
Well I best get my day started!
Monday, August 9, 2010
I will never learn
I spent most of th eafternoon and evening with Indie Rock Girl.
I invited her to come to the water slides with Ira and I on Wednesday so we had to go bathing suit shopping since she left hers back home.
Afterwards we went to a park so I could play guitar and her read a book. I was so tired a fell asleep for a couple of minutes.
We returned to my place and made dinner together. I forgot how much fun it is to make dinner with her.
After we ate we were going to watch a movie but I had to finsih a project for someone and when I was done she was too tired so we played cards.
At this point after spending all day with her my mind had turned to mush adn all I wanted to do was kiss her. I was having a hard time concentrating on anything. Then I walked her to the door and we hugged for an extended period of time. No one wanted to let go.
I pulled back, looked at her... and did nothing.
She walked to my door talked a few more minutes, saw me staring at her with puppy dog eyes and asked "what?" and I just told her i was tired.
She went down the stairs and walked away. She turned back as she went down the sidewalk and I waved. She waved back.
Why is this so hard?? We said we'd have fun, so why do I have this feeling of hesitation?
I invited her to come to the water slides with Ira and I on Wednesday so we had to go bathing suit shopping since she left hers back home.
Afterwards we went to a park so I could play guitar and her read a book. I was so tired a fell asleep for a couple of minutes.
We returned to my place and made dinner together. I forgot how much fun it is to make dinner with her.
After we ate we were going to watch a movie but I had to finsih a project for someone and when I was done she was too tired so we played cards.
At this point after spending all day with her my mind had turned to mush adn all I wanted to do was kiss her. I was having a hard time concentrating on anything. Then I walked her to the door and we hugged for an extended period of time. No one wanted to let go.
I pulled back, looked at her... and did nothing.
She walked to my door talked a few more minutes, saw me staring at her with puppy dog eyes and asked "what?" and I just told her i was tired.
She went down the stairs and walked away. She turned back as she went down the sidewalk and I waved. She waved back.
Why is this so hard?? We said we'd have fun, so why do I have this feeling of hesitation?
A fun Wedding and a week ahead
Last night I went to a wedding with Indie Rock Girl. The whole reason she is in town was for this wedding and she had arranged for me to be her date. The plan was to meet her at her friends' place in a spot pretty far from my apartment and in no way on the way to the wedding, but I went there nonetheless so I wouldn't arrive at the wedding all alone.
I ended up rushing like mad to get ready and after putting on my suit and preparing my tie perfectly, that's when I realized I forgot to shave and had to rush even more, After shaving at the speed of light, I ran down to the Subway and arrived where IRG told me to meet them in just the nick of time! I hopped into the cab and we went to the wedding.
The wedding was located in a restaurant by the port of My City. It was a very nice looking place and a cute small ceremony. The couple were married by the court of law with the bride's father reading all the legal documents to make it a legal marriage.
After the ceremony was an open bar followed by the supper of the night. It is the first wedding Ive been to that instead of asking the patron which dish they wanted, small bowls were prepared of several dishes and we got to take what we wanted to eat.
Aside from the open bar, during the meal, they were not cheap on the wine at all. As soon as your glass was looking empty, they just filled it up again. I ended up having quite a bit to drink and IRG had even more. I've actually never seen her drink so much before.
About halfway during the dancing part, a bunch of us were hanging outside on the patio and IRG and I ended up holding hands secretely.
I stayed at the wedding until about 12:30am when I left with IRG to walk to the Subway. The whole walk there we ended up holding hands and even when she let go to tie her show or fix something, she just went back and grabbed my hand again, which honestly, felt really nice.
When we arrived at the Subway, again we had to go in seperate directions. However, when I went to give her a hug, somehow our lips met and we kissed briefly. We did not make out or anything btu I didnt' see her regreting he decision on letting me kiss her.
I'm almost 99% sure all of that happened because of the alcohol. In any case, I am now officially on vacation for a full week. She is here the entire week and as of tomorrow will eb staying at the apartment of the newly weds to house sit. Thaey happen to live exactly 1 block away. I hope to hang otu with ehr at least several times this week and have no idea how things will pan out.
We shall see...
I ended up rushing like mad to get ready and after putting on my suit and preparing my tie perfectly, that's when I realized I forgot to shave and had to rush even more, After shaving at the speed of light, I ran down to the Subway and arrived where IRG told me to meet them in just the nick of time! I hopped into the cab and we went to the wedding.
The wedding was located in a restaurant by the port of My City. It was a very nice looking place and a cute small ceremony. The couple were married by the court of law with the bride's father reading all the legal documents to make it a legal marriage.
After the ceremony was an open bar followed by the supper of the night. It is the first wedding Ive been to that instead of asking the patron which dish they wanted, small bowls were prepared of several dishes and we got to take what we wanted to eat.
Aside from the open bar, during the meal, they were not cheap on the wine at all. As soon as your glass was looking empty, they just filled it up again. I ended up having quite a bit to drink and IRG had even more. I've actually never seen her drink so much before.
About halfway during the dancing part, a bunch of us were hanging outside on the patio and IRG and I ended up holding hands secretely.
I stayed at the wedding until about 12:30am when I left with IRG to walk to the Subway. The whole walk there we ended up holding hands and even when she let go to tie her show or fix something, she just went back and grabbed my hand again, which honestly, felt really nice.
When we arrived at the Subway, again we had to go in seperate directions. However, when I went to give her a hug, somehow our lips met and we kissed briefly. We did not make out or anything btu I didnt' see her regreting he decision on letting me kiss her.
I'm almost 99% sure all of that happened because of the alcohol. In any case, I am now officially on vacation for a full week. She is here the entire week and as of tomorrow will eb staying at the apartment of the newly weds to house sit. Thaey happen to live exactly 1 block away. I hope to hang otu with ehr at least several times this week and have no idea how things will pan out.
We shall see...
Saturday, August 7, 2010
Must... Avoid... Awkwardness!
Thursday was Indie Rock Girl's birthday (fun fact - she's actually 2 years older than me) and was the same day she arrived in My City for her 12 day visit.
The primary reason for her visit is a wedding. Someone she used to work with is getting married. Today in fact.
Then, she decided since she loved Montreal so much, she would stay for an extra week. So for those of you who are wondering, she didn't come just to visit me. Although, as mentioned in an earlier post, she had told me via e-mail that we could be pretend girlfriend/boyfriend but that was over a month ago.
That being said I'm not really sure what to do or what I want to do.
On Thursday, I met up with her and her friends for dinner and then just her and I went to see a comedy show. Following the show, I treated her for ice cream and then we walked to the subway together. We had to go in opposite directions, adn my car was hear coming, so I gave her a hug and left.
I guess i could have tried to kiss her but I'll admit I'm afraid. I'm glad she's back and when I hung out with her it felt like she never left. I just don't want to scare her off. I'd rather do nothing and have a guaranteed fun tie with her than try something and make everything awkward between us. I know she told me we could be pretend dating but she's also said she likes being my friend in a later e-mail as well as signed the gift she sent me with "Your friend, Indie Rock Girl". It is possible she just changed her mind and I'm just too afraid to ask.
Right now she's staying at a friend's place at the other side of town but come Monday she'll be house sitting for the newly weds and will be only one block away from me. I'm also off work for the entire week, so the plan is to hang out all week if possible. I'm also her date for the wedding so I'll get to see her today as well.
All that being said, I think I'll just step back and see what happens.
The primary reason for her visit is a wedding. Someone she used to work with is getting married. Today in fact.
Then, she decided since she loved Montreal so much, she would stay for an extra week. So for those of you who are wondering, she didn't come just to visit me. Although, as mentioned in an earlier post, she had told me via e-mail that we could be pretend girlfriend/boyfriend but that was over a month ago.
That being said I'm not really sure what to do or what I want to do.
On Thursday, I met up with her and her friends for dinner and then just her and I went to see a comedy show. Following the show, I treated her for ice cream and then we walked to the subway together. We had to go in opposite directions, adn my car was hear coming, so I gave her a hug and left.
I guess i could have tried to kiss her but I'll admit I'm afraid. I'm glad she's back and when I hung out with her it felt like she never left. I just don't want to scare her off. I'd rather do nothing and have a guaranteed fun tie with her than try something and make everything awkward between us. I know she told me we could be pretend dating but she's also said she likes being my friend in a later e-mail as well as signed the gift she sent me with "Your friend, Indie Rock Girl". It is possible she just changed her mind and I'm just too afraid to ask.
Right now she's staying at a friend's place at the other side of town but come Monday she'll be house sitting for the newly weds and will be only one block away from me. I'm also off work for the entire week, so the plan is to hang out all week if possible. I'm also her date for the wedding so I'll get to see her today as well.
All that being said, I think I'll just step back and see what happens.
Thursday, August 5, 2010
She's back
TOday INdie Rock Girl arrived in My City. She's here for over a week.
I also managed to take off next week from work.
Expect a lot of blogging all of a sudden.
I'm off to her birthday dinner right now.
Updates to follow!
I also managed to take off next week from work.
Expect a lot of blogging all of a sudden.
I'm off to her birthday dinner right now.
Updates to follow!
Saturday, July 24, 2010
Unexpected Gifts
Yesterday I received a package from Indie Rock Girl, all the way from San Fransisco.
I opened it up to discover a book and a CD.
The book is a used book from an author I never heard of. Inside the book was a note on the dedications page that reads:
Elwood,
To the man of a thousand stories, a book of more stories.
Have a great Birthday!
Your friend.
Indie Rock Girl
Wow. I totally did not expect any gifts at all, and if anything if she were to give me something I figured it'd be when she's visiting here in 2 weeks.
The only thing that bothers me is how she signed it "Your Friend". Either she's really trying to drive a point though or maybe she thinks I'll forget who she is in the future.
Well I just hope I dont' act too weird around her when she's in town. I officially got that same week off and I've got plenty of things on my plate already so I know I wont be following her around like a dog but it will be nice to see her again.
I opened it up to discover a book and a CD.
The book is a used book from an author I never heard of. Inside the book was a note on the dedications page that reads:
Elwood,
To the man of a thousand stories, a book of more stories.
Have a great Birthday!
Your friend.
Indie Rock Girl
Wow. I totally did not expect any gifts at all, and if anything if she were to give me something I figured it'd be when she's visiting here in 2 weeks.
The only thing that bothers me is how she signed it "Your Friend". Either she's really trying to drive a point though or maybe she thinks I'll forget who she is in the future.
Well I just hope I dont' act too weird around her when she's in town. I officially got that same week off and I've got plenty of things on my plate already so I know I wont be following her around like a dog but it will be nice to see her again.
That time of year again
Monday is my birthday. I'll be turning 29. This is my last year in my 20's. Do things really go down hill from there?
Nothing too crazy planned this year. When I was younger I used to try and invite everyone I know and have a huge party at some bar and get really wasted. For my 21st, I think 30 people or more I know showed up to the bar and we took over the whole upper section. I drank way too much and spent the whole night puking.
I learnt many lessons that night and starting toning it down in the following years.
Last year I went to a quirky thing called a Silent Disco where you go to dance but all the music is coming from headphones you're wearing, not giant speakers. So the room itself is pretty quiet when you remove your headphones. That party, 8-10 people showed up.
This year I decided to have a house party. The last 2 years Ive had people over and then we've gone somewhere else, but this time I want a full 100%, come after 9pm, house party. Music, snacks, beer, friends. I ended up inviting ~ 50 people on Facebook.
I expect maybe 10.
Not to say I think I'm unpopular, it's because of miscommunication. Originally I organized for the party to be at my place. Then I found out I forgot i had to work at the comedy club that night, so rather then cancel, I moved it to a bar nearby to meet after my show. Then I got work that the comedy club fucked up and I'm actually working next week. So i moved the party back to my place.
I wonder how many people are going to get lost. Then last night i went out to this registration party for a really cool film festival I partake in every year and bumped into a bunch of people I know. To each I said "So you coming tomorrow night?". The response each time: "What's tomorrow night?"
*sigh*
Well, it's not quantity, but the quality I guess. I'm sure some people I know will come. I slept really bad last night and this morning it sounds like a demolition team decided to cause total chaos right outside my window, so I got about 6 hours of bad sleep.So it's probably best if I dont' over do it tonight anyways.
Better get my day started and clean up.
I'll let you know how it goes.
Nothing too crazy planned this year. When I was younger I used to try and invite everyone I know and have a huge party at some bar and get really wasted. For my 21st, I think 30 people or more I know showed up to the bar and we took over the whole upper section. I drank way too much and spent the whole night puking.
I learnt many lessons that night and starting toning it down in the following years.
Last year I went to a quirky thing called a Silent Disco where you go to dance but all the music is coming from headphones you're wearing, not giant speakers. So the room itself is pretty quiet when you remove your headphones. That party, 8-10 people showed up.
This year I decided to have a house party. The last 2 years Ive had people over and then we've gone somewhere else, but this time I want a full 100%, come after 9pm, house party. Music, snacks, beer, friends. I ended up inviting ~ 50 people on Facebook.
I expect maybe 10.
Not to say I think I'm unpopular, it's because of miscommunication. Originally I organized for the party to be at my place. Then I found out I forgot i had to work at the comedy club that night, so rather then cancel, I moved it to a bar nearby to meet after my show. Then I got work that the comedy club fucked up and I'm actually working next week. So i moved the party back to my place.
I wonder how many people are going to get lost. Then last night i went out to this registration party for a really cool film festival I partake in every year and bumped into a bunch of people I know. To each I said "So you coming tomorrow night?". The response each time: "What's tomorrow night?"
*sigh*
Well, it's not quantity, but the quality I guess. I'm sure some people I know will come. I slept really bad last night and this morning it sounds like a demolition team decided to cause total chaos right outside my window, so I got about 6 hours of bad sleep.So it's probably best if I dont' over do it tonight anyways.
Better get my day started and clean up.
I'll let you know how it goes.
Lost all comunication skills
So last Wednesday I went on a date with another person I met recently on Plentyoffish.com. She had contacted me out of the blue, simply stating that I seemed like a funny person. After a bunch of back and forth e-mails, I got her phone number and arranged a date.
We met up close to where I live and I brought her to a little hipster type cafe with really good vegetarian food (and I'm not even a vegetarian).
She was cute and seemed nice but I totally blew it. Why, you might ask? because I've officially forgotten how to communicate with women (or maybe people in general).
We're talking and I discovered she was Moroccan. That's fine, except for reasons I don't even know, I proceed to ask her questions about her culture. See, my ex sister-in-law (Ira's ex wife) was Moroccan. So, I was curious if this girl followed the same customs my brother's ex's family did. But it ended coming out like this:
Elwood: So when Passover is finished and you're allowed to eat bread again, does your family do that thing where they only eat sweets?
The Moroccan: Yes we do.
Elwood: My brother's Ex used to host that at their place when they were married.
The Moroccan: Oh that's nice :)
Elwood: Yeah! I always hated that! We'd always go over and eat pancakes when all I ever wanted was something with more substance. One year I left early to go eat at Wendy's.
The Moroccan: Oh... I kind of like my traditions...
See what I mean?
She didnt' seem too insulted and I tried to save my ass by apologizing, saying I was just rambling about old memories ad how I had a long day at work. She said she also had a long day at work and expects to say equally awkward things.
We went to eat and hung out for an hour but here's where I had my second strike (in my mind). We ended up talking about work and I feel like I spoke a bit too much about my work. On the bright side, she seemed to agree with my views 100% and gave me advice and a website to check out for new jobs. So that was cool. However, I don't feel like I really got to learn much about her because i babbled so much about my job.
At the end of our date, she pulled what I've done in the past. Her bus came so she ran for it, so we departed in an awkward manner.
I gave it a couple of days and decided last minute to invite her to an event last night but I didn't know if she works on Fridays or what so instead of calling her during the day, I texted her. It's possible she never got it or chose to ignore it but I never heard back.
My attitude now is to just go on dates and have fun with absolutely 0% expectation (as oppose to Elwood of the past) but now I'm realizing I should still put a bit of an effort to come off as a cool guy who actually cares to listen to you.
Well practice makes perfect I guess.
We met up close to where I live and I brought her to a little hipster type cafe with really good vegetarian food (and I'm not even a vegetarian).
She was cute and seemed nice but I totally blew it. Why, you might ask? because I've officially forgotten how to communicate with women (or maybe people in general).
We're talking and I discovered she was Moroccan. That's fine, except for reasons I don't even know, I proceed to ask her questions about her culture. See, my ex sister-in-law (Ira's ex wife) was Moroccan. So, I was curious if this girl followed the same customs my brother's ex's family did. But it ended coming out like this:
Elwood: So when Passover is finished and you're allowed to eat bread again, does your family do that thing where they only eat sweets?
The Moroccan: Yes we do.
Elwood: My brother's Ex used to host that at their place when they were married.
The Moroccan: Oh that's nice :)
Elwood: Yeah! I always hated that! We'd always go over and eat pancakes when all I ever wanted was something with more substance. One year I left early to go eat at Wendy's.
The Moroccan: Oh... I kind of like my traditions...
See what I mean?
She didnt' seem too insulted and I tried to save my ass by apologizing, saying I was just rambling about old memories ad how I had a long day at work. She said she also had a long day at work and expects to say equally awkward things.
We went to eat and hung out for an hour but here's where I had my second strike (in my mind). We ended up talking about work and I feel like I spoke a bit too much about my work. On the bright side, she seemed to agree with my views 100% and gave me advice and a website to check out for new jobs. So that was cool. However, I don't feel like I really got to learn much about her because i babbled so much about my job.
At the end of our date, she pulled what I've done in the past. Her bus came so she ran for it, so we departed in an awkward manner.
I gave it a couple of days and decided last minute to invite her to an event last night but I didn't know if she works on Fridays or what so instead of calling her during the day, I texted her. It's possible she never got it or chose to ignore it but I never heard back.
My attitude now is to just go on dates and have fun with absolutely 0% expectation (as oppose to Elwood of the past) but now I'm realizing I should still put a bit of an effort to come off as a cool guy who actually cares to listen to you.
Well practice makes perfect I guess.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
A month in review
Yeah I've been real busy and lazy and havn't been posting anything.
So here's what you missed:
- My job moved offices from very close to my apartment (20 min) to very far from my apartment (~1 hour) by public transit. The new office is nice but I don't have my own office. I got thrown into the warehouse.
- I decided to start looking for a new job. I've applied a bit and even had an interview but it was with a company a bit too similar to what I'm doing right now, so I turned down teh second interview.
- I've been doing a shitload of improv lately. Thats been a lot of fun.
- I was sick a couple of weeks ago, so that sucked but I'm much better now.
- I went on a date with someone who cantacted me online. Turned out she dated one of Wendy's friends back when I was dating Wendy and we actually met at Wendy's party 3 years ago. Weird. The date itself was aweful. We spent an hour driving tryign to find parking. Then all she wanted to talk about was dating. She basically is looking for marriage and I told her i"m just loking to have fun. So she decided to give me advice: I need a fuxck buddy. Wow,. And then she didn't even offer herself! Haha. I was tempted to joke abotu that but I kept my tongue. As soon as I was done my beer and asked if she'd like to leave, she practically bolted to the door. At the end she felt the need to inform me that it would never work out. Dont' worry I caught on right at the beginning!
- Another girl unrelated also contacted me online. She said she thought my profile was funny. We're due to meet for a date ths wednesday. So I'm glad to see that I'll have dating stuff to talk abotu again, since this is a dating blog.
-In 3 weeks, IRG will be back in town. I'm both excited and nervous. We'll see what happens.
In 1 week, it's my birthday. I'mboth excited and nervous. We'll see what happens :)
So here's what you missed:
- My job moved offices from very close to my apartment (20 min) to very far from my apartment (~1 hour) by public transit. The new office is nice but I don't have my own office. I got thrown into the warehouse.
- I decided to start looking for a new job. I've applied a bit and even had an interview but it was with a company a bit too similar to what I'm doing right now, so I turned down teh second interview.
- I've been doing a shitload of improv lately. Thats been a lot of fun.
- I was sick a couple of weeks ago, so that sucked but I'm much better now.
- I went on a date with someone who cantacted me online. Turned out she dated one of Wendy's friends back when I was dating Wendy and we actually met at Wendy's party 3 years ago. Weird. The date itself was aweful. We spent an hour driving tryign to find parking. Then all she wanted to talk about was dating. She basically is looking for marriage and I told her i"m just loking to have fun. So she decided to give me advice: I need a fuxck buddy. Wow,. And then she didn't even offer herself! Haha. I was tempted to joke abotu that but I kept my tongue. As soon as I was done my beer and asked if she'd like to leave, she practically bolted to the door. At the end she felt the need to inform me that it would never work out. Dont' worry I caught on right at the beginning!
- Another girl unrelated also contacted me online. She said she thought my profile was funny. We're due to meet for a date ths wednesday. So I'm glad to see that I'll have dating stuff to talk abotu again, since this is a dating blog.
-In 3 weeks, IRG will be back in town. I'm both excited and nervous. We'll see what happens.
In 1 week, it's my birthday. I'mboth excited and nervous. We'll see what happens :)
Lost Post: Questions Answered
I did it again. I wrote a blog post and only saved it instead of published!. This one dates back to almost a month ago. Enjoy!
After I wrote this post, I received a comment from a reader, Stepahine who had this to ask:
- are you still in contact with IRG?
- does she miss you?
- why is her going back to the US the end? just because everybody expects it and it's common sense...
You still have time enough to use common sense, why not live now?
It got me thinking and I e-mailed IRG to find out how things will be when she is visiting next month. Turns out she is actually staying here over a full week and will be house-sitting a friends place not too far from where I live.I basically mentioned in my e-mail that I was thinking of taking the same week off work while she is here visiting and admitted I was still thining of her and just wanted to know her thoughts so when we are together we are on the same page.
From her response i can now answer those questions:
- are you still in contact with IRG? Yes we e-mail back and forth almost every second day.
- does she miss you? She mentioned in her e-mail how she had a lot of fun with me while she was here and wants to have fun again when she returns, but hasn't mentioned that she misses me. So, no, I don't think she misses me but is excited to see me again.
- why is her going back to the US the end? just because everybody expects it and it's common sense... Because I don't want a long distance relationship and she definitely does not want one. She wrote that while she is back, she wants to hang out and do a lot together and we could even be "pretend" boyfriend/girlfriend but when she leaves again, that's it for good. She never knows when she'll be back and she wants to start looking for dates online. Her words exactly: But when I get back from my vacation, I think I might try to do some Craig's List dating again.
She ends with: So all this is to say that I always want to be your friend and I want to spend my vacation time with you, but I still don't plan on us being a permanent type of long-distance relationship, you know? I'm sure you know, but I just want to be clear. I hope this isn't upsetting or something.
So there you have it.
After I wrote this post, I received a comment from a reader, Stepahine who had this to ask:
- are you still in contact with IRG?
- does she miss you?
- why is her going back to the US the end? just because everybody expects it and it's common sense...
You still have time enough to use common sense, why not live now?
It got me thinking and I e-mailed IRG to find out how things will be when she is visiting next month. Turns out she is actually staying here over a full week and will be house-sitting a friends place not too far from where I live.I basically mentioned in my e-mail that I was thinking of taking the same week off work while she is here visiting and admitted I was still thining of her and just wanted to know her thoughts so when we are together we are on the same page.
From her response i can now answer those questions:
- are you still in contact with IRG? Yes we e-mail back and forth almost every second day.
- does she miss you? She mentioned in her e-mail how she had a lot of fun with me while she was here and wants to have fun again when she returns, but hasn't mentioned that she misses me. So, no, I don't think she misses me but is excited to see me again.
- why is her going back to the US the end? just because everybody expects it and it's common sense... Because I don't want a long distance relationship and she definitely does not want one. She wrote that while she is back, she wants to hang out and do a lot together and we could even be "pretend" boyfriend/girlfriend but when she leaves again, that's it for good. She never knows when she'll be back and she wants to start looking for dates online. Her words exactly: But when I get back from my vacation, I think I might try to do some Craig's List dating again.
She ends with: So all this is to say that I always want to be your friend and I want to spend my vacation time with you, but I still don't plan on us being a permanent type of long-distance relationship, you know? I'm sure you know, but I just want to be clear. I hope this isn't upsetting or something.
So there you have it.
Saturday, June 26, 2010
No Interest
I'm starting to realize how lately I've just had absolutely no interest in dating or pursuing anyone right now. I've been browsing a little on Plentyoffish.com and Okcupid.com but haven't really felt like contacting anyone. The one or two messages I've gotten, I didnt' really care to respond to.
Ira wants me to go with him to this No Pants Party tomorrow night, but i"m just not feeling it.
So yeah, I'm not sure if I'll have anything too exciting to write about for now. I'm just keeping it low key at the moment. I am really curious how things will turn out in a month when IRG comes back for that week, but until then I'm just going to chill.
Ira wants me to go with him to this No Pants Party tomorrow night, but i"m just not feeling it.
So yeah, I'm not sure if I'll have anything too exciting to write about for now. I'm just keeping it low key at the moment. I am really curious how things will turn out in a month when IRG comes back for that week, but until then I'm just going to chill.
Sunday, June 20, 2010
I'm thinking of you...
It's been over a month and I realized I'm still thinking and talking to others about Indie Rock Girl.
Maybe I miss her more than I realize...
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In other news, I changed teh design of the site. It now matches my shirt in the picture!
Maybe I miss her more than I realize...
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In other news, I changed teh design of the site. It now matches my shirt in the picture!
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Plans Changed
Apologies for being M.I.A. for the past 2 weeks or so. I lot of things have been going on and I've just been so busy. I recently found out that my office is moving from somewhere close to my place (20 min) to somewhere far from my place (~1 hour). So I've been getting my shit together and getting motivated to start looking for a new job. I feel like it's time to move on.
This doesn't mean I haven't been having fun.
Literally only 4 days after I wrote a post about how I'm going to take at least a month off before I even look at another girl, I got drunk and went home with a friend. Totally not how I expected that night to end!
I was out doing a comedy show and had plans of maybe meeting up with this girl I know from the theater. We kind of hung out a few times with other theater folk and happen to bump into each other earlier int eh week and I went over to her place for a beer.
This night, after the show, I called her up and she was heading to a what she called a "loft party". It sounded like fun so I met her there. It ended up being one of the most straight-out-of-a-college-movie I've ever been to. You know those movies that have a scene or are about a party where it's just packed with great looking people, there's this awesome band playing and everyone is just drinking and having fun. usually this leads to some kind of hijinx afterwards? Well that's the kind of party I was at.
We arrived there at like 12am. My friend, we'll call her Ozzy, forgot to tell me, but it ended up being a 1920's themed party. Everyone there was dressed up. There were even 4 guys looking like the B-sharps.
Ozzy had brought a bunch of beers and it was too late for me to buy any but she ended up feeding me beer all night. Then the band started. They were freaking amazing.
They were like this instrumental post rock band. Ozzy worked with a bunch of them and was totally into it. It was a tiny place and it was packed and everyone was loving it. There was even a tiny bar serving alcohol (illegally?).
At one point, after the band ended, the cops showed up and Ozzy and I ended up at the apartment above the current one. Everyone kind of just moved up there, so we did too. After another hour or so of partying, the people in that apartment kicked everyone out, so we all moved back to the original one.
I'm not sure what tie it was but I realized I was standing pretty close to Ozzy and our hands kind of touched, so I went for it and held her hand and then gave her a kiss. Immediately after making out for like 2 minutes, she turns to me and says "So you want to go?". Next thing I know it I'm outside her apartment and she immediately says "want to come up?".
In her place, her roommates are still up (by now it's like 5 am, the sun ) is coming up and we sit and have more beer. Eventually, the roommate left us alone and we crawled into Ozzy's room.
Now just a reminder that by then I had like 6 or 7 beers, which for me is a lot. It didnt' take much for both of us to get naked but I was so sloshed there was no way I was going to have the ability to have actual sex. I did please her though and then we both just passed out.
It was really sloppy and the first thought I had when I woke up, surprisingly was guilt. I know there was nothing to feel guilty about but I felt I had just finished things with IRG and then without a heartbeat I went and (almost) slept with another friend of mine. I'm over it now but it did bug me for a couple of days. Especially when I got home from Ozzy's apartment and received an e-mail from IRG.
I'm super surprised I've already slept with 2 girls that I"m friends with. Actually, they are both friends with each other. Actually, Ozzy was there the night I lost my virginity to my other friend. The 3 of us went out for drinks and I ended up going home with my other friend.
I wonder how long I can keep this up :P I'm running out of female friends.
This doesn't mean I haven't been having fun.
Literally only 4 days after I wrote a post about how I'm going to take at least a month off before I even look at another girl, I got drunk and went home with a friend. Totally not how I expected that night to end!
I was out doing a comedy show and had plans of maybe meeting up with this girl I know from the theater. We kind of hung out a few times with other theater folk and happen to bump into each other earlier int eh week and I went over to her place for a beer.
This night, after the show, I called her up and she was heading to a what she called a "loft party". It sounded like fun so I met her there. It ended up being one of the most straight-out-of-a-college-movie I've ever been to. You know those movies that have a scene or are about a party where it's just packed with great looking people, there's this awesome band playing and everyone is just drinking and having fun. usually this leads to some kind of hijinx afterwards? Well that's the kind of party I was at.
We arrived there at like 12am. My friend, we'll call her Ozzy, forgot to tell me, but it ended up being a 1920's themed party. Everyone there was dressed up. There were even 4 guys looking like the B-sharps.
Ozzy had brought a bunch of beers and it was too late for me to buy any but she ended up feeding me beer all night. Then the band started. They were freaking amazing.
They were like this instrumental post rock band. Ozzy worked with a bunch of them and was totally into it. It was a tiny place and it was packed and everyone was loving it. There was even a tiny bar serving alcohol (illegally?).
At one point, after the band ended, the cops showed up and Ozzy and I ended up at the apartment above the current one. Everyone kind of just moved up there, so we did too. After another hour or so of partying, the people in that apartment kicked everyone out, so we all moved back to the original one.
I'm not sure what tie it was but I realized I was standing pretty close to Ozzy and our hands kind of touched, so I went for it and held her hand and then gave her a kiss. Immediately after making out for like 2 minutes, she turns to me and says "So you want to go?". Next thing I know it I'm outside her apartment and she immediately says "want to come up?".
In her place, her roommates are still up (by now it's like 5 am, the sun ) is coming up and we sit and have more beer. Eventually, the roommate left us alone and we crawled into Ozzy's room.
Now just a reminder that by then I had like 6 or 7 beers, which for me is a lot. It didnt' take much for both of us to get naked but I was so sloshed there was no way I was going to have the ability to have actual sex. I did please her though and then we both just passed out.
It was really sloppy and the first thought I had when I woke up, surprisingly was guilt. I know there was nothing to feel guilty about but I felt I had just finished things with IRG and then without a heartbeat I went and (almost) slept with another friend of mine. I'm over it now but it did bug me for a couple of days. Especially when I got home from Ozzy's apartment and received an e-mail from IRG.
I'm super surprised I've already slept with 2 girls that I"m friends with. Actually, they are both friends with each other. Actually, Ozzy was there the night I lost my virginity to my other friend. The 3 of us went out for drinks and I ended up going home with my other friend.
I wonder how long I can keep this up :P I'm running out of female friends.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
The Lone Warrior
It's been 2 weeks since Indie Rock Girl moved away.
Everyone keeps asking me how I'm doing, like I'm going to commit suicide or something.
I'm fine.
Really.
IRG and I have been in touch almost everyday by e-mail and that has been really nice although I don't expect it to last forever.Lets face it. We'll both end up meeting new people and then it'll definitly be hard to keep in touch.
On the bright side, it's now summer and in My City, when Summer hits, it's like Girls Gone Wild. The rate of car accidents go up because there are just so many gorgeous women out and about in the streets, hardly wearing anything.
I'm not planning on even going on a date with anyone anytime soon but in the meantime, I'm just going to enjoy the streets :)
Everyone keeps asking me how I'm doing, like I'm going to commit suicide or something.
I'm fine.
Really.
IRG and I have been in touch almost everyday by e-mail and that has been really nice although I don't expect it to last forever.Lets face it. We'll both end up meeting new people and then it'll definitly be hard to keep in touch.
On the bright side, it's now summer and in My City, when Summer hits, it's like Girls Gone Wild. The rate of car accidents go up because there are just so many gorgeous women out and about in the streets, hardly wearing anything.
I'm not planning on even going on a date with anyone anytime soon but in the meantime, I'm just going to enjoy the streets :)
Saturday, May 15, 2010
It begins already
Just 2 days after IRG and I had to end our 5 month relationship because she moved back home to the US for her job, I get an e-mail from OK!Cupid, stating that someone sent me a message. The username sounded familiar so I checked it out. It was familiar.
It ended up being this girl.
Guess she was checking out OK!Cupid, recognized me and wondered whatever happened to me on Plentyoffish.com. SHe asked me if we're ever going to go for a beer (she asked me that the last time).
I politely sent her a message saying how it's just been bad timing. She first contacted me when I started dating someone (IRG) and then now just 2 days after she left.
Then, just as I was about to close the browser, she start a chat with me, saying how she's sorry about my current situation and that when I'm up for it to just let her know when we can go for a beer.
Give me a few weeks and we'll see.
It ended up being this girl.
Guess she was checking out OK!Cupid, recognized me and wondered whatever happened to me on Plentyoffish.com. SHe asked me if we're ever going to go for a beer (she asked me that the last time).
I politely sent her a message saying how it's just been bad timing. She first contacted me when I started dating someone (IRG) and then now just 2 days after she left.
Then, just as I was about to close the browser, she start a chat with me, saying how she's sorry about my current situation and that when I'm up for it to just let her know when we can go for a beer.
Give me a few weeks and we'll see.
She's gone, but I'm OK
Wednesday was the last night I spent with Indie Rock Girl before she moved back to her home city in the United States.
We met up for our weekly tradition of snuggling in front of her laptop to watch the week's episode of LOST (I heart Sawyer). I surprised her by skipping my dance class and showing up an hour early. I also bought her 2 coffee mugs of her favorite cartoon character as a house warming gift for her new place in the US.
Then things got awkward.
It was inevitable that it would be awkward but we ended up making out and then she started to get all stuffy and asked to stop. I listened and we chilled for a bit more but I figured she was just getting distracted and only wanted a break to get back on track. I started it again and after a bit of making out and stuff she stopped and told me she couldn't continue.
This time she was really balling and was upset.
It felt weird to see someone have those kind of feelings over me. Don't get me wrong, I'm sad she's gone and we had to stop dating, but from the get go, we both knew it was a temp thing and went into it just having fun. I knew she's be sad we were breaking up but wasn't expecting that kind of a reaction.
I realize I have no idea what I want in a partner in terms of being serious but I did learn a lot from her and realized she had a lot of qualities that I will look for in someone.
IRG was definitely a huge step up from Wendy.
I dated Wendy for almost a full year. All she ever talked about was her friends. She didn't eat any normal food (toast for supper) so I could never take her out for dinner (or any meal really). We never had sex and would only sit around and watch a movie or tv. She'd get irritated over me really quickly, especially if I got lost while driving.
IRG on the other hand was super active. Was always up for going for a walk up the mountain or checking out a concert. She ate everything so we got to try out a bunch of fun restaurants I'd never eaten at in my own city. She was super laid back and we never got into any arguments or fights. I got us totally lost on our road trip and she didn't care one bit. She liked just driving around aimlessly. Oh, and we had sex. Lots and lots of sex. She even bought the first box of condoms we used!
Obviously I'm not jumping up and down in joy that I'm single again but after a break from the dating scene (I promised myself to give it a month or so before I go on any dates) I'll eventually get back into it. So, keep coming back. I'm sure I'll find something to write about.
We met up for our weekly tradition of snuggling in front of her laptop to watch the week's episode of LOST (I heart Sawyer). I surprised her by skipping my dance class and showing up an hour early. I also bought her 2 coffee mugs of her favorite cartoon character as a house warming gift for her new place in the US.
Then things got awkward.
It was inevitable that it would be awkward but we ended up making out and then she started to get all stuffy and asked to stop. I listened and we chilled for a bit more but I figured she was just getting distracted and only wanted a break to get back on track. I started it again and after a bit of making out and stuff she stopped and told me she couldn't continue.
This time she was really balling and was upset.
It felt weird to see someone have those kind of feelings over me. Don't get me wrong, I'm sad she's gone and we had to stop dating, but from the get go, we both knew it was a temp thing and went into it just having fun. I knew she's be sad we were breaking up but wasn't expecting that kind of a reaction.
I realize I have no idea what I want in a partner in terms of being serious but I did learn a lot from her and realized she had a lot of qualities that I will look for in someone.
IRG was definitely a huge step up from Wendy.
I dated Wendy for almost a full year. All she ever talked about was her friends. She didn't eat any normal food (toast for supper) so I could never take her out for dinner (or any meal really). We never had sex and would only sit around and watch a movie or tv. She'd get irritated over me really quickly, especially if I got lost while driving.
IRG on the other hand was super active. Was always up for going for a walk up the mountain or checking out a concert. She ate everything so we got to try out a bunch of fun restaurants I'd never eaten at in my own city. She was super laid back and we never got into any arguments or fights. I got us totally lost on our road trip and she didn't care one bit. She liked just driving around aimlessly. Oh, and we had sex. Lots and lots of sex. She even bought the first box of condoms we used!
Obviously I'm not jumping up and down in joy that I'm single again but after a break from the dating scene (I promised myself to give it a month or so before I go on any dates) I'll eventually get back into it. So, keep coming back. I'm sure I'll find something to write about.
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Sex Machine
All week I've been thinking about what happened Saturday night.
What happened was sex.
Two hours of multi-position, glow-in-the-dark-condom, exhausting sex with Indie Rock Girl.
By the end of it I was close to hyperventilating. I literally collapsed on her and then fell to the floor where I laid in a half fetal position for a few minutes.
I can't believe I went from never having sex to that!
She's awesome and she's leaving in a week...
What happened was sex.
Two hours of multi-position, glow-in-the-dark-condom, exhausting sex with Indie Rock Girl.
By the end of it I was close to hyperventilating. I literally collapsed on her and then fell to the floor where I laid in a half fetal position for a few minutes.
I can't believe I went from never having sex to that!
She's awesome and she's leaving in a week...
Thursday, April 29, 2010
The good kind of trouble
No, please don't worry about me. I'm not in any "trouble", but my brother Ira is:
Elwood: Hello?
Ira: Hey Elwood, how's it going?
Elwood: Hey bro. it's going good. Off to dance class, you?
Ira: Pretty good. I'm supposed to see a movie but my friend hasnt' shown up yet.
Elwood: "Friend"? Are you on a date again? With someone new?
Ira: Urm... she's new... sort of...um..
Elwood: What;'s wrong?
Ira: I'm in a lot of trouble.
Elwood (actually concerned): Really?? What kind of trouble? What happened!?
Ira: I'm secretly dating like 5 girls at once.
So after a few minutes of clarification, Ira is not sick, dying, had an accident or got fired. He's just feeling a little guilty that he's been seeing like 5 different girls at the same time and is worried a couple of them think he's being exclusive to them only.
Ha! What a problem to get worried about.
I'm just curious how long this will last :)
Good Luck Ira!
Elwood: Hello?
Ira: Hey Elwood, how's it going?
Elwood: Hey bro. it's going good. Off to dance class, you?
Ira: Pretty good. I'm supposed to see a movie but my friend hasnt' shown up yet.
Elwood: "Friend"? Are you on a date again? With someone new?
Ira: Urm... she's new... sort of...um..
Elwood: What;'s wrong?
Ira: I'm in a lot of trouble.
Elwood (actually concerned): Really?? What kind of trouble? What happened!?
Ira: I'm secretly dating like 5 girls at once.
So after a few minutes of clarification, Ira is not sick, dying, had an accident or got fired. He's just feeling a little guilty that he's been seeing like 5 different girls at the same time and is worried a couple of them think he's being exclusive to them only.
Ha! What a problem to get worried about.
I'm just curious how long this will last :)
Good Luck Ira!
Friday, April 23, 2010
Well Needed Vacation
I haven't been on here in a while, I know. Apologies.
I've just been so busy work. One crazy deadline after another. Working late, working weekends.
Last week I hardly got to see IRG, even on the weekend. We didn't get a chance to spend any night together (which also meant no sex).
But, in the end things have seemed to work out:
-My deadline got extended to next week
-I was allowed to have Friday off work,even though it was under the context that everything would be done before Friday. Instead, as mentioned above, deadline was moved!
-Thursday night happen to be a concert I was going to with IRG so since i no longer had to get up early in the morning tonight i was able to enjoy the show even more so.
-Finally, this weekend just so happens to be the weekend that IRG and I planned on going on a tiny road trip to Canada's capital city (Ottawa).
We have a car (rented), a place to stay (hotel room) and things to do (sight see, go hiking, sex (?)).
IRG has been great about the whole thing since I've been so busy with work, she helped phone a few places for prices on a car and even printed maps without me even asking her.
So I'll be away for a few days but when I"m back, hopefully I'll have fun stuff to write about.
I've just been so busy work. One crazy deadline after another. Working late, working weekends.
Last week I hardly got to see IRG, even on the weekend. We didn't get a chance to spend any night together (which also meant no sex).
But, in the end things have seemed to work out:
-My deadline got extended to next week
-I was allowed to have Friday off work,even though it was under the context that everything would be done before Friday. Instead, as mentioned above, deadline was moved!
-Thursday night happen to be a concert I was going to with IRG so since i no longer had to get up early in the morning tonight i was able to enjoy the show even more so.
-Finally, this weekend just so happens to be the weekend that IRG and I planned on going on a tiny road trip to Canada's capital city (Ottawa).
We have a car (rented), a place to stay (hotel room) and things to do (sight see, go hiking, sex (?)).
IRG has been great about the whole thing since I've been so busy with work, she helped phone a few places for prices on a car and even printed maps without me even asking her.
So I'll be away for a few days but when I"m back, hopefully I'll have fun stuff to write about.
Saturday, April 10, 2010
Uh Oh
I realized last night, that whenever I'm having sex with Indie Rock Girl, I never know what to say to indicate that I'm about to ejaculate. For some reason I keep saying "Uh oh".
She said that I don't need to say anything. I just need to go faster.
Fully noted.
She said that I don't need to say anything. I just need to go faster.
Fully noted.
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
My Weekend with Indie Rock Girl
This post is a reply of sorts to the very enthusiastic comment I received yesterday about my progress with Indie Rock Girl. Well, a lot has been happening lately, especially in the sex department.
Last weekend we spent over 24 hours together. Friday night we went to a concert at a museum (quite interesting) and then headed back to my place. I showed her a few funny things on my computer and then we ended up making out on my bed.
I have a single bed, so it's difficult being two people in/on it, but we made it work.
Lately I happen to have my own stashof condoms due to the box I bought a month ago and a handful of interesting ones my buddy Spider Dude brought me from Australia, including a glow in the dark one.
After many minutes of fooling around it was time for the main course and I will have to admit each time it seems to be getting better and lasting longer.
For the first time, IRG actually went down on me. I was surprised since she told me she didn't like doing it, so I never asked. She told me that she kept dreaming about it and just had to do it. I was wowed out of belief... and then returned the favor.
The next morning after so so sleep due to the small bed, we did another thing for the first time. We had a shower together. Actually, it was the first time I took a shower with someone else, ever.
I kind of found it a bit weird since we talked about it and she just wanted to shower together, not fool around or anything. I think I'll ave to get used to that kind of thing since so far a shower has been a very personal/alone time kind of activity. It was fun and interesting none the less.
The weather was fantastic on Saturday and we spent all day going to parks and bike riding. Supper was at a friend's BBQ followed by a wonderful bike ride to her place.
I had had a few glasses of wine and was exhaustedbut also really really in the mood and could tell so was she so even though I was almost falling asleep on her bed while watching something on YouTube, I managed a second whim and we went at it like rabbits.
This time is marked the first time I made her orgasm. She said she wanted to show me how:
IRG: I want to show you how to touch me
Elwood: OK! But how, the lights are off and it's pitch black. I can't see anything!
IRG: I'll show you with my hands, you don't need to see anything.
Elwood: Oh....
After a quick tutorial and several minutes of preping, I managed to make her feel really good.
While snuggling naked in her bed, she turns to me and says:
"Wow! I was really into it tonight. I think it had to do with the fact we had the lights off this time".
Last weekend we spent over 24 hours together. Friday night we went to a concert at a museum (quite interesting) and then headed back to my place. I showed her a few funny things on my computer and then we ended up making out on my bed.
I have a single bed, so it's difficult being two people in/on it, but we made it work.
Lately I happen to have my own stashof condoms due to the box I bought a month ago and a handful of interesting ones my buddy Spider Dude brought me from Australia, including a glow in the dark one.
After many minutes of fooling around it was time for the main course and I will have to admit each time it seems to be getting better and lasting longer.
For the first time, IRG actually went down on me. I was surprised since she told me she didn't like doing it, so I never asked. She told me that she kept dreaming about it and just had to do it. I was wowed out of belief... and then returned the favor.
The next morning after so so sleep due to the small bed, we did another thing for the first time. We had a shower together. Actually, it was the first time I took a shower with someone else, ever.
I kind of found it a bit weird since we talked about it and she just wanted to shower together, not fool around or anything. I think I'll ave to get used to that kind of thing since so far a shower has been a very personal/alone time kind of activity. It was fun and interesting none the less.
The weather was fantastic on Saturday and we spent all day going to parks and bike riding. Supper was at a friend's BBQ followed by a wonderful bike ride to her place.
I had had a few glasses of wine and was exhaustedbut also really really in the mood and could tell so was she so even though I was almost falling asleep on her bed while watching something on YouTube, I managed a second whim and we went at it like rabbits.
This time is marked the first time I made her orgasm. She said she wanted to show me how:
IRG: I want to show you how to touch me
Elwood: OK! But how, the lights are off and it's pitch black. I can't see anything!
IRG: I'll show you with my hands, you don't need to see anything.
Elwood: Oh....
After a quick tutorial and several minutes of preping, I managed to make her feel really good.
While snuggling naked in her bed, she turns to me and says:
"Wow! I was really into it tonight. I think it had to do with the fact we had the lights off this time".
Monday, March 29, 2010
Happy Passover
Tonight was the first night of Passover. Being Jewish, it's tradition to have a Seder (big meal) the first 2 nights of the 8 days of Passover.
To my surprise, my mom had asked me to invite Indie Rock Girl to join us for the first Seder. I'm still convinced my mom doesn't know we're dating but she also continued to say that the reason she wants IRG to come is because my brother Jason (who's being an idiot and not talking to my parents for stupid reasons) is not coming with his family so our table will be empty.
In any case, I invited IRG and she accepted.
We met before hand and then travelled to the suburbs to meet my family. The only other time I brought a girl over for dinner was when I was dating Wendy and that was already after 3 or 4 months. IRG and I have only known each other a couple of months.
The night went well without any major disasters. My Mom, Dad, my brother Ira and my Aunt were there and all seemed to like IRG.
Throughout most of the night, I didn't really get a chance to talk to IRG too much. She seemed to interact with my family and did enjoy the food, but I seemed a bit worried she didn't have a good time.
We got a lift back into town and then took the subway towards our apartments (we live not too far from each other). Just when my mind was starting to go down that path called Worry, she turned to me and said "You look cute tonight".
I was sporting dress pants, a dress shirt and a tie. Also, I shaved my beard.
I've had a beard for the past 3 months and Indie Rock Girl has not seen me without on until tonight.
We also had a small chat about what to call each other. I admitted that I kept referring my friends to her as "the girl I'm dating" but was getting tired of it. She told me she's been referring me as her "Sort-of Boyfriend".
Since she's leaving and I don't want a long distance relationship (actually wee have yet to talk about that...), I can live with that.
I'M SOMEONES SORT-OF BOYFRIEND!
To my surprise, my mom had asked me to invite Indie Rock Girl to join us for the first Seder. I'm still convinced my mom doesn't know we're dating but she also continued to say that the reason she wants IRG to come is because my brother Jason (who's being an idiot and not talking to my parents for stupid reasons) is not coming with his family so our table will be empty.
In any case, I invited IRG and she accepted.
We met before hand and then travelled to the suburbs to meet my family. The only other time I brought a girl over for dinner was when I was dating Wendy and that was already after 3 or 4 months. IRG and I have only known each other a couple of months.
The night went well without any major disasters. My Mom, Dad, my brother Ira and my Aunt were there and all seemed to like IRG.
Throughout most of the night, I didn't really get a chance to talk to IRG too much. She seemed to interact with my family and did enjoy the food, but I seemed a bit worried she didn't have a good time.
We got a lift back into town and then took the subway towards our apartments (we live not too far from each other). Just when my mind was starting to go down that path called Worry, she turned to me and said "You look cute tonight".
I was sporting dress pants, a dress shirt and a tie. Also, I shaved my beard.
I've had a beard for the past 3 months and Indie Rock Girl has not seen me without on until tonight.
We also had a small chat about what to call each other. I admitted that I kept referring my friends to her as "the girl I'm dating" but was getting tired of it. She told me she's been referring me as her "Sort-of Boyfriend".
Since she's leaving and I don't want a long distance relationship (actually wee have yet to talk about that...), I can live with that.
I'M SOMEONES SORT-OF BOYFRIEND!
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
I don't hear that everyday
"Yah we need to have sex a lot more often".
That is definitely not something I thought I'd hear (or read in this case) from someone. Ever!
She realizes we're both extremely busy people and then when we do manage to see each other, we're out and about doing stuff. We're both the type who want to explore and do things than just stay inside all the time wathching TV. Although now it seems like we may be doing a different kind of exploring.
Indie Rock Girl leaves in about 2 months. We have a lot of exploring to do.
That is definitely not something I thought I'd hear (or read in this case) from someone. Ever!
She realizes we're both extremely busy people and then when we do manage to see each other, we're out and about doing stuff. We're both the type who want to explore and do things than just stay inside all the time wathching TV. Although now it seems like we may be doing a different kind of exploring.
Indie Rock Girl leaves in about 2 months. We have a lot of exploring to do.
Saturday, March 20, 2010
Crazy Eights
The other day I was at Indie Rock Girl's sitting on her bed. I was teaching her how to play Crazy Eights and was trying to remember all the rules:
Elwood: "Ok so if you get a 2, you pick up 2 cards"
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok"
Elwood: "If you get an 8, you chane the suit. You can put down multiple cards of the same number..."
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok"
Elwod: "...and if you put down an ace you can dop all cards of the same suit".
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok"
Elwood: "A jack mean you miss a turn, and the Queen of spades is pick up 5 cards"
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok"
Elwood: "and everytime a King is played, I get to kiss you".
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok! :) "
I was half kidding when I said that but she was totally into it. Then I won. With a king.
Elwood: "Ok so if you get a 2, you pick up 2 cards"
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok"
Elwood: "If you get an 8, you chane the suit. You can put down multiple cards of the same number..."
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok"
Elwod: "...and if you put down an ace you can dop all cards of the same suit".
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok"
Elwood: "A jack mean you miss a turn, and the Queen of spades is pick up 5 cards"
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok"
Elwood: "and everytime a King is played, I get to kiss you".
Indie Rock Girl: "Ok! :) "
I was half kidding when I said that but she was totally into it. Then I won. With a king.
Friday, March 19, 2010
Fun times
While snuggling in my bed:
Indie Rock Girl: "I wish I could live in the USA (where she is from) and here (where she is until May) at the same time.
Elwood: "So you're enjoying living here in My City now?"
Indie Rock Girl: "Ever since I met you it's been more fun"
Elwood: "I'm glad to hear that. I can always come and visit."
Indie Rock Girl: "The invitation is always open".
Wow!
Indie Rock Girl: "I wish I could live in the USA (where she is from) and here (where she is until May) at the same time.
Elwood: "So you're enjoying living here in My City now?"
Indie Rock Girl: "Ever since I met you it's been more fun"
Elwood: "I'm glad to hear that. I can always come and visit."
Indie Rock Girl: "The invitation is always open".
Wow!
Sunday, March 7, 2010
Going for the gold
Last night it happened. I finally had what I considered real sex.
Yes, I attempted and failed to have sex with Wendy when we dated, but it always felt pressured and she never helped me out at all.
Yes, there were 2 occasions were I tried to have sex with total strangers, one I met through the Internet, one at a Halloween party, but both times I had "performance" problems and didn't have actual intercourse (so technically not sex).
Yes, I did have my first go at intercourse sex with a friend who ended up at my place after some drinking and technically lost my virginity but the whole thing lasted literally 10 seconds and it was done way prematurely (i.e. not by my command).
Even the first 2 times with Indie Rock Girl were a let down, the first time having performance problems, the second time finished prematurely. However, last night was totally different.
The night started with IRG coming over for dinner. Before she arrived, she texted me to double check what time to show up at my place. Also in her text she included the question if she could stay the night (the answer was yes).
She arrived in time for me to have dinner (take out Chinese) on the table with candles - I added a little romantic twist to dinner.
After dinner we went to my room, talked for a while and then got close and then kissed. Finally it was time to go at it.
And we succeeded.
The experience was amazing:
- No drinking involved
- Not a stranger but someone I knew and was comfortable with
- No worries about what I was doing
- No worries about the lights being on
- No worried about my roommates (they no longer are sleeping in the room next to mine).
- No worries about protection (she brought a condom)
- No performance problems (little Elwood was working just fine)
The actual act last a good couple of minutes until I reached... what the term for a guy? Climax?
It felt so good, I literally almost cried. I told that to IRG and she smiled at me and said "That's awesome".
Then we snuggled and talked for like an hour. It felt great.
This is what I want to remember as my first real time of having sex. IRG has said I'm getting better each time and she hopes there will be many more other times in the future.
Yes, I attempted and failed to have sex with Wendy when we dated, but it always felt pressured and she never helped me out at all.
Yes, there were 2 occasions were I tried to have sex with total strangers, one I met through the Internet, one at a Halloween party, but both times I had "performance" problems and didn't have actual intercourse (so technically not sex).
Yes, I did have my first go at intercourse sex with a friend who ended up at my place after some drinking and technically lost my virginity but the whole thing lasted literally 10 seconds and it was done way prematurely (i.e. not by my command).
Even the first 2 times with Indie Rock Girl were a let down, the first time having performance problems, the second time finished prematurely. However, last night was totally different.
The night started with IRG coming over for dinner. Before she arrived, she texted me to double check what time to show up at my place. Also in her text she included the question if she could stay the night (the answer was yes).
She arrived in time for me to have dinner (take out Chinese) on the table with candles - I added a little romantic twist to dinner.
After dinner we went to my room, talked for a while and then got close and then kissed. Finally it was time to go at it.
And we succeeded.
The experience was amazing:
- No drinking involved
- Not a stranger but someone I knew and was comfortable with
- No worries about what I was doing
- No worries about the lights being on
- No worried about my roommates (they no longer are sleeping in the room next to mine).
- No worries about protection (she brought a condom)
- No performance problems (little Elwood was working just fine)
The actual act last a good couple of minutes until I reached... what the term for a guy? Climax?
It felt so good, I literally almost cried. I told that to IRG and she smiled at me and said "That's awesome".
Then we snuggled and talked for like an hour. It felt great.
This is what I want to remember as my first real time of having sex. IRG has said I'm getting better each time and she hopes there will be many more other times in the future.
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Don't Fuck It Up
I feel like as hard as it is trying to "get the girl" it's the "keeping the girl" that's even harder. I'm not saying that I'm having a hard time with Indie Rock Girl, I just feel like instead of worrying about if she likes me or not, now I'm worrying about how to get her to keep liking me.
We met tonight to watch Lost and then we went to see friends of mine do a show and I just got home now. She left something in my room so she walked back with me and then we said our goodbyes and with a kiss.
After she left my room mate brought to my attention that I sounded funny because I had asked her a question and then answered it myself. Them being:
"So when do you think I'll be seeing you again?", and "Probably not for a long time".
I was just referring to the fact that I know she's not available Friday night and possibly Saturday night and I'm usually busy Sunday nights so that makes it until next week. However, it did sound pretty funny how I said it.
The only thing that bugged me was that I suggested we meet tomorrow. She said no because she needs to rest. I don't blame her, we've been doing a lot together. My biggest fear (and I'm sure I've said it countless times) is to come across too needy. I doubt that little slip will push her away but I feel like I need to be careful. When I meet someone I like (even as friends), I just want to spend a lot of time with them.
Well, we may meet up again on Saturday. Until then...
We met tonight to watch Lost and then we went to see friends of mine do a show and I just got home now. She left something in my room so she walked back with me and then we said our goodbyes and with a kiss.
After she left my room mate brought to my attention that I sounded funny because I had asked her a question and then answered it myself. Them being:
"So when do you think I'll be seeing you again?", and "Probably not for a long time".
I was just referring to the fact that I know she's not available Friday night and possibly Saturday night and I'm usually busy Sunday nights so that makes it until next week. However, it did sound pretty funny how I said it.
The only thing that bugged me was that I suggested we meet tomorrow. She said no because she needs to rest. I don't blame her, we've been doing a lot together. My biggest fear (and I'm sure I've said it countless times) is to come across too needy. I doubt that little slip will push her away but I feel like I need to be careful. When I meet someone I like (even as friends), I just want to spend a lot of time with them.
Well, we may meet up again on Saturday. Until then...
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Making It Easy For Me
I received an e-mail from Indie Rock girl today.
No not that kind of e-mail. A Good one.
She was asking me how my day was and they asked me if I could do something for her. She wants me to learn one of her favorite songs on the guitar so I could play it for her while she sings.
I was thinking the other day how it would be fun to learn a song just for her. It kind of takes away the romanticism (and element of surprise) but now I have a song I can learn just for her.
No not that kind of e-mail. A Good one.
She was asking me how my day was and they asked me if I could do something for her. She wants me to learn one of her favorite songs on the guitar so I could play it for her while she sings.
I was thinking the other day how it would be fun to learn a song just for her. It kind of takes away the romanticism (and element of surprise) but now I have a song I can learn just for her.
Sunday, February 28, 2010
Good Company = Good Times
Once a year in My City there is a night where the downtown area has activities that last through the night. Museums, theatres, exhibits are places, etc. all stay open until the early morning hours. That night was last night.
It's a really hit and miss affair. I've had some years where everything I went to blew my mind, others not so much.
This year was so-so in the 'wow department' but the friends I hung out with made it enjoyable nonetheless. I was with 2 guy friends and Indie Rock Girl.
At 4am, we all decided to call it a night. Being the gentleman i am, I walked IRG home and when we arrived at her place she invited me in. This is the second time I stayed the night.
I was totally exhausted but after much force, managed to break my tired spell and we got to fooling around. Yet again I had problems but we did end up moving ahead a step. If this trend continues, we'll be having normal sex real soon.
The best thing was the communication. Being with IRG is awesome for that. She has a non-stress attitude and when we were done and cuddling we talked about a lot of stuff including sex related things as well. She told me she's happy with how I'm trying to please her and the next time we get it on she'll show me exactly what she likes.
We then slept the night and spent most of the day in bed talking. It felt great.
So far things just keep getting better and better with her.
It's a really hit and miss affair. I've had some years where everything I went to blew my mind, others not so much.
This year was so-so in the 'wow department' but the friends I hung out with made it enjoyable nonetheless. I was with 2 guy friends and Indie Rock Girl.
At 4am, we all decided to call it a night. Being the gentleman i am, I walked IRG home and when we arrived at her place she invited me in. This is the second time I stayed the night.
I was totally exhausted but after much force, managed to break my tired spell and we got to fooling around. Yet again I had problems but we did end up moving ahead a step. If this trend continues, we'll be having normal sex real soon.
The best thing was the communication. Being with IRG is awesome for that. She has a non-stress attitude and when we were done and cuddling we talked about a lot of stuff including sex related things as well. She told me she's happy with how I'm trying to please her and the next time we get it on she'll show me exactly what she likes.
We then slept the night and spent most of the day in bed talking. It felt great.
So far things just keep getting better and better with her.
Saturday, February 27, 2010
I knew there had to be a catch
Last night, IRG and i went to a concert. It was awesome. I'm starting to feel more comfortable around her (and maybe girls in general?). I held her a bit during the show and we made out a bit on the way home. No more of this "kiss goodbye" nonsense I had with Rock Girl.
I'm still catching myself second guessing my actions but I'm also conquering my fears and doing them anyways, as opposed to before when I wouldn't.
She's made it easier for me too. She's spelled it out right in front of me her feelings for me. The other day I got an e-mail from her concerning something but she commented on how she really lucked out with Craigslist. How he met a guy who is cute, funny and nice.
It feels almost too good to be true and I may have found out the reason why.
Before the show, we had dinner together and we just talking about whatever until the conversation moved onto past relationships. That's when I found out that she had been dating a guy for about 2 years prior to moving to My City. They broke up before she moved but then he came to visit her several times and there was a lot of drama. In the end he told her never to talk to him again (for whatever reason) and now has a new girlfriend back in his home town.
That happened only back in November. If you do the math, she's technically only been out of a 4 year relationship for 3 months. That's not a very long time.
So, now I realize I could just be a rebound guy.
In any case, I figure we're both getting something out of this very time limited "relationship":
-She gets to spend time with a super awesome guy (me) , have fun and feel good.
-I get to have more practice dating someone and doing things I haven't really had a chance to explore before (sexual and non)
Both parties win.
I just hope I don't discover she's a psycho before she leaves. After is ok.
I'm still catching myself second guessing my actions but I'm also conquering my fears and doing them anyways, as opposed to before when I wouldn't.
She's made it easier for me too. She's spelled it out right in front of me her feelings for me. The other day I got an e-mail from her concerning something but she commented on how she really lucked out with Craigslist. How he met a guy who is cute, funny and nice.
It feels almost too good to be true and I may have found out the reason why.
Before the show, we had dinner together and we just talking about whatever until the conversation moved onto past relationships. That's when I found out that she had been dating a guy for about 2 years prior to moving to My City. They broke up before she moved but then he came to visit her several times and there was a lot of drama. In the end he told her never to talk to him again (for whatever reason) and now has a new girlfriend back in his home town.
That happened only back in November. If you do the math, she's technically only been out of a 4 year relationship for 3 months. That's not a very long time.
So, now I realize I could just be a rebound guy.
In any case, I figure we're both getting something out of this very time limited "relationship":
-She gets to spend time with a super awesome guy (me) , have fun and feel good.
-I get to have more practice dating someone and doing things I haven't really had a chance to explore before (sexual and non)
Both parties win.
I just hope I don't discover she's a psycho before she leaves. After is ok.
Monday, February 22, 2010
"So I guess we're no longer platonic?"
All week Indie Rock Girl an I had planned to go see a show on Saturday night. I bought the tickets and we we're supposed to meet up and go enjoy ourselves. What was not planned was being invited over for dessert (before we even went to the show).
The show was excellent and then we walked back to IRG's place. Both her room mates were out of town so we had the whole place to ourselves.
We had to defrost the dessert so while it sat on the counter, we sat on her bed and watched the Olympics.
Then we made out.
Then she stopped me to see the results for one of the races. Korea won gold.
Then we made out.
Then things went way past being 'strictly platonic'.
I don't want to go into details because I feel it's unfair to IRG to talk about this stuff even if she doesn't know I write this blog (it makes me feel even more guilty) and it makes it feel a little less special to me if I tell everyone, but I will say this:
When it came for the moment of glory... I blanked again. This time I don't know why. I wasn't drunk. I was afraid. I know the person. I like the person. I didn't feel nervous. Yet, I just couldn't get it to work.
Eventually we gave up, but she didn't seem to care. She was quite cheery (I guess I pleased her enough) and we just laid there on her bed for a while and talked.
It was nice.
The only other thing to note is the only condom I had with me was a flavoured condom. Gross, I know. The only reason I even have the stupid things is because the first time I bought a box years ago, I was super nervous and grabbed the first thing I found. I thought it said lubricated but it actually said luscious colors.
I explained that to IRG and she laughed.
Cut to Sunday night. I arrived home from hanging out with Ira to see I have an e-mail from IRG. She asked how I was and told me about her day. Then she mentions how she was at the drugstore and bought a box of non-scented condoms "so we'll be prepared for next time". She continued with "I hope there will be a next time!".
I don't know when that will be, but hopefully sometime soon :)
The show was excellent and then we walked back to IRG's place. Both her room mates were out of town so we had the whole place to ourselves.
We had to defrost the dessert so while it sat on the counter, we sat on her bed and watched the Olympics.
Then we made out.
Then she stopped me to see the results for one of the races. Korea won gold.
Then we made out.
Then things went way past being 'strictly platonic'.
I don't want to go into details because I feel it's unfair to IRG to talk about this stuff even if she doesn't know I write this blog (it makes me feel even more guilty) and it makes it feel a little less special to me if I tell everyone, but I will say this:
When it came for the moment of glory... I blanked again. This time I don't know why. I wasn't drunk. I was afraid. I know the person. I like the person. I didn't feel nervous. Yet, I just couldn't get it to work.
Eventually we gave up, but she didn't seem to care. She was quite cheery (I guess I pleased her enough) and we just laid there on her bed for a while and talked.
It was nice.
The only other thing to note is the only condom I had with me was a flavoured condom. Gross, I know. The only reason I even have the stupid things is because the first time I bought a box years ago, I was super nervous and grabbed the first thing I found. I thought it said lubricated but it actually said luscious colors.
I explained that to IRG and she laughed.
Cut to Sunday night. I arrived home from hanging out with Ira to see I have an e-mail from IRG. She asked how I was and told me about her day. Then she mentions how she was at the drugstore and bought a box of non-scented condoms "so we'll be prepared for next time". She continued with "I hope there will be a next time!".
I don't know when that will be, but hopefully sometime soon :)
Friday, February 19, 2010
First Base
Tonight I went over to Indie Rock Chick's apartment to watch this weeks episode of LOST!
She made me pizza and then we headed into her room to watch it on her laptop. The episode was AWESOME! Then we switched on the Olympics and watched that for a while.
We were sitting on her floor leaning against her bed. I then put my arm around her and eventually sometime during the Olympics, I leaned in and kissed her cheek and then her lips. We ended up making out.
So it's official. I am claiming that my move. It's the cheek than lips move. To all you shy people out there like me. It totally works. Just lean in, kiss the cheek and they will know right away your intentions. Hasn't failed me yet!
It was nice.
Very very high school.
Actually, I wouldn't know since I never did any of this stuff during high school, which is why I'm loving it now. I'm such a kid.
At one point we were lying on our stomachs watching her screen and I had my arm around her for a bit and then she put her arm around me and even rubbed my hair. I felt really relaxed then, knowing that the feelings must be mutual and I didn't have to worry that I was forcing her into anything.
The only strange thing about the two times we made out tonight was that is was extremely slow. I'm not saying I wanted to be making out super hard core or anything but each kiss felt like it lasted a good 3 or 4 seconds. Our tongues were moving at 1km/hr. I started to veer off at one point, but I felt guilty and tried concentrating again.
Well I hope things will feel a little less awkward from now on.
I'm going out with her again on Saturday. Hooray!
She made me pizza and then we headed into her room to watch it on her laptop. The episode was AWESOME! Then we switched on the Olympics and watched that for a while.
We were sitting on her floor leaning against her bed. I then put my arm around her and eventually sometime during the Olympics, I leaned in and kissed her cheek and then her lips. We ended up making out.
So it's official. I am claiming that my move. It's the cheek than lips move. To all you shy people out there like me. It totally works. Just lean in, kiss the cheek and they will know right away your intentions. Hasn't failed me yet!
It was nice.
Very very high school.
Actually, I wouldn't know since I never did any of this stuff during high school, which is why I'm loving it now. I'm such a kid.
At one point we were lying on our stomachs watching her screen and I had my arm around her for a bit and then she put her arm around me and even rubbed my hair. I felt really relaxed then, knowing that the feelings must be mutual and I didn't have to worry that I was forcing her into anything.
The only strange thing about the two times we made out tonight was that is was extremely slow. I'm not saying I wanted to be making out super hard core or anything but each kiss felt like it lasted a good 3 or 4 seconds. Our tongues were moving at 1km/hr. I started to veer off at one point, but I felt guilty and tried concentrating again.
Well I hope things will feel a little less awkward from now on.
I'm going out with her again on Saturday. Hooray!
Monday, February 15, 2010
Baby Steps
Tonight Indie Rock Girl came over.
I had a late night last night and decided instead of going to the theater like I normally do on a Sunday night, I'd take it much easier. I sent RCG an e-mail when I woke up inviting her over to watch the Winter Olympics. She accepted and said she could either meet me after dinner or come earlier if I fed her. So, being the gentleman I am, I invited her over for supper and made her my world famous grilled cheese sandwich, with a side dish and she drank almost half a bottle of white wine.
After an unsuccessful attempt to get my Internet working to watch the Olympics live by streaming it on my PC, we moved to the living room instead. I was snuggling under a nice blanket but she didn't want to cover up and just sat there cross armed.
After watching for over an hour and chatting, I realized that she really is a fun person to talk to. She's quirky but I like that about her. After summoning a lot of courage, I leaned my head on her shoulder. I was already kind of leaning on her before (to stretch my legs) but after much thought, I went for it.
Afterwards I asked if it was ok, and she said yes. Then after a few minutes I started rubbing her arm. No flinching, no objections.
Ok, this is good.
Then I shifted and put my arm around her shoulders and she curled up next me. I kept rubbing her arm slowly off and on the rest of the time and she seemed to like it.
I'm pretty sure I could have gone in for a kiss, but I didn't want to rush it. It was late, my roommates were sleeping, and we were trying to be really quiet. Plus it was really nearing the time she had to leave.
Finally, I had to kick her out, unfortunately, and she knew she had to go anyways. As she was in my room putting on her jacket I was sitting on my bed. I looked up and she pulls something out of her pocket and hands it to me. It was a green valentine card she made out of cardboard paper. On the back it read:
Happy Valentine's Day - Thanks for all the music and good times. I'm glad we met :) - IRG
That probably would have been a good time to kiss her but again I balked. I did thank her though, and I studied the card for a while, to show my sincerity.
I walked her to my front door and before she left she gave me a hug. This was the first time. Usually it would be a quick "Goodbye" and she'd leave. This time she said "Thanks for dinner. I'll have to come back and finish the other half of wine".
This is good right? :)
More to come (I hope) ...
I had a late night last night and decided instead of going to the theater like I normally do on a Sunday night, I'd take it much easier. I sent RCG an e-mail when I woke up inviting her over to watch the Winter Olympics. She accepted and said she could either meet me after dinner or come earlier if I fed her. So, being the gentleman I am, I invited her over for supper and made her my world famous grilled cheese sandwich, with a side dish and she drank almost half a bottle of white wine.
After an unsuccessful attempt to get my Internet working to watch the Olympics live by streaming it on my PC, we moved to the living room instead. I was snuggling under a nice blanket but she didn't want to cover up and just sat there cross armed.
After watching for over an hour and chatting, I realized that she really is a fun person to talk to. She's quirky but I like that about her. After summoning a lot of courage, I leaned my head on her shoulder. I was already kind of leaning on her before (to stretch my legs) but after much thought, I went for it.
Afterwards I asked if it was ok, and she said yes. Then after a few minutes I started rubbing her arm. No flinching, no objections.
Ok, this is good.
Then I shifted and put my arm around her shoulders and she curled up next me. I kept rubbing her arm slowly off and on the rest of the time and she seemed to like it.
I'm pretty sure I could have gone in for a kiss, but I didn't want to rush it. It was late, my roommates were sleeping, and we were trying to be really quiet. Plus it was really nearing the time she had to leave.
Finally, I had to kick her out, unfortunately, and she knew she had to go anyways. As she was in my room putting on her jacket I was sitting on my bed. I looked up and she pulls something out of her pocket and hands it to me. It was a green valentine card she made out of cardboard paper. On the back it read:
Happy Valentine's Day - Thanks for all the music and good times. I'm glad we met :) - IRG
That probably would have been a good time to kiss her but again I balked. I did thank her though, and I studied the card for a while, to show my sincerity.
I walked her to my front door and before she left she gave me a hug. This was the first time. Usually it would be a quick "Goodbye" and she'd leave. This time she said "Thanks for dinner. I'll have to come back and finish the other half of wine".
This is good right? :)
More to come (I hope) ...
Saturday, February 13, 2010
That was fast
As quickly as it arrived, it left:
As mentioned, a week or two ago, I received out of the blue a message on Plentyoffish.com from a very outgoing girl. She was super excited to have found me since she liked what my profile had to say. We exchanged messages back and forth a few times. I end up asking her to meet and...
then nothing.
It's funny because this has happened before.
he cycle repeats.
As mentioned, a week or two ago, I received out of the blue a message on Plentyoffish.com from a very outgoing girl. She was super excited to have found me since she liked what my profile had to say. We exchanged messages back and forth a few times. I end up asking her to meet and...
then nothing.
It's funny because this has happened before.
he cycle repeats.
Monday, February 8, 2010
This is getting too easy
So yet again, since I've been hanging out with Indie Rock Girl and been busy with work and other stuff, I haven't been really searching for dates on Plentyoffish.com. Then, out of the blue, a girl e-mails me. She ready my profile and really liked it.
We've e-mail back and forth only once and already I can tell she's the exact opposite of Indie Rock Girl. This girl sounds outgoing, wacky and adventurous. She stays up late and parties hard, while IRG is more laid back and doesn't really drink or like big crowds.
I think after a couple of e-mails I can easily set up a time to meet this new girl.
To yet another challenge!
We've e-mail back and forth only once and already I can tell she's the exact opposite of Indie Rock Girl. This girl sounds outgoing, wacky and adventurous. She stays up late and parties hard, while IRG is more laid back and doesn't really drink or like big crowds.
I think after a couple of e-mails I can easily set up a time to meet this new girl.
To yet another challenge!
She definitely enjoys my company...
So I thought about it for a few minutes and I've been spending a lot of time with Indie Rock Girl. Since I met her 3 weeks ago, we have hung out eight times.
I can definitely say I enjoy spending time with her and would love to see how long I can keep this up for, but I don't want to analyze it too much. Just have fun.
Again, I find it really tough to read her feeling towards me. When we hang out, we have fun, joke around, etc. but she's a shy person. However, after almost every time we've hung out, I'll get an e-mail a day or two later saying she had fun and wants to know if I'm free another night to get together.
If she just wants to be friends or more, that's got to be a good sign, right?
For instance i saw her yesterday and got an e-mail tonight saying she had fun hanging out yesterday and wants to know if I'm free this week. My biggest fear would be to suggest something that would make it very obvious that I may want to up the level a bit and instead of agreeing, she'll get scared away and then I'll lose her as a friend as well.
On the other hand, one of the main rules in improv is take risks. If you don't take a risk, you'll never know the outcome. So perhaps the next thing I'll suggest we do is a movie and wine.
I can definitely say I enjoy spending time with her and would love to see how long I can keep this up for, but I don't want to analyze it too much. Just have fun.
Again, I find it really tough to read her feeling towards me. When we hang out, we have fun, joke around, etc. but she's a shy person. However, after almost every time we've hung out, I'll get an e-mail a day or two later saying she had fun and wants to know if I'm free another night to get together.
If she just wants to be friends or more, that's got to be a good sign, right?
For instance i saw her yesterday and got an e-mail tonight saying she had fun hanging out yesterday and wants to know if I'm free this week. My biggest fear would be to suggest something that would make it very obvious that I may want to up the level a bit and instead of agreeing, she'll get scared away and then I'll lose her as a friend as well.
On the other hand, one of the main rules in improv is take risks. If you don't take a risk, you'll never know the outcome. So perhaps the next thing I'll suggest we do is a movie and wine.
Sunday, January 31, 2010
Indie Rock Girl
instead of having my normal hectic Sunday of a 2 hour workshop, followed by a second 2 hour workshop followed by a 2 hour performance, resulting in my coming home at around 11:30pm, I decided to take it easy tonight.
I've been feeling a bit under the weather over the past couple of days, most likely from having a stressful week and figured better to rest than push my body.
About 2 weeks ago, I had responded at a craigslist ad from a girl looking for a concert buddy. We'll call her Indie Rock Girl (or IRG). IRG has lived in My City for almost 2 years for school and is leaving in May to go back home in the U.S. She posted it in the Strictly Platonic section stating she was looking for a friend but also in brackets "or something more".
I figured since she's only here for a short time, no harm in meeting her. In the worst case, I'll make a new friend.
I've hung out with her a few times now over the past 2 weeks and I'm cross about my feelings for her. My first impression was that she is quiet and very plain looking. I'll admit she's not the prettiest girl I've ever met, but definitely not the ugliest either. She;s somewhere in the middle. Her personality, on the other had is amazing. She was pretty shy at our first encounter but she seems a lot more open to talk to me now that we hung out a bit. She's also very quirky in a way that she sees things different and I find that cute. For example, we had coffee the other day and IRG asked me if I've ever seen someone with a peg leg before. I was a bit confused by that but she continued to explain that she saw a foot print followed by a round hole in the snow earlier that day. It was most likely someone with a cane or a crutch (and perhaps one leg) but I thought it was awesome she had this imagination or was joking that it could be a peg leg (maybe a pirate?).
I ended up spending most the evening with her tonight. We had coffee and then I invited her over to hang out. We played a board game and then she taught me a game of cards I'd never played before. It was cool because it all happened by coincidence. I had called her to ask her something and then we got into talking and I discovered she'd be in the same area as I would later in the day so we agreed to meet up. She told me later on that she normally doesn't have her phone on but when I had called her she had forgot to turn it off and she only heard it because it rang just as she was picking up her bag.
My major problem is a feel so scatter-brained about this whole thing. I think she's really cool and am really enjoying the fact that I now have someone I can hang out with on a regular basis. However, part of me is hoping something else will come out of this. I'm a shy guy and she comes across as an even shyer person. My strategy of hoping that the other person makes a move first will never work here.
I don't think I'll ever be able to tell if she's interested in me as more than a friend or just being shy. I can't tell yet if she's looking for more than just friends either. right now I see that shes just enjoying spending time with someone new. She doesn't seem to have a lot of close friends and she doesn't really enjoy living in My City anymore.
Meanwhile I'm afraid of doing anything. I like her company and since she's here for a short time, I wouldn't want to ruin it by making a move and finding otu she just wants to be friends. On the other hand, she's here for a short time and it wouldn't hurt to try and make a move. If she's not interested, well it didnt matter much because she'll be leaving soon anyways.
In any case, I'm going to just wait it off a bit. Have fun regardless. The only ehard thing is making sure i don't spend my time with her, while stuck in my head. I gat that way sometimes. When I'm with a girl adn I'm having thoughts (not dirty thoughts, well not all the time, haha) about doing soemthing (like lean in and kiss, put an arm around them, tickle them, etc.) and then end up not really paying much attention to them or even trying to do anything about it.
I'm going to wait it out and see what happens. In the meantime, I had invited IRG to come watch the LOST premiere with my friends and I and she accepeted.
So we'll just have to see.
I've been feeling a bit under the weather over the past couple of days, most likely from having a stressful week and figured better to rest than push my body.
About 2 weeks ago, I had responded at a craigslist ad from a girl looking for a concert buddy. We'll call her Indie Rock Girl (or IRG). IRG has lived in My City for almost 2 years for school and is leaving in May to go back home in the U.S. She posted it in the Strictly Platonic section stating she was looking for a friend but also in brackets "or something more".
I figured since she's only here for a short time, no harm in meeting her. In the worst case, I'll make a new friend.
I've hung out with her a few times now over the past 2 weeks and I'm cross about my feelings for her. My first impression was that she is quiet and very plain looking. I'll admit she's not the prettiest girl I've ever met, but definitely not the ugliest either. She;s somewhere in the middle. Her personality, on the other had is amazing. She was pretty shy at our first encounter but she seems a lot more open to talk to me now that we hung out a bit. She's also very quirky in a way that she sees things different and I find that cute. For example, we had coffee the other day and IRG asked me if I've ever seen someone with a peg leg before. I was a bit confused by that but she continued to explain that she saw a foot print followed by a round hole in the snow earlier that day. It was most likely someone with a cane or a crutch (and perhaps one leg) but I thought it was awesome she had this imagination or was joking that it could be a peg leg (maybe a pirate?).
I ended up spending most the evening with her tonight. We had coffee and then I invited her over to hang out. We played a board game and then she taught me a game of cards I'd never played before. It was cool because it all happened by coincidence. I had called her to ask her something and then we got into talking and I discovered she'd be in the same area as I would later in the day so we agreed to meet up. She told me later on that she normally doesn't have her phone on but when I had called her she had forgot to turn it off and she only heard it because it rang just as she was picking up her bag.
My major problem is a feel so scatter-brained about this whole thing. I think she's really cool and am really enjoying the fact that I now have someone I can hang out with on a regular basis. However, part of me is hoping something else will come out of this. I'm a shy guy and she comes across as an even shyer person. My strategy of hoping that the other person makes a move first will never work here.
I don't think I'll ever be able to tell if she's interested in me as more than a friend or just being shy. I can't tell yet if she's looking for more than just friends either. right now I see that shes just enjoying spending time with someone new. She doesn't seem to have a lot of close friends and she doesn't really enjoy living in My City anymore.
Meanwhile I'm afraid of doing anything. I like her company and since she's here for a short time, I wouldn't want to ruin it by making a move and finding otu she just wants to be friends. On the other hand, she's here for a short time and it wouldn't hurt to try and make a move. If she's not interested, well it didnt matter much because she'll be leaving soon anyways.
In any case, I'm going to just wait it off a bit. Have fun regardless. The only ehard thing is making sure i don't spend my time with her, while stuck in my head. I gat that way sometimes. When I'm with a girl adn I'm having thoughts (not dirty thoughts, well not all the time, haha) about doing soemthing (like lean in and kiss, put an arm around them, tickle them, etc.) and then end up not really paying much attention to them or even trying to do anything about it.
I'm going to wait it out and see what happens. In the meantime, I had invited IRG to come watch the LOST premiere with my friends and I and she accepeted.
So we'll just have to see.
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